Poll of the Day > Have you ever realized well after the fact that someone played you?

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Someone either lied to or manipulated you and you didn't realize the truth until much later?
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Not as much as people backstabbing me in other ways, but it did happen a few times. Tho nowadays I'm the one doing it most of the time. And I don't think they ever noticed what I did. ;)

Nope. I'm normally quick to catch on to those things right away.
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I do it to others sometimes. I could care less if they know or not. Because theyll still do it usually. But I almost always know when someone is doing it to me. And I let them know. Doesnt mean I wont do it. Especially if it helps me. And especially if I can use it against them later...
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Seriously, No. In playful ways yes.
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Got the sob story about a guy being out of gas and his daughter blah blah I eventually have him some cash and he just walked away without even saying thank you, felt like a huge sucker.
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As an actor extraordinaire, I am lied to on a daily basis, ok?
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Oops_All_Berrys posted...

Got the sob story about a guy being out of gas and his daughter blah blah I eventually have him some cash and he just walked away without even saying thank you, felt like a huge sucker.

I fell for that kind of thing exactly one time. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me...
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...Fool me - can't get fooled again!
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Can't think of a incident but I'm sure that's happened. What I hate though is when I realize much later someone was flirting with me.
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Yes, it was this evil Japanese bastard online who kept insulting me in Japanese when he thought I didn't know what he was saying. Sometimes I did, but sometimes I didn't. But the times I did, I got really hurt because I thought he was my friend. But the truth is, he was an awful, awful human being who only thought of foreigners--or rather me--as nothing but complete imbeciles who were incredibly bad at Japanese. He was condescending beyond all reason, and ignored any signs of me being better than Japanese than he thought I was. Whenever I tried to translate what he was saying on his broadcasts I used to frequent, he'd get really bloody mad and just told me to "stop eavesdropping". All I was doing was try to participate in his Japanese conversation. And he'd always make sure that no other Japanese person was talking to me, either.

He'd always go, "ignore the foreigner", or "don't pay attention to the person posting green text", where green text on Nico Nama meant that a commenter was not from Japan. And one time, he had told his Japanese audience to "not pay attention to the monkey typing Japanese on the broadcast", or in other cases, he'd just straight up call me "the American/foreigner idiot typing Japanese on the broadcast". It was rude and incredibly hurtful, and the fact that he thought I wasn't listening just hurt me even more. If I asked him about what he says, he'd always tell me to not worry about it, or something else to prevent me from figuring out what he's saying. He was always deliberately trying to exclude me from conversations taking place in Japanese because he always thought I was bad. He was always segregating me and the audience watching his streams, so to speak. He would never allow me to interact with them, and he would never allow them to interact with me. If somebody did talk to me, then he'd straight up ban them and warn them in Japanese (so that I would not know) that they can come back, but they wouldn't be allowed to talk to the foreigner.

Once, he had a server that I was a part of for some time. It was over a year ago that I joined. Whenever I tried to type Japanese on his server, he'd always delete it to discourage Japanese people from replying to it, or because he always kept insisting that every single line of Japanese text I have ever typed was copy-pasted from some place. It's just insulting to my intelligence, to have been told this repeatedly by many, many people for over three years. It's like, anything I typed would never be worth it because I would never be given credit for how much Japanese I knew. I mean, I know fully know that I'm not that good in Japanese. But to be insulted in such a manner for so long was an injustice I could abide no longer.

What happened was that I wrote that my Japanese was crap on his Twitch server. Then all of a sudden, this Japanese person posted on the same broadcast. So what he does, is welcome him, and tell him that "the person posting Japanese sentences is an American studying Japanese. Don't pay attentiont to him". I heard the "don't pay attention" part, so I asked him what he meant by that, then asked again after no response. He finally responded "don't mind him". Then I doubted that he could ever be so bad a person, and asked if he meant "don't mind his mistakes in Japanese". But I think I already knew that he was just telling him outright to ignore me. Later on, I hear him telling the bloke why he shouldn't talk to him: "His Japanese is crap. If you practice with him, you won't learn anything". After, I eventually quit his server and stopped attending his broadcasts, then quit another "Japanese-learning" server me and him were a part of.
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It was more of a Japanese cartoon server, really. But to be honest, my Japanese is crap to begin with, anyway. I took only two classes on it. My own narcissism just prevented me from realizing it sooner until I had learned the fact by myself. This flaw of mine prevents me from believing things I'm told until I realize them for myself, and it disgusts me how self-centered I can be. Even before all this crap with the bloke, I got tired of learning Japanese. It no longer made me happy, and I was miserable trying to study. This is the main reason I quit. Learning Japanese just stopped being fun after a while. I had thought that learning with others would have made the experience more fun, but I was wrong.

Lots of people just didn't want to practice Japanese with someone who supposedly kept Google-translating every one of his sentences. On that Japanese-learning server, I have had so many bad experiences, not just pertaining to Japanese. Too many people kept assuming all this unnecessary crap about my life, like how I had no job, and how I'm some freeloader, and how fat I am. What bugged me more is that they kept thinking I was the type of person to create multiple accounts for the sole purpose of trolling the server. I have only ever had one Discord account, and no one ever believed me. I was always prone to being teased on the server. People on there always got into the habit of calling me a banana who knows nothing of his Chinese culture, and instead chooses to waste his time learning that of another culture. I was hated by so many people on that server, I could no longer keep track.

Eventually, I decided to quit, and made an announcement (like the narcissist I was) that I was leaving. Then I resurfaced a week later, then quit again for good after receiving all these hate messages that my psyche prevents me from remembering because the stress of remembering how people talked to me was too great for me to bear, even now, I can guess. I know I've treated a great many people badly on that server, but that was because holy bloody hell they were annoying beyond all reason. They were high-schoolers, middle-schoolers, and young adults who for some reason had sense to join their antics in giving me a hard time. Oh yeah, and they also thought that I always smoked marijuana and drank alcohol, for some odd reason. Was it because I always pretended like the previous day never happened because it's too painful to remember? I treated them badly, and I really have a hard time trying to process how they treated me, hence why I just try to forget the bad experiences in life, even if I have to pretend that they never happened.

But in the end, these experiences always resurface, causing me to lose a lot of focus and mental and emotional energy when I'm trying to do something that requires me to think. And when I start thinking of those times, I cannot even stop thinking. It just hurts. Sometimes I'm too depressed to use my rubber band to "snap me out of it", because it's just too much for me to handle, it feels like. They also always accused me of being a high-schooler, which is was just irritating as well. I feel like nobody from that server ever knew who I was. They always just assumed that they were right about me about anything I might have done and might not have done, and pretended that their assumptions were reality. It was purely exasperating. I could handle it no more. Anyway, I have gotten a little off-topic with the topic asking about how this Japanese bloke always hoodwinked me, and made me look like the complete imbecile he firmly believed I was.
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Eclair, I think you are taking too seriously what random Japanese people online think.
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Tl;dr?
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Yes when I was like 10 years old or something.