Current Events > My friend is marrying a filipino woman in a couple weeks...should I speak up?

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Chunky 10/18/22 1:36:44 PM #1:	This friend of mine has always had trouble finding a woman. He has poor self-confidence, kind of awkward and doesn't look great physically tbh. Anyway, he met this girl from an online game who lives in the Phillipines. At first I ignored their relationship, because I didn't think anything would happen past online interactions...but to my absolute fucking surprise, he actually went to Manilla to meet this girl after 6 months of chatting. A few problems I noticed with this woman: She moves VERY fast. She wanted to be official boyfriend/girlfriend status within the first couple weeks, after their first date in Manilla, she wanted to get married. She has received lots of gifts from him. Bought her a Nintendo Switch, games, food, other small gifts, etc. To be fair, I don't think she asked for those things, but this still seems weird to me. This might not be her fault, so take this as a grain of salt. She demands a LOT of attention from him. She wants to video chat with him for like 8 hours a day. If she doesn't get that, she gets pissed and starts arguing. This leads to my next point. She picks fights with him over small things, some of which is out of his control. Ex: She got pissed because he beat her in the online game they play, and blocked him on FB and WhatsApp. Seems like they argue at least once a month, and it usually results in her blocking him for a couple days, and then unblocking him. She's immature. Childish sense of humor, and some of her "games" like blocking him, picking stupid fights, her clinginess. The filipino woman seems nice, but I think the bad outweighs the good. I think his judgement is clouded because he's lonely, has low self esteem and this is one of the only women willing to give him attention. Do I think this woman loves him? Honestly I don't think so. I think she's lonely and has issues, and is using this relationship as a band aid to temporarily "fix" those issues. Why I think I need to intervene: He's gonna marry her in a couple weeks, and I DO think as soon as she lands in the US, their relationship is going to fall apart. I don't expect this to last more than 6 months after she lands in the US. Here's the thing. I DO think my friend is capable of finding someone better. He just needs to hit the gym, get a hobby, meet new people and improve his self-confidence. Note: So you might be thinking "Chunky, this is none of your business". I don't care about the formalities, this is a life we're talking about. I don't want him to potentially deal with a terrible divorce where he's stuck supporting this woman due to legal proceedings. So anyway, what do you think I should do about this? --- The n00b of MBH and CE - and proud of it! President Chunkey Simmons, running for 2016. <cite>Chunky posted [p:968801786] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>This friend of mine has always had trouble finding a woman. He has poor self-confidence, kind of awkward and doesn't look great physically tbh. Anyway, he met this girl from an online game who lives in the Phillipines.At first I ignored their relationship, because I didn't think anything would happen past online interactions...but to my absolute fucking surprise, he actually went to Manilla to meet this girl after 6 months of chatting.A few problems I noticed with this woman:She moves VERY fast. She wanted to be official boyfriend/girlfriend status within the first couple weeks, after their first date in Manilla, she wanted to get married.She has received lots of gifts from him. Bought her a Nintendo Switch, games, food, other small gifts, etc. To be fair, I don't think she asked for those things, but this still seems weird to me. This might not be her fault, so take this as a grain of salt.She demands a LOT of attention from him. She wants to video chat with him for like 8 hours a day. If she doesn't get that, she gets pissed and starts arguing. This leads to my next point.She picks fights with him over small things, some of which is out of his control. Ex: She got pissed because he beat her in the online game they play, and blocked him on FB and WhatsApp. Seems like they argue at least once a month, and it usually results in her blocking him for a couple days, and then unblocking him.She's immature. Childish sense of humor, and some of her "games" like blocking him, picking stupid fights, her clinginess.The filipino woman seems nice, but I think the bad outweighs the good. I think his judgement is clouded because he's lonely, has low self esteem and this is one of the only women willing to give him attention. Do I think this woman loves him? Honestly I don't think so. I think she's lonely and has issues, and is using this relationship as a band aid to temporarily "fix" those issues.Why I think I need to intervene: He's gonna marry her in a couple weeks, and I DO think as soon as she lands in the US, their relationship is going to fall apart. I don't expect this to last more than 6 months after she lands in the US.Here's the thing. I DO think my friend is capable of finding someone better. He just needs to hit the gym, get a hobby, meet new people and improve his self-confidence.Note: So you might be thinking "Chunky, this is none of your business". I don't care about the formalities, this is a life we're talking about. I don't want him to potentially deal with a terrible divorce where he's stuck supporting this woman due to legal proceedings.So anyway, what do you think I should do about this?