Poll of the Day > How do you save a friend who's gonna explode?

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Dude hasn't ever had a girlfriend and has been talking to them and rage-depression cycling through them online through text for 20 years. He cannot even call them and talk to them on the phone for fear or who knows what.

I'm getting major vibes that he's finally going to snap. I've tried giving him money for a prostitute and he wont take it. I've tried offering to send him an escort to go on a date. He wont take it.

What the hell do I do? Am I supposed to just do nothing and let him kill himself or whatever? I mean, this cant go on. He's been doing this now more than half his life. He's almost 40 like me. Our lives are night and day different, but I cant change him. I even offered him a job down here making double his income and he wouldnt take it.

What the fuck do I do?
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Give him reason to see himself as valuable, invest time in to raising him up in to a socially competent person. He clearly has no confidence and is destroying himself because he can't pull confidence out of his ass.
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

Give him reason to see himself as valuable, invest time in to raising him up in to a socially competent person. He clearly has no confidence and is destroying himself because he can't pull confidence out of his ass.

I just dont have the time anymore and we live states away now. Not to mention I'll be on the road for a few months. He went to see a psychologist and psychiatrist and just stopped going and nothing changed. They actually told him to stop talking to girls online and go to public places. He actually deleted his chat app he said for a while. I'm beginning to think it's hopeless. Maybe some people just live and die in misery. It wouldn't be much different than the third world.

I even thought about buying him one of those $5000 sex dolls that are realistic as hell, but I'm afraid he won't take it. I don't think he even wants sex. I think he wants love. I honestly don't think there is a cure for him. My Mom says it'll work itself out naturally and he'll do something to change. But goddam man he's fucking nearly 40.
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GrimCyclone posted...

I think he wants love. I honestly don't think there is a cure for him.

The cure is love, a source of worth.

All I'm hearing is "This guy is suicidal, but I'm too wrapped up in my own thing to help him. I'm happy to throw cash at the problem but he's not worth my time."

Of course he feels worthless, his friend sees him as garbage that could only feasibly get faked love from a hooker, treating him as a lost cause for love.
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Honestly? You don't.
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Kyuubei, now you're just being a dick. As usual. You have zero idea on how he sees me. Your short little perception making assumptions just tells me you're giving shitty advice. I should've known better with a poster who 95% of the time takes giant shits on me.

You've had your fun. The little potd tactic of devolving everything into attacking the topic creator is lame and after all these years you people obvious do this as a game. I'm not going to play it.

Either list 10 shitty things about yourself and show humility or you're nothing but a pharisee.
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GrimCyclone posted...

Either list 10 shitty things about yourself and show humility or you're nothing but a pharisee.

lol "I want to rag on you but I don't got no material, give me something to hurt you with or you're a bad man."

Dude, spend this time propping up your boy, not talking shit on a board where you're not even liked.
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Handie at the movies

Introduce him to waifus
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he needs a real besty

teehee
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EvilMegas posted...

Introduce him to waifus

I've tried on multiple occasions. I even got him to download Azur Lane, but he didn't last more than a day. I guess some people just aren't cut out for Naval Warfare.


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DocDelicious posted...

Honestly? You don't.

I have to agree. I know a person like this who is a complete shut-in, angry all the time and rejects any help offered to him. Sorry but ain't nobody got time for that. Just be a friend when and if he reaches out, other than that let him be.
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I have a friend who's kind of like that. He's been through the cycle of being addicted to heroin, losing everything, and starting over at least 2-3 times now and he's only in his early 30's. He's been so depressed that I literally needed to leave work one day in the middle of a snowstorm to drive to his place and talk him down from suicide.

There gets to be a point where you just need to stop worrying about him. If he's so determined to be depressed and impose uselessness onto himself, there's nothing you can do, beyond a point. I know it sucks, but you just need to learn to let go.

That not to say cut all ties or anything like that. If this friend I'm referring to ever came to me needing help, I'd help him out, within reason. I even try and reach out to him from time to time. But you need to emotionally remove yourself from him. Spending too much time on people like that will ruin your life.
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Sounds like Eclair in ten years.
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GrimCyclone posted...

I've tried giving him money for a prostitute and he wont take it. I've tried offering to send him an escort to go on a date. He wont take it.

Do it without him knowing. A true friend would do that.
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GrimCyclone posted...

Either list 10 shitty things about yourself and show humility or you're nothing but a pharisee.

Lmfao
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