Current Events > Loneliness is seriously a real bitch

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I never even thought of myself as a social being. I was alone for most of high school and I even spent my first year out of high school alone in my room screwing around from 1 PM to 4 AM every day.

But over a decade later and I'm feeling so torn up inside not having anyone to really share my problems with on a consistent basis.

Shit is rough.
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I perk up when I get a text only to realize it's a PCALive alert about cops getting shot -_-
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We are all dying
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Go hang out with homeless people. I promise they don't stop talking.
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I reached out today to a friend i hadn't spoken to in 5 or 6 years just because I was so lonely

it's not the same as it used to be, feels awkward

You like RS3 more than the OSRS? I was playing the mobile when it came out for a bit but just kinda lost interest. Is RS3 worth trying?
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Better than being around people pretending to like you

Or more importantly, people you may have pretended to like.
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Johnny_Nutcase posted...

Go hang out with homeless people. I promise they don't stop talking.

I did have a fun experience with a homeless guy walking home from high school one day, also phrasing. But he was pretty cool, told me I was freaking him out, told me a couple funny stories and then said he was going back to his camp to drink some booze and pass out.

As an adult I don't think I could do it though >_>.

DarthAragorn posted...

I reached out today to a friend i hadn't spoken to in 5 or 6 years just because I was so lonely

it's not the same as it used to be, feels awkward

Yeah, I've had a few friends I wouldn't mind trying to talk to again but it's been so long I don't know how it would be. Heck one of my teachers from high school messaged me a couple months ago and I got really excited and tried to have a conversation with her and then she just admitted she was trying to contact someone else and stopped responding. And one of my better friends has a boyfriend now, and we talk from time to time but she's busy... half the time I message her we get a few texts out and then she's taking off somewhere. Can't blame her but still kinda crappy.

BobanMarjanovic posted...

You like RS3 more than the OSRS? I was playing the mobile when it came out for a bit but just kinda lost interest. Is RS3 worth trying?

Yeah I tried OSRS but realized I missed some of the most basic QOL stuff, like the toolbelt. And they just have more features in RS3. Realistically I'd probably never accomplish all of it in either game, but at least in RS3 I feel like I have more to work towards and there's bigger diversity.

People make fun of it because of microtransactions, they say it cheapens the leveling experience. And there are a lot of features that make leveling easier in general (like skilling outfits and special auras and crafted urns). But I've never felt the need to buy anything beyond the regular old membership. If you don't have membership it's kind of annoying, they will push some stuff on you periodically (like, "if you were a member you'd be able to go beyond level 5 in this skill!" or "you'd be able to use this item you got from the daily treasure hunter thing!"). If you can tolerate that you're probably fine though.

KaZooo posted...

Better than being around people pretending to like you

Or more importantly, people you may have pretended to like.

I'd be OK with the first one I think :|
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You made a homeless person bored? That's the start of your problem. What was the discussion about.
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Go to church
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I agree.
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You must ascend.
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Crono99 posted...

What's your hobbies? Can't you google to see if there's groups or clubs or meetups or something of people who share those hobbies? Might make some friends that way

I don't have many hobbies. I have found a couple language-oriented groups around here I could check out. Otherwise I go home and play video games, and even then I can't socialize on them like I used to.

Johnny_Nutcase posted...

You made a homeless person bored? That's the start of your problem. What was the discussion about.

Nah I mean we walked the same direction a while and his camp was on the other side of the road at that point.

It started when I was walking behind him on the sidewalk and he stopped and waited for me to catch up and then said I was creeping him out being behind him like that. Then he started talking about a guy he had talked to on a motorcycle. Guy told him it was an Indian motorcycle, and he responded, "I'm an Indian, you better not try to ride me!" and the guy's wife on the back said, "The only one he's allowed to ride is me haha".

(That's literally all I remember of that conversation >_>).

Another time this random girl walked home with me, I only ever saw her that one day. But we were approached by this drunk ass woman that was trying to convince us to get her into a bar to get more alcohol, and she kept calling this girl "little sister". It was funny and creepy at the same time.

konokonohamaru posted...

Go to church

I've actually literally thought about that the past couple months, except it goes against all my values so.
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Yeah man it fucking sucks.

Have you tried meetup?

Ruvan22 posted...

Have you tried meetup?

Nah. I don't get along with strangers too well, don't feel like I belong. Also like I said outside of one or two of the language related groups I found I don't know what I would meet up for.
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Hexenherz posted...

Ruvan22 posted...

Have you tried meetup?

Nah. I don't get along with strangers too well, don't feel like I belong. Also like I said outside of one or two of the language related groups I found I don't know what I would meet up for.

Depending on where you live, there might be a meetup group for books/philosophy? Or a broader field of open discussion meetups - I remember a few when I lived in Atlanta.

I think most people don't initially spark with strangers (I know I don't) but after years of isolation, your mind becomes used to the idea that "I shouldn't talk to people I don't know well". By having small interactions, you can retrain your brain to be more comfortable with it.. not that you are becoming the life of the party, but just more at ease being around strangers. Meetup groups always seemed good for this, as everybody was a stranger to each other, so everybody's on the same page.

There was some coverage on the news today about companies trying to develop a pill to treat loneliness.

Let me say that again... a pill to treat loneliness. Let that sink in for a minute. Big pharma will stop at nothing.

I don't want to live on this planet anymore.
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There are people who hire escorts just to spend time with them rather than fuck them, lonesomeness can be a drag
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You'll get better at socializing the more you do it. Do you enjoy any sports? Board games? Coffee? Those are good meet up ideas.

Volunteering is also a great way to meet people.

Another thing you should do is not to overthink your social interactions. Don't agonize over something awkward you may have said. Don't think that you don't belong or that people don't want to talk to you.

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The problem solving bit sucks for sure. Doubly so when you're not even capable of detecting the problem. Thank goodness for the internet otherwise I wouldn't be here now.