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MixedRaceBaby 10/18/22 1:38:16 PM #2:	grabs popcorn oh this gonna be good --- For the mixed race babies! <cite>MixedRaceBaby posted [p:968801825] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>grabs popcornohthis gonna be good</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Irony 10/18/22 1:38:19 PM #3:	Does she have a nice bush? --- I am Mogar, God of Irony and The Devourer of Topics. <cite>Irony posted [p:968801827] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Does she have a nice bush?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DKBananaSlamma 10/18/22 1:38:28 PM #4:	We need pics first before we can decide. --- Neon >_> <cite>DKBananaSlamma posted [p:968801830] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>We need pics first before we can decide.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Shabriri 10/18/22 1:38:33 PM #5:	If he wants to marry her, he's going to. He's in for a bad time but I don't really see what you can do besides lay it all out for him, firmly but nonjudgmentally. --- MAY CHAOS TAKE THE WORLD <cite>Shabriri posted [p:968801831] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>If he wants to marry her, he's going to. He's in for a bad time but I don't really see what you can do besides lay it all out for him, firmly but nonjudgmentally. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pauIie 10/18/22 1:39:06 PM #7:	weird way to title the thread --- http://i.imgur.com/O5APL.jpg http://www.last.fm/user/jaeganja <cite>pauIie posted [p:968801840] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>weird way to title the thread</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
josifrees 10/18/22 1:40:15 PM #8:	She cant just show up and and leave him iirc. Any long term visa she gets is gonna be dependent on her being legitimately married or whatever --- Quit Crying <cite>josifrees posted [p:968801857] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>She cant just show up and and leave him iirc. Any long term visa she gets is gonna be dependent on her being legitimately married or whatever </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
lennethsoki 10/18/22 1:40:24 PM #9:	Chunky posted... She moves VERY fast. She wanted to be official boyfriend/girlfriend status within the first couple weeks, after their first date in Manilla, she wanted to get married. IIRC Filipino women have a notorious reputation in East Asia for wanting to marry quickly so they can leave their country. I recall that being a stereotype in Japan, China, and Singapore while I stayed in those countries. I recall them having a pretty nasty nickname in Japan particularly because they'd clutter dating apps from shifting locations >_> --- <3 <3 I love life <3 <3 <cite>lennethsoki posted [p:968801863] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Chunky posted... </cite><quote>She moves VERY fast. She wanted to be official boyfriend/girlfriend status within the first couple weeks, after their first date in Manilla, she wanted to get married.</quote>IIRC Filipino women have a notorious reputation in East Asia for wanting to marry quickly so they can leave their country.I recall that being a stereotype in Japan, China, and Singapore while I stayed in those countries.I recall them having a pretty nasty nickname in Japan particularly because they'd clutter dating apps from shifting locations >_></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
