Current Events > It's okay to move back in with your parents, guys

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Temporarily while you work towards getting a new job and/or house, yes.

If youre over 21 and live with them permanently with no plans to create your own independent income and/or shelter, youre a failure.

lejonbrames posted...

If youre over 21 and live with them permanently with no plans to create your own independent income and/or shelter, youre a failure.

Or you can just get a minimum wage job and get roommates and complain about how life is so unfair on the Internet.

lejonbrames posted...

Temporarily while you work towards getting a new job and/or house, yes.

If youre over 21 and live with them permanently with no plans to create your own independent income and/or shelter, youre a failure.

By what standard? The one you made up for yourself?

sauceje posted...

By what standard? The one you made up for yourself?

Nope, the point of college is getting a degree so you can get a job to support yourself. Often just having a high school diploma is good enough to do that. So if youve either completed those things or chose not to and still mooch off your parents indefinitely, youre a failure.

sauceje posted...

By what standard? The one you made up for yourself?

Looks like it, yup.

Not paying rent and being able to pocket and save most of your checks is amazing

lejonbrames posted...

Often just having a high school diploma is good enough to do that.

So all these people bitching about low pay are lion?

Veggeta_MAX posted...

So all these people bitching about low pay are lion?

Youre not supposed to make a career out of working at McDonalds, its supposed to be your first work experience so you can build yourself up to better and better jobs.

I started at a sandwich shop making $7 an hour and 7 jobs and 4 promotions later am now am in an office job making $30 an hour. I only have a high school diploma. Theres no secret sauce, you just build a good resume and never stop job hunting until you find one you like enough that pays enough to live comfortably.

Dont get me wrong, if your parents WANT you to stay at home and they say theyll pay for your entire life until they die or you do AND you already have a meal ticket lined up after they die, congratulations, youve won life. You straight up cucked existence and have found a magical cheat code.

But if theyre expecting you to leave and you havent after 21, youre a failure.

No. I'd rather work at job that pays me like shit so then I can complain about how life is so unfair to me. About capitalism, about not able to afford rent so I have to get roommates, about living in poverty and in turn I can shit on the American system.

lejonbrames posted...

But if theyre expecting you to leave and you havent after 21, youre a failure.

I have a standard too and if anyone doesn't meet it then they're a failure. Sorry buddy.

lejonbrames posted...

Youre not supposed to make a career out of working at McDonalds, its supposed to be your first work experience so you can build yourself up to better and better jobs.

The majority of min. wage workers are 25+ years old.

I lived with parents til I was 26. But I would give them around $700/month. My mom didn't work and dad brought in about 40K a year so they needed help.

Veggeta_MAX posted...

I have a standard too and if anyone doesn't meet it then they're a failure. Sorry buddy.

Its not a personal standard though, its literally based on the age one is when they finish college. I didnt just throw age 21 out there.

Shablagoo posted...

The majority of min. wage workers are 25+ years old.

Americans are getting less and less ambitious with each passing generation, this is true.

RIPVyseCity posted...

I lived with parents til I was 26. But I would give them around $700/month. My mom didn't work and dad brought in about 40K a year so they needed help.

Living with your parents in this situation for these reasons is totally fine.

lejonbrames posted...

Its not a personal standard though, its literally based on the age one is when they finish college. I didnt just throw age 21 out there.

You're letting society control you.

We literally have a million homeless people and another million in jails & prisons. In some U.S. states 1% of the adult population is jailed or imprisoned at any given time. The reason COVID is destroying the U.S. labor market is because millions of U.S. adults had fragile jobs or living situations that collapsed when one person in their job or home life became disabled.

In short, Americans CAN NOT afford to live any sort of reasonable standard of life.

i think its fine as long as theyre fine with it and youre not leeching off them

Heh, I'm about to move back in with my dad. But that's temporary and I intend to pay half the bills, whether he likes it or not.

But yes back on topic. Life is hard right now and if you have parents to fall back to and they want to help you then let them. I dunno why people want to suffer when they have options.

lejonbrames posted...

Americans are getting less and less ambitious with each passing generation, this is true.

Society wouldnt function if there were no one doing a lot of the lowest paying jobs. We just need higher wages, the capitalists have been tipping the scale with an anvil for several decades.

lejonbrames posted...

Americans are getting less and less ambitious with each passing generation, this is true.

is this dude always this brazen with this kinda bullshit?

