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She went in for a colonoscopy yesterday, it was a 3 year follow up rather than the usual 5 because they found something irregular but not concerning last time.

This time, its 95% a tumour, but whether its benign or not theyre not sure. They couldnt get a biopsy because apparently its mobile, not sure what that means.

Shes going in for a CT scan tomorrow, and has a meeting with the specialist in a few weeks. She seems to think that surgery either way is going to be a foregone conclusion.

Whats making me really worried though is shes being artificially blas about it. Im really not sure if she was told more than shes telling me.

I'm hoping for the best for her, and that it's benign, if it turns out to be a tumor, or treatable otherwise.

she was probably told that it's incredibly treatable at almost every stage

Centipeter posted...

Whats making me really worried though is shes being artificially blas about it Im really not sure if she was told more than shes telling me.

She's worried, but doesn't want to panic or is trying her best to stay optimistic and strong. Sounds like a pretty normal reaction, I wouldn't think she's withholding anything from you.

Speaking as a recent cancer survivor (luckily stage 1), I had the same reaction. Rather than panic, I just accepted it as a necessity. Better to be in comfort than in discomfort. That said, I'm still waiting on my 6 month checkup. I should have gotten the date by now.

g0ldie posted...

I'm hoping for the best for her, and that it's benign, if it turns out to be a tumor, or treatable otherwise.

Cheers, mate.

hsvhighlife posted...

she was probably told that it's incredibly treatable at almost every stage

Thats what Im hoping. Ive known a lot of people whove died of bowel cancer, so it still scares the shit out of me.

WaterLink posted...

She's worried, but doesn't want to panic or is trying her best to stay optimistic and strong. Sounds like a pretty normal reaction, I wouldn't think she's withholding anything from you.

Im hoping thats the case. I dont think she is either, but I still worry, you know?

Ivany2008 posted...

Speaking as a recent cancer survivor (luckily stage 1), I had the same reaction. Rather than panic, I just accepted it as a necessity. Better to be in comfort than in discomfort. That said, I'm still waiting on my 6 month checkup. I should have gotten the date by now.

Im glad they caught it in time. Ill keep my fingers and toes crossed for you. Stay safe and healthy!

I'm really sorry to hear that, and I'll be hoping for the best of news to come your way fast.

But in the meantime, I can tell you that now, it's not just you worrying about your wife, we all will be. I'm sure everyone here, even posters that I'll disagree with about every single thing else, are going to be pulling for your wife to be okay.

So now, and I know it doesn't for that much, you have a community of internet weirdos in your corner.

I'm sure she's worried but I know for me I try not to panic and get stressed until I know for sure. May as well wait until it's known if that makes sense? Nothing is gonna change reacting to an unknown. I'm sure she's doing the same.

Hopefully the news is good and it's an easy and quick thing to treat.

karmageddon28 posted...

I'm really sorry to hear that, and I'll be hoping for the best of news to come your way fast.

But in the meantime, I can tell you that now, it's not just you worrying about your wife, we all will be. I'm sure everyone here, even posters that I'll disagree with about every single thing else, are going to be pulling for your wife to be okay.

So now, and I know it doesn't for that much, you have a community of internet weirdos in your corner.

This post gave me the warm and fuzzies. Cheers, mate.

This place is strange, it must be said. Well have bitter, acrimonious feuds that span multiple topics and result in people developing sworn enemies. About things as inconsequential as the pronunciation of gif, but with stuff like this, people are just sweet.

Punished_Blinx posted...

I'm sure she's worried but I know for me I try not to panic and get stressed until I know for sure. May as well wait until it's known if that makes sense? Nothing is gonna change reacting to an unknown. I'm sure she's doing the same.

Hopefully the news is good and it's an easy and quick thing to treat.

That makes perfect sense, thanks.

I think Im going to assume shes just staying calm about things, because theres no point in worrying about it until we know we need to worry.

So its a non benign cancer.

The gastroenterologist called my wife at work to let her know, hes already lined up an oncologist for her. She wrote down what it was, but lost the post-it note.

non-defined endo something, she thinks it was

Apparently its one of those lightning strike cancers thats just shit luck.

Just looks like the one and its still encapsulated. He thinks surgery will be the way to go and would be almost certainly enough.

