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emblem boy
09/12/19 7:23:14 PM
#52:


De Evolution posted...
emblem boy posted...
Na. We're Nigerian and they've had no issues with my brother and sister. My sister married a another Nigerian, but different tribe. My brother married a white woman, they didn't care.

My gf is half black half white


Nigerians are very welcoming of interracial relationships.

A bit too open sometimes to accept other cultures but oh well. My family's the same.


Lol, in what way?
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Fony
09/12/19 7:26:23 PM
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I'm also Nigerian and I don't think we're all that open to IR dating. Not more than anyone else(who isn't just racist). Also, quite a few Naija parents don't want non African in-laws if possible. In my case my parents know they have no say in my life choices and I've always been an opportunist in dating. I've actually never even dated a Nigerian girl or a black girl period since the ones that I would actually date were always already taken.
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ThyCorndog
09/12/19 7:27:19 PM
#54:


emblem boy posted...
keep the language and traditions strong

this is the reasoning for all of my relatives in general
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TheMikh
09/12/19 7:27:54 PM
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Father, no
Mother, yes
Both insist on a certain socioeconomic threshold though
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De Evolution
09/12/19 8:08:35 PM
#56:


emblem boy posted...
De Evolution posted...
emblem boy posted...
Na. We're Nigerian and they've had no issues with my brother and sister. My sister married a another Nigerian, but different tribe. My brother married a white woman, they didn't care.

My gf is half black half white


Nigerians are very welcoming of interracial relationships.

A bit too open sometimes to accept other cultures but oh well. My family's the same.


Lol, in what way?


Eagerness to marry their kid off to someone in a different culture. I feel like there should be a bit of pride.

Maybe it's the Pan-Africanist in me but black people are typically the most welcoming and eager to marry non-black people.

While the opposite is true for everyone else and in most other cultures you'd get disowned for getting with a black person.

We should love ourselves more.
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emblem boy
09/12/19 8:18:13 PM
#57:


De Evolution posted...
emblem boy posted...
De Evolution posted...
emblem boy posted...
Na. We're Nigerian and they've had no issues with my brother and sister. My sister married a another Nigerian, but different tribe. My brother married a white woman, they didn't care.

My gf is half black half white


Nigerians are very welcoming of interracial relationships.

A bit too open sometimes to accept other cultures but oh well. My family's the same.


Lol, in what way?


Eagerness to marry their kid off to someone in a different culture. I feel like there should be a bit of pride.

Maybe it's the Pan-Africanist in me but black people are typically the most welcoming and eager to marry non-black people.

While the opposite is true for everyone else and in most other cultures you'd get disowned for getting with a black person.

We should love ourselves more.


I can agree that I can find it weird when people are purposely and eagerly looking to get with someone of a different race. Especially if it's due to some...weird reasons.

But ehh, at times it's just your environment. I moved to Denver after college and I do shit like snowboarding. There aren't many black people in this area in general. I would not have been surprised to have ended up with a white woman.

If I had stayed in Dallas, just the fact that I hanged around lots of other Africans, I wouldn't have been surprised if I got with am African woman
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mooreandrew58
09/12/19 8:19:52 PM
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No my mom wont do it herself but she will tell you though that it's only because thats how she was raised and interracial stuff just wasnt common anyways when she was coming up. But shes never said shit or acted funny when ive brought around a black guy or mexican guy.
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De Evolution
09/12/19 8:24:05 PM
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emblem boy posted...
I can agree that I can find it weird when people are purposely and eagerly looking to get with someone of a different race. Especially if it's due to some...weird reasons.

But ehh, at times it's just your environment. I moved to Denver after college and I do shit like snowboarding. There aren't many black people in this area in general. I would not have been surprised to have ended up with a white woman.

If I had stayed in Dallas, just the fact that I hanged around lots of other Africans, I wouldn't have been surprised if I got with am African woman


Exactly. I grew up most of my life in Redondo Beach and dated pretty much only white women til I moved to Long Beach and started dating more black women. Now my current gf is black like me.

