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GameLord113 06/23/20 4:33:40 PM #1:	Been dating for a little over 6 months now, and I think Im just tired of her stuff. Whats pushed me over the edge is she texted me this afternoon how shes not going to show up for work tomorrow and quit her job. She schedules patients appointment and goes over financial paperwork with them at a doctors office and they want her to do that stuff face to face with the patients now instead of over the phone like she has the past few months. I can understand her not wanting to come in close contact with people, but what bugs me is she is being rather hypocritical in my opinion. I say that because just this last weekend she was out at a pool party with a bunch of people and is constantly going/hanging out with groups of friends. I just feel like shes trying to use it as an excuse to be lazy and cause drama. Plus I dont want her trying to move in with no job because now she cant afford rent because she quit her decent paying job. Am I the one overreacting or should I just give her the boot? <cite>GameLord113 posted [p:941141509] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>Been dating for a little over 6 months now, and I think Im just tired of her stuff. Whats pushed me over the edge is she texted me this afternoon how shes not going to show up for work tomorrow and quit her job. She schedules patients appointment and goes over financial paperwork with them at a doctors office and they want her to do that stuff face to face with the patients now instead of over the phone like she has the past few months. I can understand her not wanting to come in close contact with people, but what bugs me is she is being rather hypocritical in my opinion. I say that because just this last weekend she was out at a pool party with a bunch of people and is constantly going/hanging out with groups of friends. I just feel like shes trying to use it as an excuse to be lazy and cause drama. Plus I dont want her trying to move in with no job because now she cant afford rent because she quit her decent paying job. Am I the one overreacting or should I just give her the boot? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IronBornCorps 06/23/20 4:39:49 PM #2:	Hospitals are definitely a hotter zone than your friends pool party, and she is much more likely to come in contact at the hospital. Speaking as someone who lives with her boyfriend who is currently unemployed and doesn't pay bills, if you can't handle her being unemployed for a period of time, then how much do you really care about her? <cite>IronBornCorps posted [p:941141853] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>Hospitals are definitely a hotter zone than your friends pool party, and she is much more likely to come in contact at the hospital. Speaking as someone who lives with her boyfriend who is currently unemployed and doesn't pay bills, if you can't handle her being unemployed for a period of time, then how much do you really care about her? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GameLord113 06/23/20 4:54:36 PM #3:	IronBornCorps posted... Hospitals are definitely a hotter zone than your friends pool party, and she is much more likely to come in contact at the hospital. Her job isnt in a hospital though. Its by a hospital but a separate office/private practice where they see people with digestive issues. IronBornCorps posted... Speaking as someone who lives with her boyfriend who is currently unemployed and doesn't pay bills, if you can't handle her being unemployed for a period of time, then how much do you really care about her? It would be different if we had been dating longer and honestly the relationship hasnt been the best since the coronavirus shutdowns started. Was seriously considering ending it over a month ago but wanted to try and make things work because I knew everyone was under a lot of stress due to the pandemic. I think this does answer my questing though and I need to end it now without dragging it out any further. <cite>GameLord113 posted [p:941142607] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>IronBornCorps posted... </cite> <quote>Hospitals are definitely a hotter zone than your friends pool party, and she is much more likely to come in contact at the hospital.</quote>Her job isnt in a hospital though. Its by a hospital but a separate office/private practice where they see people with digestive issues. IronBornCorps posted... </cite> <quote>Speaking as someone who lives with her boyfriend who is currently unemployed and doesn't pay bills, if you can't handle her being unemployed for a period of time, then how much do you really care about her?</quote>It would be different if we had been dating longer and honestly the relationship hasnt been the best since the coronavirus shutdowns started. Was seriously considering ending it over a month ago but wanted to try and make things work because I knew everyone was under a lot of stress due to the pandemic. I think this does answer my questing though and I need to end it now without dragging it out any further. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IronBornCorps 06/23/20 4:56:03 PM #4:	How long have you been dating? My partner and I have been together 18 months. Edit Corona has definitely put a strain on our relationship as well, but I think we will come out stronger for it. <cite>IronBornCorps posted [p:941142678] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>How long have you been dating? My partner and I have been together 18 months. Edit Corona has definitely put a strain on our relationship as well, but I think we will come out stronger for it. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cruddy_horse 06/23/20 4:58:00 PM #5:	IronBornCorps posted... How long have you been dating? My partner and I have been together 18 months. Edit Corona has definitely put a strain on our relationship as well, but I think we will come out stronger for it. Bruh that's literally in the first 8 words of the post. <cite>Cruddy_horse posted [p:941142767] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>IronBornCorps posted... </cite> <quote>How long have you been dating? My partner and I have been together 18 months. Edit Corona has definitely put a strain on our relationship as well, but I think we will come out stronger for it.</quote> Bruh that's literally in the first 8 words of the post. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GameLord113 06/23/20 4:58:15 PM #6:	IronBornCorps posted... How long have you been dating? A little over 6 months. <cite>GameLord113 posted [p:941142780] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>IronBornCorps posted... </cite> <quote>How long have you been dating?</quote>A little over 6 months. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ChaosAzeroth 06/23/20 4:58:49 PM #7:	Tbf different people have different expectations/deal breakers for relationships. Sometimes people just don't work out, doesn't mean either person is bad. Sometimes people just aren't compatible. <cite>ChaosAzeroth posted [p:941142806] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>Tbf different people have different expectations/deal breakers for relationships. Sometimes people just don't work out, doesn't mean either person is bad. Sometimes people just aren't compatible. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
HornedLion 06/23/20 5:01:13 PM #8:	GameLord113 posted... I just feel like shes trying to use it as an excuse to be lazy and cause drama. Tell me more about this. Why do you say this? Have you seen this pattern of behavior in her before? Would you say shes lazy? --- "Wham wham bam bam" - the sound of Microsoft getting destroyed by Sony again <cite>HornedLion posted [p:941142935] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>GameLord113 posted... </cite> <quote>I just feel like shes trying to use it as an excuse to be lazy and cause drama.</quote> Tell me more about this. Why do you say this? Have you seen this pattern of behavior in her before? Would you say shes lazy? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IronBornCorps 06/23/20 5:02:42 PM #9:	My mistake, that is on there. Just saying with this current partner, I quit my job within 6 months of dating and he helped me out. I ended up using that time to get certs, and now I make twice what I did before and now I can support him while he makes a move. <cite>IronBornCorps posted [p:941143020] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>My mistake, that is on there. Just saying with this current partner, I quit my job within 6 months of dating and he helped me out. I ended up using that time to get certs, and now I make twice what I did before and now I can support him while he makes a move. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GameLord113 06/23/20 5:28:34 PM #10:	HornedLion posted... Tell me more about this. I guess I just find her to be lazy. Shell complain about things and then do nothing to make the situation better. Maybe lazy isnt the right word but I do think shes very hypocritical about things. Like she can talk shit and calls me a nerd for some of my interest but if I dare say anything negative about her smoking or negative attitude she gets really pissed and defensive. One example is we had plans to make dinner one Sunday, so I went out and bought all the stuff and waited for her to come over. As it got later I started wondering where she was so I texted her and she texts back that shes over at her friends house and will be over in an hour. Hour and half passes so I text her again and she says shes leaving soon. Another hour passes (now its past 8:30 when we were going to make dinner a couple hours ago), and I text her only to have her respond thats shes too drunk and not coming over. Should have dumped her right then tbh because if I would have pulled that shit on her she would be freaking out on me and accusing me of all sorts of stuff. <cite>GameLord113 posted [p:941144362] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>HornedLion posted... </cite> <quote>Tell me more about this.</quote>I guess I just find her to be lazy. Shell complain about things and then do nothing to make the situation better. Maybe lazy isnt the right word but I do think shes very hypocritical about things. Like she can talk shit and calls me a nerd for some of my interest but if I dare say anything negative about her smoking or negative attitude she gets really pissed and defensive. One example is we had plans to make dinner one Sunday, so I went out and bought all the stuff and waited for her to come over. As it got later I started wondering where she was so I texted her and she texts back that shes over at her friends house and will be over in an hour. Hour and half passes so I text her again and she says shes leaving soon. Another hour passes (now its past 8:30 when we were going to make dinner a couple hours ago), and I text her only to have her respond thats shes too drunk and not coming over. Should have dumped her right then tbh because if I would have pulled that shit on her she would be freaking out on me and accusing me of all sorts of stuff. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IronBornCorps 06/23/20 5:32:24 PM #11:	That sounds not ideal at all. It's not so much the perception of laziness that bothers me, but that she didn't give priority to time agreed to spend together. Also cooking together sounds cute af, and would love if my bf would cook with me sometimes. Just wondering what are your ages? <cite>IronBornCorps posted [p:941144553] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>That sounds not ideal at all. It's not so much the perception of laziness that bothers me, but that she didn't give priority to time agreed to spend together. Also cooking together sounds cute af, and would love if my bf would cook with me sometimes. Just wondering what are your ages? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GameLord113 06/23/20 5:39:00 PM #12:	IronBornCorps posted... Just wondering what are your ages? 33 and 32 <cite>GameLord113 posted [p:941144838] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>IronBornCorps posted... </cite> <quote>Just wondering what are your ages?</quote>33 and 32 </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
RedPixel 06/23/20 5:53:35 PM #13:	GameLord113 posted... Been dating for a little over 6 months now, and I think Im just tired of her stuff. Whats pushed me over the edge is she texted me this afternoon how shes not going to show up for work tomorrow and quit her job. She schedules patients appointment and goes over financial paperwork with them at a doctors office and they want her to do that stuff face to face with the patients now instead of over the phone like she has the past few months. I can understand her not wanting to come in close contact with people, but what bugs me is she is being rather hypocritical in my opinion. I say that because just this last weekend she was out at a pool party with a bunch of people and is constantly going/hanging out with groups of friends. I just feel like shes trying to use it as an excuse to be lazy and cause drama. Plus I dont want her trying to move in with no job because now she cant afford rent because she quit her decent paying job. Am I the one overreacting or should I just give her the boot? It's rational to not want her to move in and be dependant on you. You're bf/gf, not married; putting her wants and needs above yourself is a disservice to yourself. That would not be self-love and your love for her on an even level, and that's a parasitic relationship waiting to happen. That said, she might have hit a breaking point; ego is self-destructing; and female energy needs a chance to be creative. Finance/billing is soul crushing stuff. That said, you're the best judge of character of your own situation, and maybe she is being a drama queen. My wife and I had a hypocritical friend who was afraid to do anything around people, and then got excited on a vacation and said "ooo let's go to Walmart" and it was some of the most [liberal] draining shit double standard context if I wrote it out... it was ridiculous. Check yourself, too. Is your own frustration coming from being envious and not having spare time/energy yourself? Be honest with yourself, or... https://youtu.be/vqpEZuv29qE <cite>RedPixel posted [p:941145608] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>GameLord113 posted... </cite> <quote>Been dating for a little over 6 months now, and I think Im just tired of her stuff. Whats pushed me over the edge is she texted me this afternoon how shes not going to show up for work tomorrow and quit her job. She schedules patients appointment and goes over financial paperwork with them at a doctors office and they want her to do that stuff face to face with the patients now instead of over the phone like she has the past few months. I can understand her not wanting to come in close contact with people, but what bugs me is she is being rather hypocritical in my opinion. I say that because just this last weekend she was out at a pool party with a bunch of people and is constantly going/hanging out with groups of friends. I just feel like shes trying to use it as an excuse to be lazy and cause drama. Plus I dont want her trying to move in with no job because now she cant afford rent because she quit her decent paying job. Am I the one overreacting or should I just give her the boot?</quote> It's rational to not want her to move in and be dependant on you. You're bf/gf, not married; putting her wants and needs above yourself is a disservice to yourself. That would not be self-love and your love for her on an even level, and that's a parasitic relationship waiting to happen. That said, she might have hit a breaking point; ego is self-destructing; and female energy needs a chance to be creative. Finance/billing is soul crushing stuff. That said, you're the best judge of character of your own situation, and maybe she is being a drama queen. My wife and I had a hypocritical friend who was afraid to do anything around people, and then got excited on a vacation and said "ooo let's go to Walmart" and it was some of the most [liberal] draining shit double standard context if I wrote it out... it was ridiculous. Check yourself, too. Is your own frustration coming from being envious and not having spare time/energy yourself? Be honest with yourself, or... https://youtu.be/vqpEZuv29qE </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IronBornCorps 06/23/20 5:53:50 PM #14:	I'm around that age too. That story just sounded like something a 22 year old would do, not 32. Idk, I would say you definitely have some valid feelings. I would talk to her about them and see where that leads. If that conversation doesn't feel productive, then I would heavily consider breaking up. <cite>IronBornCorps posted [p:941145619] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>I'm around that age too. That story just sounded like something a 22 year old would do, not 32. Idk, I would say you definitely have some valid feelings. I would talk to her about them and see where that leads. If that conversation doesn't feel productive, then I would heavily consider breaking up. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IronBornCorps 06/23/20 6:08:57 PM #15:	I'll just add one more thing. The job I quit was also billing/finance. It really is a soul sucking position that I'm so happy to be out of. <cite>IronBornCorps posted [p:941146494] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>I'll just add one more thing. The job I quit was also billing/finance. It really is a soul sucking position that I'm so happy to be out of. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
