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WingsOfGood 04/25/21 12:49:18 PM #51: |
KogaSteelfang posted...
It feels like if I could succeed once, lose the virgin label, and get a real view of what sex actually is, that I could stop caring about it so much. That I'd be more comfortable and confident, maybe with a bit of a self esteem boost too. I know it's not a cure, and I definitely wouldn't expect it to fix anything, but it certainly feels like it could alleviate some stress. Sex won't be your salvation. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Shadowplay 04/25/21 1:17:04 PM #52: |
KogaSteelfang posted...
I just want to experience it once in my life. I know it's stupid, but missing out on that part of life just adds to my other issues. Like they feed each other. I'm not desperate enough to pay for it, or take advantage of someone to get it, but at this point it feels like it'd go a long way in helping me get a grip on a bad mental state.If you care about it that much, it's time to get a goddamn hooker. --- I make a topic in Final Fantasy 12 to ask if Tifa! They said no Tifa. Hardness gone!-gandob ... Copied to Clipboard!
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smoke_break 04/25/21 1:22:43 PM #53: |
Shadowplay posted...
If you care about it that much, it's time to get a goddamn hooker.This, get over yourself and pay for it bro. It's not that big of a deal, and it'll get the monkey off your back. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Master Kazuya 04/25/21 1:45:03 PM #54: |
KogaSteelfang posted...
I'm not desperate enough to pay for it Honestly the "fuck it, yolo" attitude of you paying for it will help your confidence moreso than the sex itself. It clearly is a huge load on your consciousness so I think it's worth paying for it just to move on with your life and have some fun. I paid for it for my first time when I was like 25 and I don't regret it whatsoever. It was overseas where it was legal and she was smoking hot. I'm much more confident now and have slept with multiple women. I'm by no means Mr Perfect; far from it. I still have my own issues and things I'm working on. But it was nice to get it over with and it helps you look forward for the next time and work towards being more confident. We all have different paths, just walk yours and it's ok that it's not the same path as others. --- itt my post is the best ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DravenRainrix 04/25/21 2:00:33 PM #56: |
Conflict posted...
People that desperate want companionship. A hooker is obviously not going to solve his problems when he feels unwanted and unattractive to the opposite sex what if its like a live in hooker? one that he pays his cheque too every month and she lives with him and watches netflix and moans about how little he makes and then sleeps with him once a month? --- Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah... Diddly do diddly do diddly do... ... Copied to Clipboard!
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KogaSteelfang 04/25/21 2:07:10 PM #57: |
Conflict posted...
People that desperate want companionship. A hooker is obviously not going to solve his problems when he feels unwanted and unattractive to the opposite sexThis honestly. My issue is that I don't feel anyone could ever want to be with me. So, the advice of paying someone to be with me kind of defeats the purpose. Besides, the idea of renting someone else's body to use is very off putting to me. I don't think I could ever do that and not just feel more disgust towards myself. Though, like I said, i'm aware that I most likely have an unrealistic idea of what sex actually is/means. So, I'd just like to experience it so I'd know what it really is that I'm stressing over. Afterwards, I could hopefully just stop caring about it. Besides, it's not even the sex anyway, it's the stuff that leads to it, like being unable to attract anyone, and just being over all a waste of life and all that. The sex stuff just seems to amplify my feelings over the rest, so dealing with that seems like a good way to ease my mind a bit. --- Work in progress, please be patient. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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WingsOfGood 04/25/21 2:18:15 PM #59: |
KogaSteelfang posted...
Though, like I said, i'm aware that I most likely have an unrealistic idea of what sex actually is/means. So, I'd just like to experience it so I'd know what it really is that Sex is meaningless beyond the meaning put on it. For some it is about pleasure. For others it is a chore. For others it is about being close. People view it differently depending on their circumstances and customs. You need to stop hating yourself. No one will rescue from that. You have to do it yourself. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ultimate reaver 04/25/21 2:19:06 PM #60: |
a lot of people on the internet think having sex is magically going to make them normal
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Master Kazuya 04/25/21 2:36:54 PM #61: |
Conflict posted...
