Current Events > I'm a trans woman and I'm going to be coming out soon. Ask me anything!

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gunplagirl posted...

You can't handle it effectively with your build though :3

In D&D a gnome can specialize in battle-axes.

Ergo, gnome-sized battle-axes exist and can be used by larger yet weaker beings.

ElatedVenusaur posted...

Amanda

i know a cis Amanda, and she always complains about it sounding like "a man, duh". i can't imagine it's a popular choice for trans women, lol.

Medussa posted...

i know a cis Amanda, and she always complains about it sounding like "a man, duh". i can't imagine it's a popular choice for trans women, lol.

In Latin it means "worthy to be loved". That's why it was considered. Maybe if I have a daughter some day, it will see the light of day...

Anyway, I'm going to go do some gaming. Have some baller waiting music for while I'm gone:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-NmWxIeCSA
Courtney is gay.

ElatedVenusaur posted...

Oh honey. It's not a matter of "knowing". If it was a matter of knowing, I would have started on HRT 10-15 years ago. Maybe even earlier! I knew I was a girl before I even fully understand what gender was. I was heartbroken when my grandmother stopped painting my nails, because I couldn't understand why boys it wasn't a thing boys did. I was probably 5 or 6.

Cool, thanks for sharing.

Can I paint your nails?

That video was pretty cool btw

Cocytus posted...

Cool, thanks for sharing.

I actually forgot to finish my answer: it was more a matter of understanding what I was feeling and admitting that that's what it was. Our society just doesn't put the language out there and paints being trans as being really negative. You have to find the language and the positivity yourself.

Yefoloogi posted...

Can I paint your nails?

Any time love. Lord knows I could use some pointers.

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Absolutely, though I have branched into sociology and feminist stuff too. It's all rooted in my desire to understand humanity. I got a book about Cyrus the Great and another about Babylon for Christmas (along with some novels).

I am currently reading The Seven Necessary Sins for Women and Girls by Mona Eltahawy, a feminist activist and writer who got her arms broken in Tahrir Square and was arrested stateside for spraypainting over a racist AF pro-Israel ad in NYC(I mention that because I remember hearing about that long before I actually knew who she was).
If you're wondering about her style, on the cover, the "i" in "sins" is a middle finger.

ElatedVenusaur posted...

If you're wondering about her style, on the cover, the "i" in "sins" is a middle finger.

Oh heavens

greyfox747 posted...

Oh heavens

She has Sekhmet tattooed on one of her arms, so she may literally be the lion-headed goddess incarnate.

Evening bump. Please forgive the frost-bitten words I've said, CE.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iyw2qJ4k8Y4
This is Z's other YouTube channel.

What's your favorite Pokemon?

I feel like your username may be giving it away

AngelicRadiance posted...

What's your favorite Pokemon?

I feel like your username may be giving it away

It doesn't: Venasaur is only my second favorite. Steelix is my favorite. Yanmega, Volcarona, and Houndoom round out the top 5.
Basically, Cynthia would eat my faves for lunch.

ElatedVenusaur posted...

It doesn't: Venasaur is only my second favorite. Steelix is my favorite. Yanmega, Volcarona, and Houndoom round out the top 5.
Basically, Cynthia would eat my faves for lunch.

Has anyone ever told you that you have good taste in Pokemon?

Because you do.

Unknown5uspect posted...

Has anyone ever told you that you have good taste in Pokemon?

Because you do.

Nope, but I always knew it! What are your favorites?
Also afternoon CE is quite incurious...

ElatedVenusaur posted...

It doesn't: Venasaur is only my second favorite. Steelix is my favorite. Yanmega, Volcarona, and Houndoom round out the top 5.
Basically, Cynthia would eat my faves for lunch.

Solid choices.

What do you make of the controversy involving Isabel Fall?

Humble_Novice posted...

What do you make of the controversy involving Isabel Fall?

I had to look that up, because that meant nothing to me. For the benefit of others:
https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/22543858/isabel-fall-attack-helicopter

Having read this, the trans community is (rightfully) fiercely defensive, because bad faith actors are everywhere, and allies tend to be protective, though sometimes in a performative and overly negative way. And what happened here was, quite frankly, tragic. It doesn't sound like the author has recovered from it, that the trauma has driven her to deny herself.

So my main takeaway is that, hard though it may be, it pays to be patient, and it pays to be kind, especially when you can't know where some one is coming from. Spare your ire for repeat offenders.
Certainly, my experience of Trans Twitter has been that it doesn't focus on transphobia, but on the positive aspects of our experience. It's the only way we can survive in a world that hates us.

Why do you support Russia and other authoritarian regimes today simply because they once had a communist government?

Smh

Hey rebel, could you do us a favor and shut the fuck up

thanks

Gawain791 posted...

Why do you support Russia and other authoritarian regimes today simply because they once had a communist government?

See now, this is bad faith. Clearly, you already know the answer to your own question, so why waste everyone's time with asking it?

ElatedVenusaur posted...

