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Barenziah Boy Toy 01/25/18 2:27:58 PM #1: |
https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/1/24/16925444/aziz-ansari-me-too-feminism-consent
Excerpts: The verbal and nonverbal cues I ignored Please click on link to follow the rest of the story .. --- You don't need a treaty to have free trade. M Rothbard {Self-Hating Token Asian of the Ivory Tower's Zionist Elite} ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pinky0926 01/25/18 2:30:08 PM #2: |
It's easy really
DO: - be a mindreader DON'T: - not be a mindreader --- CE's Resident Scotsman. http://i.imgur.com/ILz2ZbV.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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The Admiral 01/25/18 2:32:11 PM #3: |
"He thought he was one of the good guys, until he was brainwashed by liberal stupidity into thinking he was wrong because someone else wasn't mature enough to be having sex"
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Turtlebread 01/25/18 2:37:04 PM #4: |
women are fragile creatures and if you can't interpret their mysterious ways correctly then you don't deserve to be intimate with them
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Tupacrulez 01/25/18 2:40:00 PM #6: |
Jesus its not difficult.
If she's not right into it, she's NOT INTO IT. How hard is this to figure out? You went down on a chick and she was rigid and quiet the entire time? And this was normal? What in the hell.... --- Suck less, Rock Moar Have I licked butt hole before? All the time. --r4xor ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Raikuro 01/25/18 2:44:26 PM #7: |
Tupacrulez posted...
Jesus its not difficult. Well hookups have the tendency to be kinda awkward. I know I've been in the position of doing awkward stuff that can be interpreted as a "nonverbal cue", but I would have been more upset if they stopped because of it. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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UnfairRepresent 01/25/18 2:45:34 PM #9: |
Tupacrulez posted...
Jesus its not difficult. You've never had sex with a quiet woman? That's sad. --- ^ Hey now that's completely unfair. https://imgtc.com/i/14JHfrt.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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joestarrr 01/25/18 2:46:01 PM #10: |
leverageblargh posted...
Tupacrulez posted...Jesus its not difficult. --- "I attribute my success to this - I never gave or took any excuse." - Florence Nightingale https://joestarrr.sarahah.com/ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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darkphoenix181 01/25/18 2:51:37 PM #11: |
Barenziah Boy Toy posted...
I lay in bed with Julie, her head resting comfortably on my chest Why would friends sleep together like this? Pretty sure not even two straight female friends would lie in bed with ones head resting on the other's chest... Not even brother and sister... Sure, she didn't want sex, but she should realize what she is enticing of her friend. --- chill02 to me: you are beautiful ... Copied to Clipboard!
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COVxy 01/25/18 2:52:02 PM #12: |
pinky0926 posted...
It's easy really To be fair here, she literally said she didn't want it and he continued. No need to read any minds. --- =E[(x-E[x])(y-E[y])] ... Copied to Clipboard!
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gunplagirl 01/25/18 2:52:53 PM #13: |
UnfairRepresent posted...
Tupacrulez posted...Jesus its not difficult. And the rigid part? --- Pokemon Moon FC: 1994-2190-5020 IGN: Vanessa ... Copied to Clipboard!
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dave_is_slick 01/25/18 2:53:39 PM #14: |
COVxy posted...
pinky0926 posted...It's easy really And stayed anyway and sucked his dick. --- The most relaxing version of Aquatic Ambiance I've ever heard: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bl61y1XM7sM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pinky0926 01/25/18 2:53:47 PM #15: |
joestarrr posted...
leverageblargh posted...Tupacrulez posted...Jesus its not difficult. Or you know, just said "Sorry, no I don't want this", and after that it's 100% on the man to stop. I understand that these things are hard, but consider how often you misinterpret subtle cues in everyday life - why do we expect people to understand really passive gestures in sexual circumstances so fluently? --- CE's Resident Scotsman. http://i.imgur.com/ILz2ZbV.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Barenziah Boy Toy 01/25/18 2:54:00 PM #16: |
darkphoenix181 posted...
