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Muffinz0rz 08/27/18 9:09:56 PM #1: |
Now I'm no Chad, so I'm adjusting my standards accordingly. Thing is, I have no problem getting the matches, striking up the conversations, talking, and smoothly transitioning into a first meeting. Options are generally more festive than the basic "let's get a drink!" (things like baseball games, state fair, walking around somewhere while it's still nice, etc.) And they'll say yes! The problem is like okay what's next: Awesome, how about we do Friday? -Nope, sorry, can't No worries how bout Saturday? -Nope, sorry, can't No worries how bout a weekday sometime next week after work? -Nope, sorry, can't It's like pulling teeth. And half the time, I fucking get the phone numbers too, it's not like this is just over the app. But still, nothing. So I eventually have to stop because I don't want my first impression to be "oh yeah this is the guy who bugged me for weeks until I finally gave in and went out for a bit" But like I get it, people are busy. I'm not ripping anyone for having to babysit their nieces or getting ready for semester to start or spending time with family or any shit like that. But my issue with all this is the fact that they never counter-pose a suggested time/place. I have to be the one posing the date, time, activity, location, transportation if necessary, all of it. And if I stop, they stop and the whole thing is dead. I honestly think part of the problem is that I'm too free; my social calendar is wide open weekends and I work 9-5 so I'm generally free every weekday after like 530-6. So that should be easy for them, right? Just pick a day and there's a 99% chance I'll be game. I do think there is some merit to the tactic of locking down a specific date and time, as opposed to "oh let's just wing it and we'll figure it out later." -- it puts them in a position where they at least have to say yes or no. But after a few days and times get shot down, I go for the whole "okay what works for you then" angle, and at that point they revert to the "we'll figure it out later I'm super busy right now" or whatever noise. Am I the only one who finds this part of online dating particularly frustrating? --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Summersim (8-8): ELIMINATED FROM PLAYOFFS :( ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Burgess 08/27/18 9:10:23 PM #2: |
They're dodging you.
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AlephZero 08/27/18 9:10:57 PM #3: |
the average man is unfuckable
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rodu_jr 08/27/18 9:11:27 PM #4: |
Muffinz0rz posted...
Awesome, how about we do Friday? that's when you move on ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Ultima Dragon 08/27/18 9:12:43 PM #5: |
Most women are extremely flaky. It was like this even before online dating. I've gotten plenty of girls numbers at school or work or wherever I happened to be, talked to them, plans were always made on both sides but nothing ever materializes.
It's funny because a lot of the time they're even the ones to bring up going out in the first place. --- "We know things can move faster than the speed of light because liberal tears are on the ground before something offensive even happens" - Coffeebeanz ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lunar_Savage 08/27/18 9:15:11 PM #6: |
It gets harder when you don't work 9-5.
But one of the main reasons they dodge an immediate appointed time after saying yes is because they have to confirm with their friends/family/important people on when and where they'll be and if it's okay. Safety first. You're not just being screened by her, but everyone else in her life too. Does it suck? Yeah. But, safety. Edit: but yeah, what everyone else said is true too. Move on. --- Number of Mega Cookies given: (::::) 29 *Tips top hat, adjusts monocle, and walks away with a cane.* And yes, that IS Mr. Peanut laying unconscious on the curb ... Copied to Clipboard!
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No_U_L7 08/27/18 9:15:42 PM #7: |
Do you actually want help? The solution is actually quite simple
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Coolppl Owns 08/27/18 9:21:13 PM #8: |
if a woman wants to see you they will make time to see you
if you ask her out and she says she's busy but she doesn't give you an alternative time, she's most likely not interested and i wouldn't even bother asking her out again --- _.-=/Got Coolppl?\=-._ =-._\Got Coolppl?/_.-= ... Copied to Clipboard!
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rodu_jr 08/27/18 9:23:44 PM #9: |
anything that isn't a yes, is normally a no
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No_U_L7 08/27/18 9:25:18 PM #10: |
Lol so many people in this topic are so wrong. I can explain it if you really want me to
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Coolppl Owns 08/27/18 9:29:13 PM #11: |
No_U_L7 posted...
Lol so many people in this topic are so wrong. I can explain it if you really want me to :grimacing: --- _.-=/Got Coolppl?\=-._ =-._\Got Coolppl?/_.-= ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Ultima Dragon 08/27/18 9:31:40 PM #12: |
No_U_L7 posted...
Lol so many people in this topic are so wrong. I can explain it if you really want me to Spoiler alert: --- "We know things can move faster than the speed of light because liberal tears are on the ground before something offensive even happens" - Coffeebeanz ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Muffinz0rz 08/27/18 10:12:40 PM #13: |
Burgess posted...
