Poll of the Day > I feel like the internet gives introverts too much power.

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I dont care if somebody is an introvert, but some of the things I see people talk about in relation to it are weird and not at all normal.

"As an introvert I make plans with people but secretly hope they cancel so I can be by myself!"

Why....why even make plans with people in the first place if this is the attitude you have adopted? It just doesn't even seem like you'd be fun to be around if secretly you were wishing you weren't there.

What does the internet have to do with it? Sounds like that person is just a douchebag in general.

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Because you go on reddit and those types of posts get lots of upvotes sometimes. Like the internet thinks being an introvert is "cool"

However, it is fine to be an introvert. My problem lies in how this stuff is normalized sometimes. Id say its fairly normal to have a personality where you don't want to go out often. Everybody is different. But it is NOT normal to make plans but secretly hope they cancel because you want to be alone. Why even bother making plans?

A lot of places on the internet can be an echo chamber of sorts. I never take it too seriously.

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what power? the power to read other people's complaints?

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Another thing is one time I posted saying I prefer making plans through call, however some people don't like that. I'd rather spend two minutes hashing out plans over a 1-2 sentence text message, waiting potentially minutes for a reply, then 1-2 sentences again, then more waiting.

Somebody replied with "I like text because I need more time to make an excuse as to why I don't want to do anything" as if that was actually normal or something.

argonautweakend posted...

Because you go on reddit and those types of posts get lots of upvotes sometimes. Like the internet thinks being an introvert is "cool"

However, it is fine to be an introvert. My problem lies in how this stuff is normalized sometimes. Id say its fairly normal to have a personality where you don't want to go out often. Everybody is different. But it is NOT normal to make plans but secretly hope they cancel because you want to be alone. Why even bother making plans?

That's one of the main things I hate about social media. It gives idiots a platform to say stupid things and get encouragement from other like-minded idiots. Introverts are the least of it though. Incels and "MAPs" (aka pedophiles) are the worst.

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argonautweakend posted...

Why even bother making plans?

Because your friends won't be your friends if you never do anything with them. People make sacrifices for things and people they like and it turns out introverts have to sacrifice solitude. Is it wrong for an introvert to want to be introverted?

I say real life gives extroverted people too much power so it's fair for introverts to have a safe haven online.
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argonautweakend posted...

Another thing is one time I posted saying I prefer making plans through call, however some people don't like that. I'd rather spend two minutes hashing out plans over a 1-2 sentence text message, waiting potentially minutes for a reply, then 1-2 sentences again, then more waiting.

If you're waiting ages for a reply, either they need time to think which would be inappropriate to do mid conversation or they don't really want to talk to you.

argonautweakend posted...

Somebody replied with "I like text because I need more time to make an excuse as to why I don't want to do anything" as if that was actually normal or something.

It is. Some people think on their feet better and can blow you off with a convincing excuse on the spot, others can't. Would you rather they just told you they don't want to spend time with you right now?
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i think you mean romanticizing

and i agree. same for awkwardness. sure the stories are funny and relatable but it's a hindrance to regular life. even awkward people don't like other awkward people

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argonautweakend posted...

"As an introvert I make plans with people but secretly hope they cancel so I can be by myself!"

That's not something an actual introvert would say, because an introvert wouldn't make plans for a public meet up in the first place.

You're talking about extroverts who don't understand introverts making up a fictional scenario to make fun if introverts, but don't understand introverts to the extent that they think introverts still plan public meet ups because in their mind people not wanting to go out with others, or go out at all, is completely inconceivable.
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argonautweakend posted...

weird and not at all normal.

That's most of the human population though.

Why....why even make plans with people in the first place if this is the attitude you have adopted? It just doesn't even seem like you'd be fun to be around if secretly you were wishing you weren't there.

I don't understand that myself. I only make plans if I'm actually planning on doing said thing. If something comes up that's a different subject but if I don't want to do something I just say it.


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The power I feel is being able to say the absolutely bizarre ideas that are running through my head and most likely not being judged for them because theyre lost in the crowd. Its fun being ignored sometimes.

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As an introvert, that just seems weird, if I don't wanna do something I won't make plans

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I feel like COVID gives introverts too much power.

argonautweakend posted...

Why even bother making plans?

Feelings of obligation.

Which is why I'm glad all my friends are cats or online basically, barring my spouse.

Used to go on dates but the virus kinda halted that. Family does birthdays and holidays. Otherwise free to just chill with my cats and go to the store once every week or two.

TBF I'm not just an introvert, I have chronic pain and fatigue issues and sometimes crippling anxiety. But I can definitely see how someone could end up pressured or feeling obligated. Society tends to push the going out and 'real friends' narrative pretty hard. I just gave up on being ''normal' fully a long time ago, saves a lot of grief.

Tc literally has no idea what an introvert is or whats its like to be one lol

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I see people describe themselves as introverts and then post stuff like in this topic.

Unless maybe they are the "germaphobes" of the introvert world. They simply don't want to use a public bathroom but they aren't scrubbing their floors with bleach 5x a day

I'm an extrovert with social anxiety and borderline autism, so fuck me I guess?

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And now that we have a taste for said power, I really do think everyone else might be in a bit of a pickle

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argonautweakend posted...

Why....why even make plans with people in the first place if this is the attitude you have adopted?

well being introverted isnt really an adopted attitude, its just how we are

and stuff like that isnt intentional. Most introverts deal with a lot of social anxiety so sometimes we will quickly respond with what we think people want to hear in social situations. Im not saying thats a good thing to do, its more of an irrational impulse

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I mean I kinda get it. Sometimes a friend would wanna go out and I don't mind hanging out with them but I don't really wanna go anywhere but theres no good reason to turn them down without coming across as selfish. When that falls through and I just get to relax it's nice. Like, I will go out somewhere for them, but I'd rather just stay home and play video games or something.

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So much power man. All the power.

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The way i look at it if somebody doesn't wanna hang "i just don't feel like it" is more than fine as an answer.

argonautweakend posted...

The way i look at it if somebody doesn't wanna hang "i just don't feel like it" is more than fine as an answer.

youre not wrong

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Mead posted...

And now that we have a taste for said power, I really do think everyone else might be in a bit of a pickle

It's a problem that solves itself. With the Internet making it easier to live entire lives without ever leaving your house, what little social skills introverts have with atrophy even more, and they'll breed (or not-breed, to be more accurate) themselves out of existence.

Or else we'll just go the route Isaac Asimov predicted like 70 years ago:

http://aliens.fandom.com/wiki/Solarian_(Asimov)
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