HornedLion 06/23/20 7:55:39 PM #16:	GameLord113 posted... I guess I just find her to be lazy. Shell complain about things and then do nothing to make the situation better. Maybe lazy isnt the right word but I do think shes very hypocritical about things. Like she can talk shit and calls me a nerd for some of my interest but if I dare say anything negative about her smoking or negative attitude she gets really pissed and defensive. One example is we had plans to make dinner one Sunday, so I went out and bought all the stuff and waited for her to come over. As it got later I started wondering where she was so I texted her and she texts back that shes over at her friends house and will be over in an hour. Hour and half passes so I text her again and she says shes leaving soon. Another hour passes (now its past 8:30 when we were going to make dinner a couple hours ago), and I text her only to have her respond thats shes too drunk and not coming over. Should have dumped her right then tbh because if I would have pulled that shit on her she would be freaking out on me and accusing me of all sorts of stuff. Run. Fucking run. Im going to take a shit in the dark and say shes a professional victim. Am I right or wrong? I had an ex that would call all women she saw in public, that she thought looked prettier than her or were thinner than her(that was mostly all of them), whores, hoes, and sluts. One day I couldnt help but think if that girl she referred to as that was going through a rough time, was a genuinely good person, or maybe was a nice person who didnt deserve that... and I did the unthinkable, I stood up for that girl and fought with my ex. Sure, shell never know I did that... but its not about my glory... its about me being fed up with that stink attitude. Im no relationship pro but... I believe you find the one when you realize that the fights are few and far between. And notice that most arent even fights but misunderstandings. --- "Wham wham bam bam" - the sound of Microsoft getting destroyed by Sony again <cite>HornedLion posted [p:941152179] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>GameLord113 posted... </cite> <quote>I guess I just find her to be lazy. Shell complain about things and then do nothing to make the situation better. Maybe lazy isnt the right word but I do think shes very hypocritical about things. Like she can talk shit and calls me a nerd for some of my interest but if I dare say anything negative about her smoking or negative attitude she gets really pissed and defensive. One example is we had plans to make dinner one Sunday, so I went out and bought all the stuff and waited for her to come over. As it got later I started wondering where she was so I texted her and she texts back that shes over at her friends house and will be over in an hour. Hour and half passes so I text her again and she says shes leaving soon. Another hour passes (now its past 8:30 when we were going to make dinner a couple hours ago), and I text her only to have her respond thats shes too drunk and not coming over. Should have dumped her right then tbh because if I would have pulled that shit on her she would be freaking out on me and accusing me of all sorts of stuff.</quote> Run. Fucking run. Im going to take a shit in the dark and say shes a professional victim. Am I right or wrong? I had an ex that would call all women she saw in public, that she thought looked prettier than her or were thinner than her(that was mostly all of them), whores, hoes, and sluts. One day I couldnt help but think if that girl she referred to as that was going through a rough time, was a genuinely good person, or maybe was a nice person who didnt deserve that... and I did the unthinkable, I stood up for that girl and fought with my ex. Sure, shell never know I did that... but its not about my glory... its about me being fed up with that stink attitude. Im no relationship pro but... I believe you find the one when you realize that the fights are few and far between. And notice that most arent even fights but misunderstandings. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wwinterj25 06/23/20 10:46:55 PM #17:	GameLord113 posted... I say that because just this last weekend she was out at a pool party with a bunch of people and is constantly going/hanging out with groups of friends. GameLord113 posted... Like she can talk shit and calls me a nerd for some of my interest but if I dare say anything negative about her smoking or negative attitude she gets really pissed and defensive. Doesn't seem to be she gives a shit about this COVID-19 situation but it also seems she doesn't care much about her employer too if she's just planning on walking out because she's been told to go back to work. Working from home was only temporary but discussing things with her employer would be the best idea. As for her talking shit to you. What's good for the Goose is good for the Gander. I hope you embrace it when she calls you a nerd. She seems very immature. Get shut of her. Edit: She's in her 30's? I've known better behaved teens. --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - https://imgur.com/YvP6isz <cite>wwinterj25 posted [p:941160512] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>GameLord113 posted... </cite> <quote>I say that because just this last weekend she was out at a pool party with a bunch of people and is constantly going/hanging out with groups of friends.