Current Events > Do you find that girls have more negative feelings about dating a bisexual guy

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Than the other way of a guy dating s bisexual woman?

Topic came up with some friends. Wondering what you all have noticed
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I've straight up been told by a girl that she'd never fuck a guy who's been fucked by a dude
idk of many guys (outside of religion) who'd feel the same way about a girl who's been fucked by a girl
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Girls tend to not be fans of bi guys, I've noticed.
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Ya, I don't know if there's some insecurity involved in terms of more competition, whatever that means.
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idk, ive dated one girl and one guy and neither of them seemed to mind luckily.
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I think I remember a survey a while back that said something like 60-65% of women would not be willing to date a man who had slept with other men.
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Esrac posted...

I think I remember a survey a while back that said something like 60-65% of women would not be willing to date a man who had slept with other men.

Feel free to bring it up whenever one of them rants about some men being picky about a date who's already lost her virginity.


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emblem boy posted...

Ya, I don't know if there's some insecurity involved in terms of more competition, whatever that means.

It's probably the whole AIDS stereotype way more than that
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Im bi and my gf dont care
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It's definitely true. I just don't talk about it because being a bi guy in general gets you shit on by a lot of people, even LGBT people. So I just started saying I was straight after undergrad (after about the fifth gay guy telling me being bi was a phase and I was really gay).
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KingRocc posted...

emblem boy posted...

Ya, I don't know if there's some insecurity involved in terms of more competition, whatever that means.

It's probably the whole AIDS stereotype way more than that

Maybe. I'm sure it accounts for some of it.
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Girls aren't attracted to dudes who suck D. Just the facts of life
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femininity so fragile
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I don't really blame them. Don't bi guys get dick urges? Girls don't want to worry he's sucking dick in a rest stop somewhere when he's out of her sight.
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Abyssea posted...

I don't really blame them. Don't bi guys get dick urges? Girls don't want to worry he's sucking dick in a rest stop somewhere when he's out of her sight.

Que?
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emblem boy posted...

Abyssea posted...

I don't really blame them. Don't bi guys get dick urges? Girls don't want to worry he's sucking dick in a rest stop somewhere when he's out of her sight.

Que?

like say, the bi guy likes sucking dick. if he marries a girl is he just gonna go his whole life without sucking a dick again? :v doesn't that seem unrealistic?

that's why you hear about lots of middle age men sucking dick in bathrooms. I think the vast majority of them have wives tbh.
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Abyssea posted...

emblem boy posted...

Abyssea posted...

I don't really blame them. Don't bi guys get dick urges? Girls don't want to worry he's sucking dick in a rest stop somewhere when he's out of her sight.

Que?

like say, the bi guy likes sucking dick. if he marries a girl is he just gonna go his whole life without sucking a dick again? :v doesn't that seem unrealistic?

that's why you hear about lots of middle age men sucking dick in bathrooms. I think the vast majority of them have wives tbh.

What would be the difference between that and a straight guy getting an urge for another woman?
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booboy posted...

What would be the difference between that and a straight guy getting an urge for another woman?

Nothing, it's a fidelity / commitment issue.
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Abyssea posted...

like say, the bi guy likes sucking dick. if he marries a girl is he just gonna go his whole life without sucking a dick again? :v doesn't that seem unrealistic?

Solution: Find a pre-op transwoman. Best of both worlds!
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KamenRiderBlade posted...

booboy posted...

What would be the difference between that and a straight guy getting an urge for another woman?

Nothing, it's a fidelity / commitment issue.

Correct. The only thing stopping them from blowing some dude or cheating on a woman is commitment. Men have sexual urges regardless

KingRocc posted...

emblem boy posted...

Ya, I don't know if there's some insecurity involved in terms of more competition, whatever that means.

It's probably the whole AIDS stereotype way more than that

It accounts for a portion, but a small part of it in comparison.

Most women interested in men want a boyfriend who's 100% heterosexual. That's it, that's the biggest factor involved. And a lot of it is basically biological. Very few women who later find out their husband happens to be bisexual reacts like "oh okay, I can still work with that ". It's an inconvenient and sometimes alarming issue for them for a variety of reasons. It's a revelation that throws a giant monkey wrench into a generic modern woman's long term plans as far as a committed relationship. It can cause an extreme amount of paranoia about her spouse's integrity and they're commitment with each other.

