Current Events > Does your family pressure you to date/marry certain ethnicities/races?

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How have you reacted?
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my parents would heavily prefer me to marry someone of my own ethnicity but they're not gonna disown me or anything if I don't. they'll be disappointed tho
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No
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Lol no

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I'm white, most of my exes have been hispanic and both my parents always hated it. I don't give a shit what they think though.
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Nope.
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My parents wanted me to marry a Hispanic but weren't surprised when I married a white girl. I've been mostly crushing on white girls since I was in the 2nd grade. Lo and behold my siblings followed in my footsteps.
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Nah, i've honestly never dated and brought home someone of my own race (not for any reason, just haven't met one i wanted to date and introduce to my family), and they've been fine. I know deep down they feel it would be more comfortable for them, but at the end of the day they know i'm the one dating her and as long as i'm happy they'll make it work.
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Nah, that whole pressure to marry within your race is whack as fuck

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I'm Black, and while they don't care, my family fully expects me to end up with an Asian woman.
Hell, my sisters said that they would actually be surprised if I ended up marrying a Black woman.

Also, one of my uncles is married to a White woman.
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Solar_Crimson posted...

I'm Black, and while they don't care, my family fully expects me to end up with an Asian woman.
Hell, my sisters said that they would actually be surprised if I ended up marrying a Black woman.

Also, one of my uncles is married to a White woman.

My brother was like that, he's mostly been with Asian women but he's seen how racist their parents tend to be. The girl he was going to marry, her parents threatened to disown her if she kept dating my brother.
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All my family is stone cold dead aside three aunts and two sisters and they don't give a damn what I do.
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PrettyBoyFloyd posted...

All my family is stone cold dead aside three aunts and two sisters and they don't give a damn what I do.

Sorry to hear that
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Not really. My mom has just always made it known that she wouldn't be happy if my brother or I married a Muslim. Especially because of the whole having to convert bullshit.
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It's crazy to me that parents are like this. Mine have never said anything about who I date... Almost at all but especially not in terms of race/ethnicity/religion etc

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Vol2tex posted...

Solar_Crimson posted...

I'm Black, and while they don't care, my family fully expects me to end up with an Asian woman.
Hell, my sisters said that they would actually be surprised if I ended up marrying a Black woman.

Also, one of my uncles is married to a White woman.

My brother was like that, he's mostly been with Asian women but he's seen how racist their parents tend to be. The girl he was going to marry, her parents threatened to disown her if she kept dating my brother.

Yeah, I think you mentioned that before. She ended up married to a White guy, right?
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Solar_Crimson posted...

Vol2tex posted...

Solar_Crimson posted...

I'm Black, and while they don't care, my family fully expects me to end up with an Asian woman.
Hell, my sisters said that they would actually be surprised if I ended up marrying a Black woman.

Also, one of my uncles is married to a White woman.

My brother was like that, he's mostly been with Asian women but he's seen how racist their parents tend to be. The girl he was going to marry, her parents threatened to disown her if she kept dating my brother.

Yeah, I think you mentioned that before. She ended up married to a White guy, right?

Yes
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Vol2tex posted...

Solar_Crimson posted...

Vol2tex posted...

Solar_Crimson posted...

I'm Black, and while they don't care, my family fully expects me to end up with an Asian woman.
Hell, my sisters said that they would actually be surprised if I ended up marrying a Black woman.

Also, one of my uncles is married to a White woman.

My brother was like that, he's mostly been with Asian women but he's seen how racist their parents tend to be. The girl he was going to marry, her parents threatened to disown her if she kept dating my brother.

Yeah, I think you mentioned that before. She ended up married to a White guy, right?

Yes

That's a shame. But it's like, what can you do about it when White guys have just about every advantage on that front?
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No pressure. I'm a black man.

Though I know deep down that my mom especially wants me to settle down with another black woman.

My sister and female cousins have all dated/married white guys.
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Everytime I date a girl, the first thing I hear is "she's not black/Hispanic is she?"
No idea how they would react honestly, but I love me some dark skinned girls.
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My mom always says if she cant use your comb dont bring her home.
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Solar_Crimson posted...

