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Doom_Art 08/16/20 4:36:28 PM #1:	Yet another bit from my fetish site adventures. Didn't know at the time but apparently the girl is married. Haven't met her in person, and definitely will not do so now. We started Snapchatting and her name is just her real one so naturally I creeped it on FB. I'm grappling with whether or not I should tell the husband. By her own admission he doesn't know about her polyamorous stuff. The kicker is she's a nurse at the local hospital, and also may have pieced together where I'm employed. So I would let the guy know but if she was feeling vindictive it could screw me over in a few ways. I just feel like if I guys wife is fucking around with 3 other dudes behind his back (4 if I would have met her) then he should know. I don't know either of these people though, so while my morality is telling me to blow the whistle, another side of me is saying "she can fuck you over", and a third side is saying "someone else's marriage isn't your business" --- Not removing this until Mega Man 64 is released on the Wii Virtual Console. Started on: 12/1/2009 https://imgur.com/mPvcy <cite>Doom_Art posted [p:943458628] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Yet another bit from my fetish site adventures. Didn't know at the time but apparently the girl is married. Haven't met her in person, and definitely will not do so now. We started Snapchatting and her name is just her real one so naturally I creeped it on FB. I'm grappling with whether or not I should tell the husband. By her own admission he doesn't know about her polyamorous stuff. The kicker is she's a nurse at the local hospital, and also may have pieced together where I'm employed. So I would let the guy know but if she was feeling vindictive it could screw me over in a few ways. I just feel like if I guys wife is fucking around with 3 other dudes behind his back (4 if I would have met her) then he should know. I don't know either of these people though, so while my morality is telling me to blow the whistle, another side of me is saying "she can fuck you over", and a third side is saying "someone else's marriage isn't your business" </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
RedJackson 08/16/20 4:38:14 PM #2:	Why not? <cite>RedJackson posted [p:943458699] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Why not? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DespondentDeity 08/16/20 4:38:51 PM #3:	No, you did your part by not participating, you don't owe her spouse anything beyond that. --- The web of destiny carries your blood and soul back to the Genesis of my life form. I never be, I never see, I never know <cite>DespondentDeity posted [p:943458717] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>No, you did your part by not participating, you don't owe her spouse anything beyond that. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Doom_Art 08/16/20 4:43:05 PM #5:	RedJackson posted... Why not? She could potentially make things not great for me if she's feeling very vindictive and shitty, I don't know either of them, and she's a nurse at the hospital, a place which I spent several months visiting regularly and could well again in the future. --- Not removing this until Mega Man 64 is released on the Wii Virtual Console. Started on: 12/1/2009 https://imgur.com/mPvcy <cite>Doom_Art posted [p:943458848] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>RedJackson posted... </cite> <quote>Why not?</quote>She could potentially make things not great for me if she's feeling very vindictive and shitty, I don't know either of them, and she's a nurse at the hospital, a place which I spent several months visiting regularly and could well again in the future. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AdrianBeterson 08/16/20 4:45:03 PM #6:	Nah. None of your business. Steer away from that stuff --- https://imgur.com/oaIIJxf <cite>AdrianBeterson posted [p:943458930] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Nah. None of your business. Steer away from that stuff </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Doom_Art 08/16/20 5:15:39 PM #8:	dr_strangelove posted... no, you actually dont know whats going on in their marriage, its not your business , and for all you know, her husband already knows or suspects . She did tell me directly that he didn't know. He might suspect though you're right --- Not removing this until Mega Man 64 is released on the Wii Virtual Console. Started on: 12/1/2009 https://imgur.com/mPvcy <cite>Doom_Art posted [p:943460102] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>dr_strangelove posted... </cite> <quote>no, you actually dont know whats going on in their marriage, its not your business , and for all you know, her husband already knows or suspects .</quote>She did tell me directly that he didn't know. He might suspect though you're right </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
RetsuZaiZen 08/16/20 5:16:18 PM #9:	AdrianBeterson posted... Nah. None of your business. Steer away from that stuff --- Why do nerdsalways get caught up on the details? https://imgur.com/dntQM https://imgur.com/9gNcUGM https://imgur.com/bH8vq3f <cite>RetsuZaiZen posted [p:943460124] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>AdrianBeterson posted... </cite> <quote>Nah. None of your business. Steer away from that stuff</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IShall_Run_Amok 08/16/20 5:20:16 PM #10:	"I'm not racist, but..." is the thinnest mask. --- yeah Roald Dahl da weed <cite>IShall_Run_Amok posted [p:943460291] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>"I'm not racist, but..." is the thinnest mask. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mr_Rian 08/16/20 5:27:34 PM #11:	IShall_Run_Amok posted... "I'm not racist, but..." is the thinnest mask. What? --- Holy crap! How have I not set a signature for the message boards yet? <cite>Mr_Rian posted [p:943460573] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>IShall_Run_Amok posted...</cite> <quote>"I'm not racist, but..." is the thinnest mask. </quote> What?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