josifrees 10/18/22 1:40:26 PM #10:	DKBananaSlamma posted... We need pics first before we can decide. --- Quit Crying <cite>josifrees posted [p:968801864] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>DKBananaSlamma posted... </cite><quote>We need pics first before we can decide.</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ivynn 10/18/22 1:41:05 PM #11:	Say your piece, but if he chooses not to listen, it's his mistake to make. Not much you can do. --- http://i.imgur.com/vDci4hD.gif <cite>Ivynn posted [p:968801878] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Say your piece, but if he chooses not to listen, it's his mistake to make. Not much you can do.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TaylorHeinicke 10/18/22 1:42:21 PM #12:	Chunky posted... She picks fights with him over small things, some of which is out of his control. Ex: She got pissed because he beat her in the online game they play, and blocked him on FB and WhatsApp. Seems like they argue at least once a month, and it usually results in her blocking him for a couple days, and then unblocking him. She's immature. Childish sense of humor, and some of her "games" like blocking him, picking stupid fights, her clinginess. ...Is she of legal age to even marry in the US? She sounds like a child --- St. Louis Battlehawks (1-1) <cite>TaylorHeinicke posted [p:968801914] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Chunky posted... </cite><quote>She picks fights with him over small things, some of which is out of his control. Ex: She got pissed because he beat her in the online game they play, and blocked him on FB and WhatsApp. Seems like they argue at least once a month, and it usually results in her blocking him for a couple days, and then unblocking him.She's immature. Childish sense of humor, and some of her "games" like blocking him, picking stupid fights, her clinginess.</quote>...Is she of legal age to even marry in the US? She sounds like a child</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Shamino 10/18/22 1:43:09 PM #13:	Let this movie be your guide: https://youtu.be/pcUE7DtW7hw --- Nintendrone/PC Elitist 16 GB 6700k GTX 1070 Cards/Suns/'Yotes/Diamondbacks/ASU Fan <cite>Shamino posted [p:968801929] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Let this movie be your guide: https://youtu.be/pcUE7DtW7hw</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ratchetrockon 10/18/22 1:44:50 PM #14:	she sounds crazy af but if that what ur friend wants then ok --- I'm a Taurus I like collecting headphones and iems. My fave game of all time is DMC 3 SE on PC w/ style switch mod. IMO it the best button masher on earth <cite>Ratchetrockon posted [p:968801957] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>she sounds crazy af but if that what ur friend wants then ok</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DKBananaSlamma 10/18/22 1:45:18 PM #15:	Crazy chicks = crazy sex tho --- Neon >_> <cite>DKBananaSlamma posted [p:968801963] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Crazy chicks = crazy sex tho</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solar_Crimson 10/18/22 1:45:24 PM #16:	Shabriri posted... If he wants to marry her, he's going to. He's in for a bad time but I don't really see what you can do besides lay it all out for him, firmly but nonjudgmentally. Ivynn posted... Say your piece, but if he chooses not to listen, it's his mistake to make. Not much you can do. --- "To Republicans, life begins at conception and ends in elementary school." - GranolaPanic <cite>Solar_Crimson posted [p:968801965] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Shabriri posted... </cite><quote>If he wants to marry her, he's going to. He's in for a bad time but I don't really see what you can do besides lay it all out for him, firmly but nonjudgmentally.</quote>Ivynn posted... </cite><quote>Say your piece, but if he chooses not to listen, it's his mistake to make. Not much you can do.</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Chunky 10/18/22 1:46:25 PM #17:	Irony posted... Does she have a nice bush? i dunno about that lol. but i will admit she is very good looking in general. i think that is part of the reason this guy is "hooked". Shabriri posted... If he wants to marry her, he's going to. He's in for a bad time but I don't really see what you can do besides lay it all out for him, firmly but nonjudgmentally. this is true, and that is going to be my plan. i'm not gonna be an asshole about it, but i feel like i have to talk to him about this. [LFAQs-redacted-quote] i hate to admit it, but yeah this does look like an episode of 90 day fiance. to be fair, they have known each other for a year at this point. josifrees posted... She cant just show up and and leave him iirc. Any long term visa she gets is gonna be dependent on her being legitimately married or whatever interesting, how long does it have to be? i guess she could do the bare minimum and then leave. or she could leave him while still being married legally. --- The n00b of MBH and CE - and proud of it! President Chunkey Simmons, running for 2016. <cite>Chunky posted [p:968801985] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Irony posted... </cite><quote>Does she have a nice bush?</quote>i dunno about that lol. but i will admit she is very good looking in general. i think that is part of the reason this guy is "hooked".Shabriri posted... </cite><quote>If he wants to marry her, he's going to. He's in for a bad time but I don't really see what you can do besides lay it all out for him, firmly but nonjudgmentally.