Why would friends sleep together like this? You DO realize that people can change their minds about their relationship DURING sex or foreplay, right? And yes, I have been in relationships with platonic (or ppl that are attracted to each other, but agree not to have sex) friends where she rested her head on my chest, AND vice versa. --- You don't need a treaty to have free trade. M Rothbard {Self-Hating Token Asian of the Ivory Tower's Zionist Elite} ... Copied to Clipboard!
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COVxy 01/25/18 2:54:41 PM #17: |
dave_is_slick posted...
And stayed anyway and sucked his dick. I get that it's hard for you to not perseverate, but this topic isn't about the Aziz Ansari story. --- =E[(x-E[x])(y-E[y])] ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pinky0926 01/25/18 2:55:20 PM #18: |
COVxy posted...
pinky0926 posted...It's easy really Alright and that's fair, but this brings up a greater problem and it's not simply the guilt of a person who wanted to be a rapist or anything so clear cut. Because a line like "I don't think we should, because we're friends" is going to sound like "I want to but it might be inappropriate according to social conventions" to anyone who's 1) hopeful and 2) not that experienced. --- CE's Resident Scotsman. http://i.imgur.com/ILz2ZbV.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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dave_is_slick 01/25/18 2:56:02 PM #20: |
COVxy posted...
dave_is_slick posted...And stayed anyway and sucked his dick. Easy mistake to make. --- The most relaxing version of Aquatic Ambiance I've ever heard: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bl61y1XM7sM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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COVxy 01/25/18 2:56:49 PM #21: |
dave_is_slick posted...
Easy mistake to make. Not if you read the OP. --- =E[(x-E[x])(y-E[y])] ... Copied to Clipboard!
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COVxy 01/25/18 3:02:04 PM #22: |
pinky0926 posted...
Alright and that's fair, but this brings up a greater problem and it's not simply the guilt of a person who wanted to be a rapist or anything so clear cut. Nothing has been framed as simple and clear cut in these recent cases. It's been framed as a nuanced discussion about consent. People on the right made it sound like the goal was to demonize with a clear cut sentence, and people on the left dropped it like a hot potato, not wanting the discussion about sexual assault and harassment to be labeled with this type of strawman. The issue is that people haven't been honestly trying to think for themselves here. --- =E[(x-E[x])(y-E[y])] ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pinky0926 01/25/18 3:06:35 PM #23: |
COVxy posted...
pinky0926 posted...Alright and that's fair, but this brings up a greater problem and it's not simply the guilt of a person who wanted to be a rapist or anything so clear cut. What's the outcome though? I think it's difficult to have nuanced discussions when the terms you define it by are not really nuanced at all. You're a rapist or someone who committed sexual assault in cases like this. There's not exactly a points system where you only get a few points for being less of a sexual assaultist. I'm not trying to be facetious, just pointing out why this conversation is difficult on the outset. --- CE's Resident Scotsman. http://i.imgur.com/ILz2ZbV.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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COVxy 01/25/18 4:01:30 PM #24: |
The outcome is the same as all conversations about moralistic behavior.
If we're discussing the morals of stealing a piece of bread to feed your starving family, the goal isn't to label someone a thief, is it? --- =E[(x-E[x])(y-E[y])] ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Barenziah Boy Toy 01/25/18 4:03:59 PM #25: |
COVxy posted...
If we're discussing the morals of stealing a piece of bread to feed your starving family, the goal isn't to label someone a thief, is it? So what was the underlying motivation behind the behavior of this almost-rapist in this case? --- You don't need a treaty to have free trade. M Rothbard {Self-Hating Token Asian of the Ivory Tower's Zionist Elite} ... Copied to Clipboard!
