Current Events > Almost 5 months foster-adopting 3 kids. Irresponsible parents piss me off.

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Zanzenburger posted...

Returning_CEmen posted...

Do these girls look like they could be your daughter?

It actually works out pretty nicely. My wife is white and blonde, and the girls are white. The two younger ones are white and blonde so they could totally pass as my wife's kids, but the older one has darker brown hair and more native american facial features, which makes her look like more like my kid (I'm hispanic).

Cool, well hopefully you get to adopt them.
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We used them tonight to seed games at our laser tag place.
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Zanzenburger posted...

Melonfarms posted...

If the bio parents got their life together some time in the future would you allow them to visit/see their kids? Or do you think the damage done is too great and prefer them to go away forever?

Good question.

I'm of the mind that if/when the girls eventually want to see (or in the case of the 2yo, meet) their bio parents, and they're old enough I think they can handle it, I'd absolutely let them see each other. Otherwise they'd always have this void in their hearts of wondering and may go looking for them anyways. I'd rather be a part of the process so they don't build any resentment towards me for not letting them.

With that said, I don't plan to ever make friends with those parents or invite them to any family get-togethers. If they see the girls, it is for closure/curiosity purposes only (for the girls, not them).

That's a good answer.
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All three girls had a good day at school/daycare today. That is rare, especially on a Monday. Usually one will hit a teacher or run away.

This has been a good day.
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Bishop9800 posted...

God bless you my friend. You're doing a great thing.

This. That 5 year old though, like you said it's survival instincts. Terrible to hear.

You guys are truly a bright light in this world.
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