</quote>this is true, and that is going to be my plan. i'm not gonna be an asshole about it, but i feel like i have to talk to him about this.<cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> i hate to admit it, but yeah this does look like an episode of 90 day fiance. to be fair, they have known each other for a year at this point.josifrees posted... </cite><quote>She cant just show up and and leave him iirc. Any long term visa she gets is gonna be dependent on her being legitimately married or whatever</quote>interesting, how long does it have to be? i guess she could do the bare minimum and then leave. or she could leave him while still being married legally.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DKBananaSlamma 10/18/22 1:46:55 PM #18:	Chunky posted... but i will admit she is very good looking in general. i think that is part of the reason this guy is "hooked". DKBananaSlamma posted... We need pics first before we can decide. --- Neon >_> <cite>DKBananaSlamma posted [p:968801996] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Chunky posted... </cite><quote>but i will admit she is very good looking in general. i think that is part of the reason this guy is "hooked".</quote>DKBananaSlamma posted... </cite><quote>We need pics first before we can decide.</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Norman_Smiley 10/18/22 1:53:08 PM #19:	Have a conversation with him. Don't disparage her. Ask questions. Why is she so urgent? How do you know she is the one? Why not have her visit and stay with you for 6 months first to see how it works? Have they talked about family expectations? She may expect him to help take care of her parents, or portions of any money she earns may go to her parents. Do you know his family? I would probably air all my real concerns to his parents if I knew them. --- http://i.imgur.com/BVBQC.jpg The big wiggle equals ratings. <cite>Norman_Smiley posted [p:968802147] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Have a conversation with him. Don't disparage her. Ask questions. Why is she so urgent? How do you know she is the one? Why not have her visit and stay with you for 6 months first to see how it works? Have they talked about family expectations? She may expect him to help take care of her parents, or portions of any money she earns may go to her parents. Do you know his family? I would probably air all my real concerns to his parents if I knew them. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SauI_Goodman 10/18/22 1:55:16 PM #20:	They argue at least once a month Damn i wish it was only once a month --- Italian, French, German. <cite>SauI_Goodman posted [p:968802195] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote><quote>They argue at least once a month</quote>Damn i wish it was only once a month</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
runewalshPSiv 10/18/22 1:58:04 PM #21:	TaylorHeinicke posted... ...Is she of legal age to even marry in the US? She sounds like a child You'd be surprised at how many grown ass people act like that. --- There's no sensation to compare with this Suspended animation, a state of bliss <cite>runewalshPSiv posted [p:968802255] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>TaylorHeinicke posted... </cite><quote>...Is she of legal age to even marry in the US? She sounds like a child</quote>You'd be surprised at how many grown ass people act like that.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SwordMaster13X 10/18/22 1:59:01 PM #22:	TC, you do want to be the expected successor here? I have you tagged as that for some reason. <_< --- Ask me about my community board https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/1072-the-underground-garden <cite>SwordMaster13X posted [p:968802274] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>TC, you do want to be the expected successor here? I have you tagged as that for some reason. <_<</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
refmon 10/18/22 2:01:15 PM #23:	how are her milkers? --- If you read this signature, then that meant that I had control of what you read for 5 SECONDS!! <cite>refmon posted [p:968802315] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>how are her milkers?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smackems 10/18/22 2:02:12 PM #24:	DKBananaSlamma posted... Crazy chicks = crazy sex tho Not always. I been with some abusive tire slashing bitches that just lie there while I do all the work Well I guess really just that one. Two other crazy ones were meh --- Common sense says it may not taste good, but it'll make a turd. <cite>Smackems posted [p:968802334] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>DKBananaSlamma posted... </cite><quote>Crazy chicks = crazy sex tho</quote>Not always. I been with some abusive tire slashing bitches that just lie there while I do all the work Well I guess really just that one. Two other crazy ones were meh</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Bishop9800 