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Devil_Katt_II posted...

butthole666 posted...

Oh wow this is a 200 post thread what the fuck

My ass came here to whine and yall talkin all kinds of shit

shut your ass up

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butthole666 posted...

Oh wow this is a 200 post thread what the fuck

My ass came here to whine and yall talkin all kinds of shit

LOL

But yeah I get where youre coming from
I do try my best irl its just Im ... me
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lol okay

_Lyonidias posted...

Nidhoggr posted...

lol compare this thread to one of the same kind where a male talks about being lonely and depressed. 1-2 pages max.

Girl does it? CE flocks like a pack of wild cats in heat.

When you consider that a lot of it was people shitting on me and catboy/JMO arguing..............

To be fair, both JMO and catboy are... highly prone to argument from what I've seen >_>, no offense to either.
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ImTheMacheteGuy posted...

To be fair, both JMO and catboy are... highly prone to argument from what I've seen >_>, no offense to either.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=enDaX1T26go" data-time="

At least JMO's arguments aren't emotionally driven.

God is a girl

ImTheMacheteGuy posted...

_Lyonidias posted...

Nidhoggr posted...

lol compare this thread to one of the same kind where a male talks about being lonely and depressed. 1-2 pages max.

Girl does it? CE flocks like a pack of wild cats in heat.

When you consider that a lot of it was people shitting on me and catboy/JMO arguing..............

To be fair, both JMO and catboy are... highly prone to argument from what I've seen >_>, no offense to either.

Yeah I know lol
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Devil_Katt_II posted...

ImTheMacheteGuy posted...

To be fair, both JMO and catboy are... highly prone to argument from what I've seen >_>, no offense to either.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=enDaX1T26go" data-time="

If I'm lying, Thanksgiving never happened this year <_<
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I don't know why women stay here. this place is trash for the most part, even for dudes. you gotta be a big time loser to come to ce for attention.
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I'm wide awake

Kickflip posted...

I don't know why women stay here. this place is trash for the most part, even for dudes. you gotta be a big time loser to come to ce for attention.

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I like what I've seen of you joestarr. That said, you do come off combative and frequently, unnecessarily so. It stands to reason that you might get more friendly encounters if you, yourself, act friendly.

I'm only saying that because that's the part you can control. People being shitty in your direction without provocation isn't your fault. Perceiving criticism as being shitty in your direction is something you should work on.
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Devil_Katt_II posted...

God is a woman

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Kineth posted...

I like what I've seen of you joestarr. That said, you do come off combative and frequently, unnecessarily so. It stands to reason that you might get more friendly encounters if you, yourself, act friendly.

I'm only saying that because that's the part you can control. People being shitty in your direction without provocation isn't your fault. Perceiving criticism as being shitty in your direction is something you should work on.

Yeah I think it would help a lot if people didnt have a history of antagonizing me :/
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_Lyonidias posted...

catboy0_0 posted...

Caution999 posted...

I feel like this has less to do with the people on here than it has to do with how unsatisfied you're at in your personal life (where you live and who you live with).

Nobody is going to hate you more than they hate me, and you've had plenty of users, in this very topic, say they like you or something to that effect. Yeah, there's some individuals on here who crush people while they're down, but it seems like you could focus on the people who are propping you up instead.

For me, I've had to fall on my face about 4-5 times now with my recent controversy. When I finally realized the other day that I need to be more personable. Less stuck up. Less standoffish. Less snobbish.

Took me more than one mental breakdown to figure that out. Don't be like me.

thanks for your input. it's already too late for her to put the genie back in the bottle

Yeaaaah it is :/

And lol @ personal responsibility.
I guess people who are physically disabled need to be responsible for their disabilities too?

Well... Yeah. They do. They do if they want to succeed in spite of them at least. I mean, just look at paralympic athletes. They can't rely on outside help. I mean, they can. However if things don't go the way they want then they do have to own up to it. Cold as it sounds. If you don't seek improvement or help then it's not likely you'll find any.

Personal responsibility/positive attitudes might not solve all or any of your problems but it can only help you more than hurt you.
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The thing is I do seek improvement and am actively working on myself. A few years ago I wouldnt have even been willing to consider seeking help for my depression, for example.
I used to be completely unable to even hold meaningless conversations with people and it terrified me. I still have pretty bad anxiety but I have come a long way; regardless of if anyone else can see it.
People here say oh ur just negative about ur lyfe b happy lolz but they have no idea who I was before, the person I am, or the person I am becoming.
My becoming is perhaps taking longer than others, but I will never allow anyone to discredit it.
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Want some advice, TC? I'm all pumped to help make you 15% more likeable.

