Current Events > Is it kosher for a man in a relationship to make new female friends

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It depends on the relationship
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I did it.

I will leave a disclaimer, it only lead to me cheating once.
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no you will get arrested and posted as a #metoo

solosnake posted...

It depends on the relationship

elaborate
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I am in a relationship of 4 years and Im not allowed to make female friends unless my girlfriend is there too.
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Bok_Choi posted...

solosnake posted...

It depends on the relationship

elaborate

Some couples arent cool with it, some people are more open. theres really all kinds of people
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Vermander posted...

I am in a relationship of 4 years and Im not allowed to make female friends unless my girlfriend is there too.

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If you aren't okay with your SO having friendships with people of the opposite sex you are an insecure manchild.

no. you should cut off the entire female population entirely. Its not allowed and is bad
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Only if the rabbi blessed it.
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clearaflagrantj posted...

If you aren't okay with your SO having friendships with people of the opposite sex you are an insecure manchild.

what if she's not okay with you having friendships
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are the females porcine or otherwise split hooved?
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Bok_Choi posted...

clearaflagrantj posted...

If you aren't okay with your SO having friendships with people of the opposite sex you are an insecure manchild.

what if she's not okay with you having friendships

she's an insecure manchild.
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Its not halal, so Im guessing its not kosher either
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Bok_Choi posted...

clearaflagrantj posted...

If you aren't okay with your SO having friendships with people of the opposite sex you are an insecure manchild.

what if she's not okay with you having friendships

Then you dump her dumbass

clearaflagrantj posted...

Bok_Choi posted...

clearaflagrantj posted...

If you aren't okay with your SO having friendships with people of the opposite sex you are an insecure manchild.

what if she's not okay with you having friendships

Then you dump her dumbass

PS I'm calling her a dumbass, not you

I once had a friend of a friend

Her bf didn't let her have male friends. Or even talk to other dudes.

I was close friends with her close friends (same friendship group), and we probably had two conversations in total, and even then only because it was an emergency both times.
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Vermander posted...

I am in a relationship of 4 years and Im not allowed to make female friends unless my girlfriend is there too.

4 years? I've lost count of how many fucking topics I've seen you make about you breaking up with this girl.
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how big is her penis, TC?
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I think as long as everyone knows about it and there are no secret meetings its okay
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TheGoldenEel posted...

I think as long as everyone knows about it and there are no secret meetings its okay

Basically
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The wife and I arent insecure. We spend our out of work time together for the most part because we want to do so. I dont care if she makes friends at work. Similarly, she doesnt care if I make friends at work either.

I would say the defining factor is whether or not you feel the need to hide any aspect of your friendship. My wife and I share our email and phone passwords. Thats not because we have to but because we want to.
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Are you allowed to keep friendship secrets with said newfound female friend

or are even those secrets not allowed
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Guerrilla Soldier posted...

Bok_Choi posted...

clearaflagrantj posted...

If you aren't okay with your SO having friendships with people of the opposite sex you are an insecure manchild.

what if she's not okay with you having friendships

she's an insecure manchild.

The rules for my relationship are no friends of the opposite gender. Or friends of any gender for that matter. She's got me, why does she need friends? I'm trying to cut her off from her family as well.
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C7D posted...

The wife and I arent insecure. We spend our out of work time together for the most part because we want to do so. I dont care if she makes friends at work. Similarly, she doesnt care if I make friends at work either.

I would say the defining factor is whether or not you feel the need to hide any aspect of your friendship. My wife and I share our email and phone passwords. Thats not because we have to but because we want to.

This has been my wife and I's experience too. Only one time has a female friend caused a problem because I was too damn stupid to realize she was flirting with me. But because my wife and I were open and not hiding anything we were able to talk about it and deal with it. That was like 15 years ago. We're still married and I learned something from it.
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Bok_Choi posted...

Are you allowed to keep friendship secrets with said newfound female friend

or are even those secrets not allowed

Honestly, this depends upon the relationship you have with your SO. In my situation, no. I dont keep secrets from my spouse. If she was just a casual girlfriend, then I probably wouldnt tell her everything.

I think not keeping secrets from your spouse and not confiding in others over your spouse would just be good practice.

Casual girlfriends would not get the same level of trust.
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C7D posted...

Bok_Choi posted...

Are you allowed to keep friendship secrets with said newfound female friend

or are even those secrets not allowed

Honestly, this depends upon the relationship you have with your SO. In my situation, no. I dont keep secrets from my spouse. If she was just a casual girlfriend, then I probably wouldnt tell her everything.

I think not keeping secrets from your spouse and not confiding in others over your spouse would just be good practice.

Casual girlfriends would not get the same level of trust.

And this is why I don't make friends with attached-at-the-hip couples who "don't keep secrets from each other."

_Rinku_ posted...

C7D posted...

Bok_Choi posted...

Are you allowed to keep friendship secrets with said newfound female friend

or are even those secrets not allowed

Honestly, this depends upon the relationship you have with your SO. In my situation, no. I dont keep secrets from my spouse. If she was just a casual girlfriend, then I probably wouldnt tell her everything.

I think not keeping secrets from your spouse and not confiding in others over your spouse would just be good practice.

