Current Events > Can a male be friends with an attractive women

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and not want to bone them? They have to think of them as a sibling I think

That still wouldn't stop some people.
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Well I boned my best friend a few times but we're just good friends. In fact, having boned makes it easier to be just friends because the awkwardness is kind of out of the way
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Matters how desperate the man was. I could in high school when I had a lot of female attention and options. In my late 20s Im attracted to any girl who shows me attention >_>.
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Nah, its not possible tbh. Any guy thats a friend will also bone if given the chance.
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Slaya4 posted...

Nah, its not possible tbh. Any guy thats a friend will also bone if given the chance.

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whitelytning posted...

Slaya4 posted...

Nah, its not possible tbh. Any guy thats a friend will also bone if given the chance.

9.9/10 these dudes are desperate tho.
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i have attractive female friends

i'd like to do them all but im also okay just being friends
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@YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...

i have attractive female friends

i'd like to do them all but im also okay just being friends

Cause you don't feel desperate right? This is a new theory for me and I need validation. Help me out if ya can

Plus I have you tag as "Smart?" so your information is probably valuable. Unless you're more "?" Than "smart"
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Yeah, one of my best friends is a female but we've been friends for 30 years so it like... just isn't even a thought.

Although there are others I've known for less time and I'd basically say the same thing, I dunno, I guess I friendzoned them. >_>
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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Cause you don't feel desperate right? This is a new theory for me and I need validation. Help me out if ya can

I mean I guess
It's like, I don't need to be chasing them, and doing so would only chase them away

Also pretty girls usually have other pretty friends fyi
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Quite frankly, I don't think it's possible to properly like anyone as a friend, want to spend time with them, want to share a portion of your life with them, and not harbor some latent sexual attraction to them, no matter how much you suppress it with tradition or heteronormativity. It's all part and parcel of adult relationships.

And I say that as being true for all genders and permutations.

And there's nothing wrong with that. We tend to use societal norms and expectations to explain it away, but dude, your bro? You low-key want to bang him. And that's fine. You'll probably never act on it for one of many reasons, but you still want to.
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like lets be honest here

it's great getting any attention from hot girls, whether they're strangers, your friends, or your SO
it's GREAT, lmao

Why would you not want to keep them around?
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YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Cause you don't feel desperate right? This is a new theory for me and I need validation. Help me out if ya can

I mean I guess
It's like, I don't need to be chasing them, and doing so would only chase them away

Also pretty girls usually have other pretty friends fyi

The long game, respect. A lot of these dudes wouldn't get that. Im honestly thinking of finding a chick to friendzone or get friendzoned by fir this reason. Imma take away that question mark. You earned it.
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I do and have no desire to smash the ones who are just actually my friends.

Sure
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My step-sisters are attractive but I have zero interest in them sexually.
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Its very, very difficult. Ive definitely had some interesting encounters working in a field with predominantly female coworkers
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Error1355 posted...

My step-sisters are attractive but I have zero interest in them sexually.

That sounds like a slippery slope of awkward moments in front of parents.
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Lost_All_Senses posted...

That sounds like a slippery slope of awkward moments in front of parents.

It's not?
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Error1355 posted...

Lost_All_Senses posted...

That sounds like a slippery slope of awkward moments in front of parents.

It's not?

I meant if you were and engaged. I can see how that could be unclear lol
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One of my closest friends is an attractive girl. We both flirt with eachother but she's married and I'm in a long term relationship. You can still be friends without any issue imo as long as you know it can't go any further. Both of us are very happy in our relationships and wouldn't even entertain the idea of destroying them. We can still be each others eye candy though.
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Jiek_Fafn posted...

One of my closest friends is an attractive girl. We both flirt with eachother but she's married and I'm in a long term relationship. You can still be friends without any issue imo as long as you know it can't go any further. Both of us are very happy in our relationships and wouldn't even entertain the idea of destroying them. We can still be each others eye candy though.

Word. I never had a serious relationship but in my minor ones I never stopped being friendly and flirty with my other friends. I was confident I wasn't a cheater. Just be careful about that shit if/when your relationship is in a slump.
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I had a ton of attractive female friends that was never a problem. Well, it became a problem for a few of them when they realized I was just trying to be friends.
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Yes.

I don't think it's possible tbh.

Even if you're just friends, you'd still be curious.
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gatorsPENSbucs posted...

I had a ton of attractive female friends that was never a problem. Well, it became a problem for a few of them when they realized I was just trying to be friends.

