Poll of the Day > How to become good at talking to people?

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Muscles 03/11/18 4:58:31 PM #1:	I know there are a lot of socially awkward people here, but in sure there are some here that aren't, my problem is I always just get 1 words responses and have to carry a conversation myself, though I'm socially awkward so it's hard to carry a conversation and I never know what to talk about Help PotD --- Muscles Chicago Bears \| Chicago Blackhawks \| Chicago Bulls \| Chicago Cubs \| NIU Huskies <cite>Muscles posted [p:897605645] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>I know there are a lot of socially awkward people here, but in sure there are some here that aren't, my problem is I always just get 1 words responses and have to carry a conversation myself, though I'm socially awkward so it's hard to carry a conversation and I never know what to talk about Help PotD</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GunslingerGunsl 03/11/18 5:00:37 PM #2:	Show a genuine interest in the other person. Depends on what setting you're in. Ask questions, find common ground and go from there. <cite>GunslingerGunsl posted [p:897605775] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>Show a genuine interest in the other person. Depends on what setting you're in. Ask questions, find common ground and go from there.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SpaceBear_ 03/11/18 5:01:55 PM #3:	Get a job where you MUST talk to people. --- - God bless, downtime and TheSlinja. GameFAQs' Favourite Sons. - Official Barman Of Champion Pub <cite>SpaceBear_ posted [p:897605821] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>Get a job where you MUST talk to people.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Krazy_Kirby 03/11/18 5:02:29 PM #4:	practice --- Kill From The Shadows. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Idiot <cite>Krazy_Kirby posted [p:897605849] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>practice</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Muscles 03/11/18 5:06:28 PM #5:	GunslingerGunsl posted... Show a genuine interest in the other person. Depends on what setting you're in. Ask questions, find common ground and go from there. I do have interest, the conversation just always gets boring and feels like I'm wasting their time SpaceBear_ posted... Get a job where you MUST talk to people. Talking to customers is easy, just a little bit of small talk until thru are on their way, but I'm talking nor about coworkers/friends/ people I wanna be friends with Krazy_Kirby posted... practice You need to know the right way fired, if you practice a bad habit it'll just hurt you --- Muscles Chicago Bears \| Chicago Blackhawks \| Chicago Bulls \| Chicago Cubs \| NIU Huskies <cite>Muscles posted [p:897606066] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>GunslingerGunsl posted...</cite> <quote>Show a genuine interest in the other person. Depends on what setting you're in. Ask questions, find common ground and go from there.</quote> I do have interest, the conversation just always gets boring and feels like I'm wasting their time <cite>SpaceBear_ posted...</cite> <quote>Get a job where you MUST talk to people.</quote> Talking to customers is easy, just a little bit of small talk until thru are on their way, but I'm talking nor about coworkers/friends/ people I wanna be friends with <cite>Krazy_Kirby posted...</cite> <quote>practice</quote> You need to know the right way fired, if you practice a bad habit it'll just hurt you</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
123pizza2 03/11/18 5:07:37 PM #6:	Well talking to people is all about practice really. Most people get experience at it every day, so if you feel any kind of anxiety or awkwardness you're "missing out" on daily practice. The best way to work on it is the first step, which is finding people to talk to. Find groups that you share interests in common with. See about Meetups or conventions. Tabletop groups are great, since you can interact while pretending to be someone else. Slowly you'll merge with the group and be able to talk to them normally If that seems like to big a step, work up to it by talking to people online. Find a discord to chat in, maybe a video chat. Work on "practicing" at talking to others. Pretty soon it'll feel natural, or at least not painful. --- GT:Linkman6 <cite>123pizza2 posted [p:897606127] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>Well talking to people is all about practice really. Most people get experience at it every day, so if you feel any kind of anxiety or awkwardness you're "missing out" on daily practice. The best way to work on it is the first step, which is finding people to talk to. Find groups that you share interests in common with. See about Meetups or conventions. Tabletop groups are great, since you can interact while pretending to be someone else. Slowly you'll merge with the group and be able to talk to them normally If that seems like to big a step, work up to it by talking to people online. Find a discord to chat in, maybe a video chat. Work on "practicing" at talking to others. Pretty soon it'll feel natural, or at least not painful.