Current Events > What are your (non-sexual) turnoffs?

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Can be in the context of relationships, family, friends, etc etc:

- Rudeness to service staff (like waiters)
- Arguments in bad faith
- Childish behavior (being silly/dorky is one thing, acting like an overgrown child is another)
- Guilt/manipulation to get what you want instead of being straightforward
- Being rude in general when it isnt warranted (like ignoring people who greet you :/)
- Willful ignorance and a distinct unwillingness to be informed on issues they argue about
- Mean spirited trolling/comments in general
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Pretty much just rudeness in general, I can't really think of anything specific that the OP doesn't cover.
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People who convinced themselves they're good people but naw they ain't. And when you try to reasonably explain to them why they ain't good people, they get mad and lash out and denies the explanation.

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Smoking
Ugly tattoos
Has a Gamefaqs account
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V-E-G-Y- posted...

Smoking
Ugly tattoos
Has a Gamefaqs account

Ooooh I dont really like smoking either
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selfish, snobby and show offs are at the top of the list.
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PatrickMahomes posted...

Pretty much just rudeness in general, I can't really think of anything specific that the OP doesn't cover.

This, there's basically never an excuse for it.

Smoking is a huge one for me also.
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people who chew with their mouth open

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All that, yeah. Basically the default.

People who like having reasons to be upset. Not like, dumb internet reasons that don't actually matter, but real life looking for trouble, an excuse to yell at someone.

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Forgetfulness. I hate having to repeat myself, or having to hear someone repeat themselves because they forgot they told me something already.

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people who can't empathise with others, close minded and can't look at things from a different point of view

that's probably the worst imo

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Anything but blonde hair
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• Childish behavior
• Manipulative people
• Being rude in general when it isnt warranted (I hate to admit my wife can be like this at times; it's the source of some of our arguments)
• Bad hygiene (bad breath in particular)
• Cigarette smoking
• People who are always always on their phone even during social interactions or conversations

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Flockaveli posted...

Forgetfulness. I hate having to repeat myself, or having to hear someone repeat themselves because they forgot they told me something already.

This one is fucking weird bro. I have had head injuries that have made me forget significant chunks of my life, and my short term memory is spotty these days because of it.

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pres_madagascar posted...

This one is fucking weird bro. I have had head injuries that have made me forget significant chunks of my life, and my short term memory is spotty these days because of it.

Fair. I meant it as in just mental clumsiness or absentmindedness.

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Flockaveli posted...

Forgetfulness. I hate having to repeat myself, or having to hear someone repeat themselves because they forgot they told me something already.

i feel bad because i geninuely have a bad memory. it comes across like i don't care or rudeness but honestly i suck at that. i try and make a point of apologising beforehand but the person's face says it all :|

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Tattoos above the collar bone, below the knee, below the elbow.
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Stagnation.
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- Rudeness
- Racism
- Bad manners
- Body odor or bad breath
- trashiness

Parappa09 posted...

people who can't empathise with others, close minded and can't look at things from a different point of view

that's probably the worst imo

This! I nearly forgot the most important one - lack of empathy. :(
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I've had a girlfriend in the past who talked an absurd amount of trash about "girls who use mental illness as an excuse for bad behavior," but I'm sure you figured this out before I said it: She blamed her bipolar disorder for every single extremely manipulative and abusive thing she ever did to me. It was hypocritical as hell and she didn't even realize it.
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SquantoZ posted...

<ul><li>Childish behavior </li><li>Manipulative people</li><li>Being rude in general when it isnt warranted (I hate to admit my wife can be like this at times; it's the source of some of our arguments)</li><li>Bad hygiene (bad breath in particular)</li><li>Cigarette smoking</li><li>People who are always always on their phone even during social interactions or conversations</li></ul>

I agree about the phone thing especially... like why even go out if youre going to be more worried about dumb meme pages on Facebook when you can look at that crap from home
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People who chew with their mouths open, or talk while chewing.

People who build nests in public toilets and don't flush their sweaty ass-paper when they're done.

Guys who scratch/play with their dick and balls too often.

People who talk on their phones in public.

People who prefer face time to just a regular conversation.

People who use Snapchat/Instagram/fucking whatever filters on pictures.

People who use emojis too much.

Making contact for the sake of making contact.
One of my biggest relationship pet-peeves is the "hey" text. It's utterly pointless. If you don't have something to say, or have a question to ask, don't text me.
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Parappa09 posted...

i feel bad because i geninuely have a bad memory. it comes across like i don't care or rudeness but honestly i suck at that. i try and make a point of apologising beforehand but the person's face says it all :|

Fair enough, thanks for making that distinction. There is a difference when people express empathy for forgetting something, and someone who just acts in a way that makes it seem like they maybe just don't care about anything at all or ever take anything seriously.

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Flockaveli posted...

Parappa09 posted...

i feel bad because i geninuely have a bad memory. it comes across like i don't care or rudeness but honestly i suck at that. i try and make a point of apologising beforehand but the person's face says it all :|

Fair enough, thanks for making that distinction. There is a difference when people express empathy for forgetting something, and someone who just acts in a way that makes it seem like they maybe just don't care about anything at all or ever take anything seriously.

