Current Events > Dating as a conservative is so hard.

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I really don't care what a girl's political views are. Call me crazy, but I think it's okay for people to think differently.

Every girl my age is like, "if you voted for Trump, kill yourself!" Like, Jesus Christ. I mean, I'm not dumb enough to ever try to talk politics with them, but like anyone else, they can figure it out once they start getting to know me.

Tomi Lahren is too hot for me, so I guess I'm SOL.
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You may not care, but they might.

I think that in order to maximize comparability, you should only try to meet girls at Republican conventions.
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i was gonna say 'just dont mention it' but you've already got that figured

there's gotta be ways to present your personality as a calm and caring person even if you do vote conservative. just keep trying(or turn left)
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I think an anti-Trump conservative could go a long way with those types who think they can change a person.
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yes, being a trump supporter is a turnoff for most people. I'm shocked. I mean nobody could have seen this coming.
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Oddly enough, I've had pleasant experiences being friends with religious conservatives unaware of my homosexuality and flippant pragmatism. It's like they were trying their best to play a clean file and they never knew I was using cheat codes.
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Are you a Trump supporter or were you just a Trump voter?
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It seems like you should be able to justify why you voted that way tbh. I mean, if it's as simple as admitting error on your part, then just fucking do it.
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Yeah, liberals seem much less tolerant of differing political opinions than conservatives when it comes to dating. Like the TC already noted, avoiding the issue is best.

If you end up with someone on the extreme end SJW or radical feminist type just bail. Its not worth the effort even to just get laid.
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Kineth posted...

admitting error on your part

Wow...
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The Admiral posted...

Yeah, liberals seem much less tolerant of differing political opinions than conservatives when it comes to dating. Like the TC already noted, avoiding the issue is best.

If you end up with someone on the extreme end SJW or radical feminist type just bail. Its not worth the effort even to just get laid.

I dunno, getting pegged by one while they tell me how much of an oppressive pig I am sounds like it would be worth the effort.
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Zodd3224 posted...

The Admiral posted...

Yeah, liberals seem much less tolerant of differing political opinions than conservatives when it comes to dating. Like the TC already noted, avoiding the issue is best.

If you end up with someone on the extreme end SJW or radical feminist type just bail. Its not worth the effort even to just get laid.

I dunno, getting pegged by one while they tell me how much of an oppressive pig I am sounds like it would be worth the effort.

If you like being pegged something tells me you didn't have that big of an aversion to radfems to begin with.
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weapon_d00d816 posted...

Zodd3224 posted...

The Admiral posted...

Yeah, liberals seem much less tolerant of differing political opinions than conservatives when it comes to dating. Like the TC already noted, avoiding the issue is best.

If you end up with someone on the extreme end SJW or radical feminist type just bail. Its not worth the effort even to just get laid.

I dunno, getting pegged by one while they tell me how much of an oppressive pig I am sounds like it would be worth the effort.

If you like being pegged something tells me you didn't have that big of an aversion to radfems to begin with.

What EXACTLY are you trying to say, my good man?
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I think dating a liberal or conservative is a chore. A non-religious moderate is the best.
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There was a story on NPR about this phenomenon a few months ago. And yeah, when polled, liberals are less likely to be accepting of a conservative partner.

But the focus of the piece was a woman who was really liking this guy she met online, but ended the date when she found out he was a Trump supporter.

But then the next day she called him back and apilogized and tried to give it another shot. At the time of the piece they had been dating for a few months.

Anyways, unless you go out of your way to find other Trump supporters youll have to get lucky. <_<
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The Admiral posted...

Yeah, liberals seem much less tolerant of differing political opinions than conservatives when it comes to dating.

Imagine having an above-average IQ, and trying to hold a conversation with someone who believes the sky is red and the ground is up.
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I've always hated this about liberals.

Hexenherz posted...

The Admiral posted...

Yeah, liberals seem much less tolerant of differing political opinions than conservatives when it comes to dating.

Imagine having an above-average IQ, and trying to hold a conversation with someone who believes the sky is red and the ground is up.

Now you know how I feel hearing a liberal tell me about 57 genders.
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Just avoid liberal feminist woman they tend to be a little insane.

@deupd_u posted...

Kineth posted...

admitting error on your part

Wow...

What do you feel is astounding about this suggestion?
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I too think it's shocking that people want to be compatible and date others with similar beliefs and interests.

No wait, it's completely normal and the standard
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I don't think anyone is 100% liberal or conservative, first off.

Anyone who won't go on a date based off of who you voted for this past election (where, let's face it - the choices weren't great), is one dimensional.

You can be on opposite ends of the political spectrum and still share the same standards and beliefs when it comes to being a good person.
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You can be a reasonable conservative and still be anti-Trump.

