Poll of the Day > Someone on set kept assuming that I am transgender, harassment?

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Working on a movie that happens to employ a lot of transgender people. I am born male, I dress masculine, and go by he/him. Yesterday on set I was working with a new woman (was told they are MtF, which is fine). Yesterday they asked me what my preferred pronouns are and I said he/him. They then proceeded to whisper to me something along the lines of "you pass very well as a man!".
It sounded like a compliment but it made me uncomfortable. I told them that I was actually born male and they just said "oh" and went back to what they were doing. If it ended here, it would have been fine, but later at lunch I was told by another one of our openly transgender coworkers that she had asked her if I was "embarrassed about my previous self". My coworker obviously said they vouched for me and said that I was born male and that it wasn't any of her business. She also told me asking about someone's "dead past" is incredibly rude and she doesn't know why she was doing it.

Assuming she keeps asking people about this, is this harassment? I don't want to sound insensitive because I'm sure trans people get this all the time, but I would really like it to stop if it escalates. Thank you.
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your best course of action is to get a pair of tear away pants and then proceed to rip them off on set and start meat swinging

LaggnFragnLarry posted...

your best course of action is to get a pair of tear away pants and then proceed to rip them off on set and start meat swinging

That's my last course of action, but I might have no other options, ok? Thank you Larry.
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Report her for slander.
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

Report her for slander.

I will in the morning, I have no idea what gave her this impression, ok?
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ClarkDuke posted...

They then proceeded to whisper to me something along the lines of "you pass very well as a man!". It sounded like a compliment but it made me uncomfortable. .

That's sexual harassment, ok?
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Keebs05 posted...

ClarkDuke posted...

They then proceeded to whisper to me something along the lines of "you pass very well as a man!". It sounded like a compliment but it made me uncomfortable. .

That's sexual harassment, ok?

I knew it wasn't my imagination, thanks, ok?
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Have sex with her, showing her that you are a real cis.
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