I'm not super against interracial dating but I've noticed certain patterns of people who only seek out a specific race and won't ever date their own race. My sister is one example.

I find it weird to have a "preference" of someone outside of your own race to be honest. I feel like there's something psychological going on because I think on an animal level you're naturally attracted to people in your own group/who resemble you.
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Lil_Bit83
09/12/19 8:37:50 PM
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No and I would not listen to them anyway. What guys I date are my business. Only a couple of my family members are openly racist and Mr. Deadbeat doesn't count because 1) I disowned him and 2) Me and my half-brothers are only part white, so he's definitely got no room to talk the big hypocrite.

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knuxnole
09/12/19 9:04:53 PM
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Im black and they want me to marry someone who is also black.
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TeaMilk
09/12/19 9:10:51 PM
#62:


DarkRoast posted...
LadyVyxx posted...
I'm Korean and I know my parents would rather I marry a Korean boy but I've already told them absolutely not.


Shame you're not lesbian/bi. I'm basically the only lesbian Chinese / East Asian I know :(
I'm bi and half white/Chinese. Are you part white too or am I remembering wrong?
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Cobra1010
09/12/19 9:19:51 PM
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Pretty sure most white parents wouldn't accept an Asian son in law.
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DarkRoast
09/12/19 9:37:59 PM
#64:


TeaMilk posted...
DarkRoast posted...
LadyVyxx posted...
I'm Korean and I know my parents would rather I marry a Korean boy but I've already told them absolutely not.


Shame you're not lesbian/bi. I'm basically the only lesbian Chinese / East Asian I know :(
I'm bi and half white/Chinese. Are you part white too or am I remembering wrong?


Yep

Good ol' half and half!
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MuayThai85
09/12/19 9:38:15 PM
#65:


ThyCorndog posted...
to expand on what I said, it's a weird hierarchy of who is ok for me to marry
where basically I should marry another albanian
failing that, I should marry someone nearby (bosnian, croatian, greek, italian, etc)
failing that, it should at least be a white person or maybe even middle eastern

past that, it's basically unheard of. I don't have a single relative that married someone black, asian or hispanic

of course, at the end of the day, they can suck it. cause it's my life and they're gonna love me anyway cause they're my parents


My family is white (Irish, Scottish, British) and besides my cousin and I (she married a guy from Guiana, my wife is Thai), no one in the family has been in an interracial relationship. Its pretty shocking because I have a really big family (my dad has 2 siblings, my mom has 14 siblings and I have like 50 cousins).

My cousin dated black guys pretty much exclusively. Her parents were extremely racist so it was kinda karmic. I remember when I had enlisted into the military, my aunt literally said to me "why are you doing that? Why do you want to fight for the n******?" I was taken completely off guard by it. She died 2 years ago from cancer and it is the one thing that still stands out most in my mind about her.
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darkstar4221
09/12/19 9:45:20 PM
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No. Most of us live in America and interracial couples is common and sometimes encouraged.
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ThyCorndog
09/12/19 9:48:06 PM
#67:


MuayThai85 posted...
ThyCorndog posted...
to expand on what I said, it's a weird hierarchy of who is ok for me to marry
where basically I should marry another albanian
failing that, I should marry someone nearby (bosnian, croatian, greek, italian, etc)
failing that, it should at least be a white person or maybe even middle eastern

past that, it's basically unheard of. I don't have a single relative that married someone black, asian or hispanic

of course, at the end of the day, they can suck it. cause it's my life and they're gonna love me anyway cause they're my parents


My family is white (Irish, Scottish, British) and besides my cousin and I (she married a guy from Guiana, my wife is Thai), no one in the family has been in an interracial relationship. Its pretty shocking because I have a really big family (my dad has 2 siblings, my mom has 14 siblings and I have like 50 cousins).