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 03/11/18 5:08:59 PM #7:	I think the setting is pretty important. Talking to co-workers at work, for instance, might not always be he best for some people. Some people don't wanna talk while working sometimes. You should try going out to places where people talk to random strangers more... maybe... --- Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:897606212] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>I think the setting is pretty important. Talking to co-workers at work, for instance, might not always be he best for some people. Some people don't wanna talk while working sometimes. You should try going out to places where people talk to random strangers more... maybe...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Muscles 03/11/18 5:18:02 PM #8:	LinkPizza posted... I think the setting is pretty important. Talking to co-workers at work, for instance, might not always be he best for some people. Some people don't wanna talk while working sometimes. You should try going out to places where people talk to random strangers more... maybe... My work is a really good setting to talk to people, but where would that be? It feels like it's always awkward to talk to random strangers unless it's like a place made specifically for that --- Muscles Chicago Bears \| Chicago Blackhawks \| Chicago Bulls \| Chicago Cubs \| NIU Huskies <cite>Muscles posted [p:897606715] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>LinkPizza posted...</cite> <quote>I think the setting is pretty important. Talking to co-workers at work, for instance, might not always be he best for some people. Some people don't wanna talk while working sometimes. You should try going out to places where people talk to random strangers more... maybe...</quote> My work is a really good setting to talk to people, but where would that be? It feels like it's always awkward to talk to random strangers unless it's like a place made specifically for that</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 03/11/18 5:22:17 PM #9:	Muscles posted... LinkPizza posted... I think the setting is pretty important. Talking to co-workers at work, for instance, might not always be he best for some people. Some people don't wanna talk while working sometimes. You should try going out to places where people talk to random strangers more... maybe... My work is a really good setting to talk to people, but where would that be? It feels like it's always awkward to talk to random strangers unless it's like a place made specifically for that I think there are aces like that, but I couldn't tell you where. Though, I do know that going to a bar or club with a friend can open possibilities to talk to people there, too. Or a dog park, as long as you have a dog. Or your neighbors, of they're outside. Also, going to a party where you don't know everyone can help you to meet new people. Even Facebook groups or stuff like that. Even KogaSteelfang was talking about a game night he went to with his church members, so maybe something like that. I remember meeting some people a church youth group when I was a youth oh so many years ago. Just gotta get out there and meet people. Oh, also, the reason i suggested strangers was because if things go sideways, you may never see them again... possibly... --- Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:897606945] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>Muscles posted...</cite> <quote><cite>LinkPizza posted...</cite> <quote>I think the setting is pretty important. Talking to co-workers at work, for instance, might not always be he best for some people. Some people don't wanna talk while working sometimes. You should try going out to places where people talk to random strangers more... maybe...</quote> My work is a really good setting to talk to people, but where would that be? It feels like it's always awkward to talk to random strangers unless it's like a place made specifically for that</quote> I think there are aces like that, but I couldn't tell you where. Though, I do know that going to a bar or club with a friend can open possibilities to talk to people there, too. Or a dog park, as long as you have a dog. Or your neighbors, of they're outside. Also, going to a party where you don't know everyone can help you to meet new people. Even Facebook groups or stuff like that. Even KogaSteelfang was talking about a game night he went to with his church members, so maybe something like that. I remember meeting some people a church youth group when I was a youth oh so many years ago. Just gotta get out there and meet people. Oh, also, the reason i suggested strangers was because if things go sideways, you may never see them again... possibly...