Were they slutty? I had this problem with slutty girls. Some of them got creeper as fuck too. I was laying downstairs with a girl at a party and this chick knew it and kept coming to the stairs like "*my name* when you gonna come back up here?". A lot of women don't know the life of taking Ls like dudes do >_>
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CyricZ posted...

Quite frankly, I don't think it's possible to properly like anyone as a friend, want to spend time with them, want to share a portion of your life with them, and not harbor some latent sexual attraction to them, no matter how much you suppress it with tradition or heteronormativity. It's all part and parcel of adult relationships.

And I say that as being true for all genders and permutations.

And there's nothing wrong with that. We tend to use societal norms and expectations to explain it away, but dude, your bro? You low-key want to bang him. And that's fine. You'll probably never act on it for one of many reasons, but you still want to.

There is nothing wrong with you low-key wanting to bang your bros, but not all of us do, dude.
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Also this topic asked if you can be friends without kinda wanting to bang them, not if it was possible to just be friends. I'm assuming TC meant, like, having wondered about it, not it being the driving force for your relationship.
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I have hot friends but I also have a hot wife so I'm completely fine with just being friends

Not possible.

Humans are biologically programmed to want to bang anyone they find remotely attractive.
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Mr_Biscuit posted...

There is nothing wrong with you low-key wanting to bang your bros, but not all of us do, dude.

People should be honest with themselves more.
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CyricZ posted...

Mr_Biscuit posted...

There is nothing wrong with you low-key wanting to bang your bros, but not all of us do, dude.

People should be honest with themselves more.

I am being honest with myself. I can think of very few things on this earth I would like to do less than have gay sex with my friends.
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I pity the sad incels ITT who will never know what having a close female friend is like. Often far stronger and more emotionally fulfilling than male friendships
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Ya I'm that I think
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Yeah I mean my best friend is an attractive female, and yeah sex would be cool with her, but it'll never happen and that's perfectly okay. It's important not to be greedy, I'm lucky af to have her as a confidant and am happy with what we have.

It's an obvious bonus that she's hot of course, something nice to look at from time to time whenever we hang out lolz.
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YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...

i have attractive female friends

i'd like to do them all but im also okay just being friends

This
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joestarrr posted...

That still wouldn't stop some people.

lol
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MrPeppers posted...

Its very, very difficult. Ive definitely had some interesting encounters working in a field with predominantly female coworkers

You can be friends with attractive women but at the same time you want do one of them. I've had female coworkers that were showing their cleavage.
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It's hard to do, but it's possible. I used to be good friends with a very attractive Asian girl, but for some reason never once felt sexually attracted to her. Other than her, all of my other attractive girl friends I have wanted to bone.

CyricZ posted...

Mr_Biscuit posted...

There is nothing wrong with you low-key wanting to bang your bros, but not all of us do, dude.

People should be honest with themselves more.

Yeah everyone is lying to you, that's a more likely explanation than your arbitrary assumption that you know the thought process of every other person on the planet simply being incorrect

ASithLord7 posted...

I pity the sad incels ITT who will never know what having a close female friend is like. Often far stronger and more emotionally fulfilling than male friendships

This is the post you expect to see from a loser who idealizes women because he doesn't interact with them enough to know they're not actually magically different than men
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it is impossible to not be attracted to attractive women. That is why they are called attractive , not uggos

CyricZ posted...

Quite frankly, I don't think it's possible to properly like anyone as a friend, want to spend time with them, want to share a portion of your life with them, and not harbor some latent sexual attraction to them, no matter how much you suppress it with tradition or heteronormativity. It's all part and parcel of adult relationships.

And I say that as being true for all genders and permutations.

And there's nothing wrong with that. We tend to use societal norms and expectations to explain it away, but dude, your bro? You low-key want to bang him. And that's fine. You'll probably never act on it for one of many reasons, but you still want to.

Boy this is a hell of a lot of projection
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Panthera posted...

This is the post you expect to see from a loser who idealizes women because he doesn't interact with them enough to know they're not actually magically different than men

Lmao what? What a stupid-ass post. My best friend is a woman, I have other very close female friends, and I've always had female friends growing up.

Men are often not as emotionally available as women are, or in my experience they take years and years to get to the same level of emotional closeness that you can get with a female friend in less time. Personally I think it's cool that I can tell my close female friends I love them and vice versa on a regular basis, something that isn't as common with guys other than "maaan I love you duuuuuudes" when you're drunk.
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