Sure. Go for it.
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Tbh I love goats especially pygmy ones
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Does this make you feel better TC?


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_Lyonidias posted...

The thing is I do seek improvement and am actively working on myself. A few years ago I wouldn?t have even been willing to consider seeking help for my depression, for example.
I used to be completely unable to even hold meaningless conversations with people and it terrified me. I still have pretty bad anxiety but I have come a long way; regardless of if anyone else can see it.
People here say ?oh ur just negative about ur lyfe b happy lolz? but they have no idea who I was before, the person I am, or the person I am becoming.
My becoming is perhaps taking longer than others, but I will never allow anyone to discredit it.

Anyone who does that "just be happier" shtick just doesn't get it.
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I can offer advice about social anxiety. It's good that you've already started to tackle it though.
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_Lyonidias posted...

Sure. Go for it.

Okay. I leap at any chance to indulge my love of armchair psychiatry.

#1: Try to assume fewer hidden meanings behind innocuous things people say. Sometimes people are jerks, but more often than not innocuous things are just innocuous things. When you freely admit that you struggle to understand or relate to people, you ought to likewise accept that the words you put into their mouths are of your own making and could very well be wrong.

#2: You're like the most defensive person I've ever seen. You bridle at any hint of criticism, even and especially if you recognize that there's truth in it. It's perfectly natural, but you carry it to an unhealthy extreme. And you seem really stubborn and inclined to do the opposite of whatever someone thinks you ought to do. Which interplays with #1 because you see all criticism/advice as coming from a bad place, so you not only disregard it but actively double down on the behavior that you don't even like in the first place. So it just creates a loop of negativity and toxicity which you outwardly blame almost entirely on other people -- further alienating them -- while inwardly flogging yourself. Your solution seems to be to grow callous enough that you don't give a shit what other people think because you're sure they don't give a shit about you either, but that conflicts with your own need to be liked and your desire for sincere relationships.

#3: A friend isn't someone who only tells you what you want to hear. A friend is someone who will tell you what you need to hear, and will trust that you won't take offense, assume they're just being mean-spirited, and shut them out.

MonkeySee posted...

_Lyonidias posted...

Sure. Go for it.

Okay. I leap at any chance to indulge my love of armchair psychiatry.

#1: Try to assume fewer hidden meanings behind innocuous things people say. Sometimes people are jerks, but more often than not innocuous things are just innocuous things. When you freely admit that you struggle to understand or relate to people, you ought to likewise accept that the words you put into their mouths are of your own making and could very well be wrong.

#2: You're like the most defensive person I've ever seen. You bridle at any hint of criticism, even and especially if you recognize that there's truth in it. It's perfectly natural, but you carry it to an unhealthy extreme. And you seem really stubborn and inclined to do the opposite of whatever someone thinks you ought to do. Which interplays with #1 because you see all criticism/advice as coming from a bad place, so you not only disregard it but actively double down on the behavior that you don't even like in the first place. So it just creates a loop of negativity and toxicity which you outwardly blame almost entirely on other people -- further alienating them -- while inwardly flogging yourself. Your solution seems to be to grow callous enough that you don't give a shit what other people think because you're sure they don't give a shit about you either, but that conflicts with your own need to be liked and your desire for sincere relationships.

#3: A friend isn't someone who only tells you what you want to hear. A friend is someone who will tell you what you need to hear, and will trust that you won't take offense, assume they're just being mean-spirited, and shut them out.

Very well stated.
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It's very difficult to not be defensive when so many people have wronged me. I am working on it, mostly by ignoring comments that I perceive as deliberately antagonistic.
Additionally, sometimes a cigar isn't just a cigar. A lot of what I say may come off as harsh and too defensive, but in some cases, I know certain people are being assholes and I know the shit they've said about me behind my back and what they really think of me. Kinda hard to drop that.
People also take advantage of how socially inept I tend to be to gaslight me and brush it off as innocent when it isn't.
I am indeed very stubborn. Dunno how long that'll take to improve.
And yes, that's what a friend is. I haven't had friends, then. I don't really let people in enough to even shut them out tbh
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_Lyonidias posted...

It's very difficult to not be defensive when so many people have wronged me.

This will sound trite, but you can't build a brighter future if you keep looking at the past. Another way of stating that is that it isn't a good practice to judge everyone based on how people in the past have acted toward you. We're all individuals and imperfect, but one person's imperfections aren't the next person's. The intent with which a person speaks and acts toward you is what you should work on understanding.

I am working on it, mostly by ignoring comments that I perceive as deliberately antagonistic.