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lokarin 03/11/18 5:24:36 PM #10:	As someone who is antisocial, but not socially awkward - it's best to just punch a dude in the back of the head and when they go WTF you just "oh, i'm sorry - that was rude" --- "Salt cures Everything!" My YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/Nirakolov/videos <cite>Lokarin posted [p:897607058] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>As someone who is antisocial, but not socially awkward - it's best to just punch a dude in the back of the head and when they go WTF you just "oh, i'm sorry - that was rude"</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Muscles 03/11/18 5:25:46 PM #11:	Thanks, I'll definitely take that into consideration, but what are some things to talk about once I actually get to those places? And what's a good way to start a conversation? My biggest problem is that I have no idea what to talk about if they dont start adding to the conversation too --- Muscles Chicago Bears \| Chicago Blackhawks \| Chicago Bulls \| Chicago Cubs \| NIU Huskies <cite>Muscles posted [p:897607119] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>Thanks, I'll definitely take that into consideration, but what are some things to talk about once I actually get to those places? And what's a good way to start a conversation? My biggest problem is that I have no idea what to talk about if they dont start adding to the conversation too</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 03/11/18 5:32:48 PM #12:	Muscles posted... Thanks, I'll definitely take that into consideration, but what are some things to talk about once I actually get to those places? And what's a good way to start a conversation? My biggest problem is that I have no idea what to talk about if they dont start adding to the conversation too Starting the conversation always seems to be pretty difficult when it comes to new people. Mainly, because you know nothing about them. But, that's how you can use the setting, or what little info you can find. Like at a party, maybe find some common ground by finding mutual friends. Or when out, ask about the place or if they live in the area or something. Or a new popular show or game, depending on the situation. Or anything that you notice. Like if before you tries to start a conversation, you heard them talking about something, you could use that, maybe... Once the conversation usually starts, it can pick up it's own speed and keep going. But I do understand that --- Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:897607496] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>Muscles posted...</cite> <quote>Thanks, I'll definitely take that into consideration, but what are some things to talk about once I actually get to those places? And what's a good way to start a conversation? My biggest problem is that I have no idea what to talk about if they dont start adding to the conversation too</quote> Starting the conversation always seems to be pretty difficult when it comes to new people. Mainly, because you know nothing about them. But, that's how you can use the setting, or what little info you can find. Like at a party, maybe find some common ground by finding mutual friends. Or when out, ask about the place or if they live in the area or something. Or a new popular show or game, depending on the situation. Or anything that you notice. Like if before you tries to start a conversation, you heard them talking about something, you could use that, maybe... Once the conversation usually starts, it can pick up it's own speed and keep going. But I do understand that</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wwinterj25 03/11/18 5:33:16 PM #13:	SpaceBear_ posted... Get a job where you MUST talk to people. This actually helped me as it gave me more confidence. Asking open questions and not closed questions helps too. I also like people who ask thought provoking questions and not run of the mill questions like "what have you been up to?" or other mundane questions. Muscles posted... My biggest problem is that I have no idea what to talk about if they dont start adding to the conversation too Just talk about whatever comes to mind. I mean if you hear people who are good in social situations talk not much what they say is actually good nor interesting but they just go with the flow. --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - http://i.imgur.com/kDysIcd.gif <cite>wwinterj25 posted [p:897607518] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>SpaceBear_ posted...</cite> <quote>Get a job where you MUST talk to people.</quote> This actually helped me as it gave me more confidence. Asking open questions and not closed questions helps too. I also like people who ask thought provoking questions and not run of the mill questions like "what have you been up to?" or other mundane questions. <cite>Muscles posted...</cite> <quote>My biggest problem is that I have no idea what to talk about if they dont start adding to the conversation too</quote> Just talk about whatever comes to mind. I mean if you hear people who are good in social situations talk not much what they say is actually good nor interesting but they just go with the flow.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
