Poll of the Day > Awww yissss my father finally went to the hospital.

(+) Yeah! (+)

Ive only been trying to get him to go for like 7 weeks

What for if you don't mind me asking?

Nice good luck to him

wwinterj25 posted...

What for if you don't mind me asking?

Hes been pretty sick since right before thanksgiving. Not being able to get up and go to the bathroom. Or move around. Clean himself etc. complaining of pain. He at first was saying he had bed sores. Then when Id remind him of them he yelled that he didnt.

So he finally wanted to go to the hospital today, and theyre trying to figure out whats going on.

And he definitely has bed sores.

Jen0125 posted...

Nice good luck to him

Thanks.

That sucks man. Hopefully it'll get fixed without that much problems. It seems like he's in the right place.

wwinterj25 posted...

That sucks man. Hopefully it'll get fixed without that much problems. It seems like he's in the right place.

Yeah, theres only so much I can do at home. But hes an ornery sumbitch.

My dad has an infection in his gut (unsurprising), and high blood pressure. Apparently he skipped a lot of his cancer treatment appointments so they dont even know what the status of the disease was (well the specific doctor I talked to today). He told me and others he was in remission.

So theyre talking palliative care, or possible cancer treatments. But hes leaving it to me to talk to the doctors. Which I will when I go to see him in a little bit.

I also just found out that my grandfather (maternal), whom in named after, is also there and in hospice.

He got Covid last month, had a 10 day isolation, took a downturn, and put him in another 10 day isolation, but hes not getting better. So its looking like his time is going to be short too.

At least its the same hospital..

ZangsBeard posted...

Apparently he skipped a lot of his cancer treatment appointments so they dont even know what the status of the disease was

This sounds like those people who are prescribed antibiotics and stop taking them when they are feeling better, and not the full term the doctors prescribed you for.

Ogurisama posted...

This sounds like those people who are prescribed antibiotics and stop taking them when they are feeling better, and not the full term the doctors prescribed you for.

Possible, but he wasnt like that. Its more likely that he didnt want to actually go through with the treatment because its really hard to do.

Fighting cancer is a bitch.

Ive thought for awhile maybe its returned (if it was ever actually in remission) he probably doesnt even want to go through another round of chemo.

ZangsBeard posted...

my grandfather (maternal), whom in named after

Oh wow ZangsBeard is a fairly uncommon name crazy that there's two in your family

Far-Queue posted...

Oh wow ZangsBeard is a fairly uncommon name crazy that there's two in your family

Heh

When I tell people my real name and they comment on it, I always say Ive only ever met two others, and Im related to both (kind of... grandfather isnt blood relation)

Just talked to the doctors. Theyre absolutely sure the cancer is back/never gone. But hes so far down that even if radiation/chemo/surgery were to be an option, he would need a couple of months of strengthening before theyd approve it.

however dad told me when I got here he isnt really interested in doing that and the oncologist told him before there was nothing more to be done.

hes sleeping really hard right now to the point the doctors couldnt wake him up to talk to him.

Im going to have a discussion with hospice care about the best way to take care of him and what will be the best way to help him going forward.

Right now the doctors feel that hes nearing the end.

Ive also been in contact with one of my half brothers. Hes coming out tomorrow night to see our dad. Hes told his two sisters, but thats all I know. They know where he is. I havent talked to them directly.

Our other brother is in the wind as it were. Im trying to find his contact info, but no one seems to have it right now.

He just said he doesnt think either sister can make it. Which is fine. I know they havent really been talking to him for awhile. They might not want to and thats ok.

went and saw my grandfather, and hes pretty much out of it. Its pretty much keeping him comfortable until he goes and it can be any time. But I got to see him one last time.

My cousin and her husband were there, along with my aunt. So we grabbed for a few minutes about family and I came back up to my dad.

Oh, and my dads younger brother called me. So I got him up to present with the info.

Hey man I'm really sorry to hear that. We just dealt with that with my girlfriend's dad. Spend as much time with him as you can. Estimates on life expectancy can be way off one way or the other. So stay optimistic, but don't take any time for granted

BADoglick posted...

Hey man I'm really sorry to hear that. We just dealt with that with my girlfriend's dad. Spend as much time with him as you can. Estimates on life expectancy can be way off one way or the other. So stay optimistic, but don't take any time for granted

Thanks. Im spending as much time as I can at the hospital even though he slept most of the day. Heh.

i hope the prognosis is good, bro!

Just copying this from what I sent one of my brothers:

I only got here a little bit ago, but he did have the scan. The tumor has shrunk, one of his lymph nodes is gone, and theres a fistula, as well as some scar tissue around where the tumor was. The doctor was very upbeat about the potential prognosis. The colorectal surgeon is going to come down and discuss whether maybe doing biopsy on his other lymph node and the scar tissue to see how the cancer is at this point.

Hes on pain meds for the fistula, but doing very well today. A lot more lucid.