Poll of the Day > When was the last time you cried?

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You don't have to go into specifics if you don't want to.

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yesterday. I fell off my bike and skinned my knee.

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I watched the new Adventure Time special the other day

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Over a year ago when drunk.

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A little this morning because I didn't sleep last night and had to do an eleven hour shift today.

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Gaawa_chan posted...

A little this morning because I didn't sleep last night and had to do an eleven hour shift today.

Good luck with that!

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last night while reading a vn, but i cry about pretty much everything

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Over 20 years ago. Burying a close friend killed by a drunk driver...who was also a close friend. The whole situation was a mess in more ways than one.

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Friday the 4th of December this month..

..my father had just died..

I held a speech at my father's funeral, played the song I had picked out as my good bye song for him, Aerith's Theme Piano Version (I know, silly right?) and I carried the casket..

...the weird thing is.. I almost didn't cry..

But I did.. on the inside and on the outside a little, though I was holding it all in..

I felt like I had to be strong for the rest of the family by delivering this speech without cracking up once..

...so yeah, I cried on Friday the 4th, you just couldn't see it...

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Probably the other day. I cry quite a lot. I watched a lot of shows and stuff that make me cry. I thought about a story that made me cry, and teared up a little...

TheWitchMorgana posted...

but i cry about pretty much everything

Pretty much this...
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Cellfix posted...

Friday the 4th of December this month..

..my father had just died..

I held a speech at my father's funeral, played the song I had picked out as my good bye song for him, Aerith's Theme Piano Version (I know, silly right?) and I carried the casket..

...the weird thing is.. I almost didn't cry..

But I did.. on the inside and on the outside a little, though I was holding it all in..

I felt like I had to be strong for the rest of the family by delivering this speech without cracking up once..

...so yeah, I cried on Friday the 4th, you just couldn't see it...

Im sorry for your loss, brother

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Properly? About 9 months ago, when my 18-year-old family cat died. That was more the circumstances than anything else, since she had to be put down shortly after pandemic restrictions started, which meant her last experience was being taken out of the back of the car by a stranger and kept overnight before they put her down with nobody she knew around. I really just felt bad for her, though of course it was also sad to lose such a long-time pet (though not that surprising, given her age).

Prior to that, I was at a concert with my girlfriend about a year and a half ago and they played a song that holds a ton of mixed emotions for me, given how much it meant to my late father. Prior to that was ~ 3.5 years ago, when my other family cat died at 15 (very sudden, first time losing a pet). Prior to that was ~6 years ago when my dad suffered a massive stroke out of nowhere and died. Couldn't tell you how long it was before that, since that had been a very long time.

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@Cellfix I'm sorry for your lost.

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DirtBasedSoap posted...

Im sorry for your loss, brother

Thanks man..

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IronBornCorps posted...

@Cellfix I'm sorry for your lost.

Thank you..

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I hope you realize that crying for your loss doesn't mean you aren't strong. I recognize that grief is ugly, and not everyone deals with it the same way, so however you deal with it is the right way.

For me, I think it was the ending for The Good Place.

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IronBornCorps posted...

I hope you realize that crying for your loss doesn't mean you aren't strong.

Some guys still think crying is showing weakness. But it's actually healthy. Bottling up emotions is actually very unhealthy and bad for you...
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LinkPizza posted...

Some guys still think crying is showing weakness. But it's actually healthy. Bottling up emotions is actually very unhealthy and bad for you...

I agree, but at the same time I have feelings about telling people how to grieve.

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LinkPizza posted...

Some guys still think crying is showing weakness. But it's actually healthy. Bottling up emotions is actually very unhealthy and bad for you...

i find it really hard to understand people who say they haven't cried in years or whatever. crying is an expression of joy as well as sadness. obviously you don't need to cry over everything but if you never do at all, i can't imagine you can do that without repressing some part of yourself

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IronBornCorps posted...

I agree, but at the same time I have feelings about telling people how to grieve.

imo grief is a whole other much more complex emotion and everyone experiences it differently, i wouldn't compare it to the usual joy or sadness

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Cellfix posted...

Friday the 4th of December this month..

I'm sorry to hear this.

IronBornCorps posted...

I hope you realize that crying for your loss doesn't mean you aren't strong.

I've never actually cried at a funeral. The only time it hit me during the death of someone was after my sisters. I wasn't trying to be strong or anything it's just how my brain processed it. Even then I was drunk though.


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IronBornCorps posted...

I agree, but at the same time I have feelings about telling people how to grieve.

Oh. People can grieve however they want. I just meaning crying in general. They are plenty of other times you could cry. But some men think it's weak. Or if they do it in front of a woman, they will all think he's weak. Even when they want to, they don't because they don't want to be weak... But it's fine to do so...

TheWitchMorgana posted...

crying is an expression of joy as well as sadness.

Definitely true. I've cried at many happy things, as well... I really like how a story ended once, and started crying. It was so beautiful to me... I'm tearing up a little thinking about it...
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Probs when I told my girlfriend I loved her a few years ago. Before that when my very close friend moved away. Before that was when I got into a residency. Before that when doggy passed away. Before that when grandpa passed away.

wwinterj25 posted...

I'm sorry to hear this.

Thank you..

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TheWitchMorgana posted...

imo grief is a whole other much more complex emotion and everyone experiences it differently, i wouldn't compare it to the usual joy or sadness

I agree with grief being different, I just mentioned it because he was at a funeral and all.

There is cultural differences though in how emotion is displayed. I agree that crying can be healthy and that suppressing ones emotions is damaging long term. It's a spectrum, some people cry a lot and some people don't cry much at all.

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I don't remember the exact time, but I think it was a few months ago, reading a thing when one scene got me. I sadly do not remember the thing I was reading at that time.