123pizza2 03/11/18 5:34:20 PM #14:	Plenty of conversations pan out or die. It's not necessarily a matter of awkwardness or anything like that. I've had plenty of conversations that ended rather quickly. The key is to not let it weigh on you as something that is explicitly your fault. As far as starting conversations, there's plenty of ways. A joke, a comment on something that just happened, a question, as you talk to more people you'll get a better idea of what works in what situation. --- GT:Linkman6 <cite>123pizza2 posted [p:897607595] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>Plenty of conversations pan out or die. It's not necessarily a matter of awkwardness or anything like that. I've had plenty of conversations that ended rather quickly. The key is to not let it weigh on you as something that is explicitly your fault. As far as starting conversations, there's plenty of ways. A joke, a comment on something that just happened, a question, as you talk to more people you'll get a better idea of what works in what situation.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TheCyborgNinja 03/11/18 6:42:39 PM #15:	I think, like most things, it's just an inherent talent that some people have and others don't. No amount of practice can make a lion out of a lamb, so to speak, but there are ways to become at least competent at it. It's easier said than done, but if you can find a way to create rapport easily, discussions just happen. 1. Make sure you have something relevant but interesting to say to get things started. 2. Funny stories are a great icebreaker, and weird ones are a good follow-up once it's all casual. I know a girl that's really shy, but once the conversation gets going it'll end up being several hours long without anyone stopping and she's basically a different person. The hard part is if there are only people like that in the room, because they're just naturally quiet people, at least in some settings. --- "message parlor" ? do you mean the post office ? - SlayerX888 <cite>TheCyborgNinja posted [p:897611455] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>I think, like most things, it's just an inherent talent that some people have and others don't. No amount of practice can make a lion out of a lamb, so to speak, but there are ways to become at least competent at it. It's easier said than done, but if you can find a way to create rapport easily, discussions just happen. 1. Make sure you have something relevant but interesting to say to get things started. 2. Funny stories are a great icebreaker, and weird ones are a good follow-up once it's all casual. I know a girl that's really shy, but once the conversation gets going it'll end up being several hours long without anyone stopping and she's basically a different person. The hard part is if there are only people like that in the room, because they're just naturally quiet people, at least in some settings.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kigalas 03/11/18 7:25:54 PM #16:	TheCyborgNinja posted... I think, like most things, it's just an inherent talent that some people have and others don't. This. Its all in how youre wired. As someone with Aspergers Im horrible with interpersonal communication. I take most things literally, I dont understand certain unfamiliar slang terms if theres no context clues, and small talk is the worst thing ever. I actually only found out I have it in the last few months, and then my whole life made sense. So if youre otherwise seemingly normal and most of this sounds familiar, you may want to look at the traits and see how much things line up. --- Playing: Dragon Warrior III - Castle of Baramos Also: FFVIII - Disc 2: exploring Chocobo Forests, GTA:SA - 81.82% Next up: FFII, GTA:VC, Dragon Quest V <cite>Kigalas posted [p:897613949] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>TheCyborgNinja posted...</cite> <quote>I think, like most things, it's just an inherent talent that some people have and others don't.</quote> This. Its all in how youre wired. As someone with Aspergers Im horrible with interpersonal communication. I take most things literally, I dont understand certain unfamiliar slang terms if theres no context clues, and small talk is the worst thing ever. I actually only found out I have it in the last few months, and then my whole life made sense. So if youre otherwise seemingly normal and most of this sounds familiar, you may want to look at the traits and see how much things line up.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
