Current Events > Anyone else fail at literally everything they've tried?

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This shit's emotionally exhausting

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pretty much. i sucked at school i sucked at being an athlete i sucked at skateboarding i sucked at art i sucked at guitar i sucked at writing i sucked at lifting weights. i just like to relax at this point when i'm not working. relaxing is my hobby now. i'm good at that.

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Not to come off as a Debbie Downer but I've literally failed at every venture and hobby I've ever tried. Picking one of the most miniscule examples, I'm not even that good at video games.

I can't think of a single accomplishment of mine, or anything I'm proud of. I keep trying to give myself some purpose, or try something new to distract me from how bad things are, and it never works out.

Sigh... Yeah...

Have you tried deliberately failing?

I will always love this passage.
Stay strong TC....This is a tough time of year.

Well you know I think my fate's belated
Because of all the hours I waited
For the day when I'd no longer cry.
I get myself to work by eight
But oh, was I born too late,
And do you think I'll fail
At every single thing I try?

https://youtu.be/R9cpBML9SoE?t=149

Sort of, but also my depression sabotages me because:

1. I KNOW I'm going to fail so it's so much harder to start/finish somehthing (even though I still do)
2. I don't at all count my successes. I have a good job, some other stuff has gone well, I'm not the worst person ever, but I still think of myself kinda like that.

I think things get a lot easier and the victories and victories you can see come quicker when you learn full self-acceptance, but I'm far far far from that.

I'm just putting one foot in front of the other and hoping I'm heading in that direction. Also therapy, lots of therapy.

joe40001 posted...

I think things get a lot easier and the victories and victories you can see come quicker when you learn full self-acceptance, but I'm far far far from that.

I'm just putting one foot in front of the other and hoping I'm heading in that direction. Also therapy, lots of therapy.

I try to count my blessings but other than having a roof over my head and some trinkets I've collected over the years, I don't feel like I have much. I don't really even have a family or friends either. I've been conditioned to dislike everything about myself.

Therapy certainly helps but I have no insurance and can't afford it. The only therapist I could ever afford was a really crappy local one who used our sessions so she could plug a yoga class.

Yes lol

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the greatest possible achievement of our modern age

skills are honed through behavior and practice. some people start from a higher position, but if you've never honed a skill it's simply because you didn't put in enough (any? probably) effort

Nope. I've failed a lot and learned a lot from it, and used it to succeed

Pretty much

No shame in being average my guy

Holding yourself to a standard in your mind is setting yourself up for failure. If you really want to do something, really want to be good at something, work at it and understand shit's gonna come with failure time and time again until you improve.

And it helps to reframe the shit as something you enjoy for the sake of it, not as something you *must* excel in. There's always gonna be someone better. I've been playing guitar for 15 years, can't remember the last time someone didn't fuck with my playing. I have friends who outclass me by quite a margin even though they would say otherwise, it don't matter to me because I play for *me* 9 times outta 10.

Now that's speaking strictly to some hobbies. I dunno if you're talking some other shit like work related, just make your money and go home. Excelling at work is rarely rewarded on its own strength so do whatever you gotta do and nothing more unless there's more explicit opportunity.

I can't speak to more than all that given your general statement on dissatisfaction being as vague as it is, but too many people, too much external pressure got people thinking they gotta excel in some area or they ain't shit. That's fucked up, there's nothing wrong with chilling and finding happiness in simplicity. Easier said than done for some, but better than beating yourself up like this.