Current Events > Is it weird that I'm a little hurt that my ex didn't invite me to her wedding?

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We dated for a year and a half, and broke up about two and half years ago now. We ended on good terms, stayed friends, (hooked up after the fact a couple times >_>), and kept in pretty regular contact. She met her fiance around a year ago, and she understandably started talking to me less after that, but considering we still were talking and hanging out up to that point, idk, I guess I was expecting at least an invitation. :/

It is what it is, and it's their day, so they can invite whoever the fuck they want to, but idk, feels weird. Don't have any romantic feelings at all for her anymore, but I did still consider her a friend.

It's a weird feeling, idk. Wish them the best tho.

Maybe it's weird to him, not her and he mentioned not inviting her ex boyfriends. I wouldn't think into it too much.

It's not weird that you're hurt but it's also not weird she didn't invite you.

Such is life.

I went to an ex's wedding who I was definitely convinced I had no lingering feelings for but seeing her getting married made me feel awkward. Being asked how I knew the bride and groom wasn't fun either. You might not have enjoyed being there much

MabusIncarnate posted...

Maybe it's weird to him, not her and he mentioned not inviting her ex boyfriends. I wouldn't think into it too much.

That's a fair point. It's also possible that it just didn't even cross their minds to invite me, and that's valid too. Not to mention we are still in COVID, so they may have a smaller guest list as a result, and maybe "Hey, let's not invite exes" was part of their way of slimming things down.

But yeah, idk. Whatever their reasons, wish them the best. Still feel a little hurt tho, but it is what it is.

Llaeto7 posted...

It's not weird that you're hurt but it's also not weird she didn't invite you.

Such is life.

That's very fair.

Don't worry she will be miserable in 3 years anyways

Llaeto7 posted...

It's not weird that you're hurt but it's also not weird she didn't invite you.

Such is life.

Very much this.

I hope you are at least happy for her. Otherwise, why hold on the emotions?

Also sometimes weddings are limited on capacity, family only weddings happen a lot also. There is a lot to factor into it. When I got married it was just a 30 person small ceremony with family.

Is it actually a big wedding?

Like if she's inviting a fuckload of people that's one thing but if it's a close friends and family thing that's completely different.

haloiscoolisbak posted...

I went to an ex's wedding who I was definitely convinced I had no lingering feelings for but seeing her getting married made me feel awkward. Being asked how I knew the bride and groom wasn't fun either. You might not have enjoyed being there much

I mean, I have a girlfriend rn who I'm absolutely in love with, and I'm the one who ultimately ended things with my ex, so I'm pretty sure that wouldn't be the case for me, but who knows I guess.

I'm sure it'd be weird to some degree, but there's also been enough time since when we dated that I don't think things would be too weird? Who knows.

Who cares get over yourself

Wii_Shaker posted...

I hope you are at least happy for her. Otherwise, why hold on the emotions?

Oh, absolutely, I'm glad she found somebody she wants to marry, and I wish them all the best.

You have a new girlfriend. Focus on her. I'd wager it is indeed peculiar that you're hurt by someone that you said you broke up with, is finally celebrating a momentous occasion of love and happiness with someone she shares great comfort in being with.

The only people that get upset about that sort of thing usually have feelings for their exes.

gaminggamer13 posted...

You have a new girlfriend. Focus on her. I'd wager it is indeed peculiar that you're hurt by someone that you said you broke up with, is finally celebrating a momentous occasion of love and happiness with someone she shares great comfort in being with.

The only people that get upset about that sort of thing usually have feelings for their exes.

I'm not upset from a romantic angle, I'd be a little hurt if anyone I considered a close friend didn't invite me to their wedding.

Lol I wouldnt have invited any exes to my wedding nor would I have wanted my wife to invite any of hers. This is such a weird topic. Why would you think you would have gotten one?

Teh_Dr_Phil posted...

Lol I wouldnt have invited any exes to my wedding nor would I have wanted my wife to invite any of hers. This is such a weird topic. Why would you think you would have gotten one?

Because they fucked a few times after they broke up, obviously

JKwaffle posted...

Oh, absolutely, I'm glad she found somebody she wants to marry, and I wish them all the best.

That's great.

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Teh_Dr_Phil posted...

Lol I wouldnt have invited any exes to my wedding nor would I have wanted my wife to invite any of hers. This is such a weird topic. Why would you think you would have gotten one?

Cause we stayed friends after the fact.

If it was a rough break-up, or we just completely stopped being in contact with each other afterwards, it'd be whatever. Almost all of my other exes have gotten married and/or have kids now too, and I've never cared about not being invited to their weddings, cause I didn't stay friends with them after the fact.

Gotta move on homie thats over with

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LMAO

Nasty_Nitro posted...

Gotta move on homie thats over with

I have moved on. :/