Current Events > ATTN: Men

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Maybe they should stop being so selfish.

Sounds like they feel entitled to an emotional connection with men.
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It's difficult. There's like a switch in a man's brain, at least I know there is in mine, that when you start to connect with a woman emotionally they become more attractive physically/sexually and sometimes you can go from no attraction to being very attracted. No one owes anyone sex and I wouldn't think that because someone is close to me in that way they should have sex with me / they must want to, but I can't really help finding them hotter than I did before.

I feel like this woman just goes around freindzoning guys.
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holedigger posted...

It's difficult. There's like a switch in a man's brain, at least I know there is in mine, that when you start to connect with a woman emotionally they become more attractive physically/sexually and sometimes you can go from no attraction to being very attracted. No one owes anyone sex and I wouldn't think that because someone is close to me in that way they should have sex with me / they must want to, but I can't really help finding them hotter than I did before.

Thats fair.

Good to see people with self awareness.
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https://66.media.tumblr.com/e1f901ebf80077a2bdcffd2f00e27bf9/tumblr_inline_p2m2406GWT1qdw6ke_640.jpg
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https://imgur.com/eAsIHAQ
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what a coincidence I just engaged in a deep connection with the bf this morning..
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Emotional connections give me a boner. It's an involuntary response to an outside stimulus. I can't help it!
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deupd_u posted...

https://66.media.tumblr.com/e1f901ebf80077a2bdcffd2f00e27bf9/tumblr_inline_p2m2406GWT1qdw6ke_640.jpg

that aesthetic is gr8
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not really a gendered issue tho

plenty of women who get pissy and depressed when a hot lookin successful male friend whos orientation is sexually compatible is strictly platonic with them lol

just replace "compulsive about sex" with "obsessive about commitment"
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meh someone said men get friendzoned women get sexonlyzoned
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That's stupid.
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deupd_u posted...

https://66.media.tumblr.com/e1f901ebf80077a2bdcffd2f00e27bf9/tumblr_inline_p2m2406GWT1qdw6ke_640.jpg

ew
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_Lyonidias posted...

meh someone said men get friendzoned women get sexonlyzoned

I mean, most people complaining about the friend zone are actually interested in pursuing a deep, emotionally intimate relationship, which is why remaining several tiers below that stings so bad.

Or at least, thats how it was when I was in school idk whats going on now with your tweeters and your instant grams
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How dare men want to have sex with women
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AlisLandale posted...

_Lyonidias posted...

meh someone said men get friendzoned women get sexonlyzoned

I mean, most people complaining about the friend zone are actually interested in pursuing a deep, emotionally intimate relationship, which is why remaining several tiers below that stings so bad.

Or at least, thats how it was when I was in school idk whats going on now with your tweeters and your instant grams

From what Ive seen its shifted to men being entitled whiny pissbabies who cant read cues and are entitled.
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This is the kind of thing that when I first realized this was a thing, I had to make a conscious effort to push myself away from my initial attraction. Honestly, I'm pretty sure I didn't do it well, because I just ended up convincing myself that I'm not attractive to women in general. So, my first instinct when meeting a new attractive woman is just "be a friend, because she probably won't be attracted to you".

And it's one of those issues where I wonder if I've robbed myself of experiences, simply due to my own lack of self-esteem.

But that's my own issue.
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CyricZ posted...

This is the kind of thing that when I first realized this was a thing, I had to make a conscious effort to push myself away from my initial attraction. Honestly, I'm pretty sure I didn't do it well, because I just ended up convincing myself that I'm not attractive to women in general. So, my first instinct when meeting a new attractive woman is just "be a friend, because she probably won't be attracted to you".

And it's one of those issues where I wonder if I've robbed myself of experiences, simply due to my own lack of self-esteem.

But that's my own issue.

Its certainly a balance.

Like Im not even gonna lie Ive been in the same situation as a lot of dudes

And I mostly did what you did and just reminded myself that theres no way anyone could ever want me
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And at the end of the day, it's less about assumptions and more about just learning and picking up on social cues.

Like there are legitimate social cues that people will give if they're more interested beyond a friend level. They'll make time to talk to you. They'll touch you. They'll find reasons to be around you.

One of my goals if I become a father is that my child will learn about those cues and think about the other person and how they're responding more than focusing on their own feelings and desires.
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Absolutely. I wish I had learned more about social cues in my adolescence; would've avoided a lot of hurt and heartbreak that I didn't even have a right to.

I've learned those things over time, but it's still a steep learning curve tbh
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Lol you know that one guy who every time after he talks to a girl he says something like she totally wants me

I mean it happens but not all men are this way
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StraightCircle posted...

Lol you know that one guy who every time after he talks to a girl he says something like she totally wants me

I mean it happens but not all men are this way

or fuck they KNOW she doesn't want him but they keep going ... and going... and going
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...but I dont try to fuck my female friends...
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Foppe posted...

...but I dont try to fuck my female friends...

Good, cuz that'd be awk.
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tbh it must suck to be someone thats attracted to dudes like damn hope u get better soon

im being like 80% facetious herebut really idc abt men at all
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DeathDeathSong posted...

tbh it must suck to be someone thats attracted to dudes like damn hope u get better soon

im being like 80% facetious herebut really idc abt men at all

you know, before i met my bf i actually was suuuuuuper close to never dating men again lmfao

and yeah, for the most part, that's been my mood since i was like 18
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just call my dick emotional cause its trying to connect w/ you
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