Granted, a generic straight guy could be just as likely to cheat, but they're the biological standard for what the average woman is looking for as a mate, so in a lot cases a straight man's potential to stray will be less regarded in comparison to a bisexual man's (who's just straight up not the ideal an average woman is looking for).

Like AIDS is a valid concern, but it's not actually the top reason most women lose attraction for a guy after it's revealed he's bi. Him not being heterosexual (the ideal) is.

You can see this kind of phenomena occur whenever a popular male heartthrob with millions of fan girls comes out as gay or bi. He immediately loses a huge chunk of his female fanbase because they have a harder time sexually fantasizing about him after the reveal. Yes, some women have sexual fantasies that involve guy-on-guy, but the grand majority of women prefer fantasies where the hot dream guy erotically engages with them (or an alter ego of them). It's part of why romance novels have been popular with women for decades.
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pretty much every time a girl finds out im bi they lose interest.

pretty much every time a guy finds out im bi they try to tell me im really just gay.
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Yeah Ive never met a girl who would be cool with it. If youve sucked dick, youre just gay, and thats it, really.
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I think guys who show interest in guys are treated more harshly than girls who show interest in girls. This has applied more harshly to gay men in the past, though with gay pride being a more socially accepted thing that's mostly waned - homophobia still exists, but there's an element of "they can do whatever they want over there, and that's fine".

Bisexual guys are more close to home, given that they're interested in both male and female partners. With bi people, you still have the stigma of being "dirty" or being more susceptible to STIs and other infections, due to an idea that all mlm guys "do it in the butt". I think there's still a deep-rooted fear of HIV when it comes to guys who get with guys, and that paranoid fear - that connection that a lot of people draw between gay people and AIDS, the idea that AIDS and HIV are a "gay" disease - results in a poor reception with potential romantic partners of the opposite sex.

Bi women still get the short end of the stick with some gay women, who won't touch a woman's vagina if it's been probed with a cock - similar reaction, fearing some contamination or just finding it abhorrent that a wlw type would take interest in a penis, feeling gross for going where a penis has been in the past. And with all bi people, there's always the fear that a bi partner is "just experimenting" or "faking" their affections, or that they're really slutty and more prone to cheat - twice as many potential partners after all. Just really deep-rooted, ignorant psychological shit. Bi people who are male and female face a set of shared challenges, but they also face their own issues based on their gender - the above paragraph is what I've heard about for bi guys, and I think it makes sense.
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I've had more guys lose interest, or just fetishise me than any other women when they find out tbh.
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Solar_Crimson posted...

Abyssea posted...

like say, the bi guy likes sucking dick. if he marries a girl is he just gonna go his whole life without sucking a dick again? :v doesn't that seem unrealistic?

Solution: Find a pre-op transwoman. Best of both worlds!

A decent human being of any orientation won't cheat on their partners just because "wow, I want some dick/gash tonight!" When a bi person enters into a commited relationship with a single person, then they pay attention to that single person. Bi people like both dick and vagina, but that doesn't mean that they need both to be happy.

Just because they can go both ways, it doesn't mean that they need a constant stream of both, and having too much of one makes them pine for some of the other. You're in a relationship with a woman? Then you're not gonna be with guys as long as you're in that relationship. Vice versa. It doesn't erase that they're into both men and women, but it does mean that they don't damage their relationship by getting with other men and women. It just means that you've settled down with someone who you like a lot, like any other relationship.
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booboy posted...

Abyssea posted...

emblem boy posted...

Abyssea posted...

I don't really blame them. Don't bi guys get dick urges? Girls don't want to worry he's sucking dick in a rest stop somewhere when he's out of her sight.

Que?

like say, the bi guy likes sucking dick. if he marries a girl is he just gonna go his whole life without sucking a dick again? :v doesn't that seem unrealistic?

that's why you hear about lots of middle age men sucking dick in bathrooms. I think the vast majority of them have wives tbh.