Centipeter posted...

Just looks like the one and its still encapsulated. He thinks surgery will be the way to go and would be almost certainly enough.

This is great news overall then. They caught it quickly enough to where this should be all it takes since it hasn't spread.

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Really dont know, she lost the post- it. There was something about the type of cancer it is potentially releasing hormones. idk to be honest

Allanon23 posted...

This is great news overall then. They caught it quickly enough to where this should be all it takes since it hasn't spread.

Yeah, we are just extremely glad it was found when it was. All indications are that it is still self-contained, so hopefully. Fingers and toes well and truly fucking crossed

Gave work the heads-up.

My manager was super supportive. He was like whatever leave you need to take, take it. We can move things around and let the clients know there will be delays. Just lemme know if you just feel like shit mentally and cant face work.

He is a GOAT manager.

Your manager is the GOAT. Glad your wife is going to be okay.

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So I talked with her more about it, and it turns out its completely unrelated to the reason the gastro has her having 3 yearly colonoscopies, which was jagged ended polyps(?). Also she found the post it, non differentiated neuroendocrine tumour.

Its fucked, but also so lucky they caught it. Its in her ileum (I think) at a point its usually hard to get to, and the gastro just decided to have a squiz because he could.

You have my sympathies, mate. The picoprep and gastro prep stuff is horrible. Make sure you buy some really, really soft TP. Better to be safe than sorry though, I have them regularly too.

We had a heart to heart tonight. It fucking broke mine. She was saying that however this pans out, she doesn't care about her own life, she just doesn't want to have the kids grow up without a mum, and she wants to know who they are as adults. I mean, it's pretty much my exact philosophy on the matter, but that's just in the abstract. To hear it in the potentially practical... yeah.

Her general feelings she's expressed though have just been pragmatism and courage. It's moment like these, even moreso than usual that I realise how amazing my wife is. She can't have balls of steel, so ovaries of steel?

I love my wife's ovaries of steel. She's an inspiration, she really is.

Centipeter posted...

She can't have balls of steel, so ovaries of steel?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RPLpkiHPlLM

I'm glad it's benign though bro, that's good news.

WaterLink posted...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RPLpkiHPlLM

I'm glad it's benign though bro, that's good news.

Read post 10 again @WaterLink

Oh shit, I misread it. >_> Sorry about that. But they're optimistic the surgery will be enough? At least it hasn't spread, yall got this. Pulling for yall

WaterLink posted...

Oh shit, I misread it. >_> Sorry about that. But they're optimistic the surgery will be enough? At least it hasn't spread, yall got this. Pulling for yall

As long as there werent any lymph nodes near it, things should be ok. If there are, chemo and radiotherapy may be involved.

Weve discussed it, and while shes prepping for the surgery and afterwards for a few weeks, shell live with her folks so the kids arent too much for her. She was worried about it being to much for me and Im like hon, pretty much my only job is making things as easy as possible for you rn.

Sorry all, this topic is probably going to be blogfaqs for a while as I post my feelings into the void. Ill keep it all contained into here.

Its cool. Glad shes most likely going to be ok.

Ok, Im a bit pissed with the gastro-enterologist.

When he called my wife on Friday, he said it was a non well differentiated neuroendocrine tumour. Those are potentially very nasty.

He misspoke. Its a well differentiated neuroendocrine tumour. Those are very slow growing and take a very long time to spread.

Mainly though, Im fucking relieved.

The surgeon booked my wife in for an appointment today at very short notice, he seems exceptionally competent. He still suggests getting it removed ASAP, but its not ridiculously urgent. Hes ordered a few more tests and scans to make sure its isolated, but things are looking a lot bette than they were on Friday.

sounds like that's good news at least.

keep it as cautious optimism though -- cancer is a bitch.

PatrickMahomes posted...

sounds like that's good news at least.

keep it as cautious optimism though -- cancer is a bitch.

Cautious optimism is my general state of being, lol.

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Yeah, normally gastroenterologists stop at the end of the large intestine and dont bother with the small (ileum I think). He decided to have a quick squiz because he could. On the upside the colectomy will also remove the part of the bowel which is most frequently the site of polyps (which is what she was there to get checked), so yay I guess?