gatorsPENSbucs 08/16/20 5:33:27 PM #12:	No. Dont ever interfere with peoples lives like that. If youre not cool with continuing talking to the girl then just say peace or dont respond next time and leave it at that. you dont need some possibly crazy dude finding out who you are and where you live and shit like that. --- https://imgur.com/ZFt3WwT http://error1355.com/ce/gatorsPENSbucs.html https://imgur.com/pqMQZyw <cite>gatorsPENSbucs posted [p:943460801] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>No. Dont ever interfere with peoples lives like that. If youre not cool with continuing talking to the girl then just say peace or dont respond next time and leave it at that. you dont need some possibly crazy dude finding out who you are and where you live and shit like that. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Doom_Art 08/16/20 6:16:37 PM #13:	gatorsPENSbucs posted... No. Dont ever interfere with peoples lives like that. If youre not cool with continuing talking to the girl then just say peace or dont respond next time and leave it at that. you dont need some possibly crazy dude finding out who you are and where you live and shit like that. I mean why would the guy come after me I haven't touched her --- Not removing this until Mega Man 64 is released on the Wii Virtual Console. Started on: 12/1/2009 https://imgur.com/mPvcy <cite>Doom_Art posted [p:943462444] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>gatorsPENSbucs posted... </cite> <quote>No. Dont ever interfere with peoples lives like that. If youre not cool with continuing talking to the girl then just say peace or dont respond next time and leave it at that. you dont need some possibly crazy dude finding out who you are and where you live and shit like that.</quote>I mean why would the guy come after me I haven't touched her </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Doom_Art 08/16/20 6:17:15 PM #14:	In any case I'm cutting contact and probably not gonna tell --- Not removing this until Mega Man 64 is released on the Wii Virtual Console. Started on: 12/1/2009 https://imgur.com/mPvcy <cite>Doom_Art posted [p:943462476] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>In any case I'm cutting contact and probably not gonna tell </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Darmik 08/16/20 6:19:13 PM #15:	Doom_Art posted... if she was feeling vindictive it could screw me over in a few ways. It's not worth it dude. You don't know these people and you're going to be a major part of their lives and drama if you tell him. If you figured out she was married this easily she'll get caught out on her own eventually anyway. --- Kind Regards, Darmik <cite>Darmik posted [p:943462545] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Doom_Art posted... </cite> <quote>if she was feeling vindictive it could screw me over in a few ways.</quote> It's not worth it dude. You don't know these people and you're going to be a major part of their lives and drama if you tell him. If you figured out she was married this easily she'll get caught out on her own eventually anyway. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GentlemanGamer 08/16/20 6:20:35 PM #16:	I would probably tell him anonymously, but I don't know what she has over you so hard to say. <cite>GentlemanGamer posted [p:943462585] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>I would probably tell him anonymously, but I don't know what she has over you so hard to say. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Dark_SilverX 08/16/20 6:21:12 PM #17:	dont tell and just hit it --- Mitch McConnell is a very beautiful man. Respect. don't compare games to feces -- if you've an opinion worth mentioning, do so civilly <cite>Dark_SilverX posted [p:943462612] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>dont tell and just hit it </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
nfearurspecimn 08/16/20 6:22:10 PM #18:	Mr_Rian posted... What? probably meant to post it in the thin mask topic --- Wake up. You have to wake up. currently a preta (hungry ghost) <cite>nfearurspecimn posted [p:943462652] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Mr_Rian posted... </cite> <quote>What?</quote>probably meant to post it in the thin mask topic </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KINDERFELD 08/16/20 6:22:38 PM #19:	Mind your own business tc. Chances are, they're both cheating on each other. --- the polyfilla way look strong in the weakness of the gaps <cite>KINDERFELD posted [p:943462671] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Mind your own business tc. Chances are, they're both cheating on each other. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Steve Nick 08/16/20 6:23:01 PM #20:	you don't even know this woman what the fuck do you care dude? just move on with your life --- This is my signature. <cite>Steve Nick posted [p:943462687] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>you don't even know this woman what the fuck do you care dude? just move on with your life </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BeyondWalls 08/16/20 6:27:34 PM #21:	I'm going to say yeah, you probably should. You'd probably want someone to tell you the truth, right? But I've been faced with this before and I nope'd the fuck out. I just didn't have the balls or heart to walk up to this chick and end her world. I honestly don't know if there's a right answer to this question. --- END OF LINE <cite>BeyondWalls posted [p:943462859] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>I'm going to say yeah, you probably should. You'd probably want someone to tell you the truth, right? But I've been faced with this before and I nope'd the fuck out. I just didn't have the balls or heart to walk up to this chick and end her world. I honestly don't know if there's a right answer to this question. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Doom_Art 08/16/20 6:28:34 PM #22:	Darmik posted... It's not worth it dude. You don't know these people and you're going to be a major part of their lives and drama if you tell him. If you figured out she was married this easily she'll get caught out on her own eventually anyway. True. She was pretty fucking obvious about it and didn't bother hiding it. She'll get hers. Steve Nick posted... you don't even know this woman what the fuck do you care dude? It just bugs me is all. Not right. --- Not removing this until Mega Man 64 is released on the Wii Virtual Console. Started on: 12/1/2009 https://imgur.com/mPvcy <cite>Doom_Art posted [p:943462896] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Darmik posted... </cite> <quote>It's not worth it dude. You don't know these people and you're going to be a major part of their lives and drama if you tell him. If you figured out she was married this easily she'll get caught out on her own eventually anyway.</quote>True. She was pretty fucking obvious about it and didn't bother hiding it. She'll get hers. Steve Nick posted... </cite> <quote>you don't even know this woman what the fuck do you care dude?</quote> It just bugs me is all. Not right. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GentlemanGamer 08/16/20 6:30:28 PM #23:	BeyondWalls posted... I'm going to say yeah, you probably should. You'd probably want someone to tell you the truth, right? But I've been faced with this before and I nope'd the fuck out. I just didn't have the balls or heart to walk up to this chick and end her world. I honestly don't know if there's a right answer to this question. I would never forgive someone who didn't tell me if my partner was cheating. I could have moved on from my false reality a lot quicker if they did. You say yourself you didn't tell someone because you lacked the balls, so it seems like you do know the right answer. <cite>GentlemanGamer posted [p:943462961] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>BeyondWalls posted... </cite> <quote>I'm going to say yeah, you probably should. You'd probably want someone to tell you the truth, right? But I've been faced with this before and I nope'd the fuck out. I just didn't have the balls or heart to walk up to this chick and end her world. I honestly don't know if there's a right answer to this question.</quote> I would never forgive someone who didn't tell me if my partner was cheating. I could have moved on from my false reality a lot quicker if they did. You say yourself you didn't tell someone because you lacked the balls, so it seems like you do know the right answer. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wdlp 08/16/20 6:32:15 PM #24:	Nah don't bother opening up that can of worms tc unless you want to play around in shit --- wdlp <cite>wdlp posted [p:943463039] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Nah don't bother opening up that can of worms tc unless you want to play around in shit</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kami_no_Kami 08/16/20 8:24:48 PM #25:	Difficult. The kind of scum that cheats would probably have no issues doing something vindictive if you out her. Id like to say do the right thing because no one deserves to be treated the way shes treating her husband (unless they have an open marriage) but if she knows your real name, theres really nothing you can do. <cite>Kami_no_Kami posted [p:943466721] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Difficult. The kind of scum that cheats would probably have no issues doing something vindictive if you out her. Id like to say do the right thing because no one deserves to be treated the way shes treating her husband (unless they have an open marriage) but if she knows your real name, theres really nothing you can do. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
pegusus123456 08/16/20 8:26:35 PM #26:	Maybe wait a month or two to help hide the fact that it was you, then anonymously send her husband her username on that site? I feel like it's wrong to just let it go, but I don't know that I wouldn't do that in this situation. --- https://imgur.com/Er6TT https://imgur.com/Er6TT https://imgur.com/Er6TT So? I deeded to some gay porn. It doesn't mean anything. - Patty_Fleur <cite>pegusus123456 posted [p:943466773] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Maybe wait a month or two to help hide the fact that it was you, then anonymously send her husband her username on that site? I feel like it's wrong to just let it go, but I don't know that I wouldn't do that in this situation. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jabodie 08/16/20 8:27:48 PM #27:	Too risky imo. When it comes to things like this you never know if somebody will go full crazy if you don't know them well. --- <insert sig here> <cite>Jabodie posted [p:943466816] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Too risky imo. When it comes to things like this you never know if somebody will go full crazy if you don't know them well. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Wii_Shaker 08/16/20 8:30:06 PM #28:	wdlp posted... Nah don't bother opening up that can of worms tc unless you want to play around in shit Well put. I agree. --- "He busted in, blessed be the Lord Who believe any mess they read up on a message board" -MF DOOM <cite>Wii_Shaker posted [p:943466885] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>wdlp posted... </cite> <quote>Nah don't bother opening up that can of worms tc unless you want to play around in shit</quote>Well put. I agree. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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radical rhino 08/16/20 8:33:06 PM #30:	Its not your place. Theyre strangers. The only time you should tell is if you actually know the person being cheated on, and youre closer to them than you are to the cheater. --- .____ [____]===0 . . . . Ye olde beating stick. <cite>radical rhino posted [p:943466981] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Its not your place. Theyre strangers. The only time you should tell is if you actually know the person being cheated on, and youre closer to them than you are to the cheater. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
The Top Crusader 08/16/20 8:33:13 PM #31:	If they were friends of yours and you had a better grasp of the situation then maybe it would make sense to let him know, but basically strangers? Ehhh... could get super messy for you, OR them and you dont want to have any responsibly in that. --- https://imgur.com/09qFfLV <cite>The Top Crusader posted [p:943466986] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>If they were friends of yours and you had a better grasp of the situation then maybe it would make sense to let him know, but basically strangers? Ehhh... could get super messy for you, OR them and you dont want to have any responsibly in that. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wdlp 08/16/20 8:59:25 PM #32:	Send anonymous msg to him with pics of her profile or w/e --- wdlp <cite>wdlp posted [p:943467749] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Send anonymous msg to him with pics of her profile or w/e</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Doom_Art 08/17/20 9:23:49 AM #33:	Told her I wasn't interested and deleted her from any sites or apps I had her on. Not gonna tell the guy, at least rn. Hopefully karma doesn't smack me for that --- Not removing this until Mega Man 64 is released on the Wii Virtual Console. Started on: 12/1/2009 https://imgur.com/mPvcy <cite>Doom_Art posted [p:943482291] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Told her I wasn't interested and deleted her from any sites or apps I had her on. Not gonna tell the guy, at least rn. Hopefully karma doesn't smack me for that </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Joker98 08/17/20 9:44:50 AM #34:	no --- ~~Every day I'm husseling and busseling~~ <cite>Joker98 posted [p:943482830] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>no </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
nfearurspecimn 08/17/20 9:47:45 AM #35:	Doom_Art posted... Hopefully karma doesn't smack me for that I don't think your decision is immoral. You don't know enough of the situation to judge, and you could be opening yourself up to harm besides for something that possibly has no net positive impact. --- Wake up. You have to wake up. currently a preta (hungry ghost) <cite>nfearurspecimn posted [p:943482904] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Doom_Art posted... </cite> <quote>Hopefully karma doesn't smack me for that</quote>I don't think your decision is immoral. You don't know enough of the situation to judge, and you could be opening yourself up to harm besides for something that possibly has no net positive impact. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
RedJackson 08/17/20 9:52:51 AM #36:	C'mon man, think of the XP points and your Karma rating <cite>RedJackson posted [p:943483034] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>C'mon man, think of the XP points and your Karma rating </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Shablagoo 08/17/20 9:58:30 AM #37:	Doom_Art posted... By her own admission he doesn't know about her polyamorous stuff. Its a fetish site, right? Maybe he knows all about it and telling guys he doesnt is just part of her kink. --- No Venezuelan fishermen ever called me a Bernie Bro. <cite>Shablagoo posted [p:943483197] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Doom_Art posted... </cite> <quote>By her own admission he doesn't know about her polyamorous stuff. </quote> Its a fetish site, right? Maybe he knows all about it and telling guys he doesnt is just part of her kink. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
nfearurspecimn 08/17/20 11:16:56 PM #38:	Shablagoo posted... Its a fetish site, right? Maybe he knows all about it and telling guys he doesnt is just part of her kink. dats a good point --- Wake up. You have to wake up. currently a preta (hungry ghost) <cite>nfearurspecimn posted [p:943513338] in Should you... [t:78915919]...</cite> <quote>Shablagoo posted... </cite> <quote>Its a fetish site, right? Maybe he knows all about it and telling guys he doesnt is just part of her kink.</quote>dats a good point </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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