Current Events > how come girls i don't like expect me to go exclusive after sleeping with them

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but girls i DO like act as though we're just fucking around

what's the deal here?
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@No_U_L7 , your thoughts?
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Eh.

Hotter peppers often know they can pull more attention.
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probably a chicken-egg thing
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they sense how much or how little you like them

so itll always be opposite to what you want
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I feel like an ass if I just ignore the girls I don't actually like
but I accept that sort of treatment if it happens to me

is this similar to the same double standard of promiscuous men vs. women?
should I just concede to the status quo and date one of these girls so i don't hurt her feelings?

really makes you think
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Parappa09 posted...

they sense how much or how little you like them

so itll always be opposite to what you want

I honestly feel like this is kinda true. My current girlfriend of 8 years was supposed to be a pump and dump. The ones I was infatuated with back before I broke were the ones I always chased after. Now I can't stand having someone hanging on me at all.

In the words of the great Malcolm McCormick aka Mac Miller:
The "Suck my dick before I slap you with it" approach drives girls nuts

Note: don't actually abuse women with your penis, it's an expression
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Trigg3rH4ppy posted...

Parappa09 posted...

they sense how much or how little you like them

so itll always be opposite to what you want

I honestly feel like this is kinda true. My current girlfriend of 8 years was supposed to be a pump and dump. The ones I was infatuated with back before I broke were the ones I always chased after. Now I can't stand having someone hanging on me at all.

In the words of the great Malcolm McCormick aka Mac Miller:
The "Suck my dick before I slap you with it" approach drives girls nuts

Note: don't actually abuse women with your penis, it's an expression

it's sad to say but i kinda do think that the 'chase' is somewhat real

if you're not interested in someone then they'll go hard into flirting with you. but then when you flirt back then they're not as interested. it's all about the chase and getting ppl to like you

probs because when you're into someone, you go too hard and they sense the 'desperation' (for lack of a better word) so they back off
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emotions like these occur when two people have sex just for lust and not out of love and lust.
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fine fine, i'll help

the problem is you're acting like sex alone is enough for the girls to attach the romantic feelings that make them want to settle down with you. the problem there is that you're treating exclusivity as a leash, ie you want to lock the girls down. some girls can sense this, and if they're hot enough they probably have guys trying to lock them down all the time. they don't want to do that, but that doesn't mean they don't want to have sex.

so to fix that, you need to have their emotions really attached to you. take them out to nice dinners, continue to show value, not be needy...and give them really good sex. the moment they need you more than you need them, that's all you'll need.

and i wouldn't settle down with girls i don't like that much just to be polite...i'd never do anything i don't want. i actually make it extremely clear the type of relationship it will be from the start to avoid all these issues (with both the hotter and less hot girls). that we'll fuck around and if we really really really like each other maybe maybe there's a chance it could be more...which is actually the frame these hot girls are taking with you, but they don't like you as much as you like them atm lol
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