10/18/22 2:06:24 PM #25:	MixedRaceBaby posted... grabs popcorn oh this gonna be good Pass me some of that.... --- There's enough attention whores on CE already <cite>Bishop9800 posted [p:968802421] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>MixedRaceBaby posted... </cite><quote>grabs popcornohthis gonna be good</quote>Pass me some of that.... </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Shamino 10/18/22 2:07:21 PM #26:	Chunky posted... i dunno about that lol. but i will admit she is very good looking in general. i think that is part of the reason this guy is "hooked". this is true, and that is going to be my plan. i'm not gonna be an asshole about it, but i feel like i have to talk to him about this. i hate to admit it, but yeah this does look like an episode of 90 day fiance. to be fair, they have known each other for a year at this point. interesting, how long does it have to be? i guess she could do the bare minimum and then leave. or she could leave him while still being married legally. I think it's three years, but I could be really wrong. --- Nintendrone/PC Elitist 16 GB 6700k GTX 1070 Cards/Suns/'Yotes/Diamondbacks/ASU Fan <cite>Shamino posted [p:968802439] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Chunky posted... </cite><quote>i dunno about that lol. but i will admit she is very good looking in general. i think that is part of the reason this guy is "hooked".this is true, and that is going to be my plan. i'm not gonna be an asshole about it, but i feel like i have to talk to him about this.i hate to admit it, but yeah this does look like an episode of 90 day fiance. to be fair, they have known each other for a year at this point.interesting, how long does it have to be? i guess she could do the bare minimum and then leave. or she could leave him while still being married legally.</quote>I think it's three years, but I could be really wrong. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CRON 10/18/22 2:08:35 PM #27:	I'm going to get crucified for this but I have zero idea how dudes in these situations have no self awareness. Like, literally everybody is judging and mocking them for being desperate and taking advantage of women who just want the visa in hopes of not living in poverty. Literally everybody sees through the bullshit and desperation and sees it for what it is. <cite>CRON posted [p:968802453] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>I'm going to get crucified for this but I have zero idea how dudes in these situations have no self awareness. Like, literally everybody is judging and mocking them for being desperate and taking advantage of women who just want the visa in hopes of not living in poverty. Literally everybody sees through the bullshit and desperation and sees it for what it is.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DKBananaSlamma 10/18/22 2:09:21 PM #28:	refmon posted... how are her milkers? --- Neon >_> <cite>DKBananaSlamma posted [p:968802466] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>refmon posted... </cite><quote>how are her milkers?</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ThePrinceFish 10/18/22 2:12:05 PM #29:	CRON posted... I'm going to get crucified for this but I have zero idea how dudes in these situations have no self awareness. Like, literally everybody is judging and mocking them for being desperate and taking advantage of women who just want the visa in hopes of not living in poverty. Literally everybody sees through the bullshit and desperation and sees it for what it is. A desperate enough desire for companionship will cause a person to overlook pretty much any red flag. --- Then shall the righteous shine forth as the sun in the kingdom of their Father. Who hath ears to hear, let him hear. <cite>ThePrinceFish posted [p:968802523] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>CRON posted... </cite><quote>I'm going to get crucified for this but I have zero idea how dudes in these situations have no self awareness. Like, literally everybody is judging and mocking them for being desperate and taking advantage of women who just want the visa in hopes of not living in poverty. Literally everybody sees through the bullshit and desperation and sees it for what it is.</quote>A desperate enough desire for companionship will cause a person to overlook pretty much any red flag. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
