Current Events > Why are dudes so desperate for sex?

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Some dudes will literally do anything and degrade themselves for sex. Other dudes simply have no standards.

Probably because of landlords

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Testosterone
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Because it makes peepee feel a certain way

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Biological need to breed women

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reputation. seen as "cool"

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awesome999 posted...

Testosterone

Dakimakura posted...

Biological need to breed women

Desperation is not biological.

WingsOfGood posted...

Desperation is not biological.

Desperation is a behavioural byproduct of the urge.

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WingsOfGood posted...

Desperation is not biological.

It absolutely is

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lack of mental discipline. once you've mastered you thot resistance you can begin to transcend

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People that don't have sex are looked down on and treated poorly.

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DeadlyNinjaBees posted...

Desperation is a behavioural byproduct of the urge.

So what happens when a guy gets so desperate he just HAS to have it and crosses the line.

Not his fault cause according to you, this is biological?
Smh

Men can help themselves. Stop fooling yourselves.
Desperate men choose that life.

nfearurspecimn posted...

People that don't have sex are looked down on and treated poorly.

Ah yes, all those virgin camps during WWII.

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WingsOfGood posted...

So what happens when a guy gets so desperate he just HAS to have it and crosses the line.

Men can help themselves. Stop fooling yourselves.
Desperate men choose that life.

Not his fault cause according to you, this is biological?
Smh

Nobody said that rape is inevitable. Being a sex offender is a CHOICE.
Desperate behaviour still occurs in context to seeking partners though. Like all that "nice guy" behaviour shit where they say "m'lady".

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The Trent posted...

It absolutely is

Desperation is not biological.

How come no one has brought up conditioning and societal expectations?

The majority of girls are not being raised to believe that their worth is tied to how many guys they sleep with. Guys? They are ridiculed if they are virgins, dont sleep around with enough girls, etc.

WingsOfGood posted...

Desperation is not biological.

Yes it is. Lions kill cubs of other males for that pussy and bonobos are some of the most peaceful animals and certainly the most peaceful primates
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ZannoL posted...

How come no one has brought up conditioning and societal expectations?

The majority of girls are not being raised to believe that their worth is tied to how many guys they sleep with. Guys? They are ridiculed if they are virgins, dont sleep around with enough girls, etc.

Biology.

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WingsOfGood posted...

Desperation is not biological.

Tell that to a rabbit running from something wanting to make him dinner

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DeadlyNinjaBees posted...

Like all that "nice guy" behaviour s*** where they say "m'lady".

Nice guys are desperate? Seems to be the opposite. The literally wait years to have the affection of one woman. That doesn't sound like "must have sex withanyone now!!"

Or you mean when those nice guys think bad dudes get all the girls and change themselves and go out thinking they can get it?

ZannoL posted...

How come no one has brought up conditioning and societal expectations?

The majority of girls are not being raised to believe that their worth is tied to how many guys they sleep with. Guys? They are ridiculed if they are virgins, dont sleep around with enough girls, etc.

I did but it was handwaved.

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I literally never crave sex nor want it when offered. Zero sex drive whatsoever.

Thanks Lexapro!

To be fair, Lexapro makes me able to function without wanting to die, so I'll take being alright in life at the cost of no sex drive.

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awesome999 posted...

Yes it is. Lions kill cubs of other males for that pussy and bonobos are some of the most peaceful animals and certainly the most peaceful primates

Animals and humans are not comparable. Humans don't have heat.

steveoSEK posted...

To be fair, Lexapro makes me able to function without wanting to die, so I'll take being alright in life at the cost of no sex drive.

I have a very low drive as well. My body just gave up I guess.

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WingsOfGood posted...

Animals and humans are not comparable. Humans don't have heat.

Humans ARE animals, ya gerbil!
Not all mammals have heat.

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nfearurspecimn posted...

I have a very low drive as well. My body just gave up I guess.

I'm on 20mg Lexapro, the max dose. I tried hooking up with a few people a couple years ago and it just felt like exercise, I felt nothing. All the equipment worked, it just wasn't enjoyable.

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Also sex is built up as acceptance by society. If you can't get laid, you're not accepted.

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https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/12/05/americans-see-different-expectations-for-men-and-women/

In recent years, research looking at the messages boys and men get from society about what it means to be a man has received increased attention. The survey asked men how much pressure they think men in general face to do each of the following: be emotionally strong, be interested in sports, be willing to throw a punch if provoked, join in when other men are talking about women in a sexual way, and have many sexual partners.

Most men say men face at least some pressure to be emotionally strong (86%) and to be interested in sports (71%). About six-in-ten (57%) say men face pressure to be willing to throw a punch if provoked. Smaller but substantial shares say men face at least some pressure to join in when other men are talking about women in a sexual way (45%) and to have many sexual partners (40%).

Unmarried men are more likely than those who are married to say men generally face pressure to have many sexual partners (47% vs. 32%) and to join in when other men talk about women in a sexual way (52% vs. 38%). Still, among those who are married and those who are not, Millennial men are more likely than their older counterparts to say men face at least some pressure in these areas.

Societal expectations are a thing, people. Reducing it all to just biology is extremely reductive.

Like, if you mid sex with your wife and your son knocks on the door and is bleeding on his face, can you stop having sex?

Then desperation is not biological. Even desperate men can give up sex for other things, it is just they base their whole persona on trying to get sex by any means possible with almost anyone.

nfearurspecimn posted...

Also sex is built up as acceptance by society. If you can't get laid, you're not accepted.

