Current Events > So what's the verdict on pronouns for people who identify as non binary?

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I know I know it's been discussed 1000 times and we're all sick of it.

But so many times when someone like myself who is adapting slowly to this type of thing asks someone how they're supposed to know which pronoun the person they're talking to prefers, the answer is "You can ask them."

K, so am I supposed to ask every person I meet what their pronouns are upon meeting them now? Is that supposed to become a normal part of greeting someone new? Am I to treat each person I meet as if they could potentially be part of the <1% of the population that would get offended if I used the wrong pronoun? What if I'm talking to a biological male that (I know this is a stretch) prefers to be called "he/him" just like >99% of biological males and he takes my asking of what pronouns to use for him as an insult? Am I to risk potentially offending >99% of the people I meet to appease the <1% of people who would prefer to be asked?

You could call them by their name dude.
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UnfairRepresent posted...

You could call them by their name dude.

The other day Kevin went shopping when Kevin saw a box of cereal that Kevin liked so Kevin bought the cereal and ate it when Kevin got home.

I just take the less grueling approach and just distance myself from people that thinks they alone deserve to be specially catered to amongst hundreds of people who have come together to decide on an otherwise sensible naming convention.
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I cant ask them because them is a cis term isnt it
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Whatever seems right. Correcting you once should be on them. I think this is perfectly rational.
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It is on them to declare their pronouns upon being called out, you dont have to preemptively cater to somebody's whims.
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Ic3Bullet posted...

UnfairRepresent posted...

You could call them by their name dude.

The other day Kevin went shopping when Kevin saw a box of cereal that Kevin liked so Kevin bought the cereal and ate it when Kevin got home.

"Kevin just bought and ate some cereal."
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Call them what they look like.

If they look like males, use male ones.
If they look like female, use female ones.
If it is incorrect, then they will correct you and you should say that you didnt know because you had never met them before.
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legendarylemur posted...

I just take the less grueling approach and just distance myself from people that thinks they alone deserve to be specially catered to amongst hundreds of people who have come together to decide on an otherwise sensible naming convention.

Drrobotniks posted...

legendarylemur posted...

I just take the less grueling approach and just distance myself from people that thinks they alone deserve to be specially catered to amongst hundreds of people who have come together to decide on an otherwise sensible naming convention.

Im not going to refer to people with nonsense pronouns
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Can I identify as royalty and be addressed as such?
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Drrobotniks posted...

legendarylemur posted...

I just take the less grueling approach and just distance myself from people that thinks they alone deserve to be specially catered to amongst hundreds of people who have come together to decide on an otherwise sensible naming convention.

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Solely by their first name once you know it. Never grace them with using their pronoun of choice when it happens to be one of those absurd ones.
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