David1988 10/18/22 2:12:36 PM #30:	is she one of those ghetto Filipino chicks from Daly City? --- "Let's be honest...I'm everybody's type. I just gotta highlight the parts that appeal to her the most" - No_U_L7 <cite>David1988 posted [p:968802532] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>is she one of those ghetto Filipino chicks from Daly City?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/18/22 2:17:35 PM #32:	Talk to him for your own sake. So you can have answers instead of a "what if" scenario to live with. He won't listen. Then back off and let him make his mistakes (if this is one) and know that you couldn't of did anything about it except maybe destroyed your own relationship if you intervened anymore. 9.9 times out of 10, no one love stricken listens to their friends. Even if they are preceptive enough to admit it might be a mistake. It's almost always something we gotta see for ourselves. --- Name checks out "I don't wanna be the toughest, I just keep it 100 and think nothin of it"- Black Thought <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:968802626] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Talk to him for your own sake. So you can have answers instead of a "what if" scenario to live with. He won't listen. Then back off and let him make his mistakes (if this is one) and know that you couldn't of did anything about it except maybe destroyed your own relationship if you intervened anymore. 9.9 times out of 10, no one love stricken listens to their friends. Even if they are preceptive enough to admit it might be a mistake. It's almost always something we gotta see for ourselves. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Itachi157 10/18/22 2:35:47 PM #33:	SwordMaster13X posted... TC, you do want to be the expected successor here? I have you tagged as that for some reason. <_< Haha, I vaguely remember that topic. Anyway I would definitely bring up your concerns but if he doesnt listen, oh well. Sit back and grab some popcorn. <cite>Itachi157 posted [p:968803012] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>SwordMaster13X posted... </cite><quote>TC, you do want to be the expected successor here? I have you tagged as that for some reason. <_<</quote>Haha, I vaguely remember that topic.Anyway I would definitely bring up your concerns but if he doesnt listen, oh well. Sit back and grab some popcorn.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
josifrees 10/18/22 5:58:21 PM #35:	Im not 100% sure how its on fianc visa, Im not sure if she can bail after first long term visa and keep getting renewed without staying married or if she has to do five years of marriage, get her own citizenship, etc. --- Quit Crying <cite>josifrees posted [p:968808022] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Im not 100% sure how its on fianc visa, Im not sure if she can bail after first long term visa and keep getting renewed without staying married or if she has to do five years of marriage, get her own citizenship, etc. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TaylorHeinicke 10/19/22 6:31:27 PM #36:	update? --- St. Louis Battlehawks (1-1) <cite>TaylorHeinicke posted [p:968832308] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>update?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bknight 10/19/22 6:35:22 PM #37:	Asian gamer girls who are probably into anime are a dime a dozen in the US, tell him to try harder or hit the gym or get good gimmick to pick up one of the hundreds of CE girls. <cite>bknight posted [p:968832385] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Asian gamer girls who are probably into anime are a dime a dozen in the US, tell him to try harder or hit the gym or get good gimmick to pick up one of the hundreds of CE girls.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Flockaveli 10/19/22 6:40:40 PM #38:	https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/9/5/8/AAdMiTAADy6O.jpg You gotta find another hobby little guy. Stop shitposting kid. <cite>Flockaveli posted [p:968832493] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/9/5/8/AAdMiTAADy6O.jpg You gotta find another hobby little guy. Stop shitposting kid.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kitt 10/19/22 6:45:44 PM #39:	I was about to actually contribute, but I realized who the TC was, i.e. the story isn't real... I do find your topics humorous, nonetheless. --- I'm a little teapot blowing off steam. https://m.imgur.com/pmc9XsI https://m.imgur.com/hfzvdPe <cite>Kitt posted [p:968832595] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>I was about to actually contribute, but I realized who the TC was, i.e. the story isn't real...I do find your topics humorous, nonetheless.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ar0ge 10/19/22 6:49:50 PM #40:	I'm pretty sure if she leaves him immediately, she'll pretty much be deported. They will have to apply for green card status after marriage, which is about a year to 2 year long process. They will also have to prove that their marriage is legit and follow several other steps before the card is granted. I guess she could leave him after all of that is done. <cite>Ar0ge posted [p:968832692] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>I'm pretty sure if she leaves him immediately, she'll pretty much be deported. They will have to apply for green card status after marriage, which is about a year to 2 year long process. They will also have to prove that their marriage is legit and follow several other steps before the card is granted. I guess she could leave him after all of that is done. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
