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Buu_88 08/19/19 7:34:00 AM #1:	Tying the knot with my S.O. in November but there seems to be this stigma that when you finally tie the knot everything changes Everyone makes it out that the whole relationship dynamic completely changes when all you really do is just sign your name on a piece of paper. Its as if you sign the wedding certificate so everything does fall apart Why does everyone say this? --- Rehab is for quitters. <cite>Buu_88 posted [p:926255512] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>Tying the knot with my S.O. in November but there seems to be this stigma that when you finally tie the knot everything changes Everyone makes it out that the whole relationship dynamic completely changes when all you really do is just sign your name on a piece of paper. Its as if you sign the wedding certificate so everything does fall apart Why does everyone say this?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Gobstoppers12 08/19/19 7:38:52 AM #2:	Buu_88 posted... Why does everyone say this? Because it's true for a lot of people. Marriage is the "end goal" of some people, in the sense that once they're married, they stop trying so hard to be marriageable. Once you're legally bound together (and divorce is a lot of trouble), the pressure to stay desirable is reduced. Especially after kids happen. --- I write Naruto Fanfiction. <cite>Gobstoppers12 posted [p:926255595] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>Buu_88 posted...</cite> <quote> Why does everyone say this?</quote> Because it's true for a lot of people. Marriage is the "end goal" of some people, in the sense that once they're married, they stop trying so hard to be marriageable. Once you're legally bound together (and divorce is a lot of trouble), the pressure to stay desirable is reduced. Especially after kids happen.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ArchiePeck 08/19/19 7:39:06 AM #3:	It's a classic case of "correlation not causation" fallacy, because getting married usually happens many years into a relationship and the passage of time is what reveals issues and problems in relationships that eventually fail <cite>ArchiePeck posted [p:926255600] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>It's a classic case of "correlation not causation" fallacy, because getting married usually happens many years into a relationship and the passage of time is what reveals issues and problems in relationships that eventually fail</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
winged_weltall 08/19/19 7:39:32 AM #4:	I got married in 2015. Nothing changed. <cite>winged_weltall posted [p:926255608] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>I got married in 2015. Nothing changed.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
im not 13 08/19/19 7:41:56 AM #5:	Do y'all currently live together? Have kids? --- http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m510t9eNw71r2yd8o.jpg <cite>im not 13 posted [p:926255648] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>Do y'all currently live together? Have kids?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AlisLandale 08/19/19 7:43:40 AM #6:	I got married in 2017. I dont feel any different today than when I did in 2016. but thats just me. Maybe some people just experience the world around them differently. Me? Getting married didnt change how much I cared about her. It didnt fix any of my personal problems that I still had to work on. It didnt really add anything to the relationship that wasnt already there. Neither of us have let ourselves go yet. --- https://i.imgtc.com/8ePXf9B.gif If Yamcha would have brought his bat along he'd have blasted Jiren out of the ring like Ness in smash brothers. - Gids_goft <cite>AlisLandale posted [p:926255676] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>I got married in 2017. I dont feel any different today than when I did in 2016. but thats just me. Maybe some people just experience the world around them differently. Me? Getting married didnt change how much I cared about her. It didnt fix any of my personal problems that I still had to work on. It didnt really add anything to the relationship that wasnt already there. Neither of us have let ourselves go yet. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
aki_sora 08/19/19 7:43:45 AM #7:	Child support --- this is GFAQs and stating an opinion is a declaration of WAR! Own PS3 & PS VITA <cite>aki_sora posted [p:926255677] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>Child support</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ScazarMeltex 08/19/19 7:44:30 AM #8:	If you already live together, it changes nothing. At least it didn't in my case. --- "If you wish to converse with me define your terms" Voltaire <cite>ScazarMeltex posted [p:926255694] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>If you already live together, it changes nothing. At least it didn't in my case.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SpiralDrift 08/19/19 7:46:15 AM #9:	If it changes so little why even bother? --- Do unto others what your parents did to you. <cite>SpiralDrift posted [p:926255720] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>If it changes so little why even bother?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Buu_88 08/19/19 7:49:13 AM #10:	im not 13 posted... Do y'all currently live together? Have kids? Been living together for almost 5 years over about 4 houses. Have a mortgage now so no more moving around No kids SpiralDrift posted... If it changes so little why even bother? Because I love her --- Rehab is for quitters. <cite>Buu_88 posted [p:926255764] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>im not 13 posted...