Current Events > Your girlfriend asks if you're up for having a foursome with her and her friends

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It's your girlfriend's best friend's husband's birthday next Tuesday and his fantasy has always been having a foursome.

Your girlfriend's best friend wants to make that reality come true for him (well to be fair he wanted 3 girls but this is the best he's going to get without writing a check) but she is only comfortable doing it with people she trusts. Your girlfriend is up for it because she feels like she owes her best friend a lot for all the times she was there for her and this is a way to give back.

So ultimately it's up to you to yay or nay the entire enterprise.

https://i.imgur.com/p7VNlWz.jpg

Or boyfriend if you're that way inclined.

Would you do it?
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Is there going to be butt stuff?

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Absolutely not & I'm dumping this bitch.

pfh1001 posted...

Absolutely not & I'm dumping this bitch.

That's a little extreme isn't it?

She only asked.
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Does that dude have no legs

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UnfairRepresent posted...

That's a little extreme isn't it?

She only asked.

She is seriously considering fucking other people. I'm not putting up with that.

pfh1001 posted...

She is seriously considering fucking other people. I'm not putting up with that.

People she trusts WITH you because they want to do it if you're up for it

You're acting like she's out of line. It's not like she going to do it anyway with Stinky Brian taking your place if you refuse.
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UnfairRepresent posted...

People she trusts WITH you because they want to do it if you're up for it

You're acting like she's out of line. It's not like she going to do it anyway with Stinky Brian taking your place if you refuse.

If she knows me at all, she knows I have 0 interest in group sex. And if these people want to have sex with my girlfriend, then they're not people that I trust.

I wish I had a girlfriend :(

UnfairRepresent posted...

People she trusts WITH you because they want to do it if you're up for it

You're acting like she's out of line. It's not like she going to do it anyway with Stinky Brian taking your place if you refuse.

nah man. Shes better off with stinky Brian if shes open to that


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pfh1001 posted...

If she knows me at all, she knows I have 0 interest in group sex. And if these people want to have sex with my girlfriend, then they're not people that I trust.

Jeez so you'd dump someone you claim to love because they dared to ask you a question rather than just assume they already know exactly what you're thinking without checking.

You must be terrifying to live with. You need to calm down and be more receptive.

And spoilers, most people, men especially, want to have sex with other people. It's nature.
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pfh1001 posted...

If she knows me at all, she knows I have 0 interest in group sex. And if these people want to have sex with my girlfriend, then they're not people that I trust.

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UnfairRepresent posted...

People she trusts WITH you because they want to do it if you're up for it

You're acting like she's out of line. It's not like she going to do it anyway with Stinky Brian taking your place if you refuse.

If i wanted that kind of headache i would move to Utah and convert to morminism

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The other guy being there is an automatic no. And if its the girl in the picture, the answer is no either way.

ZeroX91 posted...

If i wanted that kind of headache i would move to Utah and convert to morminism

Then say "No, I'm not interested in that dear" why dump her?

Why do you want a relationship with mimimal communication and 0 levels of respect? That's unhealthy.
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UnfairRepresent posted...

Jeez so you'd dump someone you claim to love because they dared to ask you a question rather than just assume they already know exactly what you're thinking without checking.

The entire point of this hypothetical is that some other guy wants to fuck my girl-- and she wants to do it. That's not a girl I'd want to be with, it's as simple as that.

I had a 4 way kiss before. It's nonsensical as fuck. I just played my part as the funny guy and darted my tongue around to get everybody. No idea what led up to that point.

But to answer the question. Sure. If they don't mind all the intermissions from my being in over my head. There would be a lot of foreplay. Im not a pornstar

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UnfairRepresent posted...

Then say "No, I'm not interested in that dear" why dump her?

Why do you want a relationship with mimimal communication and 0 levels of respect? That's unhealthy.

Because if she is open to sex with someone else its clear the relationship isnt all that important to her, thats 100% only going to cause trust issues and lead to shit blowing up down the line.

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pfh1001 posted...