What would be the difference between that and a straight guy getting an urge for another woman?

well, a vagina and a penis are two different things. :v With a penis craving you'd be wanting something entirely differently than what you have access too already.

Like say you have someone who loves pizza and pasta, but they could only have one for the rest of their life. Wouldn't that craving for the other get unbearable at some point?
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One of my close friends was recently revealed to be bisexual. I have another female friend who used to tease him and call him husband, but the moment she found out, she switched gears faster than an F1 racer. All attraction, gone.
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Abyssea posted...

booboy posted...

Abyssea posted...

emblem boy posted...

Abyssea posted...

I don't really blame them. Don't bi guys get dick urges? Girls don't want to worry he's sucking dick in a rest stop somewhere when he's out of her sight.

Que?

like say, the bi guy likes sucking dick. if he marries a girl is he just gonna go his whole life without sucking a dick again? :v doesn't that seem unrealistic?

that's why you hear about lots of middle age men sucking dick in bathrooms. I think the vast majority of them have wives tbh.

What would be the difference between that and a straight guy getting an urge for another woman?

well, a vagina and a penis are two different things. :v With a penis craving you'd be wanting something entirely differently than what you have access too already.

Like say you have someone who loves pizza and pasta, but they could only have one for the rest of their life. Wouldn't that craving for the other get unbearable at some point?

No, not really.
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booboy posted...

Abyssea posted...

booboy posted...

Abyssea posted...

emblem boy posted...

Abyssea posted...

I don't really blame them. Don't bi guys get dick urges? Girls don't want to worry he's sucking dick in a rest stop somewhere when he's out of her sight.

Que?

like say, the bi guy likes sucking dick. if he marries a girl is he just gonna go his whole life without sucking a dick again? :v doesn't that seem unrealistic?

that's why you hear about lots of middle age men sucking dick in bathrooms. I think the vast majority of them have wives tbh.

What would be the difference between that and a straight guy getting an urge for another woman?

well, a vagina and a penis are two different things. :v With a penis craving you'd be wanting something entirely differently than what you have access too already.

Like say you have someone who loves pizza and pasta, but they could only have one for the rest of their life. Wouldn't that craving for the other get unbearable at some point?

No, not really.

im not convinced
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Abyssea posted...

booboy posted...

Abyssea posted...

booboy posted...

Abyssea posted...

emblem boy posted...

Abyssea posted...

I don't really blame them. Don't bi guys get dick urges? Girls don't want to worry he's sucking dick in a rest stop somewhere when he's out of her sight.

Que?

like say, the bi guy likes sucking dick. if he marries a girl is he just gonna go his whole life without sucking a dick again? :v doesn't that seem unrealistic?

that's why you hear about lots of middle age men sucking dick in bathrooms. I think the vast majority of them have wives tbh.

What would be the difference between that and a straight guy getting an urge for another woman?

well, a vagina and a penis are two different things. :v With a penis craving you'd be wanting something entirely differently than what you have access too already.

Like say you have someone who loves pizza and pasta, but they could only have one for the rest of their life. Wouldn't that craving for the other get unbearable at some point?

No, not really.

im not convinced

Is a bi-sexual monogamous girl equally prone, from your point of view, to crave something else?

It's called having a happy and healthy sex life within the overall structure of the happy and healthy relationship. And as everyone in this topic has pointed out, either from viewing others' or from their own points, bi guys are shunned by a lot of people. They are very dis-inclined to throw away fulfilling companionship on a one-night experience.
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Depends on the woman and her upbringing. I was told that girls don't like to date bi guys recently, but when i was younger and living in the big city, girls was obsessed with bi guys.
I always was popular with girls cause of that, but i prefer guys anyway

booboy posted...

Is a bi-sexual monogamous girl equally prone, from your point of view, to crave something else?

girls are different. :v
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Abyssea posted...

booboy posted...

Is a bi-sexual monogamous girl equally prone, from your point of view, to crave something else?

girls are different. :v

Hm, seems a bit interesting that you handwave off the guy's side of the whole question while equally handwaving the girl's side of the question in the opposite direction.
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