Poll of the Day > My co-worker told me that she'd tell her sister to go on a date with me, but

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she is in a relationship already. She says we'd both be very compatible having some of the same interests. My co-worker does not like the guy her sister is with because according to her, sister is hilarious and he doesn't get her jokes and she thinks she deserves better. Somebody who could reciprocate her hilariousness. Plus he is that annoying twit who has to correct people when they are wrong even though it may be a word issue("technically correct" when everybody gets what you actually mean may not be a thing for this man). In addition to this, I guess they have broken up several times before but always end up back with each other, and this girl has asked her sister and mom before if she should break up with this guy in the past.

So first of all, this makes me feel good in the general sense. There is potentially people for me out there.

But second of all, I know this person is in a relationship, but it kills me that somebody out there is apparently hilarious but their partner doesn't get it. Humour is one of the best qualities a person can have. It seems like this guy genuinely cares about my co-workers sister, but not on that deeper level where you just "get" somebody. Telling hilarious jokes only for there to not be much of a reaction is exactly not the deeper level some people have with another person.

I feel like I should "take my shot" with this, though I don't know how to do it. Normally I wouldn't bother with people in relationships, but they've broken up a few times before, this person has asked people close to her before if she should break up with the guy....I feel like if there was a person in a relationship to take a shot with this may be it.

Now, I don't know this person. My co-worker is cool, she says her sister is cool...I might have to bring this up again, but not in a weird way. It seems as if her sister was single she would have tried to get us on a date already.

Just use Tinder or something.

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Don't do this. It's slimy.

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Don't do this man. No need to get in between someone's relationship even if you think they deserve better or that it's already on its way out. They need to resolve that shit between themselves and not use you as some sort of wedge for it.

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I was worried about this being slimy. I definitely don't want to do it if it is slimy or weird or creepy or whatever combination of words you wanna use.

I would steer clear of involving yourself in this situation further. Just find some sort of money collector's conference and meet someone who gets as wet as you get hard for bills with low production numbers!

dud posted...

Don't do this man. No need to get in between someone's relationship even if you think they deserve better or that it's already on its way out. They need to resolve that shit between themselves and not use you as some sort of wedge for it.

This does make sense. My co-worker did say she would mention me if her sister ever did break up with this guy. I didn't bring that up or ask her to, she just said it. So I think since it seems like doing anything at this stage is NOT a good idea, if things ever do go south with this guy I have a way in. But I wouldn't be waiting for that to happen or anything, just a possibility for the future but none of that sad dog crap, or whatever it is, where you just wait for somebody to break up and you swoop right in seconds later.

Ultimately this puts a smile on my face knowing there are people out there for me, just a matter of different variables lining up correctly. In this scenario, those variables are a little off, but someday(with her or somebody), they finally will.

It really depends to what extent she's in a relationship. If it's a case of "just dating some guy recently" and things aren't serious, you're not really being a homewrecker. If they're living together or married or something, it's definitely a sketchy thing to do... and there is a big factor to consider: does she have fidelity problems because she's willing to just hop from him to you, or is their "relationship" a sham or a matter of convenience/laziness and you'll just be speeding up its inevitable demise?

At the end of the day, like many things, "it depends". I would definitely make it clear to the co-worker that you're not looking to be a mistress and that if she sets this up, that she has to make it clear that you're not gonna be some cuck or cuck some other dude. It's kinda lame to be the guy possibly breaking them up, but if they had a good relationship in the first place there's zero chance she'd entertain the idea of dating another person. It sounds to me like it's already over except officially.

Go for it dude. Sometimes people are looking for someone else to help them move on from their shitty relationship. Have your co-worker set something up where its you, her, and her sister going out to do something.

Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!

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If they hand you a cup of water you MUST throw it at somebody else, if you have a weave on that shit gon be ripped off, and if the person has an adams apple despite the clothes and make up they have on, you KNOW somebody got played.

Plenty of great people out there that arent in a relationship and are looking for someone. Pick one of those women

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Look, they're just dating and, if the sister is willing to meet with you, it can't be all that serious. However, it sounds like your co-worker wants somebody else for her sister and the sister ain't interested, so don't get your hopes up. Plus odds are the sister isn't as funny as your co-worker thinks and you might not even find the sister attractive.

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Mead posted...

Plenty of great people out there that arent in a relationship and are looking for someone. Pick one of those women

I get this as being the most reasonable thing to do, but I am wondering what somebody hopes to achieve breaking up with somebody several times just to end up with them again, and actually musing to others if they should break up at various points. Now, I understand this isn't my business at all. The most sensible advice in this topic is to not do anything. If people want to make a poor decision(at least, in my view), it isn't my job to do anything about it. Maybe to them it's not a poor decision at all.

argonautweakend posted...

I get this as being the most reasonable thing to do, but I am wondering what somebody hopes to achieve breaking up with somebody several times just to end up with them again, and actually musing to others if they should break up at various points. Now, I understand this isn't my business at all. The most sensible advice in this topic is to not do anything. If people want to make a poor decision(at least, in my view), it isn't my job to do anything about it. Maybe to them it's not a poor decision at all.

Really, you do you. She's her own person and makes her own choices and it's not dependent on you to tell her what's right or wrong. I don't know all the details, but it sounds like whatever they have sucks. If they've already broken up multiple times and she has mentioned to others about breaking up, she's not there because she likes him, she's there because change is hard for some people.