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Pretty fucked up

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Very.

Dad used any excuse he could to hurt me when I was younger, ranging from me not having the same hair or eye color as him to him just wanting to feel powerful. He's also a cheater who disrespects my mom any way he can. He constantly threatens to kill one of us if he doesn't get what he wants, and it's generally just a bluff... except he has tried to kill us before, so it's pretty stressful sometimes. I'm 100% certain he's a narcissistic psychopath/sociopath, he literally only cares about himself and how things affect him. To him we're just his servants or something, we're just here to do as he pleases. This is his 2nd marriage, and when his first wife left him he destroyed her car with a baseball bat.

Mom is more decent, and kind, but has a very controlling streak. She feels being a mother grants her absolute authority in the lives of her children, despite us being adults. She'll manipulate to get what she wants and doesn't care if it hurts anyone else. It seems to be all about staying control with her in every area except what my dad decides. It's a coping mechanism though, to deal with how my dad treats her. She has no control of her life and takes it anywhere else she can. She can become violent and physical when things don't go her way too though, I can't even tell you all the things she's beaten me with just because she was upset and I was there.

My brother was the golden child, my dad is so proud of him. His first born... he learned quickly that he could do no wrong. Mom thought so too apparently. It became a game to him to do things like break dishes right in front of my parents then tell them I did it, just to see what they'd do. I always got punished, so he grew up with an attitude similar to my dad's that he was better than everyone else and that he could intimidate people. That changed when my dad tried killing us and he realized he was in danger too and it put them at odds with each other.

Then there's me, the loser of the family. No one thinks anything of me despite me being there for them every time any of them need something. It's just my role to support my parents in any way possible and get nothing in return. I feel like I'm just getting used up, and that I've wasted my life living for them instead of myself.
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I'm estranged if that explains anything.

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My dad was a drunk and tried to be physically abusive, until the puppy I grew up with got of age and essentially told him to back the fuck off. Went to swing at me and she mangled his hand to the point where it would barely function after healing.

When a 100lb+ Akita tells you to sit the fuck down I guess the lesson sticks since that was the last time he pulled shit. Her puppies were just as protective of my mom and i and I kept 2 of em. Didn't teach em to do it either.

Mom was always top notch if a touch overly dramatic about small problems while being crazy calm and supportive on big ones which still confuses me to this day.

Immediate family, well this one's pretty light but I'm the only one to graduate high school.
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Twisted, dark, broken.

Never hated anyone more than my father in my 27 years of living.
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I hate this subject but I don't hate talking about it and actually really like venting...

Fro the most part, they aren't fucked up at all. For the most part, they are awesome.

However, I'm not really one of them. I'm adopted. They are different people. I try to fit in as best I can but there is an invisible barrier there.

Additionally, when it comes to IMMEDIATE family, I have one parent that I never got along with growing up and one that... I don't speak to now.

Overall, not good... but not bad... I think a lot of them have no idea where I'm at and worry about me and I hate that... but like... If I stay away and be inaccessible, it's because I need to.

for context: Didn't look at OP poster but yeah Joe we've talked about this before and I'm just reiterating lol nothing new :P
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Dad's been dead since about 2008. Mom's still alive but I rarely talk to her. I have a daughter but I don't see her very often these days.

I get drunk all the time.
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