Current Events > Ex-girlfriend has gotten into contact with me to tell me I am a toxic POS.

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This is a girl that I had a non-committed relationship with for several years. Basically, I would hook up with her, and take her out and treat her really good, celebrating holidays with her and everything. When I would meet other girls, I would drop her, then pick up where we left off after those relationships ended.

The sex we had was amazing, and multiple times it got so passionate that I would tell her I loved her, but it was clearly just heat of the moment talk as I never repeated it outside of the bedroom. I dumped her shortly after she had a pregnancy scare, as she told me that she was on birth control but then wound up alarming me telling me she thinks she might be pregnant. To this day, I think that it was just a test. We still stayed on good terms afterwards, and we hooked up a few times after even, but kind of fell out of contact.

Well, fast forward to today, three years later, and she has come back. Only this time, she is ****ing mad at me. She tells me that I am the most disgusting, misogynistic and abusive man she has ever met. She forgets all about the good times, the gifts I used to shower her with, and tells me that I was "raping" her, even though we always had consensual sex. Brings up the rough sex, and says that I am a violent psychopath, even though I did NOTHING violent to her, and all of the things we did together were her preferences.

She tells me about her new boyfriend Billy, who treats her right, and that they are engaged now. She tells me he is the opposite of me, and she fell in love with him instantly.

I told her that this is all well and good and I am happy for her, she tells me that she is going to show up at my house and Billy is going to beat the crap out of me!!!

I ask why would I fight Billy, I'm glad there's someone taking good care of her now. She tells me that she's told him about all the times I "raped" her (WTF?!) and that he thinks that beating my ass is the right thing to do.

I tell her, I won't fight him.

She tells me that she knows my jogging routes, and she has already told him, and if he shows up, then it's out of her hands.

I tell her that if I have to defend myself, it is out of MY hands, but I still won't fight him. (I carry a can of mace with me.)

She tells me that if I hurt Billy, then she's going to the NEWS about us, and she's basically going to METOO me!!!!

I don't know what to do, she is essentially telling me that I have to get my ass kicked by this guy, or else she is going to ruin my reputation. Already, there is a group of girls that have blocked me on Facebook which we have mutual contact with.

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Mace?

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just looking for drama. if you hadn't spoken with her for 3 years and she comes at you like this i'd just ignore it.

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Your biggest mistake was msging her back. Learn to ignore fuck heads. It works!

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R1masher posted...

Mace?

Mace is a colloquial term for pepper spray, usually on the stronger end of pepper sprays.

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Tell her that, due to the threats she is making against you, you have no choice but to go to the police with her messages and will not be in further contact with her.

Tenlaar posted...

Tell her that, due to the threats she is making against you, you have no choice but to go to the police with her messages and will not be in further contact with her.

I would probably do this, tbh. It's a hassle, but if she's going to fuck around with you I'd make sure you let the police know what's up before she tries anything major.

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I'm really hoping this isnt a copypasta or a fake post. If you're really worried file a report with the authorities ahead of time so that way if anything does happen its not just he said she said and you have something to back it up. If you have text messages or any solid proof provide that before hand if any accusations do pop up. I'm sorry that your ex is doing this shit to you it sounds like a terrible situation.

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Reminds me of my ex: awesome sex but she lived in a blue house, drove a blue car and honestly everything was blue to her cause she had no one to listen.

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Notify the police. And if she messages you again just tell her that you have nothing to say and that anything further you will show to the police.

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yea go to the cops

100% she got into some shit with her new squeeze and threw you under the bus as a scapegoat.

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ThePrinceFish posted...

Mace is a colloquial term for pepper spray, usually on the stronger end of pepper sprays.

yes, just wondering why hes jogging with mace

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A winner is you!

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R1masher posted...

yes, just wondering why hes jogging with mace

True, he should look into a concealed carry license instead of carrying a purse with pepper spray in it.

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Lairen posted...

Reminds me of my ex: awesome sex but she lived in a blue house, drove a blue car and honestly everything was blue to her cause she had no one to listen.

lol'd

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95% sure I've read this before.

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Are you completely certain you aren't a toxic PoS?

I don't know you, so it's a good thing to double check.

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joe40001 posted...

Are you completely certain you aren't a toxic PoS?

I don't know you, so it's a good thing to double check.

I'm suspecting a troll.

However, I concur that TC's post is indeed toxic.

No judgement on the 'rape' bit, though. No idea about that.

