Current Events > What is the correct way for a man to deal with being rejected by a woman?

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Because it seems some men get triggered and become aggressive by being rejected.

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Remain friends and encourage her to make terrible life choices

Understand that rejection in many forms is a part of life literally everyone deals with, and not take it too personally.

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Say ok and go on bout ya bidness

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Go home and whack off


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Move on

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Seems like a dumb question to ask if you don't have that problem TC. Of course the meal comes with an upsize option.

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In my case? Realize that I got my hopes up yet again, cry openly, and be more depressed than usual for about a week.

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Well said.

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Masturbate. Play video games.

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SadHumanBeing posted...

Masturbate. Play video games.

This guy gets it, use that post nut clarity to gain some perspective

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Move on
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RedWhiteBlue posted...

The problem with this is guys that are perpetually rejected. Going your whole life wanting to be with someone and constantly being reminded that no one validates your worth intimately is an awful feeling. Hell, it's not even exclusive for men, and it doesn't matter if you're gay, bi, or any other. The issue with rejection in society stems from it being such a trial to eventually find someone. And we won't ever see a system that solves this so long as there's profit in preventing solutions.

You can't force anyone to return your feelings, so yes some people will face a lot of rejection.

But what do you want to be done about it?
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Some people will also suggest looking at it like "oh well, her loss". That ain't it either. Having a narcissistic approach is going to make you more bitter instead of just accepting that sometimes you're not going to mix well with someone else
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AdrianBeterson posted...

Move on

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Funkydog posted...

You can't force anyone to return your feelings, so yes some people will face a lot of rejection.

But what do you want to be done about it?

Government-mandated girlfriends.

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You move on and talk and date other women. It's that simple. And don't have oneitis.

Treat dating like looking for a job until you get serious (accept the job after the interview stage).


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Become an evil genius and destroy the world!

Have sex with her best friend. Move on and don't look back.

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nothanks1 posted...

Remain friends and encourage her to make terrible life choices

Cleared your block list, did ya?

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Hand her a pre-printed questionnaire and ask her to detail her reasons, to help you identify and break through barriers in future.

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Bust a move

Learn about yourself through the experience and move on.

Rejection will keep you down on yourself but dont let it. *Try not* to bring yourself down too much from it. We put ourselves down too much tbh. If you cant rally yourself back to try & try again who will?


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What is the correct way for a man to deal with being rejected by a woman?

not take it personally when shes being civil about it
and just call it quits when shes not

when he makes its super personal over someone hes not even dating yet, hes hard projecting: possessiveness, insecurity, entitlement and (occasionally) desperation

hes acting like a cross between a caveman and a whiny child who got denied something
thats typically not attractive, its off putting and screams that person is loaded with emotional baggage

and ive said the same thing to other women ive known who acted similarly when a hot guy turned them down
when theyre projecting those traits, its not empowering to condone it, its straight up self defeating and butt ugly
they deserved to get passed up when theyre expecting someone else to take care of an adult crybaby

a mature logical person doesnt get heated over a short simple rejection, they realize it could have been so much worse and they just got saved from wasting a ton of time chasing someone who was never gonna return the interest, time is one of the most valuable resources

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Apologize, make preparations to assume a new identity elsewhere, move, and when you're up to it you can try with some other girl.

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AdrianBeterson posted...

Move on

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Make a decision whether you want to keep her as a friend & can handle a platonic relationship, or as Jay-Z said "on to the next one"

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On a related note:

You should not feel villainous if you reach a point where a platonic connection after an awkward rejection is just too uncomfortable for you. It's practicing insight and being realistic about how you truly feel. It's not your obligation to stomped down your inconvenient feelings just for their sake. You're not obligated to drag things on as someone else's playmate when your interests have evolved past what a platonic connection can offer both of you.

Long term "pretending" can become very damaging for BOTH of you because it's denying the emotional needs of the people involved. Friend A gets a half-hearted companion who's operating on a facade (deception/codependency) that hides inner turmoil that should instead be carefully addressed. Friend B begins to feel like they're rotting inside and about to explode because they're withholding a constant build up of emotional pressure around someone they believe they can not risk telling (self abuse/depression/fear). This inadvertently causes Friend B to become a powder keg that will inevitably blow up at their friend's expense (build up of hidden toxicity) likely ending the relationship anyway on a worse note.

The old trope of "they rejected me romantically, but I will continue loving them from afar platonically " always sounded poisonous and delusional. Some people (fewer than most) can manage to still comfortably salvage a friendship without lingering toxicity after a heartfelt proposal gets awkwardly rejected. What you're more likely to find (outside of Hollywood illusions), however, is that many more of said people are just better off finding other friends at that point. It can deliver closure and a new start without the baggage. Humanity is fickle, individual people break up and drift apart all the time over less. Dipping out of an uncomfortable friendship is always a valid option. Popular sociable people do it all the time, as they can afford to.