They're dodging you. Which has happened to me before and I don't mind it, but like, why do they go out of the way to put so much effort into it? Why'd she swipe right? Why'd she talk to me? Why'd she give me her number? Why'd she agree to an activity? Why is she still literally even responding? I'd rather just stop responding entirely than continue responding to someone when I knew full well I wasn't gonna ever go out with them. It's just so counter-intuitive. AlephZero posted... the average man is unfuckable ![]() Ultima Dragon posted... Most women are extremely flaky. It was like this even before online dating. I've gotten plenty of girls numbers at school or work or wherever I happened to be, talked to them, plans were always made on both sides but nothing ever materializes. Yeah it's like the equivalent of old friends being like "omg we should hang out sometime!!1!" but never do --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Summersim (8-8): ELIMINATED FROM PLAYOFFS :( ... Copied to Clipboard!
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JBaLLEN66 08/27/18 10:14:55 PM #14: |
Its because youre not a Chad
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Muffinz0rz 08/27/18 10:16:10 PM #15: |
JBaLLEN66 posted...
Its because youre not a Chad Right but I'm not going for average women --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Summersim (8-8): ELIMINATED FROM PLAYOFFS :( ... Copied to Clipboard!
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KiwiTerraRizing 08/27/18 10:17:15 PM #16: |
Sounds like she isnt into you and is too chickenshit to tell you.
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Muffinz0rz 08/27/18 10:18:48 PM #17: |
KiwiTerraRizing posted...
Sounds like she isnt into you and is too chickenshit to tell you. But it's not just one; I can think of literally six right now whose numbers I've gotten in the last week that won't commit to a date or time. One of them is actually the one texting me first on most occasions, but she's still "too busy moving into her apartment" and shit like that Like come on, that's a one day thing, tops --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Summersim (8-8): ELIMINATED FROM PLAYOFFS :( ... Copied to Clipboard!
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KiwiTerraRizing 08/27/18 10:20:28 PM #18: |
Muffinz0rz posted...
KiwiTerraRizing posted...Sounds like she isnt into you and is too chickenshit to tell you. Dont waste your time man, you deserve better. --- Trucking Legend Don Schneider ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Muffinz0rz 08/27/18 10:22:03 PM #19: |
KiwiTerraRizing posted...
Muffinz0rz posted...KiwiTerraRizing posted...Sounds like she isnt into you and is too chickenshit to tell you. Thanks famalam! Fortunately it's not a big time-waster, as it takes a few seconds to craft a text/message, otherwise I'd be a little more annoyed. It's more confusing than it is irritating. It's not like I'm frothing at the mouth over this. --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Summersim (8-8): ELIMINATED FROM PLAYOFFS :( ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Muffinz0rz 08/28/18 10:22:03 PM #21: |
Who posted #20?
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SauI_Goodman 08/28/18 10:24:21 PM #22: |
Talk to women in person who don't need the internet to get a date.
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Flockaveli 08/28/18 10:26:05 PM #23: |
Who goes on dates now? Just fuck and move onto the next.
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electricbugs2 08/28/18 10:30:43 PM #24: |
I had a lot of trouble with this in my high school days. Girls would constantly beg me to do shit with them, but for the majority of my time there, nothing happened. In fact no meet up till senior year.
Now I find it's actually the opposite, girls in their mid twenties will text me for a bit, ghost me for months, then come back to do it again, whereas the 19 year olds make it pretty clear immediately if they're interested or not. Not sure what caused the shift, but both age ranges were just as annoying as the other. --- Is sticking your tongue on a 9-volt battery a masculine gesture?-Questionmarktarius ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Vermander 08/28/18 10:33:23 PM #25: |
rodu_jr posted...
Muffinz0rz posted...Awesome, how about we do Friday? Yeah I dont know why you would even waste your energy after that. --- Remember kids, Jesus died for your sins. So if you don't sin, Jesus died for nothing. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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NeuralLaxative 08/28/18 10:35:00 PM #26: |
Hey let me know whens good for you Im free whenever!
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GameboyTroy 08/29/18 4:24:04 AM #27: |
Flockaveli posted...
Who goes on dates now? Just fuck and move onto the next. I like the way you're thinking. --- Goldeneye FC 5365-5518-3504 alt FC 3899-7748-6731; MKWii FC 4253-8089-9160 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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GAMERCAMRY 08/29/18 4:30:08 AM #28: |
damn at least they take the effort to give you the run-around, girls straight up say "no" to me smh
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Muffinz0rz 08/29/18 10:43:29 AM #29: |
SauI_Goodman posted...
Talk to women in person who don't need the internet to get a date. This rarely happens anymore outside bars, and I hate most bars these days NeuralLaxative posted... Hey let me know whens good for you Im free whenever! That's too open-ended. "Let me know what works for you" is almost always the last message in all my conversations because they just immediately end after that --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Autumnsim (Drafting): https://imgur.com/mmxYCDL ... Copied to Clipboard!
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thelovefist 08/29/18 10:47:52 AM #30: |
Just ask them when a good time is for them after they've declined a couple of your suggested times? Why is this a difficult thing for you?
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Muffinz0rz 08/29/18 10:49:02 AM #31: |
thelovefist posted...