</quote> GameLord113 posted... </cite> <quote>Like she can talk shit and calls me a nerd for some of my interest but if I dare say anything negative about her smoking or negative attitude she gets really pissed and defensive.</quote> Doesn't seem to be she gives a shit about this COVID-19 situation but it also seems she doesn't care much about her employer too if she's just planning on walking out because she's been told to go back to work. Working from home was only temporary but discussing things with her employer would be the best idea. As for her talking shit to you. What's good for the Goose is good for the Gander. I hope you embrace it when she calls you a nerd. She seems very immature. Get shut of her. Edit: She's in her 30's? I've known better behaved teens. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BlackScythe0 06/24/20 3:12:33 AM #18:	GameLord113 posted... I guess I just find her to be lazy. Shell complain about things and then do nothing to make the situation better. Maybe lazy isnt the right word but I do think shes very hypocritical about things. Like she can talk shit and calls me a nerd for some of my interest but if I dare say anything negative about her smoking or negative attitude she gets really pissed and defensive. One example is we had plans to make dinner one Sunday, so I went out and bought all the stuff and waited for her to come over. As it got later I started wondering where she was so I texted her and she texts back that shes over at her friends house and will be over in an hour. Hour and half passes so I text her again and she says shes leaving soon. Another hour passes (now its past 8:30 when we were going to make dinner a couple hours ago), and I text her only to have her respond thats shes too drunk and not coming over. Should have dumped her right then tbh because if I would have pulled that shit on her she would be freaking out on me and accusing me of all sorts of stuff. Sounds like cheating. <cite>BlackScythe0 posted [p:941168985] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>GameLord113 posted... </cite> <quote>I guess I just find her to be lazy. Shell complain about things and then do nothing to make the situation better. Maybe lazy isnt the right word but I do think shes very hypocritical about things. Like she can talk shit and calls me a nerd for some of my interest but if I dare say anything negative about her smoking or negative attitude she gets really pissed and defensive. One example is we had plans to make dinner one Sunday, so I went out and bought all the stuff and waited for her to come over. As it got later I started wondering where she was so I texted her and she texts back that shes over at her friends house and will be over in an hour. Hour and half passes so I text her again and she says shes leaving soon. Another hour passes (now its past 8:30 when we were going to make dinner a couple hours ago), and I text her only to have her respond thats shes too drunk and not coming over. Should have dumped her right then tbh because if I would have pulled that shit on her she would be freaking out on me and accusing me of all sorts of stuff.</quote> Sounds like cheating. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 06/24/20 3:32:29 AM #19:	BlackScythe0 posted... Sounds like cheating. Could be. Though, it's very possible she wasn't. I mean, she could have easily been out with friends. If she was cheating, I feel she wouldn't have let him call multiple times and kept saying she's be over. And she probably would have showered and went over after she was done... Probably... But cheating is a possibility. I just think it's not as likely. But I also don't know her... --- Official King of Kings Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:941169381] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>BlackScythe0 posted...</cite> <quote>Sounds like cheating.</quote> Could be. Though, it's very possible she wasn't. I mean, she could have easily been out with friends. If she was cheating, I feel she wouldn't have let him call multiple times and kept saying she's be over. And she probably would have showered and went over after she was done... Probably... But cheating is a possibility. I just think it's not as likely. But I also don't know her...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GameLord113 06/25/20 9:25:12 PM #20:	Update: Ended up breaking up with her tonight. Had a lengthy conversation and moving on. BlackScythe0 posted... Sounds like cheating. She wasnt. She likes to drink and do other stuff but she was faithful. <cite>GameLord113 posted [p:941264403] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>Update: Ended up breaking up with her tonight. Had a lengthy conversation and moving on. BlackScythe0 posted... </cite> <quote>Sounds like cheating.</quote>She wasnt. She likes to drink and do other stuff but she was faithful. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zeus 06/25/20 10:00:28 PM #21:	Probably the right move. --- (\/)(\/)\|-\| There are precious few at ease / With moral ambiguities / So we act as though they don't exist. <cite>Zeus posted [p:941265909] in Thinking a... [t:78797162]...</cite> <quote>Probably the right move. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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