Vol2tex posted...

Solar_Crimson posted...

Vol2tex posted...

Solar_Crimson posted...

I'm Black, and while they don't care, my family fully expects me to end up with an Asian woman.
Hell, my sisters said that they would actually be surprised if I ended up marrying a Black woman.

Also, one of my uncles is married to a White woman.

My brother was like that, he's mostly been with Asian women but he's seen how racist their parents tend to be. The girl he was going to marry, her parents threatened to disown her if she kept dating my brother.

Yeah, I think you mentioned that before. She ended up married to a White guy, right?

Yes

That's a shame. But it's like, what can you do about it when White guys have just about every advantage on that front?

I guess all we can hope is that the first generation immigrants who become parents end up being less racist with their children.

But yeah, my brother even goes to some formal networking events and a white guy would interrupt and take over his conversation with an asian girl, or an asian girl would stop talking to him to go talk to a white guy.
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I get pressured to date in general. My dad was a bit of a player. Im an introvert thats honestly nothing special in the looks department, so going Pops route isnt exactly working out.
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no

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I'm Korean and I know my parents would rather I marry a Korean boy but I've already told them absolutely not.

Being mixed race, I never had to think about it.

My fiancee is Ethiopian-American, and my/her family has totally been chill about it.

I have a few distant relatives who oppose LGBT marriages, but not interracial.

They're still coming, though, so I appreciate their willingness to set aside their differences.
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Nope.
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De Evolution posted...

No pressure. I'm a black man.

Though I know deep down that my mom especially wants me to settle down with another black woman.

My sister and female cousins have all dated/married white guys.

That's kind of interesting to me. My gfs family is kind of the opposite, her parents don't care but her cousins can't understand why she'd date a white guy. They don't talk about it when I'm around usually, but any family function I miss it's apparently a topic of conversation

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Well, there's never been anything explicit

But I feel like I'd get more shit for bringing home a non-white woman than if I brought home a man
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LadyVyxx posted...

I'm Korean and I know my parents would rather I marry a Korean boy but I've already told them absolutely not.

Shame you're not lesbian/bi. I'm basically the only lesbian Chinese / East Asian I know :(
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Balrog0 posted...

De Evolution posted...

No pressure. I'm a black man.

Though I know deep down that my mom especially wants me to settle down with another black woman.

My sister and female cousins have all dated/married white guys.

That's kind of interesting to me. My gfs family is kind of the opposite, her parents don't care but her cousins can't understand why she'd date a white guy. They don't talk about it when I'm around usually, but any family function I miss it's apparently a topic of conversation

Honestly... I can't really understand why my sister dates only white guys either.

Especially since none of them had money/good jobs and they were all out of shape.

It kind of frustrates me that my sister would choose a mediocre man just cuz he's white when there's more options out there.

Also my female cousin that married a white guy was lecturing me on my tattoos and how I need to present myself as a black man, meanwhile she's laid up with a man and has biracial kids.

In just 1 more generation your bloodline will be almost completely white and you're lecturing me on how I need to represent the race? Nah .
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Who cares about racial purity? If he or she is sexy, get busy with 'em. We're the human race, and we come in different sexy colors.
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My parents get pretty upset when I date Hispanic or black chicks, so I guess?
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DarkRoast posted...

LadyVyxx posted...

I'm Korean and I know my parents would rather I marry a Korean boy but I've already told them absolutely not.

Shame you're not lesbian/bi. I'm basically the only lesbian Chinese / East Asian I know :(

I'm actually Bi but to be honest I havent dated another woman in a few years so generally I just say I'm looking for a boyfriend. I guess my issue is that I swear my parents would unfortunately probably cut all contact with me for a while if I straight up brought a girlfriend to a family function.

My parents are super religious and extreamly involved in the Korean catholic church here and as I'm sure you know all too well asian parents are all about "what will others think".

I live on my own and I've had girls over before but seriously dating one it's been a while...

I expected by mom (from China) to be a little wary about it when I came out last year, especially since LGBTQ stuff is very hush-hush in China, but she was almost disturbingly chill about it. Like it was the most normal thing in the world.

