Current Events > I Am UNABLE To Properly Have Sex. And It's KILLING ME!(Erectile Dysfunction)

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I dont know what is wrong with me. Whether it's Physical, or mental but, let me explain

I am 27 years old. I lost my Virginity last year, and despite that: I felt nothing. I had no innate desire to have sex with the woman who I lost my virginity to, I only did it to get it out of the way and so I wouldn't be seen as a virgin anymore. Despite that, I still had trouble maintaining an erection. I don't even get morning wood anymore!

Fast forward to recently, and I was in the process of having sex with a decent looking woman. The problem? I f again felt nothing. No desire, no drive. The worst part is that I had ED, and at the few times that I did get erect, it went away instantly after she tried inserting my P into her Vag

It was just a complete mess and flop. Not just on how bad I was, but the fact that I had no drive to have sex. No boner. And at the end, I felt disgusted, and bad

I don't know what is wrong with me. When I was in my teens and early 20's, I had a huge sex drive. Even talking to an attractive girl instantly gave me a huge boner. But now? Nothing. While I am physically & emotionally attracted to women, I feel nothing for them sexually.

TLDR

• I have 0 desire or drive to have sex. And I struggle to maintain a boner
• It feels like something is wrong with me. Especially since my drive was much bigger in my early 20's

Probably too used to fappin

Also, porn dick is a thing

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Maybe you're just ace or demi? I worked with a guy like that. Normal dude, but he just had absolutely no desire for sex

Alternatively something in your internal chemistry might be out of whack

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pogo_rabid posted...

Also, porn dick is a thing

Allegedly. Because I either have this or my prolactin is just too high.

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Do you watch porn and stay hard when you jerk off?

Could be you either have desensitized yourself due to how much you masturbate, or it might be because you have low testosterone count.

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Why the hell did you put spoilers in the topic title? I wanted to find out for MYSELF what your problem was. Asshole.

Reported.

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Stop watching porn and masturbating

Jiggy101011 posted...

Do you watch porn and stay hard when you jerk off?

Could be you either have desensitized yourself due to how much you masturbate, or it might be because you have low testosterone count.

I don't watch porn. And I haven't been able to maintain a full erection for more than 3-5 minutes, in over a year

@Kitt

100% psychological, even if you took viagra you probably would lose the boner

ngl, i had a similar problem in my mid 20's after moving across the country by myself, shit was embarassing, but after a 30 day porn and 'batin ban, things kinda fixed themselves.


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i think something is clearly wrong with you.

I been there. Porn and too much masturbating are the reasons. Need to quit that shit permanently

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It sounds like you're just not into sex anymore

Drumiester posted...

I been there. Porn and too much masturbating are the reasons. Need to quit that shit permanently

also this, but since you're not watching porn or anything, I think you're just not wanting it.

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Crow0000 posted...

I don't watch porn. And I haven't been able to maintain a full erection for more than 3-5 minutes, in over a year

Try watching porn and see if you can stay hard for longer than that and finish.

If you can, it's definitely psychological and there are ways to fix your problem.

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in addition to abstaining from self-exposure to lurid matter, consider that erectile dysfunction is a canary in the coal mine for cardiovascular health issues. i propose that you lift weights, get sun, and enjoy your new diet: potatoes, grits, rice; eggs, beef, occasional organs (emphasis on liver and bone, get that collagen son); milk, orange juice; and coconut oil, tallow, lard, or olive oil if you need to add fats (no more refined, omega-6 rich vegetable oils).

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Maybe you are also depressed. Lack of sexual desire and ED might be symptoms of depression.

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whats your diet like?

My drive also plummeted in my late 20s, but probably not as bad as yours.

I'm not into porn, but I try to fap a few times a week to make sure I still got it.

I think my thing is that from age 18-26, pretty much every sexual experienced had involved alcohol. Now that I've settled down, but I pretty much only want to fuck when I'm drinking.

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Drumiester posted...

I been there. Porn and too much masturbating are the reasons. Need to quit that shit permanently

@Drumiester with the real advice

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