Current Events > I see some of the loners here and wonder if this is my future.

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62/80.

I don't wanna be foreveralone.

If I do end up alone, though, what are some good animes to kill this time with.
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have you talked to any women in a week beyond saying hi?
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darkphoenix181 posted...

have you talked to any women in a week beyond saying hi?

Yes I have actually. There is this girl I like, but unfortunately I can never tell her this fact.
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PiOverlord posted...

There is this girl I like, but unfortunately I can never tell her this fact.

why not?

by doing so you crack at the threshhold from being foreveralone tbh
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darkphoenix181 posted...

PiOverlord posted...

There is this girl I like, but unfortunately I can never tell her this fact.

why not?

by doing so you crack at the threshhold from being foreveralone tbh

Because:
- she has a boyfriend.
- she will get fired from her job if she ever did date me.
- I don't think it would be fair to her because then she might feel awkward or feel some guilt for not having the same feelings.

It sucks as I truly feel she would make me a better person, but that's life.
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Even if she didn't have a boyfriend there's a practically 0 chance she would want to date you anyways.
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Tmaster148 posted...

Even if she didn't have a boyfriend there's a practically 0 chance she would want to date you anyways.

Perhaps, but I am done with the whole, "I really suck" mindset when it comes to dating. There would be benefits to dating me; I am not human filth. Sure, I'm not perfect, and there would be hiccups along the way, but there is more to me than what I give myself credit for most of the time.

Unfortunately, there are some drawbacks to dating me as well, and I know women have the full right to justify not being interested in me because of these reasons.
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PiOverlord posted...

Because:
- she has a boyfriend.
- she will get fired from her job if she ever did date me.
- I don't think it would be fair to her because then she might feel awkward or feel some guilt for not having the same feelings.

1. how long and serious is she with the boyfriend? for all you know she just in the relationship with him to not be single

2. why would she be fired?

3. this mindset is what makes a person foreveralone
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darkphoenix181 posted...

PiOverlord posted...

Because:
- she has a boyfriend.
- she will get fired from her job if she ever did date me.
- I don't think it would be fair to her because then she might feel awkward or feel some guilt for not having the same feelings.

1. how long and serious is she with the boyfriend? for all you know she just in the relationship with him to not be single

2. why would she be fired?

3. this mindset is what makes a person foreveralone

1. See, I feel she is not happy with her current boyfriend. It sounds like she wants to break up with him, but unfortunately for me, I'm not the next guy down on her list.

2. I am a resident in a college dorm, and she is part of student staff, so she isn't allowed to date residents within her hall.

3. It is literally a conflict of interest. She is supposed to help residents with personal issues, yet she would also have to reject me. The most she could do is tell me there are many fish in the sea, but I don't want to hear that dumb saying. How is that fair to her?!?
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There's a huge difference between not wanting to be alone and only settling for your ideal partner in an ideal situation in an ideal life, which is something I get the impression a lot of foreveralones (esp. a lot of people here) can never comprehend.

Max out whatever is desirable about you, shore up whatever you can that isn't, and adjust your standards/expectations accordingly. You might not find a dream partner but you may be surprised to learn that you can still find someone to love and be loved by.
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PiOverlord posted...

I'm not the next guy down on her list.

says who?

PiOverlord posted...

2. I am a resident in a college dorm, and she is part of student staff, so she isn't allowed to date residents within her hall.

you can move out or she get another job

for all you know she might be happy to leave it
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Liking being alone isn't bad imo. Also, do you have friends you hang out with? You're not a loner than. Most people here are well adjusted as well.
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darkphoenix181 posted...

PiOverlord posted...

I'm not the next guy down on her list.

says who?

PiOverlord posted...

2. I am a resident in a college dorm, and she is part of student staff, so she isn't allowed to date residents within her hall.

you can move out or she get another job

for all you know she might be happy to leave it

Well, she has expressed interest in a guy that I know. She came to me with advice on if she should break up with her boyfriend for this other guy who she feels happier around.

I thought about the possibility of moving out, or her quitting her job (actually I think about if we could just do it all in secret the most). Her quitting her job would be the least-likely as then she loses her free room and has to find a new place to live. I would consider moving though. I love my hall and single-suite, but I would pack my bags and live in a community-style hall if it meant being with her.

C_Pain posted...

Liking being alone isn't bad imo. Also, do you have friends you hang out with? You're not a loner than. Most people here are well adjusted as well.

I have friends, but a partner would give me a lot of things I desire.

Also, eventually they will have their own families, I can't cling on to this forever.
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