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Aye, I have no issue with that.

Yeah, but I'm also 36 and acknowledge people have lived their lives.

In fact most people I've seen since my engagement ending in 2018 have been moms.

At this point, no. I am a single dad (well, I have a gf), but I learned the hard way that trying to deal with kid's schedules for both people in a relationship and still have time together simply sucks. So I wouldn't date a single mom again. At least not until we are both older and empty nesters.

Never

Only when my dating range opens up to women who'd have near adult kids who'd be gone in a few years anyway. Otherwise, zero interest in jumping into a longterm thing with kids.

I have and would again. It's largely my reality at my age anyway.

Depends on whether or not she expects me to fulfill a step-parent role. If yes it's a hard pass, but if not, then absolutely.

It's something that you should discuss before entering into a serious relationship. Some people with kids want that role filled, but others are perfectly content taking care of their children on their own.

Nemu posted...

Only when my dating range opens up to women who'd have near adult kids who'd be gone in a few years anyway. Otherwise, zero interest in jumping into a longterm thing with kids.

That'd be nice. When they are kids it'd probably be okay but then the teen years come and the whole "you're not my real dad/mom!" kicks in.

Heartomaton posted...

Depends on whether or not she expects me to fulfill a step-parent role. If yes it's a hard pass, but if not, then absolutely.

It's something that you should discuss before entering into a serious relationship. Some people with kids want that role filled, but others are perfectly content taking care of their children on their own.

Also this too. If she's looking for someone to be the dad that's a hard pass. Everyone I've seen typically has 50/50 custody. Of course if it got serious enough for marriage I'm fine with taking the role of a step parent even if they had full custody

Lmfao no

Sure. I'd defer to the hypothetical mom in this case to what extent I'd interact with her kid.

At my age I would probably have no choice. Most women probably already have at least 1 kid

Will_VIIII posted...

Also this too. If she's looking for someone to be the dad that's a hard pass. Everyone I've seen typically has 50/50 custody. Of course if it got serious enough for marriage I'm fine with taking the role of a step parent even if they had full custody

yeah, dealing with the kid's dad was always awkward. i tried to keep it to a minimum and avoid it if possible.

Does it count if the kids are my age?

Yes, easily. I have a kid myself, and single mom's are far less likely to be bothered by that lol.

Probably I'm getting older, so a lot of the dating pool has kids. Also acting like a father to a kid is a good thing. Though obviously I would still want my own.

Yes I would if me and the kid can get along. Besides, women absolutely love men that are good with children.

B18Champ posted...

At my age I would probably have no choice. Most women probably already have at least 1 kid

So not true

Would they date you?

Most of you saying at my age I have to date single mothers do realize nothing is stopping you from dating younger women right ??

There is no law preventing any of you from dating women in their 20s and early 30s. Most women like older men anyway so ditch the women with children and get a woman without that baggage.

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

There is no law preventing any of you from dating women in their 20s and early 30s. Most women like older men anyway so ditch the women with children and get a woman without that baggage.

They like older men with money.

Cuticrusader09 posted...

They like older men with money.

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Most of you saying at my age I have to date single mothers do realize nothing is stopping you from dating younger women right ??

There is no law preventing any of you from dating women in their 20s and early 30s. Most women like older men anyway so ditch the women with children and get a woman without that baggage.

This all sounds like some incel shit

My wife was a single mom when I met her. But if we were to ever split, never again.

Simply bc kids are not my area of expertise.

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Most of you saying at my age I have to date single mothers do realize nothing is stopping you from dating younger women right ??

There is no law preventing any of you from dating women in their 20s and early 30s. Most women like older men anyway so ditch the women with children and get a woman without that baggage.

So true. I am almost 45 and my gf is 29.

Regardless, I have dated women in their 30s and early 40s with no children. There are plenty of them even if technically the minority.

Cuticrusader09 posted...

They like older men with money.

Well, maybe :) But my gf makes decent money too, so she isn't after me for money.