I dont see anything wrong with that. My brother moved back home at 25 and saved a ton of money and bought a condo. In my culture though its fairly normal to live with your parents as an adult. We dont just throw out our kids at 18.

Cleo_II posted...

We dont just throw out our kids at 18.

Then you aren't true Americans!

/s

My grandpa drove my dad to the bus stop when he was 18 and was like, see ya! lol

bump

lejonbrames posted...

Temporarily while you work towards getting a new job and/or house, yes.

If youre over 21 and live with them permanently with no plans to create your own independent income and/or shelter, youre a failure.

Im not a failure. Im latino. This is fairly normal for us. Im co owner of the house with my dad. LA is too fucking expensive

If life takes a sudden dump on you and you need it, yeah.

Or if life takes a sudden dump on them and you don't want them going into a home, that takes a lot of heart and patience to care for them impo.

There's nothing wrong going back home. People complain about how shitty landlords are and how high rent is. Best thing is to come home.

Even better to move in with your inlaws

I crashed at my parents house for a week to quarantine from Covid. Didnt get sick and had a great time. Back living with the inlaws now. We all sold our homes and moved into a rental with together.

Generational Housing would actually accomplish a hell of a lot in this bizarre market.

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He's completely wrong. This isn't the 1970s anymore. People can't afford to move out when they turn 18. The majority of the country lives paycheck to paycheck. The only people who say stupid shit like that are edgy teenagers who have never had a job or had to pay for anything in their life. They completely ignore the reality of the modern world.

When I have kids they can stay as long as they want. Having kids isn't an 18 year commitment, it's a lifelong one, and you're the one that forced life on them so you should absolutely do everything you can as a parent to make sure that at the end of the day, they know they can always rely on you. It might even pay off when you're too old to take care of yourself! Alternatively, you can increase the odds of you ending up in a group home lol

agreed

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If you aren't going to actually read what I wrote then why did you quote me in the first place? Because it's obvious from your response that you didn't.

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He's wrong there too.

He's made a generalized claim based on an outdated outlook on life and stereotype mindset.

My parents will probably be practically begging for me to move back in w/ them in about ten years from now, when they're on the edge of having to go into a retirement home. But by then I should be doing pretty damn well in terms of money. Been going through the "struggle" years recently. All I can say is that apartment rent is a scam, but the trade-off of not having to live with your parents is unfortunately largely worth it from a mental wellness standpoint.

masticatingman posted...

not having to live with your parents is unfortunately largely worth it from a mental wellness standpoint

Why is this for you?

masticatingman posted...

the trade-off of not having to live with your parents is unfortunately largely worth it from a mental wellness standpoint.

Yep

the short times when I went back to my parents house in between apartments were such a fucking drag

plus they live in the damn suburbs, what an awful place

Landlord sucks, work sucks, pay sucks, being poor sucks, capitalisms sucks, life sucks but pales to comparison of having to deal with your own parents.

Yeah some of yall don't have it nearly as bad as you want to believe you do.

Provided you are helping in some capacity that the parents are satisfied with I feel the best set up is to stay with family till you are ready to start your own. If everyone is gainfully employed then everyone is saving money.

The only thing that irritates me is I'm the bread winner. Until very recently my mom hasn't been able to help out financially at all but she still sometimes acts like she gets to be in charge. Like for example she keeps pestering me that she wants to and is gonna rearrange the living room. I'm the only one who uses it and I like it how it is. Only reason it hasn't happened is cause I just kinda ignore her and she's expecting me to do the heavy lifting.

It doesnt matter times are hard.

Nasty_Nitro posted...

It doesnt matter times are hard.

Dealing with your parents is harder.

Veggeta_MAX posted...

Dealing with your parents is harder.

You're making too many assumptions.

NatsuSama posted...

You're making too many assumptions.

Read post 41 and 43.

lejonbrames posted...

Youre not supposed to make a career out of working at McDonalds, its supposed to be your first work experience so you can build yourself up to better and better jobs.

I started at a sandwich shop making $7 an hour and 7 jobs and 4 promotions later am now am in an office job making $30 an hour. I only have a high school diploma. Theres no secret sauce, you just build a good resume and never stop job hunting until you find one you like enough that pays enough to live comfortably.

So should the managers, district managers, corporate positions all be minimum wage too?