Current Events > Im that 'BEST FRIEND' of all my friends (and its too much to handle)

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I have a lot of different friend groups that I keep apart (high school, uni, sports, work etc.) and I always seem to be that best friends for all my friends

as in they always message and call and want hang out or to organize social outings and parties

I feel like I have to please everyone because then I get messages of why dont you like/love me anymore even though the last I talked/hung out with them was 2 days ago


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Not quite to that extent, but this is part of why I started secluding myself. Too many people open up to me and it's like "fuck, is this what I get for caring a bit?"

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Its cold at the top

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Evening_Dragon posted...

Not quite to that extent, but this is part of why I started secluding myself. Too many people open up to me and it's like "fuck, is this what I get for caring a bit?"

yeah exactly right

i feel like Im everyones personal therapist

I mean I listen and all and give advice, but its like fucking fuck lets just dance ya know?

but I guess i shouldnt complain its all they have really is me and I glad Im not that person

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With how much you like talking about "wanting to fuck your best friend's wife" and "enjoying seeing your friends in a bad mood" it seems more plausible that you don't have friends at all.

You think that's bad? Try being the friend that always gets asked to sleep with people's wives. The sex is fun, but the wives always become too attached and then I gotta figure out how to get out of it. It's exhausting

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That's my best friend in a nutshell. He's the lynchpin of our social circle.

Saying that, though, I tend to be the go-to shoulder to cry on in my life. Members of my family don't have anyone else to turn to - partners or friends - so they come to me. My best friend also confides in me, and we have very similar senses of humor so it's usually alright. But the stress of being that person for multiple people, without having an outlet of my own (outside of the internet), is pretty rough on me at times.

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SaccharineSmile posted...

I have a lot of different friend groups that I keep apart (high school, uni, sports, work etc.) and I always seem to be that best friends for all my friends

as in they always message and call and want hang out or to organize social outings and parties

I feel like I have to please everyone because then I get messages of why dont you like/love me anymore even though the last I talked/hung out with them was 2 days ago

Invite them all at once at your house

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MrMallard posted...

That's my best friend in a nutshell. He's the lynchpin of our social circle.

Saying that, though, I tend to be the go-to shoulder to cry on in my life. Members of my family don't have anyone else to turn to - partners or friends - so they come to me. My best friend also confides in me, and we have very similar senses of humor so it's usually alright. But the stress of being that person for multiple people, without having an outlet of my own (outside of the internet), is pretty rough on me at times.

Why don't you open up to the people opening up to you?

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TheLastHero posted...

With how much you like talking about "wanting to fuck your best friend's wife" and "enjoying seeing your friends in a bad mood" it seems more plausible that you don't have friends at all.

it's almost like TC's shit is having the most idiotic "i'm an asshole" gimmicks

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TheLastHero posted...

With how much you like talking about "wanting to fuck your best friend's wife" and "enjoying seeing your friends in a bad mood" it seems more plausible that you don't have friends at all.

but thats why people come to me though and I have no idea why considering I both bully and harass my friends but at the same time be the nice sweet guy they can open up to

girls and guy. No matter what I say or do they seem to come back to me

and yes, its the other way around with my best friends wife wanting to fuck me (coming down to visit in a few months time cant wait!)

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Nobody believes you or anything you say but I admire your dedication to the gimmick. It's like you're trying to be some weird mix of Dakero and No_U_L7

TheLastHero posted...

Nobody believes you or anything you say but I admire your dedication to the gimmick. It's like you're trying to be some weird mix of Dakero and No_U_L7

ha!

believe me its all too true

the more friends you have the more crazy situation you get yourself into

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The majority of what you're saying is on point, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's true. You're really selling this character at the least. Hmm.

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Like, I relate to a lot of this. But coming from you, it's more so convincing me that I might also be full of shit, more than it convinces me you're not.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Like, I relate to a lot of this. But coming from you, it's more so convincing me that I might also be full of shit, more than it convinces me you're not.

ha I totally understand where youre coming from but trust me its all but true

as @MrMallard said for me CE/internet is the only place I can talk shit about all my social dramas as I dont do this with my friends (it always comes around and bite you in the butt)

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Interesting. Are you overall happy about this?

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Why don't you open up to the people opening up to you?

Because I don't want to burden other people with my shit. I understand the contradiction in that, speaking freely between two people who are levelling with each other, but outside of very specific circumstances I don't want to impart that same sort of stress to other people.

I've also been traumatised by people levelling with me. No word of a lie - one time I confided in my dad that sometimes the happiest times of my life are when I'm eating, to the point that I want to be eating and/or full all the time just so I feel good. He confided in me that one of his older brothers molested him as a kid. I would have been mid/late teenager at the time - that's something huge that you tell someone you trust, but holy fuck that's hard to come back from, y'know. If I'm gonna be getting that kind of baggage in return, I don't want to share. And like my dad is cool and all, I love him a lot - but Jesus fucking Christ, hearing that sent me reeling.

Like damn, sometimes people need that outlet and a friendly pair of ears to help put things in perspective. But I don't want to dump all my shit onto someone else and make them process my problems the same way that they themselves might do to me. It's basically an extension of the golden rule, treat other people how you want to be treated - in this case, by respecting their privacy and personal space by keeping to myself

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You think that's bad? Try being "the sex guy" it is HORRIBLE everyone in my family expects me to ALWAYS be having sex. My penis hurts >_<

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why are you suddenly becoming a discount scofield

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It's sounds like that thing your dad did at a age where you probably shouldn't be worrying about cold hard realities, kind of put a very dramatic connection to sharing. I have a similar thing, which I won't go into partly because the irony if unloading something on you in this conversation, that I feel might of did the same to me in my youth. I didn't really open up until a few years ago, when I just said fuck it. I think in older ages, most people get way too much going on to take on the burden of others stress. So an open ear might not necessarily mean they take it home with them. Ever sense I started opening up a lil more, all that happens is I find more common ground with others. It's not just a one sided exchange. I dunno if it's just who I'm around, but literally nothing changed for the worst. All it did was make me feel more comfortable to be able to speak my mind and not just play one position.

It feels personal when someone is venting to you. But it really only gets to a certain point if you don't vent back. There is still a very impersonal element to the relationship.

I dunno. I smoked too much to remember how this post started and if I'm even on topic anymore

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Yeah there is this wife who Ive become really great friends over the years that she practically pour out all her emotions thoughts and feelings into me. Its just all too much to process especially when she doesnt speak a word of her problems to her husband

and because I just sit there and listen and agree to everything she wants to fuck me

and to my other friends I swear they get jealous/annoyed when I hang out with my other friends group and I dont hang out with them/have them join my other group

but hey its better to have friends then none at all

99% I dont care I love the drama around me, but sometimes its like fuck is wrong with people and want to disappear and see how their lives would change without me there 24/7 for them

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SaccharineSmile posted...

99% I dont care I love the drama around me, but sometimes its like fuck is wrong with people and want to disappear and see how their lives would change without me there 24/7 for them

Fake your death.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Fake your death.

Or, barring that, fake your brother's death online like Scotty Rogers did

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