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Couple years ago. One of my oldest friends just up and died. Later on, I found out she had cancer for some time. She was 23.


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I am one that definitely believes that crying is good for you..
And I think it's no less manly to show emotions..

..but everyone else was crying, so I felt I had to just hold it all in and be strong for them so that they could let it all out and cry..

..I'm gonna lower his ashes into the family grave in a week or two myself, and I'll probably break down while doing that..

Though when I sat with his corpse a week earlier and held his cold hand I constantly cried for like 25-30 min...

..that image of my father is gonna haunt me for the rest of my life..

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A couple months ago, its been happening randomly since my dad died. I figured it was best to express that instead of suppressing it.

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@Cellfix you have my condolences. My dad died last November so I was there not too long ago. If you need to talk about it you can dm me bro

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Now that's some non toxic masculinity!

Seriously though, my condolences to you both.

Also, I have an update. The last time I cried was reading Cell's last post.

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Muscles posted...

@Cellfix you have my condolences. My dad died last November so I was there not too long ago. If you need to talk about it you can dm me bro

Thank you.. I might take you up on it..

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Edit: Forget that other stuff. It was the day I found out my first real GF had commited suicide about four years ago. She sought me out on Facebook about a year before that. I knew she was unhappy in her marriage. But she never gave any indication she was THAT unhappy. Woke up one morning and she was gone. The news hit me much harder than I ever would have expected it to. We hadn't seen each other in over 20 years.


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IronBornCorps posted...

Now that's some non toxic masculinity!

Seriously though, my condolences to you both.

Again, thank you..

Also, I have an update. The last time I cried was reading Cell's last post.

Heh ^_^

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Bugmeat posted...

I believe it was the night I was sitting by the railroad tracks, waiting for a train to come and reminding myself of all my flaws, how worthless and useless I was and that everyone really would be better off without me. The train never came, I went home and got over it. Now I'm happier than I have ever been.

Glad it worked out.. I'm sure the world is a better place with you in it.

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The other night after watching Knocked Up. The last scene when he's driving with his girl and his daughter and the song "that's my daughter in the water" plays.

A legit single tear fell down my face. I want a kid so baaaad.

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IronBornCorps posted...

Now that's some non toxic masculinity!

Seriously though, my condolences to you both.

Also, I have an update. The last time I cried was reading Cell's last post.

Honestly, I feel like toxic masculinity isnt a thing for the fact I was taught that men are secure in themselves, honorable, do the right thing, help people, etc. pretty much what you would think a boy scout should be. So it always seemed weird to me that insecure douchebag behavior was considered any sort of masculinity because its pretty much the exact opposite.

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Few weeks ago: Cried a bunch of times playing Spiritfarer, game with themes about life and loss, where you befriend spirit animals and eventually send them. Never in my life cried from playing video games. I guess I was emotionally vulnerable because queue few months ago:

Few months ago: Family dog kept getting sicker over the course of a few months, and we decided to put her down. Cried everyday for almost 2 weeks. I never experienced such grief in my life. I feel teary-eyed thinking about her right now.

A year or two ago: Drove home after visiting my parents. Usually visit them once a month. Just left the house. Nothing eventful, but I was thinking about how much they love me and how much I loved them, and I started crying. I think this is the first and only time in my life that I cried out of joy/positive emotions?

7 years ago: Ugly cried talking about my depression with my parents.

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I can agree with that for the most part.

I do believe there have been a lot of sociological factors where certain toxic behaviors and beliefs went unchecked and just became ingrained. Overtime they festered and the toxicity became more pronounced.

I hope there isn't a misunderstanding when I use the phrase, as I have seen people who have issues with it's use. That somehow saying toxic masculinity is really saying masculinity is toxic, and that's really never what I'm saying.

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When my kitten died

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Aww, poor kitty

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I think a better term would probably be false masculinity. Real men aren't domestic abusers, rapists, cheaters, etc. The core of what a man is is honor, not strength. Good examples of real men in fiction is endless with Aragorn, Superman, and Hank Hill being great examples. Its probably harder to find as many good examples through history but humans are more complicated and flawed than the idealized version of masculinity for obvious reasons, they're what we're supposed to strive towards, you can't just be a complete asshole and justify it with your strength.

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earlier this week

I accidentally didnt take one of my meds for a few days and it caused me to be an emotional wreck

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I at least tear up pretty frequently. Been a couple weeks since I cried. Being on the verge of death for 18 months now and being unable to do almost anything has really taken an emotional toll on me so sometimes the tiniest thing just causes me to full on break down in tears.

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Like 15 years ago in my early 20s when my sex life was messed up. I was very upset at myself for making poor decisions. I'm one of those people that only cry when I'm extremely angry, not sad. I didn't even cry when my gran died round that same time, and we were very close. I was very upset obviously but not with tears.

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Thursday. "Gravedigger" by Dave Matthews played on my Pandora while I was making a pizza. It reminded me of my wife's recently deceased uncle.

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4 days ago.

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I shed a small tear every now and again when I watch something sad, but thats not really what id call a cry because its just a tear if that and I pick myself up quickly. A few times a year i'll watch 9/11 videos and thats one thing to do it.

Actual, full blown cry? About 5 years ago when I had to tell my parents I thought I was a failure because I wasn't doing so well in school. Before that? I can't even think of a time, honestly. It's very rare I cry

SunWuKung420 posted...

Thursday. "Gravedigger" by Dave Matthews played on my Pandora while I was making a pizza. It reminded me of my wife's recently deceased uncle.

For some reason Pandora seems to like to hit me with a one-two punch from DMB with Digging a Ditch and Radiohead's Everything in its Right Place. Not enough to draw tears, but certainly enough to to put me in a funk.

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