VampireCoyote 10/19/22 6:57:51 PM #41:	You cant stop love --- She/her <cite>VampireCoyote posted [p:968832851] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>You cant stop love</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 10/19/22 6:58:22 PM #42:	Lol TC, I was in a very similar situation to your friend at 28, got involved with a Filipino woman. I hadn't had a girlfriend in nearly a decade but she was so forward (with everything, including sex, she offered to blow me 30 seconds into our first kiss) that I barely had to try at all and suddenly I found myself on the verge of a very serious relationship After a month I ended it because she was already talking about wanting kids lol and if I got her pregnant she wouldn't abort it I felt kinda shitty for hurting her but it was the right call. I'd talk to your friend but who knows he might be different to me --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:968832861] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Lol TC, I was in a very similar situation to your friend at 28, got involved with a Filipino woman. I hadn't had a girlfriend in nearly a decade but she was so forward (with everything, including sex, she offered to blow me 30 seconds into our first kiss) that I barely had to try at all and suddenly I found myself on the verge of a very serious relationshipAfter a month I ended it because she was already talking about wanting kids lol and if I got her pregnant she wouldn't abort it I felt kinda shitty for hurting her but it was the right call. I'd talk to your friend but who knows he might be different to me </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Big_Nabendu 10/19/22 7:04:40 PM #43:	How's her ass? --- The embrace of the Dark is gentle. Let it absorb your sorrows, forever. \[T]/ Owner of the 500 board and Leader of sunbro board GT Nabendu <cite>Big_Nabendu posted [p:968832995] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>How's her ass?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Chunky 10/19/22 7:50:18 PM #44:	CRON posted... I'm going to get crucified for this but I have zero idea how dudes in these situations have no self awareness. Like, literally everybody is judging and mocking them for being desperate and taking advantage of women who just want the visa in hopes of not living in poverty. Literally everybody sees through the bullshit and desperation and sees it for what it is. Could be wrong, but I think deep down he knows this is a terrible idea, but his judgment is clouded because he doesn't think he could do any better. Norman_Smiley posted... Have a conversation with him. Don't disparage her. Ask questions. Why is she so urgent? How do you know she is the one? Why not have her visit and stay with you for 6 months first to see how it works? Have they talked about family expectations? She may expect him to help take care of her parents, or portions of any money she earns may go to her parents. Do you know his family? I would probably air all my real concerns to his parents if I knew them. I can answer one of those questions. The reason she hasn't visited him is because it is near impossible to get a visa in the US. That's why that whole stereotype of marrying into the US is a thing. Flockaveli posted... https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/9/5/8/AAdMiTAADy6O.jpg You gotta find another hobby little guy. Stop shitposting kid. Not gonna lie, I laughed at your title of my name. I don't know why people keep claim I'm a troll or claim my topics or fake. Are my stories really that unbelievable? Honestly I'm flattered, it must mean I'm a great storyteller and writer. --- The n00b of MBH and CE - and proud of it! President Chunkey Simmons, running for 2016. <cite>Chunky posted [p:968833999] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>CRON posted... </cite><quote>I'm going to get crucified for this but I have zero idea how dudes in these situations have no self awareness. Like, literally everybody is judging and mocking them for being desperate and taking advantage of women who just want the visa in hopes of not living in poverty. Literally everybody sees through the bullshit and desperation and sees it for what it is.</quote>Could be wrong, but I think deep down he knows this is a terrible idea, but his judgment is clouded because he doesn't think he could do any better.Norman_Smiley posted... </cite><quote>Have a conversation with him. Don't disparage her. Ask questions. Why is she so urgent? How do you know she is the one? Why not have her visit and stay with you for 6 months first to see how it works? Have they talked about family expectations? She may expect him to help take care of her parents, or portions of any money she earns may go to her parents.Do you know his family? I would probably air all my real concerns to his parents if I knew them.