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is ce full of new people, how do you guys not recognize this gimmick account

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DeathDeathSong posted...

is ce full of new people, how do you guys not recognize this gimmick account

Right? My first thought was "LovingPacifist at it again"
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DeathDeathSong posted...

is ce full of new people, how do you guys not recognize this gimmick account

I'm new, but under the impression that the bulk of CE operates on Discords and via alts, so it's frankly hard to tell what's real and what's bullshit.

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DeathDeathSong posted...

is ce full of new people, how do you guys not recognize this gimmick account

I forget my cousin's names, no way I'm going to remember CE people and what they do.

So I'll tag TC, what is the most appropriate description? Troll account? Copypasta poster?

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joe40001 posted...

I forget my cousin's names, no way I'm going to remember CE people and what they do.

So I'll tag TC, what is the most appropriate description? Troll account? Copypasta poster?

I'd go with misogynist personally.
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fire_bolt posted...

Right? My first thought was "LovingPacifist at it again"

Excuse you, his name is Dakero.

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fire_bolt posted...

I'd go with misogynist personally.

But one who posts fake stories? Or is the story real?

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fire_bolt posted...

Right? My first thought was "LovingPacifist at it again"

Same, it's the only reason I clicked the topic after reading the title

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joe40001 posted...

But one who posts fake stories? Or is the story real?

I hope his stories aren't real lol. If so I feel bad for everyone involved. This is the internet, I just assume everyone is lying about drama for internet points
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fire_bolt posted...

I'd go with misogynist personally.

I am not a misogynist, and I don't know where the **** you get the entitlement to call me one.

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Tenlaar posted...

Tell her that, due to the threats she is making against you, you have no choice but to go to the police with her messages and will not be in further contact with her.

If this is real, this is the correct answer-- go to the cops, show them the messages where she's threatening you & take out a restraining order.

If this is just some lame CE gimmick nonsense, then feel free to ignore. I don't pay attention to who is an alt of which troll.

LovingPacifist posted...

I am not a misogynist, and I don't know where the **** you get the entitlement to call me one.

So what is your deal?

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Sounds fake

Call the police. Use your rights.

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joe40001 posted...

So what is your deal?

My deal is that I'm just a poster on this web site that doesn't have a totally boring life so a lot of the users who live on this board call me a liar, and other insults that they don't have any right dishing out.

Also, I'm not going to the cops over this because 1) I'm not a little *****. And 2), if I go to the cops that's escalation. I have no idea what she's going to do once they get involved, and what kind of dirt she might use with her words twisting the reality of our situation to make me out to be the bad guy.

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You kited her too much. Now she's in the town and all the NPCs are pissed and ruining missions for you to do

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This is a thing that happened

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I get the story is bullshit but ive definitely seen stuff like this irl. Several times after me and some girl broke up, theyd call me to tell me how the new guy was better because 'so and so, blah blah blah' and im like ok, cool. Cuz i know im nuts and relationships with me dont end with white picket fences. then eventually it comes out theyre pissed off because they still liked me more. If they dont care they just stop talking to you forever.

Keith_Valentine posted...

I get the story is bullshit but ive definitely seen stuff like this irl. Several times after me and some girl broke up, theyd call me to tell me how the new guy was better because 'so and so, blah blah blah' and im like ok, cool. Cuz i know im nuts and relationships with me dont end with white picket fences. then eventually it comes out theyre pissed off because they still liked me more. If they dont care they just stop talking to you forever.

Keith, you've always seemed like a cool guy so I don't know wtf your problem with me is. I'm not going to get into an insult match w/you because your skepticism doesn't change my overall opinion of your character. But what the **** is your problem coming in here, accusing me of lying but then turning around and saying "Yeah man, I see this happen all the time.".

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Whether or not you feel like a "bitch" for going to the police with this doesnt matter. If this is real you are going to want the law on your side for this and its best to get that help now than later if she decides to make allegations against you.

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but was blood everywhere?

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Eh, if the story is real.... IMO Seems like she could want you to hatefuck her. While you're definitely not innocent, she let herself be used instead of demanding commitment and choosing to cut you off if you didn't want to. She either resents herself for being stupid and allowing you to use her the way you did, or she misses the shallow sexual relationship you used to have and the way you used to fuck her and is trying to get you back into the picture for a chance at it again.

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You really should show this to the cops and explain your side of the story, maybe even get a lawyer. Threatening to beat someone up is a crime and she could get arrested.

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