OhhhJa 03/11/18 7:54:21 PM #17:	123pizza2 posted... I've had plenty of conversations that ended rather quickly. The key is to not let it weigh on you as something that is explicitly your fault. This is very true with social awkwardness. You're not gonna have an awesome interaction with everyone and people with social anxiety always think it's their fault <cite>OhhhJa posted [p:897615666] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>123pizza2 posted...</cite> <quote>I've had plenty of conversations that ended rather quickly. The key is to not let it weigh on you as something that is explicitly your fault.</quote> This is very true with social awkwardness. You're not gonna have an awesome interaction with everyone and people with social anxiety always think it's their fault</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EclairReturns 03/11/18 7:59:09 PM #18:	OhhhJa posted... people with social anxiety always think it's their fault I can attest to this. --- Number XII: Larxene. The Organization's Savage Nymph. <cite>EclairReturns posted [p:897615943] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>OhhhJa posted...</cite> <quote>people with social anxiety always think it's their fault</quote> I can attest to this.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
keyblader1985 03/12/18 12:03:33 AM #19:	If I knew how to do that, my life would be very different. --- Official King of PotD You only need one T-Rex to make the point, though. ~ Samus Sedai <cite>keyblader1985 posted [p:897630584] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>If I knew how to do that, my life would be very different.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DirtBasedSoap 03/12/18 12:08:12 AM #20:	put the bong down --- AT&T U-Verse internet is TRASH. <cite>DirtBasedSoap posted [p:897630835] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>put the bong down</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
helIy 03/12/18 12:11:29 AM #21:	by talking to people --- do not, under any circumstances, do anything with laundry bouillon. <cite>helIy posted [p:897630984] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>by talking to people</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 03/12/18 12:16:37 AM #22:	Keep trying, but be honest and genuine in what you say. --- If they drag you through the mud, it doesnt change whats in your blood <cite>Mead posted [p:897631220] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>Keep trying, but be honest and genuine in what you say.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TheCyborgNinja 03/12/18 12:38:32 AM #23:	Mead posted... Keep trying, but be honest and genuine in what you say. not necessarily... some people say some really off-putting stuff because of their social ineptitude. --- "message parlor" ? do you mean the post office ? - SlayerX888 <cite>TheCyborgNinja posted [p:897632142] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>Mead posted...</cite> <quote>Keep trying, but be honest and genuine in what you say.</quote> not necessarily... some people say some really off-putting stuff because of their social ineptitude.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 03/12/18 12:40:59 AM #24:	TheCyborgNinja posted... Mead posted... Keep trying, but be honest and genuine in what you say. not necessarily... some people say some really off-putting stuff because of their social ineptitude. Cant argue with that --- If they drag you through the mud, it doesnt change whats in your blood <cite>Mead posted [p:897632238] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>TheCyborgNinja posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Mead posted...</cite> <quote>Keep trying, but be honest and genuine in what you say.</quote> not necessarily... some people say some really off-putting stuff because of their social ineptitude.</quote> Cant argue with that</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TheCyborgNinja 03/12/18 12:46:37 AM #25:	Mead posted... TheCyborgNinja posted... Mead posted... Keep trying, but be honest and genuine in what you say. not necessarily... some people say some really off-putting stuff because of their social ineptitude. Cant argue with that lol But yeah, I think the message to take away from your comment is to be honest and genuine but have a filter (which comes down to being able to read a room). I think of guys like my one friend..... A girl we knew was telling me a story about how she was contemplating whether or not to ask him out, then a few minutes later he told her a graphic story involving a time he shit his pants. It was a hard no at that point. I'm pretty liberal with sharing my (sometimes brutal) opinions, and I won't lie about them, but I know when to keep them to myself. Socializing will be difficult if you have a hard time getting people to like you, but you can usually say virtually anything and get away with it if you're charismatic enough. It's not really fair, but such is life. --- "message parlor" ? do you mean the post office ? - SlayerX888 <cite>TheCyborgNinja posted [p:897632433] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>Mead posted...</cite> <quote><cite>TheCyborgNinja posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Mead posted...</cite> <quote>Keep trying, but be honest and genuine in what you say.</quote> not necessarily... some people say some really off-putting stuff because of their social ineptitude.