Casual girlfriends would not get the same level of trust.

And this is why I don't make friends with attached-at-the-hip couples who "don't keep secrets from each other."

Why? Because they're honest?
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if they don't keep secrets from each other and you tell them secrets you should fully expect the other to know the secret too

rofl if you can't understand this
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Bok_Choi posted...

if they don't keep secrets from each other and you tell them secrets you should fully expect the other to know the secret too

rofl if you can't understand this

This is the whole thing about a marriage covenant. Perhaps this is not true about those who see marriage as a contract. Not telling my wife about what I hear is no different than if my eyes did not pass its visual stimuli to the brain. In either case, the organism fails to work properly. We are one organism because that was our agreement when we got married.
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REMercsChamp posted...

_Rinku_ posted...

C7D posted...

Bok_Choi posted...

Are you allowed to keep friendship secrets with said newfound female friend

or are even those secrets not allowed

Honestly, this depends upon the relationship you have with your SO. In my situation, no. I dont keep secrets from my spouse. If she was just a casual girlfriend, then I probably wouldnt tell her everything.

I think not keeping secrets from your spouse and not confiding in others over your spouse would just be good practice.

Casual girlfriends would not get the same level of trust.

And this is why I don't make friends with attached-at-the-hip couples who "don't keep secrets from each other."

Why? Because they're honest?

Because they're codependent gossip mongers.

If I open up to my friend about something, I'm opening up to him, not his girlfriend/wife.

C7D posted...

Bok_Choi posted...

if they don't keep secrets from each other and you tell them secrets you should fully expect the other to know the secret too

rofl if you can't understand this

This is the whole thing about a marriage covenant. Perhaps this is not true about those who see marriage as a contract. Not telling my wife about what I hear is no different than if my eyes did not pass its visual stimuli to the brain. In either case, the organism fails to work properly. We are one organism because that was our agreement when we got married.

Would you still tell your wife if a friend specifically told you not to tell anyone else about something he/she disclosed to you?
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Why are you making these new female friends? Is it really just to make a new friend (or become acquainted with somebody at your work) or are you mostly just into the flirting-but-not-really-flirting aspect of talking to a female friend in general? Just mentally go through why youre trying to establish the friendship. If the reason is legitimate networking or sharing common hobbies/goals, then awesome. If youre mostly thinking about hitting that pussy sooner or later...thats fine, but you should possibly re-evaluate your current relationship if youre making a lot of female friends because of that.
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Kazi1212 posted...

C7D posted...

Bok_Choi posted...

if they don't keep secrets from each other and you tell them secrets you should fully expect the other to know the secret too

rofl if you can't understand this

This is the whole thing about a marriage covenant. Perhaps this is not true about those who see marriage as a contract. Not telling my wife about what I hear is no different than if my eyes did not pass its visual stimuli to the brain. In either case, the organism fails to work properly. We are one organism because that was our agreement when we got married.

Would you still tell your wife if a friend specifically told you not to tell anyone else about something he/she disclosed to you?

I dont have friends like that. My friends respect me enough not to put me in that position.
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_Rinku_ posted...

REMercsChamp posted...

_Rinku_ posted...

C7D posted...

Bok_Choi posted...

Are you allowed to keep friendship secrets with said newfound female friend

or are even those secrets not allowed

Honestly, this depends upon the relationship you have with your SO. In my situation, no. I dont keep secrets from my spouse. If she was just a casual girlfriend, then I probably wouldnt tell her everything.

I think not keeping secrets from your spouse and not confiding in others over your spouse would just be good practice.

Casual girlfriends would not get the same level of trust.

And this is why I don't make friends with attached-at-the-hip couples who "don't keep secrets from each other."

Why? Because they're honest?

Because they're codependent gossip mongers.

If I open up to my friend about something, I'm opening up to him, not his girlfriend/wife.

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Follow the golden rule: if you feel you need to hide it, it's cheating. And if it's cheating but you want to do it anyway, your relationship setup is not ok.
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im just here to ask questions ok
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Is that why you and your girl broke up?

Anyway, I think its fine. Just be honest. If your gf wont allow you to have female friends, shes likely crazy. My last ex flipped out anytime I talked to a female. Like, no joke.

Get out while you still can.
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sktgamer_13dude posted...

Is that why you and your girl broke up?

No
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REMercsChamp posted...

_Rinku_ posted...

REMercsChamp posted...

_Rinku_ posted...

C7D posted...

Bok_Choi posted...

Are you allowed to keep friendship secrets with said newfound female friend

or are even those secrets not allowed

Honestly, this depends upon the relationship you have with your SO. In my situation, no. I dont keep secrets from my spouse. If she was just a casual girlfriend, then I probably wouldnt tell her everything.

I think not keeping secrets from your spouse and not confiding in others over your spouse would just be good practice.

Casual girlfriends would not get the same level of trust.

And this is why I don't make friends with attached-at-the-hip couples who "don't keep secrets from each other."

Why? Because they're honest?

Because they're codependent gossip mongers.

If I open up to my friend about something, I'm opening up to him, not his girlfriend/wife.

Yeah, it's so paranoid to want to confide in someone without them gossiping back to their slampiece.