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I feel like people put themselves into this hypothetical box way too often. Especially shy/quiet people.

It really is possible to completely change your personality. Hate how you have no friends? Make an effort to get to know new people. Hate being single? Go on some dates. Its literally never been easier to find someone else.

So many boring ass people out there. Go be adventurous. Life is way too short to be a shut in recluse whos too depressed to make an actual change.

And yes, this topic is directed towards you.

Maybe

Not sure where to start

I'd rather research and design a really interesting book or argument than do what you want

You cannot change your personality, only hide it.

MFBKBass5 posted...

Hate how you have no friends? Make an effort to get to know new people. Hate being single? Go on some dates.

So many boring ass people out there. Go be adventurous.

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I'd argue that's more changing of your behavior than "who you are". But I suppose there's a philosophical debate to be had where the line is there.

Your cells are constantly dying and reproducing so technically you're not the same person you were like,5 days ago much less many years ago

"Want to stop feeling like a loser? It's easy, just stop feeling like a loser."

Irony posted...

You cannot change your personality, only hide it.

Disagree. People grow and learn and change. Some assholes learn empathy and become nice. Some nice people get super jaded and becone huge dicks.

Self awareness and honestly about who you are as a person is the most important trait you need if you ever wanna change.

DoctorPiranha3 posted...

Your cells are constantly dying and reproducing so technically you're not the same person you were like,5 days ago much less many years ago

quiet u nerd

Easier said then done

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those are all just excuses tho. At the end of the day, youre in control of your own fate.

I hate when people use their past as an excuse to be a shitty person or a reason for a character flaw.

Everyone is capable of changing who they are. Only if they're willing to put in the effort of doing so.

rideshort posted...

Everyone is capable of changing who they are. Only if they're willing to put in the effort of doing so.

exactly. And thats where I come in. For only $59.99/month, I can be your life coach and help you become a better, less lame person.

wanna know more? Dm for a list of famous clients Ive changed for the better!

So if no one likes you lie about who you really are so that they do?

That means they still dont like you they like a lie. I guess if you live a lie long enough the lie becomes the truth, but the real you was abandoned by everyone including oneself.

MFBKBass5 posted...

I hate when people use their past as an excuse to be a shitty person or a reason for a character flaw.

It's easier to be a good person when you have a history of good things going on

MedeaLysistrata posted...

It's easier to be a good person when you have a history of good things going on

not always true. I think growing up with obstacles and struggles can be super beneficial in shaping great qualities in a person.

MFBKBass5 posted...

not always true. I think growing up with obstacles and struggles can be super beneficial in shaping great qualities in a person.

You're touching on something that goes so far down it's pointless to expect a direct return on

Incorrect.

you want people to change who they are?

Sorry. I was told often I shouldn't change myself to get friends, dates, or any other concept of people liking me. It's selling out my humanity to be the thing others want because they think only one kind of person can pr should be liked.

MFBKBass5 posted...

I feel like people put themselves into this hypothetical box way too often. Especially shy/quiet people.

It really is possible to completely change your personality. Hate how you have no friends? Make an effort to get to know new people. Hate being single? Go on some dates. Its literally never been easier to find someone else.

So many boring ass people out there. Go be adventurous. Life is way too short to be a shut in recluse whos too depressed to make an actual change.

And yes, this topic is directed towards you.

I think its a hell of a lot more complicated than that but overall I agree, from my own experience. Also see sig.

NOM posted...

Easier said then done

It's easier when there's no covid.

Stalolin posted...

I think its a hell of a lot more complicated than that but overall I agree, from my own experience. Also see sig.

i like that sig. people get complacent.

MFBKBass5 posted...

i like that sig. people get complacent.

I mean sure, but I think framing it like that is still kind of a negative lens. Its not about whipping people into shape.

Stalolin posted...

I mean sure, but I think framing it like that is still kind of a negative lens. Its not about whipping people into shape.

Complacent isnt negative tho. Its just stagnant. Not saying people always should change. But growth is a good thing g.

@jeffhardyb0yz

MFBKBass5 posted...

Complacent isnt negative tho. Its just stagnant. Not saying people always should change. But growth is a good thing g.

Yes fair enough I agree with that.

Heartomaton posted...

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My same reaction. I'm sure TC means well but this generic advice isn't really going to help anyone.

smoke_break posted...

My same reaction. I'm sure TC means well but this generic advice isn't really going to help anyone.

r/wowthanksimcured material

Liking dogs is a good start

RedLuigi posted...

Liking dogs is a good start

only psychos and broken people dont like dogs

It's pretty simple to notice who is forever set on their ways on this websight

Veggeta_MAX posted...