</quote> Cant argue with that</quote> lol But yeah, I think the message to take away from your comment is to be honest and genuine but have a filter (which comes down to being able to read a room). I think of guys like my one friend..... A girl we knew was telling me a story about how she was contemplating whether or not to ask him out, then a few minutes later he told her a graphic story involving a time he shit his pants. It was a hard no at that point. I'm pretty liberal with sharing my (sometimes brutal) opinions, and I won't lie about them, but I know when to keep them to myself. Socializing will be difficult if you have a hard time getting people to like you, but you can usually say virtually anything and get away with it if you're charismatic enough. It's not really fair, but such is life.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 03/12/18 12:54:38 AM #26:	Yeah. Socializing can be difficult... --- Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:897632744] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>Yeah. Socializing can be difficult...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
gguirao 03/12/18 1:39:36 PM #27:	Take a course in public speaking. --- Donald J. Trump--proof against government intelligence. <cite>gguirao posted [p:897657595] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>Take a course in public speaking.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SunWuKung420 03/12/18 1:44:18 PM #28:	Don't have bad breath. --- "when in the f* did i ever make claims to be anything other than a troll? seriously. name me one f*ing time." - schmen,trollpolice,noopnoop 3/5/18 <cite>SunWuKung420 posted [p:897657870] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>Don't have bad breath.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kyuubi4269 03/12/18 1:59:28 PM #29:	TheCyborgNinja posted... (which comes down to being able to read a room). And you can't read the room without social experience. --- Scloud posted... Its like he wants two things at the same time. <cite>Kyuubi4269 posted [p:897658731] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>TheCyborgNinja posted...</cite> <quote> (which comes down to being able to read a room).</quote> And you can't read the room without social experience.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 03/12/18 2:03:06 PM #30:	Kyuubi4269 posted... TheCyborgNinja posted... (which comes down to being able to read a room). And you can't read the room without social experience. Can make an omelette without breaking a few eggs. He'll probably mess up a few times. But he'll learn from it. And grow. And get better... --- Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:897658938] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>Kyuubi4269 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>TheCyborgNinja posted...</cite> <quote> (which comes down to being able to read a room).</quote> And you can't read the room without social experience.</quote> Can make an omelette without breaking a few eggs. He'll probably mess up a few times. But he'll learn from it. And grow. And get better...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 03/12/18 2:03:25 PM #31:	If someone else is talking I try to be as interested(or pretend in some cases) as possible in what they're saying in order to not discourage them. Eye-contact is very important, but not too much because that could make it weird. It's hard for many people to make eye-contact(it's really hard for me at times too), so instead of looking them directly in their eyes I focus on the space inbetween their eyes. My mother taught me this and it has worked wonders for me. --- https://i.imgur.com/eQrRxik.jpg https://imgur.com/NC8itow.gif <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:897658962] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>If someone else is talking I try to be as interested(or pretend in some cases) as possible in what they're saying in order to not discourage them. Eye-contact is very important, but not too much because that could make it weird. It's hard for many people to make eye-contact(it's really hard for me at times too), so instead of looking them directly in their eyes I focus on the space inbetween their eyes. My mother taught me this and it has worked wonders for me.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
keyblader1985 03/12/18 4:54:35 PM #32:	^I'll probably try that; that's something I have trouble with too. --- Official King of PotD You only need one T-Rex to make the point, though. ~ Samus Sedai <cite>keyblader1985 posted [p:897669585] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>^I'll probably try that; that's something I have trouble with too.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
