Current Events > I think I'm about to fire my therapist.

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You're going to fire your therapist for not being a yes man.

Absolutely brain dead take, but go on. Please tell me how my therapist berating me for being screwed over by legal contracts is good for my mental health. I'd love to hear it.

It sounds like he wants you to break these problems down into smaller steps and start making progress.

Literally already doing that and told her as much. I've got a new apartment lined up and I'm working on the issues with the utilities, but my hands are fucking tied by my ex being on the accounts. There is literally nothing I can do without her signing off on it.

Your therapist has almost definitely fixated on an explanation and is no longer engaged in the process because she thinks it is solved and everything else is reluctance on your end.

Shitty therapists do that, Pepy doesn't know what he's talking about on any subject, and fire your therapist.

Im sorry, that all sounds like such a frustrating series of experiences. Youre paying to be supported and helped through processing your mental and emotional problems, if the person providing that service is not performing to your standard, I agree that you should seek alternatives. Have you told her that you dont feel respected or supported when she posits that the solutions to your negative feelings are things that are either out of your control or beyond your current means?

There's no shame in firing your therapist - unfortunately sometimes it takes a few tries to find one you vibe with.

I know where you can get $60 of that $300.

I know where you can get $60 of that $300.

I did, actually! I said, "I'm literally doing everything I can and should be doing. I'm applying for better jobs. I've got another apartment almost set up. I'm not talking to the people who treat me like garbage." She basically just had a smug look on her face and said, "I don't know what to tell you."

I've gotten that reaction from a lot of people though. Like I should already be over what my ex did to me or learning that my mother is sickeningly bigoted

Yeh she is completely failing to empathize with you or even to do the absolute bare minimum of acknowledging the severity of the trauma youve experienced and are continuing to experience in your divorce. What youre explaining here goes beyond her being generally incompetent, shes behaving in an extremely unprofessional and decidedly unethical way. Do you think theres a possibility that she has a bias against your gender or sexuality? Is this a private organization, or is it a state run facility? She has a boss either way unless its her own private practice or shes a partner of an independent firm, and it may be worthwhile to escalate it to their attention.

Her only job is to know what to tell you, and if shes satisfied being a failure at that, thats disgusting. I used to work for a state facility as a project lead in a group home, so I had to deal with these types of shit head therapists and their complete disinterest in the clients well-being all the time. The cynicism in the industry ultimately broke me, so I got out, but I get so furious hearing about experiences like this.

Also, you should know you can ask to see your file at any time, so you can see exactly how shes characterizing these interactions.