My cousin dated black guys pretty much exclusively. Her parents were extremely racist so it was kinda karmic. I remember when I had enlisted into the military, my aunt literally said to me "why are you doing that? Why do you want to fight for the n******?" I was taken completely off guard by it. She died 2 years ago from cancer and it is the one thing that still stands out most in my mind about her.

yeah in my case it's starting to fall apart with my generation. lots of cousins dating people of all kinds of ethnicities. it's the older people who try to cling onto that stuff
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mattnd2007
09/12/19 9:49:38 PM
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They would be ok with me not getting with a white lady, but would still prefer if I did

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NobleWill8
09/12/19 9:53:15 PM
#69:


emblem boy posted...
Na. We're Nigerian and they've had no issues with my brother and sister. My sister married a another Nigerian, but different tribe. My brother married a white woman, they didn't care.

My gf is half black half white

Ey, a Nigerian! My parents are from Cameroon.
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JBaLLEN66
09/12/19 9:55:19 PM
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My grandma and mom wants me with a black woman but my dad remarried to a white woman lol
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mooreandrew58
09/12/19 11:11:24 PM
#71:


Cobra1010 posted...
Pretty sure most white parents wouldn't accept an Asian son in law.


Even somewhat racist people (unless from Vietnam korean war or ww2 eras) I think thats the one race theyd have the least problem with.

Then again a lot of GIs back in the day brought thrm back a korean wife. Think it was they liked that whole subserviant wife thing asians where known for back then (dunno if thats still how it is i dont keep up with it)
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Solar_Crimson
09/13/19 8:15:03 AM
#72:


mooreandrew58 posted...
Then again a lot of GIs back in the day brought thrm back a korean wife. Think it was they liked that whole subserviant wife thing asians where known for back then (dunno if thats still how it is i dont keep up with it)

That's pretty much exactly how it is.

Hell, some men still tell other men to get with Asian women (specifically Asian women actually from their countries) because they haven't been "tainted" with the ideas of feminism.
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emblem boy
09/13/19 11:48:01 AM
#73:


NobleWill8 posted...
emblem boy posted...
Na. We're Nigerian and they've had no issues with my brother and sister. My sister married a another Nigerian, but different tribe. My brother married a white woman, they didn't care.

My gf is half black half white

Ey, a Nigerian! My parents are from Cameroon.


A lot of Africans popping up in this topic
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SSJGrimReaper
09/13/19 11:49:54 AM
#74:


emblem boy posted...
NobleWill8 posted...
emblem boy posted...
Na. We're Nigerian and they've had no issues with my brother and sister. My sister married a another Nigerian, but different tribe. My brother married a white woman, they didn't care.

My gf is half black half white

Ey, a Nigerian! My parents are from Cameroon.


A lot of Africans popping up in this topic

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Fony
09/13/19 11:51:42 AM
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Lmao
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Touch
09/13/19 11:52:11 AM
#76:


Yeah. My parents want me to date a human
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The Top Crusader
09/13/19 12:14:53 PM
#77:


MuayThai85 posted...
Not really. My mom has just always made it known that she wouldn't be happy if my brother or I married a Muslim. Especially because of the whole having to convert bullshit.


Something like that didn't cross my mind--my parents wouldn't have wanted me to marry outside of our religion (and probably especially Muslim >_>), but they never cared about ethnicity/race. If so they certainly never verbalized it.
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Vol2tex
09/14/19 2:35:53 PM
#78:


SSJGrimReaper posted...
emblem boy posted...
NobleWill8 posted...
emblem boy posted...
Na. We're Nigerian and they've had no issues with my brother and sister. My sister married a another Nigerian, but different tribe. My brother married a white woman, they didn't care.

My gf is half black half white

Ey, a Nigerian! My parents are from Cameroon.


A lot of Africans popping up in this topic

n9BbQOt


Hah
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