But yes, she has occasionally dropped a line about how some of her neighbors in China have been gossiping about it.
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Asking this on CE? They need to get past the basement exit stage before such issues can manifest.

Vol2tex posted...

But yeah, my brother even goes to some formal networking events and a white guy would interrupt and take over his conversation with an asian girl, or an asian girl would stop talking to him to go talk to a white guy.

Wow, that's pretty scummy, and definitely a confidence-breaker.
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DarkRoast posted...

I expected by mom (from China) to be a little wary about it when I came out last year, especially since LGBTQ stuff is very hush-hush in China, but she was almost disturbingly chill about it. Like it was the most normal thing in the world.

But yes, she has occasionally dropped a line about how some of her neighbors in China have been gossiping about it.

Awe her being accepting is still great, if I knew my mother would be at least accepting of it I can easily deal with the odd jab or something. My dads a softy I know he wouldn't really care. My mothers always been the overbearing one.
Next time she asks about if I've been talking to any cute Korean boys I'll mention a cute Korean girl and guage her reaction... before she throws something at me lol

All Korean boys are cute. That's the problem.
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DarkRoast posted...

All Korean boys are cute. That's the problem.

Cute yes ... sexy no >_> I'm sorry just my preference I like cute but whenever I get butterflies talking to other woman it's usually Japanese girls sighhhh
I met the cutest Croatian girl the other day but she has a boyfriend

i'm black and i'm sure my family would have preferred me going out with a woman but instead a white guy

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Surprisingly I don't think I know any Japanese girls IRL.

My first girlfriend was 100% Cherokee, which was kind of cool since I'm actually a member of the Cherokee Nation (though very little percentage)
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to expand on what I said, it's a weird hierarchy of who is ok for me to marry
where basically I should marry another albanian
failing that, I should marry someone nearby (bosnian, croatian, greek, italian, etc)
failing that, it should at least be a white person or maybe even middle eastern

past that, it's basically unheard of. I don't have a single relative that married someone black, asian or hispanic

of course, at the end of the day, they can suck it. cause it's my life and they're gonna love me anyway cause they're my parents
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the biggest pressure is to HAVE a bf, not that I struggle in that department but I know she worries about me when Im single? Not sure quite why.
Though my mom and I are white, I actually think my mom prefers me to date brown guys, whether thats Indian, Hispanic, black, whatever. I think shes had a lot of bad experiences with white men, and I know it was bad with her Asian ex husband. My sisters dads were Mexican and Chinese. Mom is in her late sixties and have some non-malicious racist opinions/stereotypes she believes but has never pressured me either way with anything datingwise.
She has also always been perfectly fine that I like other genders as well.
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My parents always try to push me to date Asian girls, which I will never do. They both don't like me dating white girls and are flat out racist about any other. Typical hapa life story.

Nope, and interracial marriages are pretty common in my extended family
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Na. We're Nigerian and they've had no issues with my brother and sister. My sister married a another Nigerian, but different tribe. My brother married a white woman, they didn't care.

My gf is half black half white
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emblem boy posted...

Na. We're Nigerian and they've had no issues with my brother and sister. My sister married a another Nigerian, but different tribe. My brother married a white woman, they didn't care.

My gf is half black half white

Nigerians are very welcoming of interracial relationships.

A bit too open sometimes to accept other cultures but oh well. My family's the same.
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I can actually understand the idea of wanting your kids and their kids to follow the same culture and shit like that, but that can be done regardless of race.

Like, if you keep the language and traditions strong, should it matter if the grandchild is mixed or not
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De Evolution posted...

emblem boy posted...

Na. We're Nigerian and they've had no issues with my brother and sister. My sister married a another Nigerian, but different tribe. My brother married a white woman, they didn't care.

My gf is half black half white

Nigerians are very welcoming of interracial relationships.

A bit too open sometimes to accept other cultures but oh well. My family's the same.

Lol my dads family thought that my mom was a white lady. I never met my Nigerian side so I can only go off what my dad tells me.
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