Despite what some critics will screech, you're not callously "deserting" the other person if you realize that continuing to drag on the faade is just going to escalate badly no matter what you do. You're being a more responsible friend by not putting them through that sensitive rollercoaster when you notice it's not going to end well. That decision in itself can be a demonstration of emotional strength, not innately weakness, because you're actively choosing to spare each other a greater amount of grief and freeing up their time to find better connections at the sacrifice of yours.

Sometimes politely bowing out of a friendship that hurts too much for you is the responsible thing to do in the long run.

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Game of Love is how work this world on that matter. So just accept it bro. I accept it all day long. Let's write a book why the girls need to be with us, man.

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RedLuigi posted...

Go home and whack off

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Fuck her dad

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I've seen more women than men go off the deep end for being rejected
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jRKsH8_OWQ

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Honestly, it's okay to get upset. Of course it's upsetting to get rejected when you were hopeful, or when it seems you've been rejected a lot. Just don't get upset at them. Realize that somebody being interested in you is about compatibility between two people, it's not a reflection on you.

And sure, if you seem to never be compatible with anyone, there's of course skills you can look into getting to raise your odds.

But that's really what it is, is simple compatibility. I have 2 friends that I formerly had a huge crush on, and both had feelings for me too, but they both ultimately rejected me. After the fact, when I stopped moping about it, I realized that it never would've worked out if we'd actually gotten together. They realized that instinctively, but I didn't at the time.

Meanwhile, my wife was a close friend who I never lusted after the same way...but we got closer and closer over the years, until it turned into something else. We were just ultimately compatible that way, and that's all there is to it.

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Bass_X0 posted...

Because it seems some men get triggered and become aggressive by being rejected.

WHAT?!? YOU THINK YOU CAN DO BETTER THAN ME?!?!?!? GO AHEAD THEN!!!!

RedWhiteBlue posted...

The problem with this is guys that are perpetually rejected. Going your whole life wanting to be with someone and constantly being reminded that no one validates your worth intimately is an awful feeling. Hell, it's not even exclusive for men, and it doesn't matter if you're gay, bi, or any other. The issue with rejection in society stems from it being such a trial to eventually find someone. And we won't ever see a system that solves this so long as there's profit in preventing solutions.

Is it men, or just less socially capable people? I have 99 problems, but rejection hasn't been one.

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Deal with it. It doesn't matter how much YOU want something if someone else doesn't

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Hit the bottle

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RedLuigi posted...

Go home and whack off

then cry in your beer

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OpenlyGator posted...

On a related note:

You should not feel villainous if you reach a point where a platonic connection after an awkward rejection is just too uncomfortable for you. It's practicing insight and being realistic about how you truly feel. It's not your obligation to stomped down your inconvenient feelings just for their sake. You're not obligated to drag things on as someone else's playmate when your interests have evolved past what a platonic connection can offer both of you.

Long term "pretending" can become very damaging for BOTH of you because it's denying the emotional needs of the people involved. Friend A gets a half-hearted companion who's operating on a facade (deception/codependency) that hides inner turmoil that should instead be carefully addressed. Friend B begins to feel like they're rotting inside and about to explode because they're withholding a constant build up of emotional pressure around someone they believe they can not risk telling (self abuse/depression/fear). This inadvertently causes Friend B to become a powder keg that will inevitably blow up at their friend's expense (build up of hidden toxicity) likely ending the relationship anyway on a worse note.

The old trope of "they rejected me romantically, but I will continue loving them from afar platonically " always sounded poisonous and delusional. Some people (fewer than most) can manage to still comfortably salvage a friendship without lingering toxicity after a heartfelt proposal gets awkwardly rejected. What you're more likely to find (outside of Hollywood illusions), however, is that many more of said people are just better off finding other friends at that point. It can deliver closure and a new start without the baggage. Humanity is fickle, individual people break up and drift apart all the time over less. Dipping out of an uncomfortable friendship is always a valid option. Popular sociable people do it all the time, as they can afford to.

Despite what some critics will screech, you're not callously "deserting" the other person if you realize that continuing to drag on the faade is just going to escalate badly no matter what you do. You're being a more responsible friend by not putting them through that sensitive rollercoaster when you notice it's not going to end well. That decision in itself can be a demonstration of emotional strength, not innately weakness, because you're actively choosing to spare each other a greater amount of grief and freeing up their time to find better connections at the sacrifice of yours.

Sometimes politely bowing out of a friendship that hurts too much for you is the responsible thing to do in the long run.

This is good advice. Be fucking honest with how you feel, and try to be healthy with decisions regarding that. You have obligations to yourself.

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Lmao TC tossed a grenade and ran. Typical

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Well first you're gonna want to secure a live chicken.

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Cool, have a good day/night

It depends. Was it a reasonable let down that was straightforward without being mean? Then being her friend is an option. Did she leave you on delivered for a week, stand you up, or play other games? Cut her out of your life.

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nothanks1 posted...

Remain friends and encourage her to make terrible life choices

I kinda like this

seems like a decent middle ground

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My usual response to rejection is just remembering I'm trash and nobody would ever want me and that feels pretty correct.

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Make a self-depreciating joke, excuse yourself politely, then go home and cry in to a tub of ice cream.

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father a child with her mother