It's pretty simple to notice who is forever set on their ways on this websight

Including you, it seems.

People can change, yes. But saying "just go on some dates!" really diminishes the struggle that it can take to change.

I've spent YEARS fighting my social anxiety to make friends, have relationships, etc. And I've for sure grown and changed a lot, and overall been pretty successful I'd say. But it's a constant battle, and there are still days sometimes where my anxiety acts up so bad I don't even want to go into a store for groceries cause I might have to talk to someone.

JKwaffle posted...

People can change, yes. But saying "just go on some dates!" really diminishes the struggle that it can take to change.

I've spent YEARS fighting my social anxiety to make friends, have relationships, etc. And I've for sure grown and changed a lot, and overall been pretty successful I'd say. But it's a constant battle, and there are still days sometimes where my anxiety acts up so bad I don't even want to go into a store for groceries cause I might have to talk to someone.

Im not diminishing any struggles. Youre taking it personally for some reason. If you dont like some aspect of yourself, try something new. Its that simple.

saying to go on dates isnt saying that its easy to get a girlfriend if youve been single for a while. Its literally just saying put yourself out there and see what happens.

MFBKBass5 posted...

Im not diminishing any struggles. Youre taking it personally for some reason. If you dont like some aspect of yourself, try something new. Its that simple.

saying to go on dates isnt saying that its easy to get a girlfriend if youve been single for a while. Its literally just saying put yourself out there and see what happens.

I dont think Ive simultaneously agreed and disagreed with the same person this hard in my life. Either youre trolling or you just dont have a very sophisticated understanding of how people work.

Stalolin posted...

I dont think Ive simultaneously agreed and disagreed with the same person this hard in my life. Either youre trolling or you just dont have a very sophisticated understanding of how people work.

no I think youre just making a lot of conclusions yourself and are way too quick to make assumptions about things that Im not even saying lol

Not really, no

MFBKBass5 posted...

no I think youre just making a lot of conclusions yourself and are way too quick to make assumptions about things that Im not even saying lol

when your advice lacks any substance you kind of have to lmao

Irony posted...

You cannot change your personality, only hide it.

Your personality can change. You just have little control over how it changes as its going to be life expierences that mold it. Bitter old men wherent always bitter for example.

But as to the OP its true. I used to be shy quiet timid no back bone etc. Now I'll talk to just about anyone. And I've ran to fights that dont involve me.

mooreandrew58 posted...

Your personality can change. You just have little control over how it changes as its going to be life expierences that mold it. Bitter old men wherent always bitter for example.

But as to the OP its true. I used to be shy quiet timid no back bone etc. Now I'll talk to just about anyone. And I've ran to fights that dont involve me.

Same here. I used to be super quiet and awkward. Wasnt until college when I really learned how to be social.

Stalolin posted...

when your advice lacks any substance you kind of have to lmao

Plenty of substance, you just seem to not understand I guess :)

MFBKBass5 posted...

those are all just excuses tho. At the end of the day, youre in control of your own fate.

I hate when people use their past as an excuse to be a shitty person or a reason for a character flaw.

What if I get stung by a bee :(

Personally, I dont think people can change.

Angry people will always be angry. Emotional always emotional etc.

But that doesnt mean you cant change how you behave. Shy people can learn to flex that talk to strangers muscles.

Its obviously harder than someone outgoing. And even getting used to it wont eradicate the shyness trait.

But practice makes perfect.

MFBKBass5 posted...

Same here. I used to be super quiet and awkward. Wasnt until college when I really learned how to be social

Oddly its been jobs to gradually change me. Working fast food I learned to raise my voice cause kitchens are noisy and I was team leader and expected to run the kitchen. I had to communicate.

Prison has given me backbone and being able to have regular convos with just about anybody. Job can be boring and sometimes in stuck with a 68 year old black man while im a 33 year old white guy. Or I get stuck with a late 40s woman or a someone in their early 20s. Gotta make the night go by somehow and we aint allowed to bring in any form of entertainmenr like books. Thats one thing i love about this job. All sorts of different races religions political ideals etc. But due to the boredom of the job we put it aside and get along like we are friends or family

MFBKBass5 posted...

Same here. I used to be super quiet and awkward. Wasnt until college when I really learned how to be social.

Plenty of substance, you just seem to not understand I guess :)

haha, clearly.

I agree but for most taking the first steps are the hardest. People naturally take the path of least resistance. I have changed a ton from who I was when I was younger. But it took a lot of introspection and hard work to shift things to my favor. A lot of uncertainty and risks. Not everyone will be comfortable with that.

Yes but it takes effort. I will never believe it's impossible, because that tends to lead to bigotry and ideas like "certain people" can never learn.