OhhhJa 03/12/18 8:02:40 PM #33:	I think it's actually in a way natural for people to wanna avoid a lot of eye contact. I think it's a primitive instinct because in nature sustained eye contact is generally a threat <cite>OhhhJa posted [p:897681389] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>I think it's actually in a way natural for people to wanna avoid a lot of eye contact. I think it's a primitive instinct because in nature sustained eye contact is generally a threat</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EclairReturns 03/12/18 9:31:06 PM #34:	OhhhJa posted... natural for people to wanna avoid a lot of eye contact Good, now I feel less self-conscious about doing that. --- Number XII: Larxene. The Organization's Savage Nymph. <cite>EclairReturns posted [p:897687290] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>OhhhJa posted...</cite> <quote>natural for people to wanna avoid a lot of eye contact</quote> Good, now I feel less self-conscious about doing that.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SunWuKung420 03/13/18 10:46:11 AM #35:	EclairReturns posted... OhhhJa posted... natural for people to wanna avoid a lot of eye contact Good, now I feel less self-conscious about doing that. That doesn't make any sense in humans though. We are social creatures and not wild animals. --- "when in the f* did i ever make claims to be anything other than a troll? seriously. name me one f*ing time." - schmen,trollpolice,noopnoop 3/5/18 <cite>SunWuKung420 posted [p:897714520] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>EclairReturns posted...</cite> <quote><cite>OhhhJa posted...</cite> <quote>natural for people to wanna avoid a lot of eye contact</quote> Good, now I feel less self-conscious about doing that.</quote> That doesn't make any sense in humans though. We are social creatures and not wild animals.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
OhhhJa 03/13/18 10:54:12 AM #36:	SunWuKung420 posted... EclairReturns posted... OhhhJa posted... natural for people to wanna avoid a lot of eye contact Good, now I feel less self-conscious about doing that. That doesn't make any sense in humans though. We are social creatures and not wild animals. We are relatively social. We're really only meant to interact within groups of 150 to 200 people. Interacting with a bunch of strangers on a daily basis is actually relatively new in human history <cite>OhhhJa posted [p:897714896] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>SunWuKung420 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>EclairReturns posted...</cite> <quote><cite>OhhhJa posted...</cite> <quote>natural for people to wanna avoid a lot of eye contact</quote> Good, now I feel less self-conscious about doing that.</quote> That doesn't make any sense in humans though. We are social creatures and not wild animals.</quote> We are relatively social. We're really only meant to interact within groups of 150 to 200 people. Interacting with a bunch of strangers on a daily basis is actually relatively new in human history</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
OhhhJa 03/13/18 10:56:24 AM #37:	And eye contact with strangers is very different from when you're interacting with friends and family. For instance, sustained eye contact with a stranger across the bar has resulted in quite a few bar fights which is an example of how I was saying it can be perceived as a threat <cite>OhhhJa posted [p:897714991] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>And eye contact with strangers is very different from when you're interacting with friends and family. For instance, sustained eye contact with a stranger across the bar has resulted in quite a few bar fights which is an example of how I was saying it can be perceived as a threat</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SunWuKung420 03/13/18 11:11:05 AM #38:	You can't compare weird and random eye contact with people across the room to eye contact with the person you're having a conversation with. If you are talking to them, make eye contact. It's that simple. Avoiding making eye contact is not normal. --- "when in the f* did i ever make claims to be anything other than a troll? seriously. name me one f*ing time." - schmen,trollpolice,noopnoop 3/5/18 <cite>SunWuKung420 posted [p:897715691] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote>You can't compare weird and random eye contact with people across the room to eye contact with the person you're having a conversation with. If you are talking to them, make eye contact. It's that simple. Avoiding making eye contact is not normal.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
OhhhJa 03/13/18 11:38:07 AM #39:	SunWuKung420 posted... You can't compare weird and random eye contact with people across the room to eye contact with the person you're having a conversation with. If you are talking to them, make eye contact. It's that simple. Avoiding making eye contact is not normal. Too much eye contact is also weird though <cite>OhhhJa posted [p:897717061] in How to bec... [t:76405283]...</cite> <quote><cite>SunWuKung420 posted...</cite> <quote>You can't compare weird and random eye contact with people across the room to eye contact with the person you're having a conversation with. If you are talking to them, make eye contact. It's that simple. Avoiding making eye contact is not normal.</quote> Too much eye contact is also weird though</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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