Current Events > Do y'all freak out about your parents and grandparents eventually dying

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Like y'all know it's going to happen eventually. I keep getting some image in my head about me getting "that text message" or phone call while either at work or worse doing something fun.

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Yes. Months ago my Dad had a heart attack, he made it but it really puts things into perspective.

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Yeah

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my dad passed away, and my grandparents were killed, but I still dread the idea when it comes to my mom.

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My grandparents have been gone for nearly half of my life, but I high-level dread the loss of either of my parents. My dad had a major health scare about three years ago, and now it's all I can do not to freak out every time he catches a cold or has a dizzy spell.

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No. My father already died. My grandparents take up most of my time and I had to put the business in hold because they can't take care of themselves with the dementia. It is very tiring and my mother doesn't seem to comprehend that they aren't really themselves anymore. There is no use yelling at my grandfather for something you went over with him many times. He doesn't remember. He can't remember. You can jog his memory. Yet somehow me doing things for him without telling him is what's disrespectful. Tricking him into drinking diet soda instead of regular(he has diabetes and obviously cent remember to take his shots) and trying to even seen him off of that is wrong in her eyes. She's claims to not want to lose her parents, but she's actively stopping others from helping whilst simultaneously not doing the things needed to help them. I'm at my wit's end.
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They're boomers and I'm an anxious prick so of course.

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All my grandparents are dead and my mother has cancer currently. Not terminal yet hopefully she will live.

Death does not freak me out. I would rather my mother not die yet as she is in her sixties. But it does not freak me out. The possability makes me sad, but it happens. I grew up in a funeral home, so, I spent my life growing up around dead people. Death is coming for us now or later. The world will carry on without you.

I find that propsition somewhat relieving.

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Grandparents are long gone but my dad had a cancer scare 6 years ago. It really shook me. Everyone dies, but I really worry about when my parents are gone. I'm the oldest so I'll probably have to handle everything.

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ugh depressing thread

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I haven't been able to stop thinking about it for months. I love my parents so much but I only see them for two weeks a year. We speak every day on the phone but I have been feeling such sadness that I'll lose them soon enough--my winter visits to them are limited.

I'm with them now and it's so nice. I want to see them more and not just in Decembers.

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My brother just died unexpectedly in Tokyo, like literally last week. My dad died in February of this year. We expected that to happen due to his health problems. My brother dying has broken the family, only 37 years old. Leaves behind 2 kids and a wife. I'll miss him for the rest of my life, and I thank God he was there when it came down to the decision to let dad go. We knew our dad didn't want to go on a vegetable.

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I don't have grandparents anymore.

Honestly, I don't think I'm ready for my parents to go, but they're getting up there.

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Yeah, because I care about them and will miss them. At the same time, I know it is a inescapeable part of life and that we all need to die eventually to make room for future generations, but that's not to say we shouldn't try to live as long as we can of course. Still, we should mainly focus on doing right by our families, friends and even some others, within reason, and bring them joy.

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KillerKhan420 posted...

My brother just died unexpectedly in Tokyo, like literally last week. My dad died in February of this year. We expected that to happen due to his health problems. My brother dying has broken the family, only 37 years old. Leaves behind 2 kids and a wife. I'll miss him for the rest of my life, and I thank God he was there when it came down to the decision to let dad go. We knew our dad didn't want to go on a vegetable.

Damn. I'm sorry for your loss man. Your family must be reeling and I wish you and yours nothing but the best and that you all can move past the pain ASAP.

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KillerKhan420 posted...

My brother just died unexpectedly in Tokyo, like literally last week. My dad died in February of this year. We expected that to happen due to his health problems. My brother dying has broken the family, only 37 years old. Leaves behind 2 kids and a wife. I'll miss him for the rest of my life, and I thank God he was there when it came down to the decision to let dad go. We knew our dad didn't want to go on a vegetable.

I'm so sorry man

Yeah. My dad died early this year from early-onset alzheimer's and my mother isn't really in great condition (overweight and needing oxygen tanks) so like, I don't know how long she'll last.

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Yeah, the latter end of last year and the beginning of this year really smacked me with some reality. My grandfather passed in late December, and then my father whom I haven't seen or spoken to in 14 years passed two months later.

As far as my grandma's concerned, I can't tell when she'll go but I have a feeling it's gonna be sooner than I think. I've never seen her in such a constant somber mood since my grandfather passed, and my mom tells me she still cries like it happened yesterday whenever she's around her.

And as for my mom, well she's actually in quite good health. She's a bit older than most people's parents in my age group (I'm 27, my mom's 63), so that's really my main hangup. Even though I thought my mom's older age would mean she's gonna be gone before most other people's parents, I've noticed over the past couple of years a lot of other friend's parents either dying or at worst, being diagnosed with cancer or something. All I know is when my mom does eventually pass, I will never be ready for it. Whether it happens tomorrow or if she stays around until I'm in my 50's, I simply will NOT be able to deal with it. If I'm even able to make it long enough to be there for her services, I know I won't be around for much longer than that. Cannot imagine living in a world without her voice and guidance. Nobody will ever show me the kind of love and caring my mom does.

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Number090684 posted...

Damn. I'm sorry for your loss man. Your family must be reeling and I wish you and yours nothing but the best and that you all can move past the pain ASAP.

Thank you. Yeah my mom is devastated and our older brother hasn't wanted to see anyone. So far away. We have no idea what happened to him, the morning he complained of stomach pain, but saw off the family, his wife for work and the kids for school. His oldest got home from school to find him already on the floor. The first time he ever told me in my life that he loved me was when dad died, because I was the only one bedside for him when he passed. But I don't think you heal from these things, you never get over it. It is life though and life is completely random and not fair. Him and my dad were so close, and that's how he met his wife. Meeting a Japanese woman in Mexico of all places. She says it will take 2 months to determine the cause, but that seems a little long, I got my dad's certificate within a matter of weeks.

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Nah.

My grandmother just die on Wednesday 18.12.2019
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JBaLLEN66 posted...

ugh depressing thread

shit happens :(. our parents died. did make peace with our mom 5 years before she died (she wasn't in our life around middle school and beyond).

it's going to suck if grandfather kicks the bucket, the state want to put him into a home (i'm highly against assisted living unless it's a last resort) dementia is getting worse.

the reason why: because i think old folks homes are prisons.
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