The entire point of this hypothetical is that some other guy wants to fuck my girl-- and she wants to do it

Why are you intentionally ignoring all the context

With you, as a favor for her best friend if you are up for it. She and you are fucking 3 people. Not just her fucking some guy behind your back.
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ZeroX91 posted...

Because if she is open to sex with someone else its clear the relationship isnt all that important to her

That's a non sequitur.

WTF does being open to new ideas sexually have to do with how importantly she regards your relationship?

Like the other guy you're sole argument is to pretend you're not involved in this at all and be then be mad about it. You're there too. She's having sex with you. And the question is being raised hanging on your consent.

It's like being mad if your girlfriend asks if you want chocolate cake with her friends and you go "I'd dump her for not knowing I don't like chocolate cake and for her being open to eating chocolate cake with someone else!"

She's eating it with you.

, thats 100% only going to cause trust issues and lead to shit blowing up down the line.

I think you got it backwards.

Being angry and dumping people for communication + asking questions about things is going to cause trust issues and lead to shit blowing up down the line.

Intentionally or not you're basically saying you'd rather your partner be dishonest with you than be honest and say something you don't approve of.

That's going to end badly down the line.

You've intentionally or not trained your girlfriend to not be honest about what she really thinks for fear that you will flip out and dump her on the spot for wrongthink. That ain't healthy.
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UnfairRepresent posted...

Why are you intentionally ignoring all the context

With you, as a favor for her best friend if you are up for it. She and you are fucking 3 people. Not just her fucking some guy behind your back.

And you're ignoring the context that if this was a girl I was in a serious relationship with, she would have already known that I wouldn't be interested in the first place.

Otherwise, it's just some chick I started dating, in which case I'm going to see this interest in group sex as a red flag that means we are not compatible.

pfh1001 posted...

And you're ignoring the context that if this was a girl I was in a serious relationship with, she would have already known that I wouldn't be interested in the first place.

How would she be so sure without asking?

Especially as a favor to her friend

I'm not ignoring your context, I'm judging you for your incredibly hostile mindset.
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UnfairRepresent posted...

How would she be so sure without asking?

Especially as a favor to her friend

I'm not ignoring your context, I'm judging you for your incredibly hostile mindset.

The 'favor for a friend' part of this is a stupid rationalization. If the woman in question was in a serious sexual relationship with me, we would have already discussed our views on sex-- thus she would have already known that I would say no.

Otherwise, it's just some new chick I started seeing & she's interested in group sex. I have no interest in dating someone that wants to do that.

Whether or not I 'get to share' in the group sex doesn't matter.

It's a horrible rationalization, and I would call out woman that tried to use that BS. She's such a good friend, and shes always there for you, so you want to pay her back by fucking her and her boyfriend? That's total bullshit. You can't expect to live out your sexual fantasies if you can't even be honest with your partner about them. It's not a favor, and it's something your want to do, or you wouldn't even consider it

The friend obviously thinks of you as more than friend, and she puts up with all your stupid shit because she wants more. So now I know I can't trust her, and she's probably going to see my as an obstacle if I say no.

The problem with this scenario is that this just isn't how you bring up group sex. The other guy is right, your partner should already know your response, because this is something that should come up and be discussed hypothetically. You don't plan it first, and then ask. That's a good way to make someone feel like you are doing things behind their back.

fhqwhgads posted...

Does that dude have no legs

this

If I had one they would know I am not equipped for such a venture.

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My wife and I have been in a few three ways and foursomes before during our relationship. No harms been done and we look back on those times often, usually laughing at how everyone was acting like a horny animal,ourselves including us.

Just celebrated our 16th anniversary this past week.

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UnfairRepresent posted...

That's a non sequitur.

WTF does being open to new ideas sexually have to do with how importantly she regards your relationship?

Like the other guy you're sole argument is to pretend you're not involved in this at all and be then be mad about it. You're there too. She's having sex with you. And the question is being raised hanging on your consent.