People that desperate want companionship. A hooker is obviously not going to solve his problems when he feels unwanted and unattractive to the opposite sex I don't think anyone thinks it will solve his problems. It just helps tackle the problem. Instead of being 100% nervous for the approach, 100% nervous for the date, 100% nervous for making a move, and then 110% nervous for having sex, at worst it'll be 100% nervous for the approach, 100% nervous for the date, 100% nervous for making a move, and then 90% nervous for having sex. He may be at square 1 forever, he may not, but at least he got to know what it's like. At the end of the day nothing really fixes your problems anyway so who gives a shit? That's like telling someone to not buy videogames because they'll still be miserable when the game is over. So what? We don't live forever, just do things you want. Money doesn't buy happiness but it does pay off debt and pay for food and both those things make you happy. Nobody is saying that sex is gonna make him happy and transform him or that all of his needs will be met once he has sex. People are just saying, have sex just to have it. You can still be miserable and lonely and all that shit and work on that as it comes up, but at least sex isn't some giant mystery anymore. It's like having a trash bin full of smelly garbage, but sitting right on top is a big pile of shit (sex). Removing the shit isn't gonna remove the trash bin, but at least there isn't a steaming pile of shit on top of everything. --- itt my post is the best ... Copied to Clipboard!
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nfearurspecimn 04/25/21 2:40:07 PM #62: |
Conflict posted...
People that desperate want companionship. A hooker is obviously not going to solve his problems when he feels unwanted and unattractive to the opposite sexspot on --- Wake up. You have to wake up. *currently a preta/hungry ghost* Dai Grepher: I was wrong. My entire theory is incorrect. Zero Mission IS a remake of Metroid. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Ermac 04/25/21 2:40:19 PM #63: |
Imma be the first person itt to attempt an answer that isnt off topic
I believe its something like hormonal instability, and i feel bad for dudes suffering from it because it causes them to ruin themselves and others involved, making bad decisions instead of seeing it as motivation for something good. But theres many factors that cause this. Their perception, their influences, personal experiences, quality of life, reward system.. i cant say i havent been desperate. There were times where my friends would tell me their experiences and it made me question myself, like what was i doing wrong or should i be taking more risks. Honestly, i dont have much advice besides; one night stands arent worth it, emotional trauma is nothing to fuck with, and youre better being safe than sorry --- We are many, you are but one ... Copied to Clipboard!
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smoke_break 04/25/21 4:52:44 PM #64: |
Master Kazuya posted...
I don't think anyone thinks it will solve his problems. It just helps tackle the problem. Instead of being 100% nervous for the approach, 100% nervous for the date, 100% nervous for making a move, and then 110% nervous for having sex, at worst it'll be 100% nervous for the approach, 100% nervous for the date, 100% nervous for making a move, and then 90% nervous for having sex. He may be at square 1 forever, he may not, but at least he got to know what it's like.Good post, agree entirely. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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awesome999 04/25/21 8:28:07 PM #65: |
DravenRainrix posted...
Balls. Social conditioning is a reason why women think less of sex but it doesn't negate the fact that women think less of sex, it just gives a reason as to why that is https://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare Also, Koga, I've told you this a million times but your main flaw isn't that you're a virgin at 30something, your main flaw is that you'd rather wallow in self pity than take steps to climb out of your hole. Stop hating yourself, stop putting sex on a pedestal, stop wasting your time doing things you KNOW are bad for you and just make a genuine, concentrated effort in the things that you know you should do --- Love is a lie guys, there's no such thing, might as well be a soulless hedonist. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DeadlyNinjaBees 04/25/21 8:42:16 PM #66: |
Shadowplay posted...
If you care about it that much, it's time to get a goddamn hooker.Don't pay for it @KogaSteelfang It's a form of intimacy, not a transaction. Losing your V seems pretty big to you. If you start the story that way you've compromised yourself and have to tell any potential partners in the future how you got started. --- Soi Disantra. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Prismsblade 04/25/21 9:00:38 PM #67: |
Its basic supply and demand honestly. Because it's so difficult for so many man to acquire on a quick and consistant basis the past century it become far more valuable then it really is.
If prostitution was legalized though that would change. And sex wouldnt be anything to brag about when most virgins will lose it once they hit a X age, and its readily available at anytime in the local red light districts. --- 3DS FC:3368-5403-9633 Name: Kaizer PSN: Blackkaizer ... Copied to Clipboard!
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