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COVxy 01/25/18 4:08:13 PM #26: |
The goal of discussing this is to understand the underlying issues regarding consent and behavior currently waved off as completely okay. It's clear to me that people simply haven't thought very deeply about it.
You don't have to criminalize a behavior in order to say "that's not okay". Like, it's not criminal for me to hang up on someone in the middle of the conversation because I didn't get my way, but we can all agree that it's a rude behavior, no? Why does this conversation have to be so hard, other than your own insecurities? --- =E[(x-E[x])(y-E[y])] ... Copied to Clipboard!
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dave_is_slick 01/25/18 5:21:51 PM #27: |
COVxy posted...
The goal of discussing this is to understand the underlying issues regarding consent and behavior currently waved off as completely okay. It's clear to me that people simply haven't thought very deeply about it. Well since people like you just love to blame other people for not being as enlightened and don't really want to talk but just tell them they're wrong, is it any wonder why it's "hard"? --- The most relaxing version of Aquatic Ambiance I've ever heard: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bl61y1XM7sM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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COVxy 01/25/18 5:22:54 PM #28: |
dave_is_slick posted...
Well since people like you just love to blame other people for not being as enlightened and don't really want to talk but just tell them they're wrong, is it any wonder why it's "hard"? Don't know why you're attributing this to me, when I've been pretty open about discussion about the topic. --- =E[(x-E[x])(y-E[y])] ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CensorErik 01/25/18 5:41:50 PM #29: |
gunplagirl posted...
UnfairRepresent posted...Tupacrulez posted...Jesus its not difficult. And he was never seen again. It's not that difficult to read body language especially when it's accompanied by a verbal cue such as she gave him. People can claim they interpreted it to mean she wanted to be in a relationship, or that it's a classic awkward hookup scenario, but if you're actually interested in consentual sex you would be losing interest the moment she got rigid. --- Kindness is never wasted. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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gna647 01/25/18 5:43:52 PM #30: |
Went through the same thing with a girl
We kissed Kissed her neck, start feeling her up and feeling her boobs. Kissed down her body, started unbuttoning her pants and asked can I? She said not right now. We stopped right there and just laid there for a few. Then she went home. We still texted after that but it fizzled. I felt like I went too far kissing her boobs and going down but at the same time, I did stop when she said stop --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Funbazooka 01/25/18 5:48:55 PM #31: |
Probably quite a few female vox readers got turned on reading this.
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COVxy 01/25/18 6:55:14 PM #32: |
gna647 posted...
Went through the same thing with a girl There's nothing wrong with this, it's not really the same because of the bolded. That's all that's really important. --- =E[(x-E[x])(y-E[y])] ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Smashingpmkns 01/25/18 6:58:56 PM #33: |
"I don't think we should have sex" is definitely a verbal cue lol
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gna647 01/25/18 7:11:33 PM #34: |
Smashingpmkns posted...
"I don't think we should have sex" is definitely a verbal cue lol This --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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UnfairRepresent 01/26/18 2:02:22 PM #35: |
gna647 posted...
Smashingpmkns posted..."I don't think we should have sex" is definitely a verbal cue lol --- ^ Hey now that's completely unfair. https://imgtc.com/i/14JHfrt.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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clearaflagrantj 01/26/18 2:19:23 PM #36: |
We should chemically castrate all men so they won't be a threat to women
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darkjedilink 01/26/18 2:22:54 PM #37: |
Imagine being so afraid of your own sexuality as a man that you read the Aziz Ansari story and feel that Aziz Ansari was wrong.
--- 'It's okay that those gangbangers stole all my personal belongings and cash at gunpoint, cuz they're building a rec center!' - OneTimeBen ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Kolibri X 01/26/18 2:34:12 PM #38: |
All this is a consequence of the hook-up culture that exists now. Men need to be cautious of a woman with judgement poor enough to fuck him within hours of meeting him because she might have mental issues and cry fowl for not properly reading her non-verbal cues. And women need to be cautious of hooking up with men they don't know because they actually may be a rapist. They say, we're just having fun. Well, this is what can come from that.
