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ZannoL
11/16/22 12:45:22 PM
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Do you think it's racist if someone finds a race unattractive and says they will never date someone belonging to that race?



I was texting one of my friends today, who recently broke up with his boyfriend of three years.

We started texting about if he was going to start dating again or if he was going to just recuperate a bit. He said he was going to start looking again, to which I told him a guy I knew was single (hes Mexican). My friend said that he doesnt find Mexican guys attractive and that thats a no-no. He did thank me for trying, though.

I always found statements like that kind of weird. There are ugly and beautiful people found in every race.

What do you guys think?

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Drumiester
11/16/22 12:48:02 PM
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Nope.

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Bishop9800
11/16/22 12:48:36 PM
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lolife67
11/16/22 12:49:20 PM
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Depends on the context. Your story about your friend sounds like racism, though.
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g0ldie
11/16/22 12:50:21 PM
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Vampire_Chicken
11/16/22 12:50:57 PM
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If they say "never", sure. It's not compulsory (or at least, it shouldn't be) to like or dislike anyone or anything, but someone who insists it could never happen has pretty much closed their mind, locked the door and thrown away the key.

Still, their loss, no one else's.
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Prestoff
11/16/22 12:50:57 PM
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People have preferences, but writing a person out specifically because of their race? That sounds pretty racist to me.

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cjsdowg
11/16/22 12:53:50 PM
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Nope.

People like what they like. If you said all of a race is ugly that would be racist, but not saying you only like to date x . I know I have been rejected due to my race before..but that is cool. People like what they like.

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Rigama
11/16/22 12:54:22 PM
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It's obviously ok to have preferences but saying no to a guy with no knowledge on how he looks or acts, but just because he's mexican? That's just racism.
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NoxObscuras
11/16/22 12:55:09 PM
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Yes. Saying you "prefer" dating a specific race is one thing. But flat out refusing to date anyone from a specific race is racist and rooted in prejudice.

Like for your friend, why is it that Mexicans are the only "no no"? I guarantee he has some preconceived idea of "how Mexicans are" that is making him close his mind off to the idea.

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im_not_13
11/16/22 12:55:16 PM
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Nemu
11/16/22 1:04:57 PM
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Given that there is no singular physical feature across any race that is 100% consistent outside of the spectrum of skin color, it doesn't really make sense. If someone says they're not attracted to a particularly common physical feature of a certain race, it still doesn't make sense to generalize that they aren't attracted to that race. They're just not attracted to that particular feature, so they shouldn't have any issues if that feature isn't prevalent.
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Gobstoppers12
11/16/22 1:06:37 PM
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Nah. Preferences exist for any reason imaginable, and it's not automatically racism.

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Tenmyouji
11/16/22 1:06:49 PM
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Call it preference if it makes you feel better, but it is racist.

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BettyWhite
11/16/22 1:09:35 PM
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I'll date any race, so long as their values are similar to mine. Some races that can be hard if they are particularly religious or conservative in general.

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AloneIBreak
11/16/22 1:10:49 PM
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Idk "I just don't like the way those people look" sounds pretty racist to me.

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TheOnionKnight
11/16/22 1:12:13 PM
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Yeah basically. I'm sure there are some edge cases, but most of the time I've encountered people actually saying stuff like this, it's due to racism.

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PoundGarden
11/16/22 1:12:49 PM
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There was a GFAQS community manager who didn't think so. But it tooooootally had nothing to do with race, it was "cultural differences".

Yet another high point in GFAQS long history of hiring quality staff

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Heartomaton
11/16/22 1:13:28 PM
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Is it also racist if someone says they only date a particular race? I see that sometimes too.

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bigblu89
11/16/22 1:15:09 PM
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NoxObscuras posted...
Yes. Saying you "prefer" dating a specific race is one thing. But flat out refusing to date anyone from a specific race is racist and rooted in prejudice.

Like for your friend, why is it that Mexicans are the only "no no"? I guarantee he has some preconceived idea of "how Mexicans are" that is making him close his mind off to the idea.
Maybe it's as simple as not finding men with dark features attractive?

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GiftedACIII
11/16/22 1:15:27 PM
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Yes.

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Vampire_Chicken
11/16/22 1:15:36 PM
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Heartomaton posted...
Is it also racist if someone says they only date a particular race? I see that sometimes too.
"I will only date someone of that particular race" - yes.
"The only people I've dated so far are from that particular race" - no.
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cjsdowg
11/16/22 1:16:48 PM
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But for people for are like I just don't to date X. How can you change them? Racism is something that with work you can change is this something that can be change.

If they areI limiting themselves what can you do .


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Will_VIIII
11/16/22 1:18:58 PM
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Vampire_Chicken
11/16/22 1:23:36 PM
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cjsdowg posted...
But for people for are like I just don't to date X. How can you change them? Racism is something that with work you can change is this something that can be change.