Clearly, you already know the answer to your own question

I mean, fair. Just seems really shitty but if that's your angle hey lol

How do you find a comfortable place to buy lingerie in person? I got a bustier set online and it makes me feel really sexy and confident but it was mostly a cheap experiment and the lace is already torn from the bodice just through normal wear, so Id like to get a higher quality set. I feel itd be much easier to find exactly what I want if I am able to try it on, but there are still certain womens spaces Im unbearably anxious about entering.

Gawain791 posted...

I mean, fair. Just seems really shitty but if that's your angle hey lol

This is such a pathetic way for you to live

at least pretend to have some self respect, man

greyfox747 posted...

This is such a pathetic way for you to live

at least pretend to have some self respect, man

I'm pretty sure TC can fight her own battles.

I just thought it was funny recently when she was insisting that Russia antagonizing Ukraine was US propaganda then promptly disappeared when people posted pics of them actually amassing forces at the border.

DespondentDeity posted...

How do you find a comfortable place to buy lingerie in person? I got a bustier set online and it makes me feel really sexy and confident but it was mostly a cheap experiment and the lace is already torn from the bodice just through normal wear, so Id like to get a higher quality set. I feel itd be much easier to find exactly what I want if I am able to try it on, but there are still certain womens spaces Im unbearably anxious about entering.

Hah, honey. I actually have yet to buy anything more than some nail polish, a woman's razor, and a hairbrush in person.
And then only at self-checkout. (I bought one bottle of nail polish along with cold medicine, which required the WalMart attendant's assistance. She looked at the polish and commented, "Oh honey, that's a really nice color." I share that because it was crazy wholesome")

I haven't had the nerve to buy women's clothing in public. I should corral one of my girlfriends for that, especially the first time. Having some feminine support should make it easier, for both of us.

Personally, I haven't bought any sets. I'm only six months in and my proportions are inevitably going to change a lot (it takes a full 2-3 years of HRT to "max out", so to speak) and I'm also working on losing weight, so I've been buying cheap stuff(and mostly sports bras, because keeping my growing breasts stealthed has been a priority up until this point) I must say, wearing panties felt super natural once I got some that fit well.

Also, I am naturally skeptical of any and all sabre-rattling. War is mass death, war is hell, and war with a nuclear power could lead to the extinction of the human race, and yet all too many people treat it lightly. They weigh lives like feathers and words like iron. I do not remain in topics unless I feel I have more to contribute to them.

It's not necesarily the sound of your voice that makes you feminine, it's how you use it..

MasterChief5000 posted...

It's not necesarily the sound of your voice that makes you feminine, it's how you use it..

Nah, see: I hate hearing my voice. My voice clocks me immediately. It bothers me deeply, and I cried tears of joy when I found Trans Voice Lessons and saw and heard for myself that I could totally sound the way I want to sound. That's valid.
Many trans people are fine with their voices as is, or alter them slightly and are happy with that, and that is also valid.

DespondentDeity posted...

How do you find a comfortable place to buy lingerie in person? I got a bustier set online and it makes me feel really sexy and confident but it was mostly a cheap experiment and the lace is already torn from the bodice just through normal wear, so Id like to get a higher quality set. I feel itd be much easier to find exactly what I want if I am able to try it on, but there are still certain womens spaces Im unbearably anxious about entering.

Have you tried sex toy websites?

If you get lingerie from Wish or AliExpress, it's gonna be low quality crap. Sex toy retailers that also stock lingerie, especially stores that have their own brand (which is a thing that exists), are a slightly costlier but ultimately more secure and better quality way of getting lingerie.

Also, discreet shipping 100% of the time.

ElatedVenusaur posted...

I haven't had the nerve to buy women's clothing in public. I should corral one of my girlfriends for that, especially the first time. Having some feminine support should make it easier, for both of us.

It definitely gets easier after the first time, and I feel like its more comfortable at places like Target and JC Penny; boutiques are a bit more intimidating but Ive had a lot of positive interactions in certain spaces, especially nail salons and tattoo / piercing shops. I feel like in general artists are pretty easy to interact with since their focus is helping others express themselves or feel beautiful. Also, when you start getting more into makeup, I have nothing but positive things to say about the people who work at Ulta, at least my local one, in a way theyve been my constant companions throughout the past year. It gets to a point where, you know this is their interest, and they get excited to see the progression of their customers skills or to share their knowledge on techniques and products.

MrMallard posted...

Have you tried sex toy websites?

If you get lingerie from Wish or AliExpress, it's gonna be low quality crap. Sex toy retailers that also stock lingerie, especially stores that have their own brand (which is a thing that exists), are a slightly costlier but ultimately more secure and better quality way of getting lingerie.

I wanted to come back to this, because after browsing for a bit, this is really solid advice. I was looking on Kinks shop and they have a great selection of different styles of lingerie. Also, I wanted to point out for @ElatedVenusaur that they have good options for people who are in between sizes in the form of whats called a body stocking. Its pretty much a pair of tights that covers from your feet to your bust, so its really stretchy, and theyre also pretty inexpensive, so you wont have to feel bad when you size out of it. I havent gotten one to see the quality yet, but I do have experience with some of their sex toys and the quality on those has been high.

