Poll of the Day > My best friend hasn't talked to me for about three weeks

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He was depressed and said he didn't want to talk to anyone. But then we said a few other things, so I didn't think he meant me. And I thought it would just be for that day. I've checked in, each time after a longer interval than the last. Left a few voicemails. Now I don't know if this is permanent or what
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Go knock on his door.
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He always hangs out at my house. I know the neighborhood he lives in but not the exact address. I have his mom's phone number and texted her last week. She said he seems fine and said he was just tired. Really weird.
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If you contacted his mum yo could have got his address and went to see him. Seems odd actions you're taking when it comes to your so called best friend.
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I could get his address. Maybe I will if more time passes. But I don't know why he is not talking to me. Maybe he wants me to stay away. I've never showed up at someone's house without invitation before so it didn't occur to me to do that. I'm a more reserved person. I don't know.
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If your seriously depressed and have any kind of sense of selflessness, you tend to push away anyone that cares about you and distance yourself in case you die, so they won't be as upset. It's also hard to pretend to be happy or ok, but there is nothing that other people can really do to help, and you feel like your depression could rub off on others you care about.

He might actually gain something from having fun with you or even just hanging out, but probably can't see that right now. Be there for him and keep a route of communication open, but there isn't much more you can do unless he actually wants it.

Try and drag him out with something really fun, that you know he would like if you can. If you have shared interests etc, you probably know something he would really enjoy or was looking forward to, maybe you can break him out of his depression that way. Even if not, it's certainly not your fault, all you can do is be there for him if he contacts you.
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I struggle with depression also so I know how it is. I just don't know if he is mad at me or something now. Maybe I said something wrong without realizing it. He lives with his mom. Maybe I will ask her if she minds if I come over at some point soon. I tried to tell him too that even if he doesn't feel like it it would probably help if we met up. But he didn't want to. That was right before he stopped talking to me
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if my best friend stopped talking to me for three weeks i think i would probably say something like if you need space right now thats okay but if you dont let me know thats the case im going to have to assume you dont want to speak to me permanently
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It was permanent for Layne Staley.
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Sefrig posted...

if my best friend stopped talking to me for three weeks i think i would probably say something like if you need space right now thats okay but if you dont let me know thats the case im going to have to assume you dont want to speak to me permanently

I did say something like that. Only more like "I don't know whether it's permanent or not". No response still. I might look into going to see him
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I texted his mom again asking that she just ask him why he's not talking to me. I guess he interpreted her asking as her yelling at him. Not sure how she asked. But he finally texted me back saying he needs time and space, that he's overwhelmed and doesn't have energy for anyone. I said okay I just wish he had told me that from the beginning. So now I guess I can only wait and see when/if he texts me again. But at least I know now it wasn't something I did. Told him I wish I could help but if he's saying he needs space then there's probably nothing I can do
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AnnoyedCops posted...

I texted his mom again asking that she just ask him why he's not talking to me. I guess he interpreted her asking as her yelling at him. Not sure how she asked. But he finally texted me back saying he needs time and space, that he's overwhelmed and doesn't have energy for anyone. I said okay I just wish he had told me that from the beginning. So now I guess I can only wait and see when/if he texts me again. But at least I know now it wasn't something I did. Told him I wish I could help but if he's saying he needs space then there's probably nothing I can do

Give him a few days. And then try again...
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Sounds like it was something you did.

Maybe wait a few days and bring him some homemade cookies?
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I'm thinking if he needed 3 weeks so far, he's not likely to change his mind in a few days if he needs 'time and space'. I guess he will contact me when he's ready. I guess I'll send a text here and there over the next few weeks and see if he ever gets back to me but not getting my hopes up after he texted me that
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