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apocalyptic_4 01/26/18 2:38:29 PM #39: |
Reads like a virgins first time having intercourse.
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COVxy 01/26/18 2:42:56 PM #40: |
Each one of these topics is a testimony to how much men are reluctant to talk about the nuances of consent.
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Balrog0 01/26/18 2:46:14 PM #41: |
Barenziah Boy Toy posted...
You DO realize that people can change their minds about their relationship DURING sex or foreplay, right? I agree. Doesn't that muddy the waters further rather than clarify things, though? Men know that women can change their mind about consent, which is why verbal and nonverbal cues that signal they lack a desire to fuck you aren't taken as a definite 'no' I mean, if a definite yes can turn into a definite no, the opposite can also happen right? --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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darkjedilink 01/26/18 2:46:58 PM #42: |
COVxy posted...
Each one of these topics is a testimony to how much men are reluctant to talk about the nuances of consent. And women are just reluctant to talk about expectations, period. --- 'It's okay that those gangbangers stole all my personal belongings and cash at gunpoint, cuz they're building a rec center!' - OneTimeBen ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Funbazooka 01/26/18 3:00:46 PM #43: |
Balrog0 posted...
Uh oh you've gone and done it now! --- I'll defend any man's Funbazooka! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Barenziah Boy Toy 01/26/18 3:23:47 PM #44: |
Balrog0 posted...
I mean, if a definite yes can turn into a definite no, the opposite can also happen right? So it's best to play it safe, don't you think? Why is penetration the endgoal of a sexual experience - even at the risk of raping someone? --- You don't need a treaty to have free trade. M Rothbard {Self-Hating Token Asian of the Ivory Tower's Zionist Elite} ... Copied to Clipboard!
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NurseRedHeart 01/26/18 3:26:55 PM #45: |
Girls you need to speak the fuck up.
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Barenziah Boy Toy 01/26/18 3:28:56 PM #46: |
NurseRedHeart posted...
Girls you need to speak the fuck up. Girls who speak up often get attacked for being cockteases and bitches. --- You don't need a treaty to have free trade. M Rothbard {Self-Hating Token Asian of the Ivory Tower's Zionist Elite} ... Copied to Clipboard!
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COVxy 01/26/18 3:29:10 PM #47: |
darkjedilink posted...
And women are just reluctant to talk about expectations, period. NurseRedHeart posted... Girls you need to speak the fuck up. But, I mean, you guys read this case, right? --- =E[(x-E[x])(y-E[y])] ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Balrog0 01/26/18 3:33:55 PM #48: |
Barenziah Boy Toy posted...
So it's best to play it safe, don't you think? Why is penetration the endgoal of a sexual experience - even at the risk of raping someone? I didnt' say it was, just pointing out that men implicitly understand the idea that women can change their consent, at least when they are doing these things. From my perspective, that is the whole point of what they are trying to do. I am sure there is a lot of self-serving thinking going on to justify it, too, but these instances aren't a case of men trying to bone someone regardless of what they want --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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iPhone_7 01/26/18 3:47:34 PM #49: |
In the middle of sex:
I dont think we should be having sex, were friends = Stop, youre raping me Check your privilege --- Sig User Logic http://i.imgur.com/lA5fm7w.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrisbeeDude 01/26/18 3:51:03 PM #50: |
darkjedilink posted...
Imagine being so afraid of your own sexuality as a man that you read the Aziz Ansari story and feel that Aziz Ansari was wrong. You're trying too hard --- alt-right is not synonymous with "white supremacist" or "neo-Nazi,"- The Admiral ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CensorErik 01/26/18 4:15:45 PM #51: |
clearaflagrantj posted...
We should chemically castrate all men so they won't be a threat to women You can go first if you like. --- Kindness is never wasted. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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