Current Events > Would you be open to dating a trans person?

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QueenCarly posted...

i'm not seeing the contradiction in saying

"i've never used it that way before, but that usage i never thought of prior to this is decent"

You want people who don't agree with you to go to the sea...
It's rather obvious what you're implying instead of them grabbing a fishing boat and trapping lobster of the coast of Maine.


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telling anyone else they should kill themselves would get you suspended, so enjoy this privilege i guess

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Maybe next we can have a discussion about whether telling someone to play in traffic is just a creative way to wish them a fun time.

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I don't mind transgender people, but I would honestly not want to date one.

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No. Never.

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No, it's not for me.

I really hate that vile argument that trans women shouldn't have to disclose their trans status to potential partners, and that they are entitled to the attraction of straight, cis men. Thats how you generate more opposition to the trans community. They have to accept that their lane comes with a really small dating pool, that is their unfortunate reality.

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No thank you
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ReignFury posted...

No, it's not for me.

I really hate that vile argument that trans women shouldn't have to disclose their trans status to potential partners, and that they are entitled to the attraction of straight, cis men. Thats how you generate more opposition to the trans community. They have to accept that their lane comes with a really small dating pool, that is their unfortunate reality.

its vile? lmao what a telling word choice

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Never say never, I guess. I don't think I'd be cool with it, but at the same time I've never met a trans person I found attractive. In the event I did, maybe I'd think differently.

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It has to be so terrifying to date as a trans person, knowing most of society feels you are obligated to share deeply personal information with every stranger, and knowing there's a good chance that sharing such information will lead to a disgusting, hateful reaction or even violence.

No wonder there is so much depression.

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QueenCarly posted...

its vile? lmao what a telling word choice

It's an accurate word choice.

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ReignFury posted...

It's an accurate word choice.

Nope

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No, friends, yes, dating, no.

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QueenCarly posted...

Nope

Well I wrote it and meant what I said.

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No because obvious reasons.

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Currently dating one~

ReignFury posted...

No, it's not for me.

I really hate that vile argument that trans women shouldn't have to disclose their trans status to potential partners, and that they are entitled to the attraction of straight, cis men. Thats how you generate more opposition to the trans community. They have to accept that their lane comes with a really small dating pool, that is their unfortunate reality.

Nobody should have to "just accept" a shitty reality. Like, if people did that we'd still be hunter and gatherers because we'd have accepted that as our lot in life.

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No

Actually on second thought... maybe.

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Nope.

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Absolutely not.

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Hard pass.

gunplagirl posted...

Nobody should have to "just accept" a shitty reality. Like, if people did that we'd still be hunter and gatherers because we'd have accepted that as our lot in life.

That's gotta be the shittiest analogy I've heard all week.

General-Secura posted...

Hard pass.

That's gotta be the shittiest analogy I've heard all week.

Missing the point when it could only be more clear if I put it on a fucking billboard

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I'm not sexually attracted to them, but I really appreciate it when trans people disclose that they are trans in dating profiles. As a hetero guy who wants kids, I'm just attracted to cis women. That's my personal preference.

_HayleyWilliams posted...

It has to be so terrifying to date as a trans person, knowing most of society feels you are obligated to share deeply personal information with every stranger, and knowing there's a good chance that sharing such information will lead to a disgusting, hateful reaction or even violence.

No wonder there is so much depression.

I can imagine that it is hard, but at the same time, disclosing that you are trans up front before the date instead of waiting for your date to find out or you telling them later, is not only deceiving but also literally physically dangerous for the trans person. Trans people have been murdered for that unfortunately.

I also think there are more people than you think that are attracted to trans people. But my point is that everyone has their preferences and their shortlists when looking for a partner. Nobody wants their time wasted or be lied to. They want to find someone they feel are the most compatible with, and whether that's a sexual preference, political party, family values, hobbies etc. I'm all for the non trans community dating dating a trans person. Let people decide themselves who they choose as a partner.

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ShineboxPhil posted...

You want people who don't agree with you to go to the sea...
It's rather obvious what you're implying instead of them grabbing a fishing boat and trapping lobster of the coast of Maine.

The only thing thats gonna be caught around here are crabs
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wbloechel posted...

lol the sparks have lit into a fire.

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nty

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If humans accepted their lot in life, they would simply be gatherers. You need proper tools to hunt, because humans are sad things that lack claws. And it would actually be a net positive. You might not live as long but the world would be very fresh and pretty. Also Twitter wouldn't exist.

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Yes.

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Would you be open to dating a trans person?

I'm married to one. But...

Your potential date discloses to you at the very beginning that they are trans. Would you still go out on a date with them?

Honestly, probably not. The only reason my relationship panned out the way it did is because at first, as far as either of us knew, they were female. Had I known from the start that they were trans male, it's more likely no feelings/1relationship would have developed on my end.

Which isn't to say I harbor any sort of resentment over how things turned out. There's nothing to be resentful over (they didn't know either) and our relationship is great. We actually both consider it a blessing in disguise that they only discovered their trans identity after the relationship had already formed. It's just that for me, after the feelings/connection has been formed, the sex/gender/etc crap kind of stops mattering to me. It's still the same person that I love, and it's not like that's just going to suddenly change.

god i wish humans just accepted their fucking lot in life

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gunplagirl posted...

Nobody should have to "just accept" a shitty reality. Like, if people did that we'd still be hunter and gatherers because we'd have accepted that as our lot in life.

Would we be Hunter Gathers?

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gunplagirl posted...

Nobody should have to "just accept" a shitty reality. Like, if people did that we'd still be hunter and gatherers because we'd have accepted that as our lot in life.

I could flip that logic and say "No incel should just accept his shitty reality of bad genetics and rejection" which would imply that they're entitled to a larger dating pool regardless of consent.