No they like older men who have their shit together, you do NOT need to be rich.

Most of these women in their 20s are happy with a dude who has a decent job, a car, and has started to make a real life for himself.

A ton of dudes now who are in their 20s either dont work or refuse to work wanting to just get by on welfare or their illegal hustle. Even less have a car now as public transportation is the cool thing for some reason now.

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

No they like older men who have their shit together, you do NOT need to be rich.

Most of these women in their 20s are happy with a dude who has a decent job, a car, and has started to make a real life for himself.

A ton of dudes now who are in their 20s either dont work or refuse to work wanting to just get by on welfare or their illegal hustle.

Exactly

@Will_VIIII

I do not think you know the meaning of the word incel, none of what I have posted was anything even remotely incel bullshit.

If you want to date single mothers go ahead but not everyone wants to deal with bullshit.

I won't pay for another man's children.

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Most of you saying at my age I have to date single mothers do realize nothing is stopping you from dating younger women right ??

I'm stopping me.

CyricZ posted...

I'm stopping me.

Why are you fucking yourself over ??

You can't date younger without offering more.

If the kid(s) were a little older and mostly self-sufficient, probably.

ExtremeLuchador posted...

You can't date younger without offering more.

Actually the older a woman gets the more entitled she feels and starts having the list of requirements.

Younger women are easier to please so long as your not acting like a fool.

CyricZ posted...

I'm stopping me.

Why though? I am not saying to purposefully go after younger women (I didn't), but why limit yourself?

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Actually the older a woman gets the more entitled she feels and starts having the list of requirements.

Younger women are easier to please so long as your not acting like a fool.

While I was agreeing with you before, I wouldn't go this far. This is getting into sexist territory.

Dont take my word for it, do some research and try dating a woman in her 30s. I actually did try and date women in their 30s before I met my long time girlfriend and it was a fucking joke on what they wanted.

bsp77 posted...

Why though? I am not saying to purposefully go after younger women (I didn't), but why limit yourself?

Are you asking me a personal question?

CyricZ posted...

Are you asking me a personal question?

Yes. Is that not okay? I am just curious why you would not date a younger woman if the opportunity presented itself.

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Dont take my word for it, do some research and try dating a woman in her 30s. I actually did try and date women in their 30s before I met my long time girlfriend and it was a fucking joke on what they wanted.

I have dated plenty of women in their 30s

Have and would again, as long as they have similar priorities and are into traveling and stuff still.

CE gonna CE lol.

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Dont take my word for it, do some research and try dating a woman in her 30s. I actually did try and date women in their 30s before I met my long time girlfriend and it was a fucking joke on what they wanted.

Your personal experiences with a limited number of individuals do not mean that every woman or even most women are like that. It's still just a generalization.

Shit, my age you have no choice.

Heartomaton posted...

Your personal experiences with a limited number of individuals do not mean that every woman or even most women are like that. It's still just a generalization.

Believing that he has any personal experiences was your first mistake

Heres a few of the demands the 30 and up wanted that I dated:
-speak multiple languages
-6 figure income
-6 feet tall or have money
-must be well traveled
-expected to always pick up the tab
-must be college educated
-willing to become a vegan or vegetarian

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Heres a few of the demands the 30 and up wanted that I dated:
-speak multiple languages
-6 figure income
-6 feet tall or have money
-must be well traveled
-expected to always pick up the tab
-must be college educated
-willing to become a vegan or vegetarian

lmfao

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Heres a few of the demands the 30 and up wanted that I dated:
-speak multiple languages
-6 figure income
-6 feet tall or have money
-must be well traveled
-expected to always pick up the tab
-must be college educated
-willing to become a vegan or vegetarian

This totally is incel shit dude

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Heres a few of the demands the 30 and up wanted that I dated:
-speak multiple languages
-6 figure income
-6 feet tall or have money
-must be well traveled
-expected to always pick up the tab
-must be college educated
-willing to become a vegan or vegetarian

That's quite a list. you'd have to be some rich Iranian dude.