If they areI limiting themselves what can you do .
You can't do very much, and maybe you don't have to do anything about it. It's their loss, and to be frank, it sounds like no one else is gonna lose out very much just because x won't sleep with them.
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11/16/22 1:24:16 PM
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gatorsPENSbucs
11/16/22 1:24:56 PM
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No, not at all.

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emblem-man
11/16/22 1:25:10 PM
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I think it's weird as fuck to think that there's a whole race of people you don't find attractive.

Like, I just truly can't imagine it.

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Will_VIIII
11/16/22 1:26:41 PM
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gatorsPENSbucs posted...
No, not at all.
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NoxObscuras
11/16/22 1:27:49 PM
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Heartomaton posted...
Is it also racist if someone says they only date a particular race? I see that sometimes too.
It can be yes. Either racist or possibly fetishizing that race (like men that only like "exotic" women). The key difference is the absolute nature of the statement. Saying you'll only date one race or you'll never date another race is inflexible and takes it beyond a simple preference.

It's possible to prefer a certain race while still being open to the idea of dating outside of that. Like for me, I'm black and most of my experience has been with black and Hispanic women. So those women are my preference. But I'm currently dating a white woman and she's been amazing so far. Imagine if I had completely closed myself off to the idea of dating white women. I would have missed out on an amazing match by judging her based on her race, rather than who she is as an individual.

bigblu89 posted...
Maybe it's as simple as not finding men with dark features attractive?
There are Mexicans who would pass as white though. So if that were his reason, I'd be even more critical of his stance. From what TC described he never even saw what the guy looked like. Just heard Mexican and noped out.

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emblem-man
11/16/22 1:30:10 PM
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bigblu89 posted...
Maybe it's as simple as not finding men with dark features attractive?

The friend needs to be clearer with what he's saying. But yeah, I assume it's a case of a really really bad generalization


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gatorsPENSbucs
11/16/22 1:31:08 PM
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Will_VIIII posted...
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bigblu89
11/16/22 1:31:47 PM
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NoxObscuras posted...
There are Mexicans who would pass as white though. So if that were his reason, I'd be even more critical of his stance. From what TC described he never even saw what the guy looked like. Just heard Mexican and noped out.

Stereotypes exist though, and sometimes it's easier to just not wastes someone's time at the off-chance this person is the 10% of the population they may find attractive.

I'm not saying this is MY stance, just playing devils advocate.

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KyerWiz
11/16/22 1:34:18 PM
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Your preferences are yours, they can be anything and you don't have to justify yourself to anyone.

Can your preferences be rooted in racism? Absolutely. Is it always the case? Probably not.
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Highself
11/16/22 1:40:58 PM
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I mean, some may look into partners that have a similar cultural background as them, but saying no to X because they are X is pretty dumb.

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BettyWhite
11/16/22 1:48:42 PM
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Heartomaton posted...
Is it also racist if someone says they only date a particular race? I see that sometimes too.

This is something I see often on dating profiles. Generally women who only want a white man or only want a black man. With it often being white girl wants black guy or Latina wants a white guy.

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EndOfDiscOne
11/16/22 1:49:12 PM
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Obviously but its also okay to have this preference

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SodomInsane
11/16/22 1:50:07 PM
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PoundGarden posted...
There was a GFAQS community manager who didn't think so. But it tooooootally had nothing to do with race, it was "cultural differences".

Yet another high point in GFAQS long history of hiring quality staff

GameFAQs has barely updated their Twitter and Facebook since she was fired too.

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ZannoL
11/16/22 1:50:58 PM
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NoxObscuras posted...
Yes. Saying you "prefer" dating a specific race is one thing. But flat out refusing to date anyone from a specific race is racist and rooted in prejudice.

Like for your friend, why is it that Mexicans are the only "no no"? I guarantee he has some preconceived idea of "how Mexicans are" that is making him close his mind off to the idea.
I texted him this like thirty minutes ago. He hasn't responded....
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bobbaaay
11/16/22 1:58:17 PM
#43:


Heartomaton posted...
Is it also racist if someone says they only date a particular race? I see that sometimes too.


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Smackems
11/16/22 1:59:15 PM
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No

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cuttin_in_farm
11/16/22 2:00:02 PM
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Its obviously racist because you cant answer why? without using some stereotype or generalizations.

I dont date Black women

Why?

Because they arent attractive to me.

But saying Black women arent attractive is 100% racist and stupid.

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bobbaaay
11/16/22 2:01:35 PM
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Oreos74
11/16/22 2:03:25 PM
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It is.

because youre painting the entire race with features that you internally associate with that race.

like a dude can say he wont date black girls but he thinks rashida jones is hot? Well shes half black. He really just doesnt date dark skinned people then. Thats his preference, and theres plenty of light skinned black girls that he may find attractive. But I think its wrong to exclude everyone thats considered black in their dating pool.

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Oubliettes
11/16/22 2:04:58 PM
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the real question is why does anyone care
i mean what are we fighting for here? the opportunity for minorities to date racists?
let shitty people exclude themselves

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RetsuZaiZen
11/16/22 2:06:11 PM
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Yea I would think "all black people are ugly" is racist.


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