Priests?
Oh wait, they get laid. It's just a terrible, sould destroying thing when they do.

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WingsOfGood posted...

Like, if you mid sex with your wife and your son knocks on the door and is bleeding on his face, can you stop having sex?

what the fuck just happened here
did your parents really not like you enough to help you with your injuries while they were banging?

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DeadlyNinjaBees posted...

Priests?
Oh wait, they get laid. It's just a terrible, sould destroying thing when they do.

exceptions do not make the rule

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nfearurspecimn posted...

I did but it was handwaved.

Typical CE

I think there's a large dose of insecurity in there, like they score their masculinity on how.many women they've slept with.
A lot of men seem to think it's the whole be all and end all of life and shagging 100s of women is a medal of masculine honour.

Basically, it's like a kids pissing up a wall competition. Pathetic really.

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nfearurspecimn posted...

exceptions do not make the rule

I dunno, man. I think being a virgin isn't a big deal. Sex is easier to come by than love. People jsut over think the wrong shit instead of putting effort into their overall apeal and presence.
I find it odd that there are all these virgins on Reddit complaining about not getting any love when they could be redirecting the energy into themselves to have more self value and shit.

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ZannoL posted...

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/12/05/americans-see-different-expectations-for-men-and-women/

Societal expectations are a thing, people. Reducing it all to just biology is extremely reductive.

DravenRainrix posted...

A lot of men seem to think it's the whole be all and end all of life and shagging 100s of women is a medal of masculine honour.

Basically, it's like a kids pissing up a wall competition. Pathetic really.

And the rational award of the day goes to DravenRainrix.

DeadlyNinjaBees posted...

I dunno, man. I think being a virgin isn't a big deal. Sex is easier to come by than love. People jsut over think the wrong shit instead of putting effort into their overall apeal and presence.
I find it odd that there are all these virgins on Reddit complaining about not getting any love when they could be redirecting the energy into themselves to have more self value and shit.

yeah but are you a virgin? I doubt it. but yeah it's not bad on it's own but then you get told by society that there is something fundamentally wrong with you and people think you're weird.

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ZannoL posted...

And the rational award of the day goes to DravenRainrix.

Sir, there is no such award and you do not have the authority to create one.

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nfearurspecimn posted...

yeah but are you a virgin? I doubt it.

What's that got to do with anything? I still have a perspective! I don't devalue others just because they haven't copulated!

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DeadlyNinjaBees posted...

What's that got to do with anything? I still have a perspective! I don't devalue others just because they haven't copulated!

but yeah it's not bad on it's own but then you get told by society that there is something fundamentally wrong with you and people think you're weird.

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nfearurspecimn posted...

but yeah it's not bad on it's own but then you get told by society that there is something fundamentally wrong with you and people think you're weird.

I dunno man, I grew up JW and felt like there was somthing odd with me anyway.
The sex thing was more of a personal aspect to my overall story. Wasn't a mission with sense of arrival or anything.

I undrstand people want access to sex, and i do get that younger males devalue others due to their virginity. So will trash adults. But in the end, it's just another thing that's none of anyone's fucking business or concern and has little to do with a man's overall potential and value.

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DeadlyNinjaBees posted...

I undrstand people want access to sex, and i do get that younger males devalue others due to their virginity. So will trash adults. But in the end, it's just another thing that's none of anyone's fucking business or concern and has little to do with a man's overall potential and value.

thank you

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Feels good man
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nfearurspecimn posted...

thank you

You are forever welcome.

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Cause sex feels nice

Cause guys are hornier

Cause self esteem boost


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Master Kazuya posted...

Cause sex feels nice

Cause guys are hornier

Cause self esteem boost

1 sentence is true, 1 sentence is false, 1 sentence is a reflection on the feeble nature of certain men.

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DravenRainrix posted...

1 sentence is true, 1 sentence is false, 1 sentence is a reflection on the feeble nature of certain men.

Dude, women are generally less horny than men on average. That's not to say women don't get horny at all, it's just a fact
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awesome999 posted...

Dude, women are generally less horny than men on average. That's not to say women don't get horny at all, it's just a fact

Balls.
It's only because society has taught men that it's how they should be and have taught women that they shouldn't be.

Same reason men with multiple.conquests are heroic to other jack ass men but a woman with multiple.partners is seen as easy or a s***

Any man that claims to be horny all the time is a douche. Any man that claims he needs sex is a douche. Any man that can't control himself in the presence of women is a massive douche bag bellend.

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The Trent posted...

what the fuck just happened here
did your parents really not like you enough to help you with your injuries while they were banging?

What happened to lions killing their cubs for desperate sex?
So humans shouldn't be that desperate or is it biology dictating that they have to?

I just want to experience it once in my life. I know it's stupid, but missing out on that part of life just adds to my other issues. Like they feed each other. I'm not desperate enough to pay for it, or take advantage of someone to get it, but at this point it feels like it'd go a long way in helping me get a grip on a bad mental state.

Being raised to believe you're unlovable, and that no one would ever want you, and that you're worthless sucks on it's own. Then to be biologically driven to want that connection with someone, only to be proven that everything you've been told was right all along. It hurts, and it feeds low confidence and self esteem. Depression and anxiety simply amplify those feelings further.

It feels like if I could succeed once, lose the virgin label, and get a real view of what sex actually is, that I could stop caring about it so much. That I'd be more comfortable and confident, maybe with a bit of a self esteem boost too. I know it's not a cure, and I definitely wouldn't expect it to fix anything, but it certainly feels like it could alleviate some stress.

Too bad I'm such a loser though.

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