In fact, all the reasonable conservatives I know are anti-Trump. It's not a difficult position to take.
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Millennials posted...

I think an anti-Trump conservative could go a long way with those types who think they can change a person.

TheBiggerWiggle posted...

You can be a reasonable conservative and still be anti-Trump.

In fact, all the reasonable conservatives I know are anti-Trump. It's not a difficult position to take.

Yeah, both of these things.
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Caution999 posted...

I don't think anyone is 100% liberal or conservative, first off.

Anyone who won't go on a date based off of who you voted for this past election (where, let's face it - the choices weren't great), is one dimensional.

You can be on opposite ends of the political spectrum and still share the same standards and beliefs when it comes to being a good person.

If I were single and looking, I would not want to date anyone who voted for Trump or Clinton. There were a few alternatives.
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Caution999 posted...

I don't think anyone is 100% liberal or conservative, first off.

Anyone who won't go on a date based off of who you voted for this past election (where, let's face it - the choices weren't great), is one dimensional.

You can be on opposite ends of the political spectrum and still share the same standards and beliefs when it comes to being a good person.

Surprisingly good post from Caution.
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That's just silly. You had to vote for one or the other realistically - a third party candidate vote was as good as not voting or as good as voting for Trump (as it turns out).

I think a person who knows both candidates had their flaws and had to pick one isn't a bad person.

I defend Trump on here because the hysteria is so over the top it's ridiculous. You might think the guy was literally Satan from watching the news. I know he's not perfect and makes some dumb decisions, but it's over the top.
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It's not silly at all. If you believe "you had to vote" because one of the two parties nominated a candidate on your behalf and told you that those were your choices... I won't say I don't respect you, but I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my adult life in an intimate relationship with you, either.

PS: Trump has been in office for almost a year and has accomplished literally nothing.
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My girl didn't even vote at all and it hasn't impacted our relationship in the least. It's her decision and I respected it.

So, yeah I'd respect a third party voter but think it's still silly for not respecting a person for going for the main 2 choices.

Voting for X or Y doesn't make you dumb or unintelligent - as so many people would love to believe.
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Well, one day maybe you'll be able to look outside the parameters that have been written for the masses and see the potential for something more.
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This is exactly why Roy Moore had to seek out teenagers.
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Bottom line is we are all human.

Politics is a man made thing to divert our attention. A good person is someone who is loving and holds good, positive values. That can come from anywhere - any race, any religion (or none at all), any walk of life. As long as the individual is a caring, loving soul - politics should always take the back seat.

Nothing matters more than the chemistry of the two people.
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Kineth posted...

Caution999 posted...

I don't think anyone is 100% liberal or conservative, first off.

Anyone who won't go on a date based off of who you voted for this past election (where, let's face it - the choices weren't great), is one dimensional.

You can be on opposite ends of the political spectrum and still share the same standards and beliefs when it comes to being a good person.

Surprisingly good post from Caution.

yes, out often people on the opposite end have very different standards and beliefs, and that can be a compatibility issue.

people have the right to decide that for themselves. which is what they are doing, in this case.

is it closed minded? perhaps. but that's their call in their own dating choice (same thing with the whole race thing)

Caution999 posted...

Bottom line is we are all human.

Politics is a man made thing to divert our attention. A good person is someone who is loving and holds good, positive values. That can come from anywhere - any race, any religion (or none at all), any walk of life. As long as the individual is a caring, loving soul - politics should always take the back seat.

Nothing matters more than the chemistry of the two people.

so if you have chemistry with an abusive serial killer, or a rapist, that shouldn't matter? or if the person is a pathological liar and sociopathic? the chemistry is more important?

I think one would be restricting themself in the dating game by not being open about giving ALL people a chance.

That's why you date. To find more about a person. You don't know a person until you've spent a significant amount of time with them.
You may find yourself pleasantly surprised by giving others a chance.

Of course, you will run into some crazies, and with that, you just gotta press on to the next.
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Fam_Fam posted...

Caution999 posted...

Bottom line is we are all human.

Politics is a man made thing to divert our attention. A good person is someone who is loving and holds good, positive values. That can come from anywhere - any race, any religion (or none at all), any walk of life. As long as the individual is a caring, loving soul - politics should always take the back seat.

Nothing matters more than the chemistry of the two people.

so if you have chemistry with an abusive serial killer, or a rapist, that shouldn't matter? or if the person is a pathological liar and sociopathic? the chemistry is more important?

He said caring, loving soul...
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Fam_Fam posted...

so if you have chemistry with an abusive serial killer, or a rapist, that shouldn't matter?

