Poll of the Day > The more I compare myself to other people and their successes, the worse I feel.

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I must have these answers.
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Yes, it's normal to feel sub-par when you are.
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

you are

I am never good at dealing with it when I am reminded of this fact. :(
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silly tc. everything is just a hologram. no need to react
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There is at least one guy here who is objectively the worst poster, and it's not you.
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EclairReturns posted...

I feel worse because I feel objectively inferior, and that I'm not doing enough. Is this normal?

Yes. If you're going to always compare yourself to people who seemingly have it better than you then you're going to feel like shit. Perhaps comparing yourself to folk worse off then you will put things into prospective for you or better yet don't care as much about other peoples lives and know it's ok to be you. Nobody is perfect and everyone walks the path of life differently.

This doesn't mean you can't feel envy, jealousy or any other emotion it just means you shouldn't spend a lot of time doing so. Building confidence should be your focus and always putting yourself down isn't the way to go about that.
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Judge yourself against yourself. You're not other people. Look at what it is that you want and how to get there, don't worry about other people so much. Are their successes really the ones that you even want? Success is measured by the individual looking inward, what is success to me, isn't the same to you.

People are always going to appear staggered. If you feel that you're not doing enough, let the reason be because of your own healthy expectations of what self-improvement looks like. If trying to beat other people in life or reach their status just so you feel better is your drive, you'll never be happy because you'll innately seek out and notice people that are always a cut above.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint, don't think you have to be everything at once, fully accomplished. That's unreasonable and leads to massive burn out. Do what it is you want to do, no outside influence, and let that be your gauge of success.

EclairReturns posted...

Kyuubi4269 posted...

you are

I am never good at dealing with it when I am reminded of this fact. :(

So git gud?

GanglyKhan posted...

Judge yourself against yourself. You're not other people.

Or judge yourself off your past self. Plenty of people will have advantages you don't have but you can compare how much progress you've made in a month against how much progress a comparable colleague has made in a month.
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Git Gud and stop comparing.
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Eclair, aren't you going to college and working?
There's nothing wrong with that.
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

Or judge yourself off your past self.

Good stuff right there.