</quote>I can answer one of those questions. The reason she hasn't visited him is because it is near impossible to get a visa in the US. That's why that whole stereotype of marrying into the US is a thing.Flockaveli posted... </cite><quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/9/5/8/AAdMiTAADy6O.jpg You gotta find another hobby little guy. Stop shitposting kid.</quote>Not gonna lie, I laughed at your title of my name. I don't know why people keep claim I'm a troll or claim my topics or fake. Are my stories really that unbelievable? Honestly I'm flattered, it must mean I'm a great storyteller and writer.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cleo_II 10/19/22 7:54:43 PM #45:	My mom used to take classes with Filipina women who were married to older/less attractive men. They all had side bfs. But heres the thing, the guys are also getting a more attractive woman than they would normally be able to pull so its often transactional. Not saying thats it for your friend but there is a good chance he wont care about what you have to say so you should be careful about how you say something. Or you risk losing him as a friend because she will catch wind of it and make sure he cuts you out. <cite>Cleo_II posted [p:968834074] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>My mom used to take classes with Filipina women who were married to older/less attractive men. They all had side bfs. But heres the thing, the guys are also getting a more attractive woman than they would normally be able to pull so its often transactional. Not saying thats it for your friend but there is a good chance he wont care about what you have to say so you should be careful about how you say something. Or you risk losing him as a friend because she will catch wind of it and make sure he cuts you out. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Chunky 10/19/22 8:46:41 PM #46:	Cleo_II posted... My mom used to take classes with Filipina women who were married to older/less attractive men. They all had side bfs. But heres the thing, the guys are also getting a more attractive woman than they would normally be able to pull so its often transactional. Not saying thats it for your friend but there is a good chance he wont care about what you have to say so you should be careful about how you say something. Or you risk losing him as a friend because she will catch wind of it and make sure he cuts you out. The way you word it, it almost sounds like it's the smart decision to make. People like yourself tell me all the time that "leagues" exist in relationships, but I've seen people who are commonly regarded as unattractive (bald, fat, whatever), who are dating super attractive women. --- The n00b of MBH and CE - and proud of it! President Chunkey Simmons, running for 2016. <cite>Chunky posted [p:968835186] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Cleo_II posted... </cite><quote>My mom used to take classes with Filipina women who were married to older/less attractive men. They all had side bfs. But heres the thing, the guys are also getting a more attractive woman than they would normally be able to pull so its often transactional. Not saying thats it for your friend but there is a good chance he wont care about what you have to say so you should be careful about how you say something. Or you risk losing him as a friend because she will catch wind of it and make sure he cuts you out.</quote>The way you word it, it almost sounds like it's the smart decision to make.People like yourself tell me all the time that "leagues" exist in relationships, but I've seen people who are commonly regarded as unattractive (bald, fat, whatever), who are dating super attractive women.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Michael_Booth 10/19/22 8:49:07 PM #47:	Chunky posted... The way you word it, it almost sounds like it's the smart decision to make. People like yourself tell me all the time that "leagues" exist in relationships, but I've seen people who are commonly regarded as unattractive (bald, fat, whatever), who are dating super attractive women. Everything is a Hustle, and if you're not Hustling, you're being Hustled. <cite>Michael_Booth posted [p:968835228] in My friend ... [t:80202275]...</cite> <quote>Chunky posted... </cite><quote>The way you word it, it almost sounds like it's the smart decision to make.People like yourself tell me all the time that "leagues" exist in relationships, but I've seen people who are commonly regarded as unattractive (bald, fat, whatever), who are dating super attractive women.</quote>Everything is a Hustle, and if you're not Hustling, you're being Hustled.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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