It's like being mad if your girlfriend asks if you want chocolate cake with her friends and you go "I'd dump her for not knowing I don't like chocolate cake and for her being open to eating chocolate cake with someone else!"

She's eating it with you.

I think you got it backwards.

Being angry and dumping people for communication + asking questions about things is going to cause trust issues and lead to shit blowing up down the line.

Intentionally or not you're basically saying you'd rather your partner be dishonest with you than be honest and say something you don't approve of.

That's going to end badly down the line.

You've intentionally or not trained your girlfriend to not be honest about what she really thinks for fear that you will flip out and dump her on the spot for wrongthink. That ain't healthy.

Have fun with that cuck logic, a relationship is between 2 people not another dude, my girl, his girl, and me.

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Ive already fucked her so why would i say yes to this?

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No.

pfh1001 posted...

The entire point of this hypothetical is that some other guy wants to fuck my girl-- and she wants to do it. That's not a girl I'd want to be with, it's as simple as that.

Yeah, this. The whole scenario raises some serious red flags and I'm not cool with that. Either it's going to end up with her not being able to hang around those friends anymore, or us splitting.
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looked posted...

It's a horrible rationalization, and I would call out woman that tried to use that BS. She's such a good friend, and shes always there for you, so you want to pay her back by fucking her and her boyfriend? That's total bullshit. You can't expect to live out your sexual fantasies if you can't even be honest with your partner about them. It's not a favor, and it's something your want to do, or you wouldn't even consider it

The friend obviously thinks of you as more than friend, and she puts up with all your stupid shit because she wants more. So now I know I can't trust her, and she's probably going to see my as an obstacle if I say no.

The problem with this scenario is that this just isn't how you bring up group sex. The other guy is right, your partner should already know your response, because this is something that should come up and be discussed hypothetically. You don't plan it first, and then ask. That's a good way to make someone feel like you are doing things behind their back.

lol @ this post
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fhqwhgads posted...

Does that dude have no legs

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I could be wrong but I think based on the weight of the two of them his legs are being pushed down into the mattress. If you look closely you see her butt it up near the top of his wrist so he is sitting sideways off the bed with her on his lap.

Again I could be wrong.

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fhqwhgads posted...

Does that dude have no legs

And is right arm super long? Also, looks like he has no hip and therefore no anus, so no go for the foursome.

What are his tattoos?

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trappedunderice posted...

I wish I had a girlfriend :(

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Yeah I'm still stuck on the half-man, half-mattress guy.

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Lol I guess Id have to think about it but I've told her that kind of thing makes me uncomfortable

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This topic reeks of a bunch of insecurities and lack of trust.

MachineJaipur posted...

This topic reeks of a bunch of insecurities and lack of trust.

seems more insecure to not put 2 brain cells together to realize that not everyone wants the same thing out of a relationship

wait thats not insecurity. The word Im looking for is unintelligent.

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HighOnSolar posted...

seems more insecure to not put 2 brain cells together to realize that not everyone wants the same thing out of a relationship

wait thats not insecurity. The word Im looking for is unintelligent.

No one is saying it's wrong to want different things

but its insecure as fuck to dump someone you love because they tried open communication with you
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not talking to u nerd, everyone else already answered your questions, Im just here to antagonize the dumbass I quoted

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lol you're really proving the insecure point
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2 was being a little generous for you huh?

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Not wanting another guy to rail on your gf is considered insecure?

2020 is messed up

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im not 13 posted...

Not wanting another guy to rail on your gf is considered insecure?

2020 is messed up

No one is saying it's wrong to want different things

but its insecure as fuck to dump someone you love because they tried open communication with you
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based on the pic, nah. That dude is too much of a Chad and I'm not that attracted to the woman.

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UnfairRepresent posted...

No one is saying it's wrong to want different things

but its insecure as fuck to dump someone you love because they tried open communication with you

I get being open but some things are just nonsensical...and definitely would of been established before the relationship started

She wants to go against what I want in the relationship to satisfy her friends abnormal requests? Go ahead

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