Current Events > I hate the "don't shit where you eat advice"

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people you work with.

once you're past high school and college, work is pretty much your main source of meeting people and social interaction

and most relationships are formed either through school or work

the idea that people meet their gf/wives by going on meetup.com to play kickball is just ridiculous and something redditors made up

Slayerblade11 posted...

the idea that people meet their gf/wives by going on meetup.com to play kickball is just ridiculous and something redditors made up

Truth. You're never going to find something real on a shitty dating app.

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Slayerblade11 posted...

the idea that people meet their gf/wives by going on meetup.com to play kickball is just ridiculous and something redditors made up

Just FYI this saying far predates reddit

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I think this advise is generally for guys who are socially inept and regularly make people uncomfortable. Not that I ever say that anyway.

But yeah if you're normal just don't worry about it.

Slayerblade11 posted...

the idea that people meet their gf/wives by going on meetup.com to play kickball is just ridiculous and something redditors made up

People have been saying that far longer than Reddit has been around, and it's actually good advice due to the professional environment.

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Solar_Crimson posted...

People have been saying that far longer than Reddit has been around, and it's actually good advice due to the professional environment.

Most people are working a minimum wage job stacking boxes. Who gives a fuck about professional about work environment

I dont think its a hard rule, more of a warning.

Working with an ex sounds awkward and can make working not fun very fast.

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Nothing wrong at all with dating someone in your workplace. (I met my first wife there.) Not always wise to date someone in your own team, though. There's enough drama at work as it is.

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I think it applies to people you need for work or your superior in the command chain in some format
So like me banging one of the teachers = ok usually
me banging a teacher who teaches one of the computer classes = bad because she's directly working with me

You ever eat in the bathroom?

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Using work to date is only for lazy people/losers. Yes, I fucked a girl at work like 10 years ago since she was seasonal and i literally never saw her after that day but I do not fuck with women at work, and do not even flirt with them or "befriend" them with like two exceptions. I've been with over 100 women, and just got out of a 6 year relationship. I moved to lame ass Pittsburgh 5 months ago and been getting girls here too just off of talking to them when I am out and about. I approach women that I see, dating apps here are like scooping up sewer water.

I've had anonymous peopel report ME at the job because a girl was speaking to Me freindly like....not worth the risk. Also most fo the peopel "at work" are really married or in a relationship, you're just the outside dick at best.

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Its kinda true, but its more a self-fulfilling prophecy. Are coworkers the only people you spend any social time with? Then of course work is your only source of social interaction. There is plenty of time in the day/week to socialize with people outside of work if you want to. Its harder, but certainly not impossible, after college.

That being said, I have no problem dating coworkers. As long as you are both adults, its fine.

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This probably applies more to just having sex/partying hard vs actually trying to have a real relationship.

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had a supervisor whose gf also worked in the same department once. both of them sucked, brought their relationship issues into the workplace and the supervisor ended up accusing someone of sexually harassing his gf >_>

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Also I probably get away with it more at a school because it turns out teachers are horny and fuck one another like rabbits
literally there are several 'we broke up and we both started with someone else on the same day' stories.

if you eat at a new place every few months who cares where you shit
this is about eating in the same place for years. shitting where you want your career to be often ends up in unnecessary drama that affects your work performance, for years.
and yes it's more about flings and not about real relationships

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TC has never shat where he ate

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That advice is absolutely correct though. I dated someone I worked with and. it didnt turn out very well

Im just glad she quit without notifying anyone

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I think it's fine, so long as you're mature about it and not neck deep in gossip. I asked out a co-worker. She turned me down, but has no problem hanging out as friends. No one at the office knows I even hang out with her, let along that I shot my shot.

I think being attracted to people at work is kind of inevitable, given how much time we spend at work.

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if you don't think it's a bad idea, you have yet to learn why it's a bad idea

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Slayerblade11 posted...

once you're past high school and college, work is pretty much your main source of meeting people and social interaction

Nah, not really. Maybe for people with no social skills or outside life.

Had a dude I worked with that flat out hated me because I didnt want to be his friend. My bad that I go to work to actually work.

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Ive been working corporate jobs for 12 years. Tons of people hooking up (including me) and Ive yet to hear or see any of these ominous terrible consequences. I know several people who met their spouses at work. Including my director. Maybe its beca Ive always worked for large companies. Literally nobody cares whos hooking up lol

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FYI, work and school are completely different. If you're in college, school is the BEST place to look for sex or a relationship. work is never the best option for either, usually the worst. The problem is people have no options outside of work, which itself is a problem that needs solving.

TheMikh posted...

if you don't think it's a bad idea, you have yet to learn why it's a bad idea

Pretty much.

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Bang all your coworkers tbh you can always get another job

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The thing about vague sayings is that they're flexible. For you, it could just mean, if it doesn't work out, try to make the break up the least messy you can. Try to break up respectfully and not throw a bomb at something you'll have to keep facing.

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cuttin_in_farm posted...

I dont think its a hard rule, more of a warning.

Working with an ex sounds awkward and can make working not fun very fast.

Agreed.

Bringing your relationship into work is NEVER a good idea.

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It breeds toxic work environments.

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7: This rule is so underrated, keep your family and business completely separated.


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It doesn't really matter if it's a no skill shit job, but sound advice for a professional career setting.
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Meetup doesn't seem active in my area.

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