Naturally, but if you go by that as a default method of engagement, it suggests that you're expecting people to be antagonistic toward you and it probably causes you to assume that people are intentionally hurting your feelings at times when you're simply being hypersensitive.

Additionally, sometimes a cigar isn't just a cigar. A lot of what I say may come off as harsh and too defensive, but in some cases, I know certain people are being assholes and I know the shit they've said about me behind my back and what they really think of me. Kinda hard to drop that.
People also take advantage of how socially inept I tend to be to gaslight me and brush it off as innocent when it isn't.

I mean, if we're speaking about people on CE, don't use them as a barometer for how people act in the real world. There are quite a few assholes here and it's likely that you have one or two people who use multiple accounts to grief you.

I am indeed very stubborn. Dunno how long that'll take to improve.
And yes, that's what a friend is. I haven't had friends, then. I don't really let people in enough to even shut them out tbh

Eh, I'm pretty sure you've had people be friendly toward you and you overlooked it. I know I did when I was a SAD mess. It sounds like you've had a lot of damage done to your self confidence. As a guess, do you have trouble looking people in the eyes or maintaining eye contact? That was the very first thing I worked on when I had enough of feeling resentful and powerless about things like this.
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Can we get a list of CEpeople who like joe
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@Kineth

I don't tend to have too many issues irl - but it's moreso that I don't know how to get past the acquaintance part to develop an actual friendship.

People don't tend to be against me IRL, aside from generally not being the type of person they associate with (nothing against me, but just .... differences exist). Certainly, plenty of individuals have been friendly towards me and I reciprocate that friendliness, but there isn't depth to it past meaningless chit-chat. I'm very quiet and reserved, and it seems like when I do open up I reveal too much about myself and end up embarrassed and regretting my decision, so it is much more comfortable to keep to myself despite the consequence being the lack of friendships. Working on these social skills is difficult and has thus far proved fruitless, which is why it is incredibly hard to persist.
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jesus christ you sound so much like me, it's fucking absurd >_<

I think of myself as being in the center of a massive fortress with like a bunch of different security clearance levels, representing how close I let people get to me, and I'm the only one I've ever permitted to have the innermost clearance. No one else has ever earned it lol.
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ImTheMacheteGuy posted...

jesus christ you sound so much like me, it's fucking absurd >_<

I think of myself as being in the center of a massive fortress with like a bunch of different security clearance levels, representing how close I let people get to me, and I'm the only one I've ever permitted to have the innermost clearance. No one else has ever earned it lol.

Yeaaah I definitely limit how close I get to people. Its incredibly difficult for me to be open with anyone, even those I see myself as close to; this is mostly due to repeated betrayal of me.
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Aghhhhhh hahha.
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Superlinkbro posted...

Does this make you feel better TC?

also I could never get this to load lol
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_Lyonidias posted...

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Are you feeling lonely? You can talk about whatever you want.
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You're definitely cute but your attitude would break any man's spirit.

Kinda like how most people who try to save a drowning person end up drowning WITH the other person.

GameboyTroy posted...

_Lyonidias posted...

._.

Are you feeling lonely? You can talk about whatever you want.

Just highly annoyed.
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Being liked is overrated.

Life is so much easier when you stop giving a fuck what other people think.
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a-c-a-b posted...

Being liked is overrated.

Life is so much easier when you stop giving a fuck what other people think.

Being liked feels good to me.
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a-c-a-b posted...

Being liked is overrated.

Life is so much easier when you stop giving a fuck what other people think.

This guy gets it. Just don't act like an asshole and you can get the best of both worlds.
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GameboyTroy posted...

a-c-a-b posted...

Being liked is overrated.

Life is so much easier when you stop giving a fuck what other people think.

Being liked feels good to me.

I think its a balance honestly
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@0AbsoluteZero0 im here for you buddy
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Conflict posted...

@Rika_Furude posted...

0AbsoluteZero0 im here for you buddy

So are you just gonna keep tagging this guy and subsequently whining about "getting bullied"

when he stops, ill stop. but, seeing as he started it, and he has no intention of stopping, i guess i can't.
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Conflict posted...

"He started it"

How old are you dude

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/400-current-events/77243846

I'm pretty sure that Rika_Furude is the exact definition of one.

I'm so sure in fact that his response is gonna be the equivalent of "I know you are, but what am I?"
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Conflict posted...

"He started it"

How old are you dude

"its ok to bully rika but not ok for rika to retaliate"

how about you shut the actual fuck right the hell up and stop trolling
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Conflict posted...

The dude didn't even post itt

why don't you complain when he does it to me in topics i don't post in?
because all you want to do is harass me. thats all.
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