So people who voted for Trump are on the same level as serial killers and rapists?
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Fam_Fam posted...

Caution999 posted...

Bottom line is we are all human.

Politics is a man made thing to divert our attention. A good person is someone who is loving and holds good, positive values. That can come from anywhere - any race, any religion (or none at all), any walk of life. As long as the individual is a caring, loving soul - politics should always take the back seat.

Nothing matters more than the chemistry of the two people.

so if you have chemistry with an abusive serial killer, or a rapist, that shouldn't matter? or if the person is a pathological liar and sociopathic? the chemistry is more important?

No but you're just focusing on the negatives. if you find out later on they have negative qualities such as being a pathological liar or a sociopath then you need to move on. Chemistry tops all - and so does the love in a persons' heart. As long as they make the right decisions (being a loving person) - only thing I care about.

We are above politics when it comes to dating. Yes, some won't be able to see over this, and for them, they're losing out by restricting themselves to half of the dating scene. And yeah, some hardcore lefties/righties won't get over this and you'll have to dump them, but overall most people aren't 100% in either direction like I said earlier.

I defend Trump on here from the hysteria but the truth is that I was a Democrat until 2016 - so you have to figure I still hold many of the same values.
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Caution999 posted...

Fam_Fam posted...

Caution999 posted...

Bottom line is we are all human.

Politics is a man made thing to divert our attention. A good person is someone who is loving and holds good, positive values. That can come from anywhere - any race, any religion (or none at all), any walk of life. As long as the individual is a caring, loving soul - politics should always take the back seat.

Nothing matters more than the chemistry of the two people.

so if you have chemistry with an abusive serial killer, or a rapist, that shouldn't matter? or if the person is a pathological liar and sociopathic? the chemistry is more important?

No but you're just focusing on the negatives. if you find out later on they have negative qualities such as being a pathological liar or a sociopath then you need to move on. Chemistry tops all - and so does the love in a persons' heart. As long as they make the right decisions (being a loving person) - only thing I care about.

We are above politics when it comes to dating. Yes, some won't be able to see over this, and for them, they're losing out by restricting themselves to half of the dating scene. And yeah, some hardcore lefties/righties won't get over this and you'll have to dump them, but overall most people aren't 100% in either direction like I said earlier.

I defend Trump on here from the hysteria but the truth is that I was a Democrat until 2016 - so you have to figure I still hold many of the same values.

but you said chemistry is the most important thing, why should they move on, if thats the case? And if they love them too? Then they should stay if those are the two most important things, no?

On one hand, it's a little silly to totally disqualify someone due to one thing, but on the other hand I'd find it hard to be with someone who supports an ideology that makes my life and the lives of others worse off so I'm conflicted.
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There are some qualities of a person that can be a deal breaker for some. If they aren't for you, then you don't have to stop seeing them.

It's about the quality of the individual over their political beliefs for me. Unless they're so over the top - hardcore hardcore left that they go to anti Trump rallies and stir the pot, only that would really bother me.
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Southernfatman posted...

On one hand, it's a little silly to totally disqualify someone due to one thing, but on the other hand I'd find it hard to be with someone who supports an ideology that makes my life and the lives of others worse off so I'm conflicted.

Thinking on a female side of it all, that side of the political line seems to give no shit about women's rights either though. When you see laws like that one passed at.... where, Missouri?.... where a woman cannot abort without the consent of her rapist? Then Alabama still having significant support for a man accused of sexual deviation....

I mean, yeah. It's a package deal. A conservative has a lot of work to prove they aren't of the crazy that these other conservatives are.
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People who share something like a political belief or religious affiliation, which is something that could influence a large aspect of your life, are more likely to be compatible and likewise will date each other. It may be restricting who they may date, but it's really not that big of a deal nor is it that uncommon.
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I'm lucky to have a girl now who is apolitical and open to different viewpoints.

I can't imagine trying to enter the dating scene being center right on progressive holy cow gender and sexuality issues.
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Maybe I should start a new conservative dating site. "Make America Date Again"
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deupd_u posted...

Maybe I should start a new conservative dating site. "Make America Date Again"

Might just have your next million dollar idea
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deupd_u posted...

Maybe I should start a new conservative dating site. "Make America Date Again"

tbh you should trademark the hell out of that and get on it.
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Kineth posted...

deupd_u posted...

Kineth posted...

admitting error on your part

Wow...

What do you feel is astounding about this suggestion?

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If I were still single I wouldn't date a woman who's conservative, so seems pretty legit.

But then the next day she called him back and apilogized and tried to give it another shot. At the time of the piece they had been dating for a few months.

Yeah no.

I honestly have less faith that anyone will stop being an asshole about politics than that they will suddenly grow wings and fly away.
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