Just ask them when a good time is for them after they've declined a couple of your suggested times? Why is this a difficult thing for you? Muffinz0rz posted... "Let me know what works for you" is almost always the last message in all my conversations because they just immediately end after that --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Autumnsim (Drafting): https://imgur.com/mmxYCDL ... Copied to Clipboard!
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thelovefist 08/29/18 10:51:19 AM #33: |
Muffinz0rz posted...
thelovefist posted...Just ask them when a good time is for them after they've declined a couple of your suggested times? Why is this a difficult thing for you? Well then move the fuck on. Again, I am not understanding why this is a difficult thing for you to grasp... --- "honestly the worst thing about Shaun King is how pro-cop he is" - averagejoel ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Muffinz0rz 08/29/18 10:57:36 AM #34: |
JustMyOpinion posted...
My man Aziz knows the struggle. ![]() Literally me when I pose a date/time thelovefist posted... Muffinz0rz posted...thelovefist posted...Just ask them when a good time is for them after they've declined a couple of your suggested times? Why is this a difficult thing for you? Muffinz0rz posted... Fortunately it's not a big time-waster, as it takes a few seconds to craft a text/message, otherwise I'd be a little more annoyed. --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Autumnsim (Drafting): https://imgur.com/mmxYCDL ... Copied to Clipboard!
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thelovefist 08/29/18 10:58:00 AM #35: |
Shut the fuck up
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Muffinz0rz 08/29/18 10:58:53 AM #36: |
thelovefist posted...
Shut the fuck up LOL funny coming from the one posting stuff I can literally respond to by quoting things I've already posted ITT Read the topic next time famalam --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Autumnsim (Drafting): https://imgur.com/mmxYCDL ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthWendy 08/29/18 11:01:13 AM #37: |
Muffinz0rz posted...
Now I'm no Chad There's your answer. --- Ave Caesar, Rosae Rosam et Spiritus Rex ! - Voila, ca ne veut absolument rien dire mais l'effet reste le meme https://i.imgtc.com/eRE0ORV.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Muffinz0rz 08/29/18 11:02:26 AM #38: |
DarthWendy posted...
Muffinz0rz posted...Now I'm no Chad Yeah I should stop targeting average women --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Autumnsim (Drafting): https://imgur.com/mmxYCDL ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthWendy 08/29/18 11:05:43 AM #39: |
Muffinz0rz posted...
DarthWendy posted...Muffinz0rz posted...Now I'm no Chad Exactly ! You should rather aim for unlimited supplies of Stacys. I heard there are plenty in the US of A. --- Ave Caesar, Rosae Rosam et Spiritus Rex ! - Voila, ca ne veut absolument rien dire mais l'effet reste le meme https://i.imgtc.com/eRE0ORV.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Blue_Inigo 08/29/18 11:08:04 AM #40: |
AlephZero posted...
the average man is unfuckable --- "This is your last dance." ... Copied to Clipboard!
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kinetika_ 08/29/18 11:15:05 AM #41: |
So glad I'm out of the dating game. Too many damn games.
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GameboyTroy 08/29/18 8:13:30 PM #42: |
GameboyTroy posted...
Flockaveli posted...Who goes on dates now? Just fuck and move onto the next. I'd rather chill or hangout with them instead of going on a date kind of dates. It's a more of a relaxed type of situation. --- Goldeneye FC 5365-5518-3504 alt FC 3899-7748-6731; MKWii FC 4253-8089-9160 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Leanaunfurled 08/29/18 8:21:58 PM #43: |
I think a lot of women are used to and expect men to do all the work. Picking a place, picking a time, paying for their food or whatever, etc. Initiative is good and all, but people also need to meet halfway. If you're getting constant "sorry that doesn't work for me" and nothing else, just ask them what a good time for them is. I know you already addressed this, and for those that don't respond after that...screw it, toss 'em out of your mind and move along. There's a lot of shit out of there but eventually you'll come across someone that will put in some basic effort as well.
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Nasty_Nitro 08/29/18 9:54:15 PM #44: |
Of you have to ask so many times YOU have to take the hint
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Muffinz0rz 08/30/18 12:21:51 PM #45: |
GameboyTroy posted...
GameboyTroy posted...Flockaveli posted...Who goes on dates now? Just fuck and move onto the next. I personally like that too, but chads ruined the whole "netflix and chill" idea of a hangout because now women associated it with getting blasted by limitless chad dick I mean now what woman is going to say yes to a "let's just hang out at my place!" nowadays --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Autumnsim (Drafting): https://imgur.com/mmxYCDL ... Copied to Clipboard!
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GameboyTroy 08/30/18 4:58:03 PM #46: |
Muffinz0rz posted...
GameboyTroy posted...GameboyTroy posted...Flockaveli posted...Who goes on dates now? Just fuck and move onto the next. Chads probably used the "netflix and chill" idea a ton. Hanging out at her place doesn't sound bad. --- Goldeneye FC 5365-5518-3504 alt FC 3899-7748-6731; MKWii FC 4253-8089-9160 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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