Some people just get dealt a bad hand and can't do much about it, except maybe get rich.

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Heliogabalus posted...

Would we be Hunter Gathers?

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Heliogabalus posted...

Would we be Hunter Gathers?

Sexual preferences shouldn't be forced on anyone. Let people decide for themselves. If people are curious and want to explore, that's great.

Best way to go about this on a personal level is be upfront and honest about your sexuality and your preferences, and what you look for in a relationship in general. Nobody should lie about something as major as these things and waste their time.


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gunplagirl posted...

Nobody should have to "just accept" a shitty reality. Like, if people did that we'd still be hunter and gatherers because we'd have accepted that as our lot in life.

The world doesn't operate on "shoulds".

I'm asexual. That means I naturally have a significantly smaller potential dating/relationship pool, because of inherent incompatibilities with sexual people (which make up approximately 99% of the population if statistics are to be believed, although I would bet it's even higher than that). There is nothing I can do to change that about myself, nor is there anything I can do to magically change sexual people to be more like me or more "tolerant" of me.

Some people get dealt shittier hands in life than others. It just is what it is. You can whine about how this shouldn't be so, but that's really all it amounts to... whining.

Philip027 posted...

The world doesn't operate on "shoulds".

I'm asexual. That means I naturally have a significantly smaller potential dating/relationship pool, because of inherent incompatibilities with sexual people (which make up approximately 99% of the population if statistics are to be believed, although I would bet it's even higher than that). There is nothing I can do to change that about myself, nor is there anything I can do to magically change sexual people to be more like me or more "tolerant" of me.

Some people get dealt shittier hands in life than others. It just is what it is. You can whine about how this shouldn't be so, but that's really all it amounts to... whining.

"The world thinks you are subhuman trash that doesn't rights because the way you were born offends them. Can't do anything about it!"

Is this why gay people are still castrated and women don't have voting rights? Because people just have to accept how the world is?

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Philip027 posted...

The world doesn't operate on "shoulds".

That's exactly how change works though

We start postulating on how society should work, and then take steps toward changing it. Kind of the whole basis for the civil rights movement, which is still going on to this day.

Anyway the answer to the topic is yes. Trans men are men, trans women are women, and I'm bisexual so I'd fuck/date/marry either lol.

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Arcanine2009 posted...

I can imagine that it is hard, but at the same time, disclosing that you are trans up front before the date instead of waiting for your date to find out or you telling them later, is not only deceiving but also literally physically dangerous for the trans person. Trans people, particularly trans women have been murdered for that unfortunately by crazed individuals. A lot of heterosexual men would freak out and so something stupid like physical violence.

There are a lot of things that could be deal breakers. Outside of having STDs, don't see people advocating that women announce their infertility or other health conditions before the first date.

Unless we are going to say everyone should present a full resume at first date to avoid incompatibility, it's bullshit to a say a woman can't keep her personal information until she is comfortable with her partner. Should they have to share that they battle with clinical depression? Everyone has secrets. Deception rape is about lies, not about not being an open book to everyone who gives you eyes.

We can't say trans women have no right to the dating pool and then say men have a right for trans women to eliminate themselves from the dating pool. It's also kind of bigoted to say most heterosexual men are quick to violence.

Slight tangent, why are trans men always invisible in trans person topics?

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Pffft, no lol.
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Sadly, no. Not due to any perceived hate, but I personally wish to have a child with the woman I love. If I can't have that, I'm not really that interested.
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I was just thinking we havent had a date a trans person topic in a few weeks

Gwynevere posted...

That's exactly how change works though

We start postulating on how society should work, and then take steps toward changing it. Kind of the whole basis for the civil rights movement, which is still going on to this day.

Anyway the answer to the topic is yes. Trans men are men, trans women are women, and I'm bisexual so I'd fuck/date/marry either lol.

postulate all you want but you're never going to make people be attracted to traits they're not attracted to

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sure, provided i found that person physically attractive. i've only seen a couple of trans women in my entire life who qualify.

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Arcanine2009 posted...

I'm not sexually attracted to them, but I really appreciate it when trans people disclose that they are trans in dating profiles. As a hetero guy who wants kids, I'm just attracted to cis women. That's my personal preference.

A bit harsh, but I agree that its important to disclose your trans status, just like how its important to disclose your sexual preferences and what you identify as sexually.

I can imagine that it is hard, but at the same time, disclosing that you are trans up front before the date instead of waiting for your date to find out or you telling them later, is not only deceiving but also literally physically dangerous for the trans person. Trans people, particularly trans women have been murdered for that unfortunately by crazed individuals. A lot of heterosexual men would freak out and so something stupid like physical violence.

I also think there are more people than you think that are attracted to trans people. But my point is that everyone has their preferences and their shortlists when looking for a partner. Nobody wants their time wasted or be lied to. They want to find someone they feel are the most compatible with, and whether that's a sexual preference, political party, family values, hobbies etc. I'm all for the non trans community dating dating a trans person. Let people decide themselves who they choose as a partner.

Why are you putting the onus on trans people instead of holding murderers accountable?

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SIayer_22 posted...

Sadly, no. Not due to any perceived hate, but I personally wish to have a child with the woman I love. If I can't have that, I'm not really that interested.

adoption is a thing

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I would not

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ledbowman posted...

postulate all you want but you're never going to make people be attracted to traits they're not attracted to

Then people should stop calling them prefrences.

I got a job where I didn't have the preferred experience because it was not a requirement and my other traits overrode what I lacked.

If you say you "prefer" blondes, but vomit uncontrollably at the sight of non-blonde dates, then that isn't a preference.

Again, shouldn't everyone share every single "preference" immediately if any deviations are impossible to accept and ruin the entire relationship? Maximize efficiency.

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