</cite> <quote>Do y'all currently live together? Have kids?</quote> Been living together for almost 5 years over about 4 houses. Have a mortgage now so no more moving around No kids SpiralDrift posted...</cite> <quote>If it changes so little why even bother?</quote> Because I love her</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SpiralDrift 08/19/19 7:51:24 AM #11:	Buu_88 posted... SpiralDrift posted... If it changes so little why even bother? Because I love her I understand why you might feel marriage is the next step if you're really in love with each other, but consider that that won't change either whether you're married or not. --- Do unto others what your parents did to you. <cite>SpiralDrift posted [p:926255794] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>Buu_88 posted...</cite> <quote>SpiralDrift posted...</cite> <quote>If it changes so little why even bother?</quote> Because I love her</quote> I understand why you might feel marriage is the next step if you're really in love with each other, but consider that that won't change either whether you're married or not.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
VanananaHeyHey 08/19/19 7:52:44 AM #12:	It did feel different, but in a lofty, accomplished way. It feels weird comparing it to high school graduation, but the passage into a new stage of officialness, legitimacy and permanence definitely made things feel different and more...whole? Context: Dated 4.5 years, married at age 25, been married for almost 5 now. The other posters aren't wrong that people can stop trying, but you can also look at it as a new opportunity for purpose and kindness. You're both going to grow, so you might as well cultivate what's best and what you both aspire for, from career goals to better flossing habits. Personally, I think any marriage happening at under two years dating sets people up for the biggest disappointment because the hormonal thrill will inevitably be fizzling out just at the most stressful, "romantic," high-stakes moment. --- CE's Official linguist, War-tor-le and Charizard <cite>VanananaHeyHey posted [p:926255812] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>It did feel different, but in a lofty, accomplished way. It feels weird comparing it to high school graduation, but the passage into a new stage of officialness, legitimacy and permanence definitely made things feel different and more...whole? Context: Dated 4.5 years, married at age 25, been married for almost 5 now. The other posters aren't wrong that people can stop trying, but you can also look at it as a new opportunity for purpose and kindness. You're both going to grow, so you might as well cultivate what's best and what you both aspire for, from career goals to better flossing habits. Personally, I think any marriage happening at under two years dating sets people up for the biggest disappointment because the hormonal thrill will inevitably be fizzling out just at the most stressful, "romantic," high-stakes moment.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Buu_88 08/19/19 7:59:27 AM #13:	SpiralDrift posted... Buu_88 posted... SpiralDrift posted... If it changes so little why even bother? Because I love her I understand why you might feel marriage is the next step if you're really in love with each other, but consider that that won't change either whether you're married or not. Yeah that's a good point. We just feel marriage is the next step in the natural evolution in our relationship --- Rehab is for quitters. <cite>Buu_88 posted [p:926255936] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>SpiralDrift posted...</cite> <quote>Buu_88 posted...</cite> <quote>SpiralDrift posted...</cite> <quote>If it changes so little why even bother?</quote> Because I love her</quote> I understand why you might feel marriage is the next step if you're really in love with each other, but consider that that won't change either whether you're married or not.</quote> Yeah that's a good point. We just feel marriage is the next step in the natural evolution in our relationship</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SpiralDrift 08/19/19 8:10:06 AM #15:	JustMyOpinion posted... Speaking from my experience and a sample size of 1, yes it changes things. What changed? --- Do unto others what your parents did to you. <cite>SpiralDrift posted [p:926256129] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>JustMyOpinion posted...</cite> <quote>Speaking from my experience and a sample size of 1, yes it changes things.</quote> What changed?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CableZL 08/19/19 8:20:22 AM #16:	Marriage only changes some things. The fire nation attacking changes everything. --- https://i.imgtc.com/d9Fc4Qq.gif https://i.imgtc.com/BKHTxYq.gif https://i.imgtc.com/vYYIuDx.jpg <cite>CableZL posted [p:926256334] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>Marriage only changes some things. The fire nation attacking changes everything.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Flockaveli 08/19/19 8:23:07 AM #17:	Only if you're massively in debt because you decided to throw some bullshit ass "dream wedding". --- I'm in Chicago, I'm shaking my head. <cite>Flockaveli posted [p:926256394] in Does getti... [t:77948887]...</cite> <quote>Only if you're massively in debt because you decided to throw some bullshit ass "dream wedding".</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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