DespondentDeity posted...

It definitely gets easier after the first time, and I feel like its more comfortable at places like Target and JC Penny; boutiques are a bit more intimidating but Ive had a lot of positive interactions in certain spaces, especially nail salons and tattoo / piercing shops. I feel like in general artists are pretty easy to interact with since their focus is helping others express themselves or feel beautiful. Also, when you start getting more into makeup, I have nothing but positive things to say about the people who work at Ulta, at least my local one, in a way theyve been my constant companions throughout the past year. It gets to a point where, you know this is their interest, and they get excited to see the progression of their customers skills or to share their knowledge on techniques and products.

I wanted to come back to this, because after browsing for a bit, this is really solid advice. I was looking on Kinks shop and they have a great selection of different styles of lingerie. Also, I wanted to point out for @ElatedVenusaur that they have good options for people who are in between sizes in the form of whats called a body stocking. Its pretty much a pair of tights that covers from your feet to your bust, so its really stretchy, and theyre also pretty inexpensive, so you wont have to feel bad when you size out of it. I havent gotten one to see the quality yet, but I do have experience with some of their sex toys and the quality on those has been high.

I did go get my haircut recently, presenting pretty fem(I was wearing a normal bra, and let me tell you: I have pretty noticeable breasts these days) and the stylist was super nice, even layered my hair so it wouldn't look boxy. Looks and feels good.

In any case, I actually did it. I changed by Facebook name, my profile pic, and posted about it just now. I'm going public and I'm definitely not crying.

Thats badass and so awesome!

ElatedVenusaur posted...

In any case, I actually did it. I changed by Facebook name, my profile pic, and posted about it just now. I'm going public and I'm definitely not crying.

<3. when i did this i got complete silence, lol.

Whats your favorite kind of cookie?

What clothing store do ya think has the vibe you like?

also, congrats - always nice to hear about people actualizing themselves into victory

What's the last thing you ate?

RedLuigi posted...

Whats your favorite kind of cookie?

What clothing store do ya think has the vibe you like?

also, congrats - always nice to hear about people actualizing themselves into victory

I'm currently chilling in a bright red turtleneck I got from Land's End. Most of what I've gotten so far has been cheap stuff off Amazon: before I was out to my parents, shipping stuff to a locker was one of the few surefire ways I could get clothes without anyone being the wiser. I'll keep wearing my old clothes for now, since I don't make a ton of money, but I would like to start actually buying clothes in the store. Given how long I can look at cute clothes online, I understand now my lack of investment in clothes shopping was because I was buying the wrong clothes lol.
Kind of want to try going with my cis teacher friend. She mostly gets stuff from, like, WalMart and Target, and that's probably in line with my budget, though I would like to splurge here and there. What jewelry I have I've gotten off Etsy (you can get darling pride stuff on there!)

As for cookies, I'm an oatmeal girl, but I see no reason why you should put *only* raisins in them. Put in some nuts, put in chocolate chips, whatever you want. The best cookies I ever had were the ones I made with friends in college where we threw a half-dozen random things into them with a truly disgusting quantity of butter.
The follow-up to that is that my (then closeted) trans friend was out drinking, and came home absolutely smashed. They ate like half a dozen cookies, and then we made them play Donkey Kong Country, just so we could marvel at how drunk they were.

Have you ever danced with the devil in the pale moonlight?

AngelicRadiance posted...

Have you ever danced with the devil in the pale moonlight?

Nah, but forging a world of chaos with them was a blast in SMT IV.
I mean, aside from murdering Isabeau, they really nail that fight tonally.

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Yup, it comes in an Amazon envelope/package/box. Nice and discreet that way. A lot of sex shops do discreet shipping too, is what some one else in this topic said (and it makes sense they would), but obviously that would go to your actual physical address.

And I have been blown away with how much love and positivity I'm receiving. I'm, like, ridiculously blessed to the point where it's almost kind of embarrassing, because I know most of my trans siblings, especially trans POC, don't get even half this much love and support.

Not a question but I always thought your name was ElevatedVenusaur >_>

Good luck, TC. I hope nobody gives you any undue shit for coming out.

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You can actually return stuff straight to a locker, though you have to print out the label(or pay a nominal fee for them to send it to you.)
But yeah no, I don't know much of anything about value, sorry. My advice would be not to spend much if you're planning on taking hormones: your body will change a lot and there's no guarantee stuff will still fit you then.
Oh right: sizing for women's clothing is a bit more complicated. I suggest acquiring a measuring tape to size yourself with, so you can be assured of a good fit. They're really cheap. Ring sizers are even cheaper, and a cis woman friend alerted me to their existence.
Like, I think I'm a bit ahead of schedule, but I'm six months in and my breasts are large enough that they're noticeable even in a too-tight sports bra lol(they're not huge or anything, but I look down at my chest and I def have breasts. Euphoria every damned time). People at work are going to see something(s) when I go in wearing a standard bra.