This too. Cant stand absentmindedness. Being unwilling to pay attention for 5 seconds screams I only care about me
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thought of another one that i hit at work at alot.

people who cant have a 2 way conversation that steer everything back to themselves...not sure what that would be called. selfishness or narcissism i guess since they cant have a conversation unless they are in the center of it.
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BuckVanHammer posted...

thought of another one that i hit at work at alot.

people who cant have a 2 way conversation that steer everything back to themselves...not sure what that would be called. selfishness or narcissism i guess since they cant have a conversation unless they are in the center of it.

Sometimes people try to relate and are awkward going about it so I try to give those people the benefit of the doubt.
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Ugh I don't even fucking know where to begin... -_-
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People who think they know everything/their way is the best way ALWAYS.

Things go as they expect, it's because they are all knowing and so much better than everyone else.

Things get fucked, it was due to an outside factor. "Someone's trying to sabotage me, something must be broken, bla bla bla."

Things gets fucked AND go in way YOU expected them to go, "Well you just got lucky. Don't test your luck/give yourself too much credit."

And the worst is when they just REFUSE to learn. "I'm sticking to my method because that's what works for me." Uh well apparently not, definitely not just now and definitely not in the last few attempts/years. Things change, get over it.

TLDR people who can't admit that they're wrong, people who downright refuse to learn.

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_Matchabuu_ posted...

BuckVanHammer posted...

thought of another one that i hit at work at alot.

people who cant have a 2 way conversation that steer everything back to themselves...not sure what that would be called. selfishness or narcissism i guess since they cant have a conversation unless they are in the center of it.

Sometimes people try to relate and are awkward going about it so I try to give those people the benefit of the doubt.

ya you definently need quite a few conversations to get to the worst offenders im speaking of.
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Checking your phone in the middle of an engaging conversation. If Im just talking about the weather or what I ate yesterday and you check your phone, fair game. Just don't break the momentum of a good flowing conversation by checking your facebook feed

Also, if I just listened to you talk about boring shit and It's my turn to talk about the same boring shit. Give me the same respect. At first I more so meant if im just filling the silence with words at my own pace.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Checking your phone in the middle of an engaging conversation. If Im just talking about the weather or what I ate yesterday and you check your phone, fair game. Just don't break the momentum of a good flowing conversation by checking your facebook feed

Ive just stopped having deep conversations with people like that. Like no you dont get to have access to that part of my being if youre more interested in your aunts sisters hairdressers dumb boomer memes and you just keep going oh and scrolling through fb. God. The best/worst part is that they dont even see what theyre doing or that Ive stopped trying.
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pointy elbows
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_Matchabuu_ posted...

Can be in the context of relationships, family, friends, etc etc:

- Rudeness to service staff (like waiters)
- Arguments in bad faith
- Childish behavior (being silly/dorky is one thing, acting like an overgrown child is another)
- Guilt/manipulation to get what you want instead of being straightforward
- Being rude in general when it isnt warranted (like ignoring people who greet you :/)
- Willful ignorance and a distinct unwillingness to be informed on issues they argue about
- Mean spirited trolling/comments in general

This is actually a good list of red flags for a partner. People like this aren't going to have healthy or lasting relationships.
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Oh they'll have them because they're the type (close to narcissists) who tend to attract more vulnerable people who don't know their own worth; such as people who have been abused/manipulated in the past. Won't be healthy though. :/
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EndOfDiscOne posted...

This is actually a good list of red flags for a partner. People like this aren't going to have healthy or lasting relationships.

Im glad to say, as far as I can see into myself, I don't think I have any of those faults. I basically based my whole personality around making people want to be around me. And at 30, all of it just comes completely effortless now. And yes I can reach my own dick with my mouth and that's how I made this post.

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Being rude to others, jealousy, manipulation, childish behavior, patronizing.
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LOL

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Smoking is a major turnoff. Weed is fine but I can't stand women smoking cigarettes

- no drive in life

Few others but those two stand out the most
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Smoking, rudeness, lack of responsibility
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-Obsessiveness. Ive met way too many girls who will text me as soon as they wake up and wont stop until they fall asleep every single day.

-Controlling. That probably doesnt need explanation.

-Any type of discrimination.

-Bad manners. If I introduce you to my family, please do not be swearing like a sailor or belching loudly at the table.

-Good health and fitness. Just try to live a healthy lifestyle and stay in decent shape.

-Bad hygiene.

-Talking too much or being very loud. This is just a personal pet peeve but Im not much of a talker. People who talk just to hear themselves talk or people who are always loud do not mix well with me.
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thronedfire2 posted...

people who chew with their mouth open

this for sure and people who smack or lick their fingers in public while eating and people who talk with food in their mouth

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harassing people is also a turnoff

just let shit go. damn.
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bump
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Bitches who yell at customer service reps
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Non sexual huh..

Talking too much, like talking just to talk

taking friends for granted

taking pride in being misinformed/uninformed

people who act like their side is the only side to an argument

people who are overly sensitive. Sorry, you're not special and the world doesn't revolve around you. Get over it.
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interesting
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